MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

Me and dp always try to dtd in various places, as he doesn't like to know when we are in the fertile stage as he worries we aren't doing it right and feels under pressure and in cycle 1 it felt forced as we were both so aware of what we were doing. however cycle 2i didn't say that whatever day was my most fertile and it did feel abit better, he's said he doesn't want to know what is the most fertile days this month, but i don't know if i can not tell him as i get excited hehe xx
 
oh can you also add my new testing to June 17th and remove bfp from my name ( :-( ) thank you xx
 
Great ideas ladies :) It's nice to have fun doing the deed and not worrying about the pressure! I agree with the getting woken up thing, I have found it works well when you start it too, it makes Hubby super excited and very pleasing!

As soon as I get my positive opk I have a plan for Hubbs! He was a huge football player in high school about ten years ago and i have his old football jersey, since we are trying for a boy I plan to put it on and surprise him and ask him if he wants to make a little football player! He is in law enforcement now so I thought about using his hat or shirt or something also! You could use it for any occupation or hobby really! I will light candles and play soft music too :)
 
Great discussion. I have a friend whose happily married, never had bedroom issues...month 3 TTC and suddenly her hubby had "issues" because of the pressure. Luckily my dh is always ready to go! Hahaha. For us....before our daughter we had a pretty exciting sex life....now that she's here I can't really serve him dinner in my lingeri or show up to his hockey game in a jacket with lingeri only under it...I know people say kids shouldn't change things but....things change. We can't have random morning sex because she's up so early! Hahaha. So keeping things fresh before her was VERY easy!! Hahaha. Now...once she's in bed I still try and surprise him with lingeri or I may send him a text of my boobs or something from work. Hahaaha. But other than that.....we have found the key is just making sure you do it frequently....because as soon as you get too tired or put it off...before you know it, it's been 2 weeks..haha so making sure we just have it period is very important because it keeps us feeling connected all the time...then when TTC comes along it doesn't seem like such a specific "must be done" hahaha....DH and I don't talk about ovulation or anything like that. He just knows when we're not using protection and that's all he cares about. We had sex the other night and he's like "so you pregnant now?" Hahaaha and I said no sorry your boys were just swimming to their death. Hahaha. He won't know my test time is...he knows ill just tell him when it's time to test(except this time I won't be hahaaha)
 
@kirstyjane13 I'm so sorry. I've updated your date. It's true that being able to get pregnant is a great sign. It wasn't that you couldn't which means it will not be that you can't. Good luck! :flower:

@littlesteph Date updated. Fingers crossed!:flower:

@clairebear0 Congratulations!! You can see the BFP blinking by your name!:happydance:

@omgbaby Date updated. That will be a great anniversary gift. Good luck!:flower:

@gabbygabz Good luck! :flower:

@MamaPeaches Those sound like good ideas. We try to keep it spicy, but we also have times when we are just like today is one of the days, let's do it! But we're in it together and know that we need to so it still feels nice. :flower:

@Dannixo I don't know much about how long it stays positive. It sucks that you have to go through that and the waiting for it to go negative first. I hope it is the start of a BFP.:thumbup:

Those are all nice ideas ladies. Keep surprising dh. I'll try to think of some more ideas.:haha:
 
At the beginning of TTC I didn't really include DH on when fertile time was until it was actually go time. During fertile time I try to be on bottom when we finish and I propped up my hips after, so he definitely knew. After a few months he actually said he wanted to know way ahead of time, plus he started traveling more for work and he wanted to make sure that he could try to schedule around O time.
He did get stressed after a few months. He tried Fertile Aid, but ended up having a weird reaction to it (had some food sensitivities while take it). Sometimes he had a hard time getting in the mood when it seemed forced, so we took to using an app with illustrations (drawings- not actual photos) of fun positions. Even though they weren't always on the docket since I wanted to end on the bottom, we'd bookmark them for other times of the month and just talking about it together was really good to get us both in the mood.
I was definitely able to relax SO much more when I included DH. (I know not everyone's DH would be up for it), but I felt like watching my diet/ no alcohol after 7dpo, OPKs, temping etc put my in my own little world separate from DH. The last couple months he knew exactly where I was in my cycle and would be accommodating about not inviting us out to a bar with friends if it was my no alcohol week, or asking my how my temp was looking. Made me feel like we were really in it together. May was the most relaxed I'd been (still doing everything, just with a different attitude).
 
sooooooo i am not sure but i THINK i may have had a super squinter this morning!!! this afternoon took a first response (after drinking a ton of water...) and it was negative. i am SO SO SO hoping that it's just bc its super early (11-12dpo)

wish me luck for tomorrow AM :)
 
good luck




i went on amazone this afternoon and brought 30 opks and i think it was 15 pregnancy tests for just under £10, and should be here by the 29th, in time for me to ovulate again :D
 
i dont know whats wrong with me i have sore boobs and af type pain. on and off. I also had another lot of ewcm/sticky cm two days ago. I am 6-7Dpo
 
@stargazer0726 I'm due to test around June 7th probably. I always tell myself I will only test at 13 dpo if my temp is still elevated or more elevated than prior days or if I have intense symptoms. My temp usually drops on 13 dpo. I dream of waking up on 13 dpo and my temp being higher! I'm hopeful it will be this cycle. Good luck to you as well! :flower:

@chulie & @Mme2kdee Dates updated. Good luck ladies! :flower:

@babychka Sending you luck and baby dust for tomorrow! I hope it's a BFP! :happydance:

@littlesteph Good deal! :flower:

@Fallen8905 The ewcm might be from a secondary estrogen surge, which is totally normal in the tww. Fingers crossed that those are good symptoms! :flower:

@melann13 My dh thought everything would just happen easily and probably on first try when we started, which if I'm honest wasn't too different from what I thought. He thought temping, using opks, holding legs up, etc was silly so we didn't do those things for the first two months. He changed his mind after he started seeing that it wasn't working and his own sadness with it. He committed to temping and whatever else we needed to do. Of course he is a man...so he is not always the easiest to work with. :haha: But I agree, having him with me is so much better. He doesn't know as much as me, but he knows a lot. Last cycle my temp dropped on 13 dpo and we didn't say anything about it, but the next day when af came he said he was worried it would after the temp from the previous day. We had both been worried about that temp, but we didn't tell each other hoping it wasn't bad news. I know men deal with this differently than women and sometimes it takes them a while to come around. They should put all their effort into it instead of feeling bad when it doesn't work out. They should work with us and be willing to do what's necessary instead of bottling up their emotions. However, sometimes the woman knows best and can get it done without alerting the man! Don't you just want to tell them, you get more bd-you want this baby just as badly-you know how it works now-get to work! :haha:
 
sooooooo i am not sure but i THINK i may have had a super squinter this morning!!! this afternoon took a first response (after drinking a ton of water...) and it was negative. i am SO SO SO hoping that it's just bc its super early (11-12dpo)

wish me luck for tomorrow AM :)
Good luck. I hope you get a darker line tomorrow. Fxd xxx
 
I got my :bfp: well I got my first squinters at 10dpo but is is my one from this morning :cloud9:
https://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t88/tanyaparker_01/9bf4dac654247f6393840477aa344cea.jpg

:dust: ladies
 
I got my :bfp: well I got my first squinters at 10dpo but is is my one from this morning :cloud9:
https://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t88/tanyaparker_01/9bf4dac654247f6393840477aa344cea.jpg

:dust: ladies

Congrats! Hope you have a healthy and happy 9 months!!!!
 

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