MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[KatyW]

Think its strange not feeling any af signs I always get bubbling in my belly if not its slight pains ..

But my 3 pregnancies I got a positive from 9dpo-12 latest .. but maybe everytime is different .. least I will know by Saturday unless she decides to be late

I wonder if every time is different. I've only had one pregnancy so I have no idea what it's like with a second pregnancy. I've done a lot of chart stalking on FF and your chart does look good. FX for you.

 

[KatyW]

13 dpo and haven't tested yet - I'd rather see AF than a BFN. I am feeling hopeful, though, this cycle. https:// [url=https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/30cf2b/]https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/30cf2b//thumb.png My Ovulation Chart[/URL]

 

[Mrs A]

13 dpo and haven't tested yet - I'd rather see AF than a BFN. I am feeling hopeful, though, this cycle. https:// [url=https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/30cf2b/]https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/30cf2b//thumb.png My Ovulation Chart[/URL]

That looks like a lovely implantation dip there, I say

 

[burgbrandy]

Chart looks good katy! Test!

 

[KatyW]

I know! Ha. I tested at 11 dpo and got a bfn so I'm afraid it will not show up if it's positive...if that was implantation, anyone know how many days it takes to show up positive on a pregnancy test?

 

[burgbrandy]

Depends on the person...3-7 is average, i think. Depends on how fast ur hcg doubles and if u are one of those women who always have a low amount of hcg in ur system. Obviously takes longer for 0 to double enough to get a positive than it does 2 to double enough. id say 5 days is about average.

 

[KatyW]

Thanks, burgbrandy. I will test in the a.m., but only if my temp rises...I hate seeing a bfn

 

[chulie]

Hello Ladies!!!

KatyW I know how you feel...I'm kinda the same....I know some people LOVE testing but with my dd...my first month I tested and got a BFN and was so sad...I realized for me, it was just better to wait until I'm late and find out my body's own way than to see that white again....

Wanna hear something funny/sad....with my dd...I had NO symptoms the month I got pregnant..except that I got constipated...I'll never forget out of no where...I am usually SO regular...every morning after my bread and coffee I'm off to go and suddenly one day I just didn't have to go...I thought that was SUPER strange because you can set your clock to me. I didn't think anything of it at the time but now I know it's a sign of pregnancy...so even though I'm currently in my ovulation window....when I come in to work and have to "go"....there's this.....crap I have to crap.......HAHAHAHA...so sad....

I also have a new issue...man I hate this waiting thing...I just found out my girlfriend is having her bachelorette party June 22nd....normally it wouldn't be a big deal..I'd go and just hide drinking non alcoholic drinks and whatnot....but....they're doing a WINE TOUR! They have a non alcoholic option...but all my friends would know if I picked the non drinking option..and I'm just one of those people whose a bit afraid the first little bit. I definitely wouldn't be ready to tell anyone. They have a thing where you can cancel 10 days before (and I would know by then I hope???) but they'll still charge you 25 bucks to cancel..and we have to book by June 2nd. So I akwardly emailed the tour place privately and just explained that I might have to cancel and asked if I do can they waive the 25 bucks since I know so far ahead..because I'd hate to not go and then find out I'm not...I don't want miss out on fun if I'm not!! hahahaa...... Anyways...we'll see what they say.....Oh this waiting....so frustrating! But hey...ONE more thing to add to my " If I don't get pregnant this month it's ok because......." list....a fun wine tour!!! yaaa!!!

Speaking of...does anyone else have that???? silver linings to keep things in perspective if case it doesnt happen this month? I think it helps me a bit to not feel so overwhelmed with the process.......I think it keeps a good balance...so far I have:
-more alone time with dd
-get to drink at an upcoming wedding
-wine tour
-more time to save $$

 

[Hopeful2014]

@Becyboo__x & @KatyW I've heard of people who say each pregnancy can be different. You don't always have to have the same symptoms and you might experience them at different times. Fingers crossed!

@KatyW That's a cute picture by the way. Your chart is looking nice as well! Good luck!

@NadiaSweety Welcome back! Date updated. Fingers crossed for a June BFP!

 

[Dannixo]

Well month 6 of clomid down the drain, first iui didn't work, guess that was a waste of money! Had a temp dip below cover line today and negative on first response. Sorry for the piss poor attitude but I'm disappointed in myself, feel like a failure and not to mention the $3500 were up to and now I'm off to surgery June 18th. Been crying all morning.

 

[allforthegirl]

Hello Ladies!!!

KatyW I know how you feel...I'm kinda the same....I know some people LOVE testing but with my dd...my first month I tested and got a BFN and was so sad...I realized for me, it was just better to wait until I'm late and find out my body's own way than to see that white again....

Wanna hear something funny/sad....with my dd...I had NO symptoms the month I got pregnant..except that I got constipated...I'll never forget out of no where...I am usually SO regular...every morning after my bread and coffee I'm off to go and suddenly one day I just didn't have to go...I thought that was SUPER strange because you can set your clock to me. I didn't think anything of it at the time but now I know it's a sign of pregnancy...so even though I'm currently in my ovulation window....when I come in to work and have to "go"....there's this.....crap I have to crap.......HAHAHAHA...so sad....

I also have a new issue...man I hate this waiting thing...I just found out my girlfriend is having her bachelorette party June 22nd....normally it wouldn't be a big deal..I'd go and just hide drinking non alcoholic drinks and whatnot....but....they're doing a WINE TOUR! They have a non alcoholic option...but all my friends would know if I picked the non drinking option..and I'm just one of those people whose a bit afraid the first little bit. I definitely wouldn't be ready to tell anyone. They have a thing where you can cancel 10 days before (and I would know by then I hope???) but they'll still charge you 25 bucks to cancel..and we have to book by June 2nd. So I akwardly emailed the tour place privately and just explained that I might have to cancel and asked if I do can they waive the 25 bucks since I know so far ahead..because I'd hate to not go and then find out I'm not...I don't want miss out on fun if I'm not!! hahahaa...... Anyways...we'll see what they say.....Oh this waiting....so frustrating! But hey...ONE more thing to add to my " If I don't get pregnant this month it's ok because......." list....a fun wine tour!!! yaaa!!!

Speaking of...does anyone else have that???? silver linings to keep things in perspective if case it doesnt happen this month? I think it helps me a bit to not feel so overwhelmed with the process.......I think it keeps a good balance...so far I have:
-more alone time with dd
-get to drink at an upcoming wedding
-wine tour
-more time to save $$

Oh my you are toooooo funny

I don't have a silver lining other than I can open a giant bottle of grey goose the day AF show LOL what keeps me going that i have faith that it will happen when it is supposed to happen!!

 

[Hopeful2014]

Well month 6 of clomid down the drain, first iui didn't work, guess that was a waste of money! Had a temp dip below cover line today and negative on first response. Sorry for the piss poor attitude but I'm disappointed in myself, feel like a failure and not to mention the $3500 were up to and now I'm off to surgery June 18th. Been crying all morning.

Honey, you are not a failure. Not at all. Infertility and difficulty conceiving is just like other medical conditions that we encounter. It's something unfair that we don't deserve and something that is so hard to deal with. The difference is there is more awareness of other problems. People are made to feel bad about themselves as though they did something or as though they are not doing enough. That's not true! Don't blame yourself because this is not something that you did to yourself! TTC is so difficult already (for some) but it is so unfair for people who have to go through so much. Don't give up on your dream and definitely don't give up on yourself! We know you did what you could and you will prevail!

 

[FrancoRie710]

Dannixo- so sorry! I know you must be really disappointed.

I just have this feeling that I'm out this month too. I'm only 7 dpo but since I have these Internet cheapies I have tested at 5dpo and also this morning and of course, both bfn. I'm not that upset about it right now because I still have hope that it could change in a few days. But there's this underlying sadness and certainty that I'm out. Again.

I saw a thread that was "the positives of a bfn" and, like chulie and pp said, my biggest positives relate to alcohol, LOL. I'm also going on vacation at the end of June so if I'm not preg I'll prob have more energy for walking around and not having to worry about avoiding certain fish and whatnot. Plus wine. Always wine.

 

[Dannixo]

Well month 6 of clomid down the drain, first iui didn't work, guess that was a waste of money! Had a temp dip below cover line today and negative on first response. Sorry for the piss poor attitude but I'm disappointed in myself, feel like a failure and not to mention the $3500 were up to and now I'm off to surgery June 18th. Been crying all morning.

Honey, you are not a failure. Not at all. Infertility and difficulty conceiving is just like other medical conditions that we encounter. It's something unfair that we don't deserve and something that is so hard to deal with. The difference is there is more awareness of other problems. People are made to feel bad about themselves as though they did something or as though they are not doing enough. That's not true! Don't blame yourself because this is not something that you did to yourself! TTC is so difficult already (for some) but it is so unfair for people who have to go through so much. Don't give up on your dream and definitely don't give up on yourself! We know you did what you could and you will prevail!

Thank you! This is just what I needed to hear and means alot to me!

 

[littlesteph]

Where did you get the from Littlesteph? I was going to get some from eBay but all seemed expensive lol. All that for under 10 isnt bad xx

I got them from amazon

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Choose-you...4090&sr=8-2&keywords=opks+and+pregnancy+tests

thats the link if you scroll down a little you can get them together

 

[J_Lynn]

Well month 6 of clomid down the drain, first iui didn't work, guess that was a waste of money! Had a temp dip below cover line today and negative on first response. Sorry for the piss poor attitude but I'm disappointed in myself, feel like a failure and not to mention the $3500 were up to and now I'm off to surgery June 18th. Been crying all morning.

The first IUI doesn't always work ... my friend did 6 before it worked for her. Please don't be so hard on yourself - you're not a failure. It's not your fault.

 

[chulie]

Well month 6 of clomid down the drain, first iui didn't work, guess that was a waste of money! Had a temp dip below cover line today and negative on first response. Sorry for the piss poor attitude but I'm disappointed in myself, feel like a failure and not to mention the $3500 were up to and now I'm off to surgery June 18th. Been crying all morning.

Ok first of all...NEVER appologize for a thing!!!!! If you can't express how you feel and mean it here...where can you!?!?! That's why we're here...to support eachother no matter if it's on an up or a down. You are allowed to pissed!

Second....

Third....I can't imagine how your feeling and I won't pretend I do....just know it's nothing YOU did......allow yourself to feel how you feel. So many times we're so hard on ourselves as woman..that we need to be these super humans.....allow yourself to feel upset and then get ready for whatever you have planned next!!!! We'll all be here rooting for your BFP WHEN it happen!!!

 

[melann13]

Dannixo
I agree with all the wonderful supporters you have here. While I can't imagine how frustrating it is to go through so much and still not see that BFP, the good news is that it seems you've gotten your doc to try lots of different things in a "relatively" short amount of time. I say "relatively" because while I'm sure it seems like AGES to you, many docs won't do anything new until they've tried each one for 6mos-a year. So kudos to you for rocking through so many options and ruling things out. You're just that much closer to your little one.

On a smaller scale I felt the same way, trying Soy Iso, Pineapple Core, knocking out caffeine, DH on Fertile Aid, Pre-Seed, + the standard OPKs, charting etc. After I gave up on all those little things it happened. I'm not one to say "It happens when you stop trying", because let's face it, that's bull shit, but I will say that sometimes it happens when you least expect it.
to you, lots and lots of

 

[melann13]

I know! Ha. I tested at 11 dpo and got a bfn so I'm afraid it will not show up if it's positive...if that was implantation, anyone know how many days it takes to show up positive on a pregnancy test?

I had a ID at 8dpo and BFP at 11dpo. My blood HCG was only 23 that day, so it most likely would not have shown 2 days after dip, and barely did at 3. My test pics are back around May2nd if you're curious.

 

[ClandestineTX]

Dannixo
I agree with all the wonderful supporters you have here. While I can't imagine how frustrating it is to go through so much and still not see that BFP, the good news is that it seems you've gotten your doc to try lots of different things in a "relatively" short amount of time. I say "relatively" because while I'm sure it seems like AGES to you, many docs won't do anything new until they've tried each one for 6mos-a year. So kudos to you for rocking through so many options and ruling things out. You're just that much closer to your little one.

On a smaller scale I felt the same way, trying Soy Iso, Pineapple Core, knocking out caffeine, DH on Fertile Aid, Pre-Seed, + the standard OPKs, charting etc. After I gave up on all those little things it happened. I'm not one to say "It happens when you stop trying", because let's face it, that's bull shit, but I will say that sometimes it happens when you least expect it.
to you, lots and lots of

I "I'm not one to say "It happens when you stop trying", because let's face it, that's bull shit, but I will say that sometimes it happens when you least expect it."