MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[MamaPeaches]

I ovulated right on time and am now 2 dpo! Now for the tww!

@Hopefuls question of the day, that is a really interesting question! I probably wouldn't befriend anyone as mean as my inner self. I often beat myself up over little things, from not being the perfect mom to picking on myself over carrying around a few extra pounds. Sometimes I am my own cheerleader other times I'm my own bully. I think it may be a way of keeping myself grounded, but I can definitely work on being more positive and being a cheerleader more often What a great insightful question!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Hopeful2014... you left out YOUR update this morning!

momwithbabies... dental stuff is no joke. I took a break from the dentist when I went to graduate school for my master's about 10 years ago and even though it was only 2-3 years of a break, I had all kinds of little stuff that needed work. My whole family has deep molar ridges, so we are all full of fillings. There are dentists that use things like air abrasion dentistry (miniature sandblaster, no drill) for more shallow things. I know it's scary (both the prospect of something being wrong, plus the possible expense) - but you only get one set of adult teeth and in the long run, it's likely better to face the music, so you can get out of pain and move on!

@chulie: the FRER "early" test depends on the length of your LP. Mine ranges from 11-13 days so there's little chance I'll find a home test that would show a positive at 6-8 DPO! Test anyway, but don't let a BFN before your next cycle is due get you down!

AFM... a little excited. First, I'll preface the "why" with a bit of background. I started temping at 5 AM this cycle (used to be 6 AM) and increased my exercise a lot at the beginning, so my temps have been really low all cycle. I had positive OPKs the night of CD 20 and morning of CD 21. Due to cramping and nipple sensitivity, I changed my ovulation detector to OPK/monitor and had ovulation on my chart as CD 21. Today is CD 24 - temp was higher than it's been, so I experimented with the different detectors and all of them (advanced, FAM, and research) all agree with CD 21 for ovulation!!! I don't think I've ever had a cycle where all the detectors agree on a single date! Our coverage was about as good as it could get - so FX! Like newbie2013, I have a summer birthday and this cycle is the only one that could give me a birthday BFP - so just keeping my FX!

To answer Hopeful2014's question: "If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?" What do you think about the question? Are you willing to take more from yourself than you would from someone else? Are you ever a bad friend to yourself? What can you do about it?

Wow. Great thought/ conversation starter. I have thought about this a lot recently, had a professional evaluation and was prepared for everyone to tell me what I thought about myself. And 10 minutes in realized the only critic I had in the room was me. And I'm viscous. I don't believe in excuses, I have an extremely high expectation of myself and at least professionally - believe there is "do or do not, there is no try." I would never have a friend like me. Not because of the expectations, but because of the inability to accept anything else than perfection. Fortunately, I only do this with respect to my professional expectations. I don't like how much weight I gained during some medical issues I had over the last few years (including an under-functioning thyroid), but I am ever so slowing getting the scale to move downward and am better at praising my accomplishments and keeping my expectations realistic. I'm trying to apply that to my professional life - really own and appreciate my accomplishments, not just gloss over them and dive headfirst into my next project!

 

[stargazer0726]

If i had any hope that my spotting the last two days was ib this morning cleared things right up when the witch arrived in full force. pretty dissapointed because the next three months my ovulation window will be while we are camping and we are not that stealthy haha or when hubbs is out of town for work. I know it only takes one time so we will just have to see. My cycle was longer this time 27 days much better than 24 so hopefully its starting to regulate after bcp. I'm guessing my next testing window will be july 26, my 30th bday, however if i do get pregnant next month i will have kids with birthdays only 6 days apart...

 

[Lazydaisys]

That's a good question! Since I stress myself out quite a bit (especially with TTC and the work that goes with being a teacher), I think sometimes I'm my own worst enemy. That being said, I've always been hard on myself and consider it part of my personality. When I was younger, I would cry any time I received a "B" on a report card! What's silly is that my parents never pushed me to be a perfect, " straight A" student. I just naturally drove myself to stress about it. Luckily, I don't expect perfection from others as I do from myself. I have no idea why, but thank you for the thought.

Mom with babies. I am exactly the same as you(except I never got the a's just the bs) my mum and dad never put as much pressure on me as I put on myself.

I will remember that quote next time I'm being mean to myself. X

 

[KatyW]

I certainly am my own worst critic, but have done a lot better at this in recent years, after some soul searching and hard work.

I hope everyone takes the time to do something for themselves today - or something that makes you happy.

 

[BSelck24]

As for me, I am still waiting for a pos OPK!! Husband and I have been trying the SMEP plan this month (1st time!) which I am excited he is on board for, but I feel like were wasting so many days BDing because O is not coming!! I have always had regular 30 day cycles, but after my miscarriage last October they went up to 34 days. My last cycle was suuuper messed up, had brown spotting for like 3 weeks straight and then finally a period after nearly 52 days since my last. So I'm not sure what this cycle will be like and maybe that is why O seems to be hiding!! Hoping my hubby doesn't get sick of the SMEP plan before O comes!! Good luck ladies!

 

[momwithbabies]

ClaudestineTX: I am for sure calling the dentist tomorrow morning. My mouth is killing me because I was at a bday party for a friend's son and unfortunately, I tried to eat a BBQ sandwich. Ouch, but it was so good! Now I'm sitting in my bathtub in intense pain It's a good thing my husband is here watching the kids because I am of no use right now. I am done with not taking care of my teeth! I keep telling my kids, "Look! See what happens when you eat too much candy and drink soda!" What is the saying? "Do as I say, not as I do," I think

 

[burgbrandy]

Ugh! So i just realized something...Hubby is going back to days this week tomorrow morning so ill be waking up at 5:30 am again to temp! Damn it! Lol! My temps are gonna go back down again with the 2 hour difference. Then again, i was all worried when i switched to 7:30 midcycle and it didnt make too much of a difference, so we will see!

 

[ClandestineTX]

ClaudestineTX: I am for sure calling the dentist tomorrow morning. My mouth is killing me because I was at a bday party for a friend's son and unfortunately, I tried to eat a BBQ sandwich. Ouch, but it was so good! Now I'm sitting in my bathtub in intense pain It's a good thing my husband is here watching the kids because I am of no use right now. I am done with not taking care of my teeth! I keep telling my kids, "Look! See what happens when you eat too much candy and drink soda!" What is the saying? "Do as I say, not as I do," I think

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. More than likely something is going on that's irritating one of the nerves, and that's why it's so bad (just my guess - from a background in anatomy - not a dentist, myself).

 

[mummy2o]

As for me, I am still waiting for a pos OPK!! Husband and I have been trying the SMEP plan this month (1st time!) which I am excited he is on board for, but I feel like were wasting so many days BDing because O is not coming!! I have always had regular 30 day cycles, but after my miscarriage last October they went up to 34 days. My last cycle was suuuper messed up, had brown spotting for like 3 weeks straight and then finally a period after nearly 52 days since my last. So I'm not sure what this cycle will be like and maybe that is why O seems to be hiding!! Hoping my hubby doesn't get sick of the SMEP plan before O comes!! Good luck ladies!

Since my miscarriage in August last year, my periods have also been messed up. Not as badly as yours. But can range from 21 - 38 days. Dr says there is nothing wrong also which makes it worse! I have heard going to the pill for a month or two could sort it out, amongst other things. So maybe that will be worth a shot.

 

[chulie]

Morning ladies!!! So it looks like I'm an official graduate of the "chulie" method! Hahaha. To say I am completely shocked is an understatement!!!!! I think I'm about 9 dpo?? Since the chulie method doesn't allow for accuracy I'm not really sure??!! Hahahahaha. Omg.......

 

[Hopeful2014]

Morning ladies!!! So it looks like I'm an official graduate of the "chulie" method! Hahaha. To say I am completely shocked is an understatement!!!!! I think I'm about 9 dpo?? Since the chulie method doesn't allow for accuracy I'm not really sure??!! Hahahahaha. Omg.......

Congratulations! I definitely see the line!!!

What comes next?

 

[Hopeful2014]

@momwithbabies I am the same way. I was never really forced to do well in school, but I always held myself to needing As and Bs in high school, but then I held myself to needing all As in university. There were a handful of classes with Bs that drove me crazy at the time. Looking back it might still make me feel a little icky. I hold myself to needing perfection more than I should, but the bad thing is...I do hold others to that expectation at times. I know it's completely illogical and that there are many ways to do things, I promise. I'm usually fairly calm about it, but I have to tell myself to calm down sometimes. I hate to hear that your teeth are worse today. Good luck tomorrow.

@lesh07 I'm sorry. May your wait not be much longer.

@babychka I'm sorry. I'll move you to TBA for now unless you have a new date in mind.

@MamaPeaches Yay for the tww! I agree; it's good to be truthful with yourself so you can recognize things and fix if needed. It's also good to be a cheerleader for yourself as well! Good luck!!

@stargazer0726 I'm sorry that it's here full force. I am happy to see that your cycle has become longer. I think that will make all the difference. Perhaps having to be a little stealthy will spice things up?!? I updated your date.

@BSelck24 I hope ovulation comes soon for you. The SMEP plan can be tiresome, but I think it will definitely help you be prepared before ovulation. Good luck!

@burgbrandy I hope the change of time doesn't mess with your temps, but be prepared that it might so it doesn't annoy you quite as much if they seem off. - I think that advice reminds me of what @momwithbabies said about sugar, "do as I say, not as I do" because the change in time would annoy me as well.

@ClandestineTX It is exciting to see all of the detectors pick the same day! I've had mine disagree sometimes, but it is nice when they all choose the same day! I'm so glad your coverage was good and that the delay in ovulation did not get you down! Good work! I'm glad you are getting better at praising yourself and trying to keep your expectations realistic as well. As far as you saying, "I would never have a friend like me." I have to disagree because I think you have been such an honest, thoughtful person on here. I'd be glad to call you friend! Side note: I know it's hard though, hence my need to calm myself with people sometimes due to my anxious behavior.


AFM (@ClandestineTX Thanks for asking!!) I am not sure what's going on with me. I'm cd 23 (Monday) and I don't know if I ovulated or not. It's usually cd 13-16 with a 13-14 day lp. My temps are so confusing. They have been so stable and consistent this whole cycle even more stable than usual. I thought that would be a good sign of balanced hormones at the beginning of the cycle, but I haven't seen a big shift and none of the sites confirmed ovulation yet. I've had more fertile cm during the whole cycle as well which seems good, but I'm not sure. I know that the temp shift needs to be a .40-.50 F or higher shift to constitute a temp rise, but I also saw it could be as low as a .20 F to qualify as a rise. Would 97.04 to 97.28 be enough to count as a temp shift? I'm usually much higher than that, but I do notice that all of the earlier temps are the 96s or barely over 97 and then after the 97.28 all of them are in the 97. teens or twenties. I said I would take it one day at a time this month. It's unfortunate because that's what my temps are making me do except I feel more lost than ever. I should know something in the next week if I stay on normal schedule.

 

[chulie]

Morning ladies!!! So it looks like I'm an official graduate of the "chulie" method! Hahaha. To say I am completely shocked is an understatement!!!!! I think I'm about 9 dpo?? Since the chulie method doesn't allow for accuracy I'm not really sure??!! Hahahahaha. Omg.......

Congratulations! I definitely see the line!!!

What comes next?

Thanks girlie!!!! Well I need to make sure that thing gets a tad darker but being a holiday here in Canada everything is friggen closed so ill have to wait and get another test on Tuesday and try again!! Make sure it darkens!!!

 

[Hopeful2014]

Morning ladies!!! So it looks like I'm an official graduate of the "chulie" method! Hahaha. To say I am completely shocked is an understatement!!!!! I think I'm about 9 dpo?? Since the chulie method doesn't allow for accuracy I'm not really sure??!! Hahahahaha. Omg.......

Congratulations! I definitely see the line!!!

What comes next?

Thanks girlie!!!! Well I need to make sure that thing gets a tad darker but being a holiday here in Canada everything is friggen closed so ill have to wait and get another test on Tuesday and try again!! Make sure it darkens!!!

I bet it will be hard to wait, but waiting will give it time to darken! Let me know when to make it official on here. I'm so happy for you!!

 

[mummy2o]

Congrats Chulie,

 

[newbie2013]

Yay Chulie!!! Even I can see that and I hardly ever see anyone's line at 9DPO!! I'm super happy for you. Fxed for a sticky one... Waiting for Tuesday's report

 

[lesh07]

Morning ladies!!! So it looks like I'm an official graduate of the "chulie" method! Hahaha. To say I am completely shocked is an understatement!!!!! I think I'm about 9 dpo?? Since the chulie method doesn't allow for accuracy I'm not really sure??!! Hahahahaha. Omg.......

Congrats hunni. xx

 

[hopeforamirac]

Massive congrats to all those with bfp

Im due af on the 12th of july.. Been doing the new clearblue monitor trial this month so fingers crossed i get my bfp this time

 

[hopeforamirac]

Massive congrats to all those with bfp

Im due af on the 12th of july.. Been doing the new clearblue monitor trial this month so fingers crossed i get my bfp this time