MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[melann13]

I agree Hopeful and Chulie. While everyone finds different aspects of TTC more stressful than others, for me I tried using OPKs, and was still using them when I got my BFP, but I definitely stopped relying on them so much and just trusted other signs and my overall mood. If I O'd on CD14 one month, I'd get so annoyed the next month when CD 13/14 rolled around and no +OPK, but if I had just listened to my own signals, I already knew that it wasn't time yet and could be more calm knowing it was just around the corner.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Hopeful2014: so glad to hear you FINALLY got those crosshairs! And don't discourage yourself, yes there is a higher statistical probability of some days versus others, but you have a good chance as long as at least one of your attempts was in the fertile window. I have a friend on another thread that stopped trying the day before her positive OPK and guess what - she still got her BFP this time!

@burgbrandy: I know it sucks to see a temp drop at the end, but we'll keep our FX for you!

@lesh07: how many DPO are you? A "faint BFP" usually progresses to a super positive BFP - you can always post pics, too!

@newbie2013: I remember the panic that initially came with - we are going to have unprotected sex on purpose. It wore off, but almost everyone goes through it!

Huge thanks for everyone who's helping me stay optimistic this cycle. Cramping came back a little this morning, but definitely less impressive than yesterday. Will start my daily testing tomorrow and am leaving for the weekend - after tomorrow, you may not get anything from me until Sunday or Monday!

The things I wish I knew was to evaluate OPKs/CM first and temps second. A lot of the online stuff makes it seem like temps are the end all be all of TTC and they are not accurate at all for pinpointing ovulation! (example A: the chulie method) Let's face it, most of us who temp do get stressed out about it - it just makes us feel less stress than we would with no idea what was going on with our bodies. The other biggie is that no matter what the statistics say, it takes however long it takes (especially coming right off any type of BC) - it not working despite perfect timing doesn't mean there's anything wrong with any of us or our partners!

 

[lesh07]

Hi i am now 15 dpo and can barely see a line. I think af will show up it's just playing tricks on me. xx

 

[burgbrandy]

I wish i had known how obsessed i would become once i started using aids like temping, opks, and checking cm. The first two months we just dtd every day, but i needed to feel proactive so i started charting. Now its just so much a part of my life that i cant stop! I took a month of temping in january, and i was more stressed without it. I also wish i would have known that even with no issues, it can still take a long long time. So much waiting!! i wish i would have started taking vitamins and trying to eat healthy sooner.

 

[nikkilucky77]

Hi i am now 15 dpo and can barely see a line. I think af will show up it's just playing tricks on me. xx

Do you temp at all? I usually always know af is here by my temps. Good luck hun ..I'm hoping for a stronger bfp for you!

 

[nikkilucky77]

Hopeful14: YAY for crosshairs! I know what you are feeling. DH and I did it less this month and not on the day of O but the day before. Crossing my fingers and toes for us!

ClandestineTX: That cramping is sounding very optimistic! I actually did OPK's first but I once I did temping I liked that better. Each cycle gets better for me. I didn't do OPK's this month and based it off my temps and cm (which this is the first cycle for that). Good luck and have a good weekend!

Burgbrandy: I understand how you feel about the obsession! I feel like the TTC takes over my life a bit. Either temping, checking cm, googling, dtd, etc . I hope your temp jumps up again! You never know until af is here.

 

[KatyW]

Yeah - I have to take to heart that I do everything I can (eat healthy, time BD perfectly when my husband is actually home, ha,etc) but so much of this is still not in my control. Sometimes it's freeing to relinquish control over the uncontrollable. And I'd echo Chulie - don't compare yourself to anyone else. Your body is unique, and more than that, comparison can be a killjoy.

 

[ClandestineTX]

I hope the cramping is optimistic. Today it's really just soreness, good news is it's definitely not gas!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Ummm yeah on that comparison thing... I was feeling super optimistic and chastised my friend for not being excited that she has a viable pregnancy after her MMC last year and CP last month and to remember she was talking to someone who's never been pregnant at all (and she already has a two year old)... and she said something about it took her 6 months with herbs and acupuncture to get it and it killed my own optimism for some reason, mostly because she gets pregnant very easily compared to most of us - got her first BFP/ son on the second cycle off BC with no work and the MMC was also right off BC with no work. I may not know what it's like to lose a pregnancy, but she will never know what it's like to try for 9 cycles with nothing to show for it/ constantly worrying that something is wrong with me or Hubster. Long story short: comparisons are BAD.

 

[Hopeful2014]

@mommyxofxone Nice, let me know what you think about it after you become familiar with it!

@chulie Very true. I listened to the average day advice at the beginning. Although I am around the average 14, it varies from 13-16 normally. I definitely wouldn't have days before day 13 unless I started earlier and might have even stopped before the 15 and 16 days. Listen to your own body!

@ClandestineTX I hope it was good timing. I had four out of six fertile window and two out of three right before ovulation. Oh no! We have to wait to find out, well I hope it's an early BFP tomorrow then. I agree; it's hard not to worry that something is wrong when it takes a while. We all need to remind ourselves that it might just take a while and that all might be okay.

@lesh07 I hope it gets darker.

@burgbrandy I agree. It's stressful to do all the charting, but I think I would be lost without it.

@nikkilucky77 I've read in several places that the day before is very important because the sperm should have had enough time to mature. Good luck to both of us!!

@KatyW You're right; comparison can be a killjoy. It's hard knowing you are doing everything you can and it still takes time. Our chances have to be higher since we are doing things to be proactive.

 

[newbie2013]

@newbie2013: I remember the panic that initially came with - we are going to have unprotected sex on purpose. It wore off, but almost everyone goes through it!

Oh, we've been trying for over a year; well, really NTNP because we've just been guessing when the 'right' time is, as I've only been tracking my cycles and occasionally looking for CM. Although, I totally agree with you that the first few times bding for a reason (other than it is just darn good fun!!) was a bit scary. Fortunately, we've gotten over it and BDing has just become good fun again!

What I meant was with temping and charting, I feel it is getting more serious TTC. However, going on from Hopeful's question yesterday, I think it will be really valuable for me to get to know my body more since I know virtually nothing right now except my cycle recently hasn't been as regular as I thought it was.

Thinking of all of you!!!

 

[MamaPeaches]

I need some advice ladies! Is it possible to ovalute twice in a cycle? I have lots of ewcm, cervix is soft low and open again, o pain. My temps are all wacky because of my sleeping issues and waking up at different times. My one positive opk was just as dark as the control but not darker 5 days ago. The next two days the line went back faint. Any advice? Bding again today just in case just wondered if anyone else is experiencing this? Thanks!

 

[mummy2o]

Mamapeaches: most likely thing that happen was you tried to ovulate and that failed, so your trying again. Its more common than people expect, and stop testing after their first positive opk.

AFM its the end of my LP as I have a short 12 days so waiting for AF to get her ass here so we can try next month. If she feels like staying away until the 8th I'll test then.

 

[Hopeful2014]

@MamaPeaches I'm not sure. I think your temps look as though you have ovulated. However, I think you're right to bd just in case. I'd watch the temps over the next few days to see what they do. Good luck!

@mummy2o I hope af stays away. I totally understand the sentiment of getting it over with so you can start fresh though. Good luck!

 

[Hopeful2014]

JULY , HERE WE COME!!!

Ladies, Remember
1. That it's not over until AF comes
2. That many ladies get false negatives
3. That implantation happens 6-12 dpo
4. That we are here for you no matter what


July is here and we are ready for some more BFPs! Our BFP list growing and I can't wait to add more names to the list! I look forward to hearing more about the pregnancies already taking form and the upcoming pregnancies soon to be announced. We started this group in April-all with the same goal-wanting a BFP. Since then we have expanded on that goal. I want us to have a thread where we all know each other and can help each other along. I want to see a BFP blinking by each of our names. I want it to be a place we can look back on in time (while cradling baby!) and remember our struggle and and share our happiness. We will keep adding to the list from May and on until we can see everyone have that beautiful beside her name. Good luck and fingers crossed!

TESTERS:
July 4: RaeChay


Happy 4th of July to all who celebrate it!

 

[lesh07]

Well 3 days late and still no bfn. testing several times a day at the moment and nothing, even brought an asda pregnancy test and bfn!! Got slight back ache and feeling a little sick but as i have had so many negatives i am just waiting for af to arrive or possible miscarriage. x

 

[burgbrandy]

My temp went up just a tiny bit and shadow lines on both my tests this morning. i think im out.

 

[Mrs A]

My temp went up just a tiny bit and shadow lines on both my tests this morning. i think im out.

I think your chart looks ace! Xxx

 

[Mummy to HP]

Hiya

Had our dating scan today went really well and saw baby it was such a relief to see .

Date was as expected and we are due Jan 10th.

I was weighed whilst there and was utterly shocked to have apparently put on 6kg in the 1st tri!!! That's almost a stone . I know its not something I should be worrying about so forgive me if it makes you angry that I am but a stone in the first tri OMG.

I don't want to be blob like by my due date!

Hope everyone is ok?

 

[omgbaby]

So, yesterday I came home from work. At about 6:30 I laid down for a nap. I woke up 2-3 times I think one out of 3 I got up to pee. Well I didn't actually wake up til midnight so I ate nachos & cheese then went back to bed at 1. Lol woke up 3 time between 1 & 3 to go to the bathroom. Woke at 7 to temp & it went WAAY up. Then didn't wake until 10. Btw, yesterday before I napped all I wanted was broccoli & ranch from a veggie tray &chocolate. also, Tuesday night I woke up with a Charlie horse (cramps) in both legs!!! It was horrible.

Im probably just going crazy ss. But what do you ladies think?