MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[Hopeful2014]

@magicwhisper Good luck today, then! Do you track cm or anything else besides the app?

@omgbaby I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. What do you think is going on? I hope your OH gets back soon!

@mommyxofxone Are you expecting af today or in a day? I know your ticker says 7 dpo. If not, a drop at 7 dpo usually doesn't mean anything bad. It could be a good sign. How are you feeling?

@Dannixo I know you've had such a hard time. I know that all of that pain and hard work will pay off. I'm very hopeful for you. Keep us updated.

@chulie Sometimes you have to act like things don't bother you in order to face them! How are you?

@gabbygabz I'm glad to hear that you're doing better. I hope those cramps hurry along. The actual pain sometimes trumps the sadness of af actually showing for me. I'm also so glad to hear that you have an appointment with the RE. Your description of you in the aisle sounds just like me!

@ClandestineTX I read about your doctor's theory in your journal. How would you know something like that was happening? I hope she can get things sorted as quickly as possible for you. It sounds like you are happy to be back with her and that she is on the right track. I know that it must feel good to have an idea of what could be going on.

@MamaPeaches I'm so sorry to hear about your SIL. That's such a horrible thing to happen. I hope she gets good news from the specialist.

@mummy2o Shall I update it as official now? I'm so glad that everything is in the right place. How are you?

@kirstyjane13 Why do our cycles have to play tricks on us? You think you know something, then it changes! Did it seem like normal when it started? Perhaps get a cheap test from Wal-Mart or the Dollar Store?

@Lazydaisys I don't know a lot about it, but I would suggest pushing to get more exact answers or at least a better explanation for their reasoning. I hope this tww is not the same old for you. I hope it continues with a BFP!

@Ruskiegirl I'm sorry. It's not fair. I don't get why this has to happen. We work so hard to get those lines and then we don't know if they are real or why af starts anyway.

 

[omgbaby]

About an hour ago I got bright red very light.

 

[Mme2kdee]

I'm so sorry ruskiegirl!!!!!!!!


Talked to my doctor today who reviewed my chart. She said even though my temps went up it wasn't full ovulation and due to my cycles and ovulation getting longer she is going to put me on a low dose of clomid. Fingers crossed!

 

[magicwhisper]

thank you. no my oh and i have decided to take a relaxed approach to ttc and we are not charting.

we bd the day before and today and maybe tomorrow haha xD next month we will go for every other day when i am approaching my fertile time so we cover ourselves a bit better

 

[mummy2o]

Yes its official. On BnB at least. I'm excited and looking forward to my next scan on the 6th August just to make sure its growing. I still have m/s after anything I eat, so thats a good sign. I'm debating if this one will be a girl since I had no m/s with DS.

 

[Ruskiegirl]

Put me down for August 13th testing thanks

 

[mommyxofxone]

AFM: I got a scan this morning as they thought it could be ectopic. But no everything is fine. Sac and yolk all in the right place, so I guess you can't get more official than that. My next scan is 6th August

glad everything is ok hun!!!

@mommyxofxone Are you expecting af today or in a day? I know your ticker says 7 dpo. If not, a drop at 7 dpo usually doesn't mean anything bad. It could be a good sign. How are you feeling?

problem is, af is so random, she can be 30-50 days sometimes. suck. should be due the 20th though. we'll see.

 

[nikkilucky77]

Ruskiegirl: So sorry to hear that!

Hopeful14: Thanks for being so awesome! How are you doing? I think hope the relaxed approach works and please put me down for testing on August 8th. Thank!

Hope everyone else is doing ok

 

[ProfWife]

So sorry for the AF sneaking up on you guys!

I'll likely be in that boat in a few days. Temp fell drastically today. So much for starting the school year pregnant (and knowing about it).

At this point I'd be able to teach until the end of the 3rd quarter of school if we get pregnant within the next month. That's 10 more weeks of pay! ;-)

 

[nikkilucky77]

Prowife: I like the way you think ...way to be positive but you never know! Hopefully it isn't af for you.

 

[Hopeful2014]

@omgbaby

@Mme2kdee Could she tell that it wasn't full ovulation because of the temps and charts? Was it what the temperatures or shift actually was? I'm glad you're moving forward and I'm hopeful that the clomid will work for you! Fingers crossed!

@magicwhisper Good luck!

@mummy2o I'm so excited for you. I updated the front and added your scan date. I hope you stick around and keep us updated!!

@Ruskiegirl I updated your date.

@mommyxofxone I think a drop that early probably isn't bad if you're due on the 20th. I'm sorry that it's so random. I hope it's back up tomorrow!

@nikkilucky77 Thanks for being so sweet! I'm doing pretty good. I'm cd 5 and I'm planning on taking a more relaxed approach this time. I usually want to rush to ovulation and start bd almost as soon as af is gone. I am trying to take each day at a time. I think I'll start bd on cd 12 this time because the earliest ovulation I had was cd 13 and the latest was cd 21 (probably an odd occurrence). The average range is 14-16 so I'm planning on starting a couple days later and then going every day for 10 days or until a confirmed ovulation. That's the plan so far! I updated your date. I'm crossing my fingers for us both!

@ProfWife I'm sorry about the temp. I hope it's back up tomorrow and is just a fluke. You're not out yet! I think it would be nice to have baby close to a school break because you can get maternity leave and the school break to spend with baby. I just wish it was something that we could plan. It's still hard for me to cope with not being in control with it!


AFM I had to wake up earlier than usual today and probably only had 1-2 hours of solid sleep. I took my temperature anyway because I still feel like I need it in its spot. My temp was up a little higher than to be expected at this point since it was so disturbed. I took a nap later in the afternoon and took my temp after waking up and it was right for this point in my cycle (cd 5) and the same temp as cd 2. I wish I knew my temps would 100% be accurate if I didn't take them at the same time every day because I would just start taking them when I woke up and not fret about it as much! Oh well! I'm too obsessed not to do it right now!

 

[lesh07]

Well ladies sorry for not posting much these past 2 weeks been all over the place. I had a long af in the end it seemed to go on and on, Lasting 7 days! Finally got round to dtd on cd 10 and cd 12.

Sister-in-law announced she is 9 weeks pregnant with her 1st and I am very happy for her. We did announce that we were trying for another one and they seemed alright about that.

Sorry for all the ladies that have received there af. And congrats to the ladies who has had a bfp. xxx

 

[mommyxofxone]

lesh glad you can be happy for your sil! that's a great thing!


temp dropped again this am. pretty sure i'm out. i'm trying to stop myself from wanting to order tons of opks and things. i know the dates i usually o, between 18-22cd, so i just want to bd every day and use those damn softcups i bought the first time around. will try that this coming cycle.

why is it so easy for some people?

 

[Hopeful2014]

I was doing some research and want to see what you all think about something. We have all, undoubtedly, looked at the averages and odds of conceiving within certain amounts of time. For example, blank% will conceive after three months and blank% will conceive after six months, etc. Of course I keep finding different percentages on different websites.

My questions to you all are:

1. Do you think these studies mean months of natural ttc without using anything or are they suggesting months when you are charting or temping or doing something more than dtd whenever you think it's time?

2. Do you factor yourself based on months before charting/using tools and those when you used as a whole for your odds or only the months when you were using tools/or being more hardcore in some way as being part of your odds?

3. Do you think those odds factor in early losses and how that would adjust the odds? For example, someone charts for three months, gets pregnant on the third month charting, but suffers an early loss. Does that person still count as the blank% to conceive within three months? Would that be a positive sign for the person?

 

[Hopeful2014]

@lesh07 I'm glad af is over and I hope that the rest of your cycle is regular for you. I know you're happy for her. I know it can be hard as well. Just think of the fun parties and holidays when you will both have little babies. Good luck!

@mommyxofxone I'm sorry. A temp drop is always a horrible way to start a day as well. It always puts me in a bad/sad mood. Do something nice for yourself today! I wish it would come easy for me as well.

 

[ProfWife]

@Hopeful - I think a lot of the stats involve clinical (confirmed) pregnancies only. So, a loss before the first ultrasound and confirmation of heartbeat probably aren't involved in the stats.

BTW - Hubs and I agreed I'd be home with the baby permanently after birth. So, it's a matter of how big do I want to be while teaching 5-6 classes a day every day during the school week.

In other news, husband was supposed to get his follow up SA today...but forgot his prescription! I'm so mad. I'm sure it will be my fault for not reminding him, but I am pretty sick today (allergies turned into a potential sinus infection). So, I was barely coherent when he left. If AF starts, I'll need to schedule myself for a repeat HSG...but that means he likely won't be there with me since my appointment will be in the afternoon and his would be first thing in the morning. Not a happy camper this morning.

BTW - temp was up but that could be due to the illness (although I'm not feverish) or the less than ideal night's sleep.

 

[magicwhisper]

awh im sorry your not feeling we;, my hayfever is terrible too today

 

[nikkilucky77]

Hopeful: Sounds like you have a good plan this month. I hope this relaxed approach works for us . Thanks for posting the questions to think about. I also think that age would factor in as well as where they on the pill, depo shot, etc. We are all amazing women and I know it feels like we aren't lucky but I suppose our bodies know best . But if I will hear it will happen when it is supposed to...I am going to go crazy :S lol.

Mummyxofxone: I completely understand. Others make it look so easy! I swear I have seen so many pregnant women lately or heard stories of women that were on the pill and conceived. Good luck hun

Prowife and Magicwhisper: Hope you get feeling better! Good luck

 

[ClandestineTX]

Hi clandestine. I've had the thyroid test done three times now and keep getting borderline underactive. I had a test once, then they asked me to repeat it the month after then leave it six months, now my results are the same they want me to test again in three months. I just get a telephone call from the evil receptionist. I'm going to see a different doctor on friday as I really want to either sort it or get peace of mind before I get bfp or start iui or ivf. Any advice? Should I be pushing for exact levels, what is borderline? Medication to regulate it? The doctor surgery I go to is different to my fertility clinic. Am I worrying about nothing should I just wait three months?? Thanks.

In the 2 week wait. Waiting again! Same old! Xx

Advice, based solely on my experience, they should be checking free T3 and free T4 levels as well as the TSH. For women in their first trimester and TTC the TSH level should be less than 2.50 (2011 guidelines here, https://thyroidguidelines.net/pregnancy). Thyroid disease is one of the primary causes of infertility in industrialized nations and can cause problems getting pregnant and staying pregnant (as it can also cause recurrent miscarriage).

AF showed up today guess tho tests were false or faulty

Ruskiegirl. I think my tests sucked too. Seriously not using el cheapos or testing early anymore.

... @ClandestineTX I read about your doctor's theory in your journal. How would you know something like that was happening? I hope she can get things sorted as quickly as possible for you. It sounds like you are happy to be back with her and that she is on the right track. I know that it must feel good to have an idea of what could be going on...

There's also a test for the reverse T3 (rT3) in addition to the free T3. A normal body makes T3 and a small amount of rT3 from T4. I'm taking a synthetic T4 replacement drug. If I'm not converting it correctly the new rT3 level should be higher than it was last time it was checked. If that's the problem it would put me in a group of about 10-15% of people with hypothyroidism, most simply don't make enough T4, but convert things fine. The hallmark seems to be continuing to feel like complete crap even though my labs for TSH, free T4 and free T3 look "normal" now. The rT3 competes for the same binding sites as T3 and would be blocking access even if there's technically enough T3 to have normal function. So long story short, if the rT3 level is too high - then it's just a matter of switching me to a drug that is a mixture of T4 and T3 or put me on one that's T3 only for a short period of time... just waiting for the labs to see if that's the problem.

Is problematic for TTC because you need sufficient T3 for maturation of an egg before ovulation and sufficient T4 during early pregnancy - so fixing this is paramount to me getting pregnant.

... AFM I had to wake up earlier than usual today and probably only had 1-2 hours of solid sleep. I took my temperature anyway because I still feel like I need it in its spot. My temp was up a little higher than to be expected at this point since it was so disturbed. I took a nap later in the afternoon and took my temp after waking up and it was right for this point in my cycle (cd 5) and the same temp as cd 2. I wish I knew my temps would 100% be accurate if I didn't take them at the same time every day because I would just start taking them when I woke up and not fret about it as much! Oh well! I'm too obsessed not to do it right now!

No fretting! You know the circumstances were wonky, therefore temps were wonky. I want to start a mantra here, "individual temps do not matter"

I was doing some research and want to see what you all think about something. We have all, undoubtedly, looked at the averages and odds of conceiving within certain amounts of time. For example, blank% will conceive after three months and blank% will conceive after six months, etc. Of course I keep finding different percentages on different websites.

My questions to you all are:

1. Do you think these studies mean months of natural ttc without using anything or are they suggesting months when you are charting or temping or doing something more than dtd whenever you think it's time?

2. Do you factor yourself based on months before charting/using tools and those when you used as a whole for your odds or only the months when you were using tools/or being more hardcore in some way as being part of your odds?

3. Do you think those odds factor in early losses and how that would adjust the odds? For example, someone charts for three months, gets pregnant on the third month charting, but suffers an early loss. Does that person still count as the blank% to conceive within three months? Would that be a positive sign for the person?

1. I have read a lot of these studies and most are based on "spontaneous conception" without separating out people who are using charting/ tracking/ timing intercourse in some way.

2. I count all of them. Two cycles just having more sex, 7 cycles charting/temping/ OPKing, etc. = 9 total.

3. The odds typically factor in confirmed pregnancy, which would be after a missed period (so would exclude very early losses, but would include first trimester miscarriage).

There was a good study recently on super fertility - that people who have chemicals and early losses may do so repeatedly because their bodies will let a pregnancy progress that technically shouldn't (chromosomal issue, etc.) - but they do get BFPs that lead to healthy children. I'd be a lot less worried about that than someone like me, who never seems to get a BFP no matter what (at least with the possible thyroid thing not being as well controlled as I thought - that makes sense now).

 

[Lazydaisys]

Thank you clandestine I have a lot of reading to do. X