MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[momwithbabies]

I go see my OBGYN tomorrow. Fun fun...not. Routine Pap smear and all of that. What do you ladies think I should ask? Here's some background on us:

1) I got pregnant easily with first and second.
2) First pregnancy was vaginal delivery.
3) Second pregnancy was Cesearean (daughter was breech).
4) I have had "suspected Endometriosis." I've never had anything done about it.
5) I have awful periods quite often. The cramping is so painful, and sometimes I need Hydrocodone to take the edge off.
6) Birth control calms my cramps. Doctor said if its not endometriosis, I'm just one of the lucky ladies that have horrible cramps.
7) No miscarriages/healthy pregnancies at age 22 and 24.
8) Husband and I are 30 and healthy. Husband is on anxiety medication, but his doctor said that shouldn't affect sperm. However, he does have difficulty sometimes ejaculating. Yikes! I hate writing about that, but maybe this truly is an issue. It's a good thing this problem seems to be better.
9) No SA yet. My doctor said last time that this might be something to explore further. My husband wasn't ready to do that, but he wasn't completed opposed to the idea. Awkward!
10) My cycles are kind of long (38 days). But since I was on a diet, they've been a little of everything. I've had ranges from 45 to 33 days??? I'm not on the diet anymore, so hopefully they'll be back to normal soon.
11) OBGYN ordered bloodwork about two years ago, and everything looked great. Maybe time for another?
12) I usually use OPK's to time intercourse. These last two cycles I have just been observing CM.
13) LP is 12-14 days.

That's all I can think of that might matter. I'm typing on my phone, so I hope it all makes sense. Let me know if you think I should ask/request anything. Appointment is tomorrow morning at 9:00 (Central).

 

[mommyxofxone]

good luck tomorrow momwithbabies, sounds like a good list!!

 

[ClandestineTX]

Definitely a good list! Would make sure they know about your cycle length and follow up on the endometriosis. I have friend on BnB right now and she definitely has it and the best chance for her is a laparoscopy and IUI, because of it. Not impossible for her to get pregnant on her own, just a lot harder than it is to help along the way! Good luck to you!

 

[Hopeful2014]

@ProfWife I wish I could find some more research that included early losses and/or months where timing might have been off or other things. I wonder if the odds is based on having problems like that or not. I'm sorry that he forgot. I hope it can be worked out and he can be there with you for your appointment. Feel better!

@magicwhisper I hope you feel better soon as well!

@nikkilucky77 We should try to hold each other to being as relaxed as possible! I agree about age and past use of birth control factoring in!! That's what is so annoying about that research. I wish that each chart or study would include that important information. There should be charts for people in different age groups, charts for people who used and didn't use birth control, charts for people who have had early losses and people who have not, and clear indicators that explain each!! Otherwise everyone is lumped in together and as we all know it can be different for everyone.

@ClandestineTX I totally agree about individual temps not mattering! This experiment of getting a normal temp at night, not timed, just when I woke up from a nap makes me wish I would relax and take them whenever I wake up and not take it at the same time. But I will probably continue to take them at the same time because if it was wonky one day I would wonder if it was accurate. I know it will suck to find out that is the cause especially since you thought it was already fixed, but it will also be comforting to know it is something that you should be able to fix. I have high hopes for your doctor. But remember-you still have a good chance this month as well! Are you feeling more relaxed with your new approach?

@momwithbabies
1. What is the likelihood that I have endometriosis now? Can we look into it?
2. What can you recommend for awful periods? Explain what they can be like.
3. Ask if the type of anxiety medication has any known side effects with ejaculation. You don't have to necessarily say that it is happening if you don't want, but he/she might have some tips.
4. What will be involved in a SA? Can my husband provide the sample at home and bring it in (if that would make him more comfortable)?
5. Tell him about the range of your cycles. Ask how that can impact ttc.
6. Should I have bloodwork done? Could anything have changed in the time?
7. What would you recommend when ttc such as opks, tracking cm, temping, what type of vitamins, etc.?
8. Tell how long you have been trying. How long should we try before doing more?
9. What will the options be if we have trouble?
10. (Only if you feel bold!) How much experience do you have or how much success have you seen from your patients with ttc?

Get your answers! I know sometimes they try to tell you just to wait and try. Make sure you feel like you have your answers before you leave. Good luck!

 

[Hopeful2014]

Okay, I thought you all might like to read this. Well, maybe not 'like' to read it but be interested in it. It's a story about a woman who had a tubal ligation, "a procedure in which a woman's fallopian tubes are cut, blocked, or tied in order to prevent pregnancy)." After having this performed there would only be a one percent chance that it wouldn't be effective.

Shocker: She did get pregnant.

Shocker: She didn't know until her water broke that she was pregnant.


To be fair, I'm happy the baby is okay and that she can have her miracle baby. She might have not suspected because she had an 11-month-old so she might not have missed af and she said she thought the weight was leftover from that pregnancy.

To be blunt, I think that's the type of luck we were wishing we had.

Read it here.

 

[KatyW]

Hopeful, I look at stats on Fertility Friend based on ovulation charts and it seems like odds are between 20-40 percent of pregnancy (or miscarriage sadly) every month depending on different factors like BD timing, age, etc, although I'm sure other factors can go into play. Even if everything is perfectly timed, it's still no guarantee, multiplied by months.

However, everyone's different, some people get lucky and other people are playing the odds and it just takes longer, and nothing may be wrong at all.

 

[Hopeful2014]

JULY , HERE WE COME!!!

Ladies, Remember
1. That it's not over until AF comes
2. That many ladies get false negatives
3. That implantation happens 6-12 dpo
4. That we are here for you no matter what


July is here and we are ready for some more BFPs! Our BFP list is growing and I can't wait to add more names to the list! I look forward to hearing more about the pregnancies already taking form and the upcoming pregnancies soon to be announced. We started this group in April-all with the same goal-wanting a BFP. Since then we have expanded on that goal. I want us to have a thread where we all know each other and can help each other along. I want to see a BFP blinking by each of our names. I want it to be a place we can look back on in time (while cradling baby!) and remember our struggle and and share our happiness. We will keep adding to the list from May and on until we can see everyone have that beautiful beside her name. Good luck and fingers crossed!

TESTERS:
July 18:
MzImpatient
River54

 

[KatyW]

Sorry for disappearing for a bit! My SIL went for her gender ultrasound and found out her baby most likely won't make it, she is set to be going to a specialist this next week. So it's been a bit rough for the family emotionally.

I have no idea what the heck is going on with my cycle. I'm cd34, not a sign of AF but got a bfn on Saturday My temps have dropped a bit, but still above the cover line. I want to say I feel pregnant, but yet at the same time I keep running to the bathroom thinking AF is going to start. I just want to know either way it's driving me insane! If I Oed by the date ff set I think I'm for sure out but I had what I thought was oing or delayed oing a few days later which would put me at 12 dpo instead of 18 dpo. I have one frer left I will test with tomorrow if AF doesn't show. Normally I would have cramps and some spotting by now. I wish my body would get it together!

Now I have to go back and catch up on everyone from the past few days! I hope everyone is doing well

I'm sorry about your SIL's baby.

Your chart is interesting - your LP looks really really long. Have you tested again?

 

[MamaPeaches]

Momwithbabies, your list is great and so are all the suggestions! I hope you leave the doctor feeling better and more informed!

Afm The got me this morning, after a really long cycle! I'm just glad she is finally here so we can move onto a new month! New testing date will roughly be August 15th. This month ill be taking everything my midwive has suggested and be taking soy isoflavones to bring on a stronger o and try and help shorten my cycle. My OPKS never get really dark, so hoping this will help. Will be taking them cd3-7. And temping, ect.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Hopeful: I am feeling a lot more relaxed and a little disconnected. I've been waking up, temping an immediately updating my chart for MONTHS. Now, I wake up and do something else. Still weird, but not in a bad way. I will start temping in about a week when I start seeing fertile signs and continue until I get a confirmed shift, but that's it - no more over analyzing every bloody temp, because we all know the individual ones don't matter anyway! I'll also start OPKs when I start temping, just going to be later!

 

[burgbrandy]

Ok ladies...i need ur help...if u look at my chart from ff in my signature, all of the open circles are from taking my temp at 7:30. The closed circles are taken at 5 am. My husband keeps switching shifts so hence the temp time changes. Ive had no o pain this cycle, just some pulling the last 3 days. But my temps keep going up and my positive opks were 2 days ago. I hate that i always seem to have to change the time so close to o. Im just not sure what to do this cycle. Based on cm and opks and pulling, id say i o'd yesterday, but so hard to say based on temps.

Here is my adjusted temps...it looks like o was yesterday as well.https://www.tcoyf.com/charts/users/125788/40550/10.png?Thu,%2018%20Jul%202013%2014:37:07%20GMT

 

[ClandestineTX]

@burgbrandy: I'd keep DTD until you get LP-like temps for you (97.9 or more judging from your previous chart), but if you read all the stuff I posted about the inaccuracy of temping in general awhile back on this thread, you'd know temps aren't super helpful other than seeing a biphasic pattern (eventually). I'd bet they'll go up in the next few days, but wouldn't worry about ovulation as long as your OPKs were really positive and not just half positive.

 

[burgbrandy]

I plan on bding for another couple days anyway. My opks were crazy dark on cd 11. Pics in my journal. I know temps dont matter much, but im addicted and cant stop over-analyzing them! Lol!

My previous lp temps can vary because of time taken as well. my coverline varies between 97.4-97.8, depending on if they were taken at 7:30 or 5 am.

 

[ClandestineTX]

Agreed OPK is super positive. 97-100% likely you either have ovulated or will no later than CD 14.

Side note about the Boxer - I have one (family has had them for 3 generations) and they are naturally playful, but also naturally careful around smaller creatures. Ours is 60 lbs, almost 15 months old, and did great with my bestie's 2 year old he'd never met before and lives in a house full of cats (he is guilty of licking cat butt...). I think it's much more about training and hope there's a local rescue group that would take him if he can't stay where he is.

 

[burgbrandy]

Ugh! Stupid phone! I had a reply and it deleted it...

Anyway, i believe her mom is going to take the dog if the dog warden doesnt put it down. I dont have a problem with boxers and this dog is beautiful, but i have a problem with them refusing to train it and never correcting it. This isnt the first time that our kids have came back with bites. And i have a problem with the fact that they wont get its shots either. Ugh! The damn dog even attacks my dog. Now my dog is a 35 lb 7 month old english bulldog, and my dog wont fight back cuz he knows better. He just knock him over and stands over him. This dog has left countless pinholes on my dogs face and ears. But they call my dog "his little bitch" because he wont bite back. Really? Get ur dog off of my dog! I would, but he then bites me. I just feel that they cant properly care for this dog and it should be taken away.

 

[ClandestineTX]

They sounds just trashy! I can only imagine what they will do with a child!

 

[burgbrandy]

There is a handful of people ready to call children services when they bring their baby home in october with no heat. I dont want to see them lose their baby but i want to see my nephew taken care of and not neglected. Id adopt their baby in a heartbeat.

 

[ClandestineTX]

I wish I could be naive and suggest that you get them help with parenting or point out obvious things that would help them, but they don't sound like the sort of people to be receptive to common sense. Frustrating, I can only imagine!

 

[mommyxofxone]

@mamapeaches sorry about the witch hun


@burgbrandy, lucky it's not someone i know. i'd call the health department and they will forcefully remove the animal. it's not ok for it to bite kids. or other animals. one day someone is going to get bit and then there will be rabies testing involved and all kinds of other things.

 

[burgbrandy]

We have tried talking sense into them. Nothing works. They are completely naive.

The hospital was supposed to call the health dept and the dog warden. If nothing has happened by tomorrow, i will be calling them myself. Even if they chose to do nothing, our park manager is going to make them get rid of it. So no matter what, it is gone.