Mayhem Babies! May 2011 mummies and babies

[new_to_ttc]

When we she make a decision hun?

What will you do then, make a housing application to stay near your mam?

 

[harveydog]

Thanks harvey, I have fixed the wire out of the way, i just forgot to do it before taking the photo, but thanks hun

Work under paid me grrr, they got my return to work dates wrong! I just spoke to headoffice (didnt even both going through my office they waste of time!) and they were really lovely and have fixed it in one minute! Then the HR lady said 'hows your first month been' so I said hell, and she said aww do you miss your little one, so I said yes, but its the management that have been the problem, Ive hated every minute I have been back so far! (I was accidently thinking out loud) and the HR lady said she can raise an enquiry if I wish, so I said no I would try sort it in house first, but she said not to dwell on it and if I cant sort it myself to ring back and she will help me.... then I cried ffs!!! - and while onthe topic of my stupid office I rang them Monday to tell them I couldnt work this week George was ill (my next shift was Wednesday so plenty of notice), they rang me Tuesday left a snotty message on my
answer phone asking if I could bother letting them know what I intend on working this week (I said I would ring and confirm diagnosis from GP, I got
in at 11.55am, this message was left at 10am). Then i got another set of
messages and texts yesterday evening asking me to work, so i politely said I
couldnt George was unwell and ffs they just rang me again while I was on the
phone to head office and asked me if I would work!!!! *and breathe* lol they
slightly getting on my nerves lol
How is everyone today? George is napping in his cot wonder if he'll
have a decent length nap. Im going to have to put a heater up there there is a
chill in the air and the monitor says its 18 degree's and is blue so I think thats
too cold!

According to my chart on room temps 18 degrees Is ideal, but when in bed at night he needs 1 sheet n 2 layers of blanket

 

[harveydog]

He doesnt have a quilt hun, thats a quilt cover (no different from a cotton sheet!) and I dont think they supposed to have a pillow, but he has one thats a baby cot size pillow, its not an adults pillow! lol

I'm surprised you've stuck your job this long I'd keep your phone messages, emails n texts as proof if needed later: better still communicate through email then it's all there and can't deny their shoddy planning etc

 

[new_to_ttc]

Hmm weird, this themometre highlights 18 in blue (which is too cold), the light turns to orange at 19 which is ok. Will look at ways of getting the room warmer

 

[Wiggler]

Theres a few problems with me staying with my mum, she hasn't got much room, me and my brother really don't get on (he has been violent to me in the past and just now when I was talking to her he was threatening to smash my face in) and I don't get on with my dad so I would stay there while looking for somwhere else.

TBH, I don't know what the best solution is, either way I would be miserable, if things carry on the way they are here I will end up cutting again, if I go there my brother will most likely beat the shit out of me nd my dad will kick me out.

I am going to sit down with OH later and make him have a proper discussion with me and tell him that I have made plans to leave (a lie, I know) and unless things change I will be going. I really don't want to leave this relationship without knowing I had done everything I can, we have kids involved. I want to do councelling, both couples and both of us seperate, we need a "date night" once a fortnight (I'll have to rebudget everything but its worth it) and we need to start spending proper family time together, and finally I ***NEED*** some me time, even if its just an hour in bed reading a book or a walk on my own to Tesco, I need to know I can trust him with the children.

 

[harveydog]

wiggler,i hope you make the decision that suits you and your bairns in the long run it's not healthy for bairns to grow up in a household that argue and the parents aren't happy

 

[harveydog]

Hmm weird, this themometre highlights 18 in blue (which is too cold), the light turns to orange at 19 which is ok. Will look at ways of getting the room warmer

All aarons bedding charts say a baby's room should be between 16-20 but ideally 18 so they're not too cold or too warm. They all include how many sheets/blankets should be on his bed according to the room temp, or what sleep bag tog should be used

 

[BrandiCanucks]

I'm sorry Wiggler. I hope she is able to let you come stay for a while. Perhaps leaving him on his own to fend might give him the swift kick in the ass he needs.

I can't believe some people! I posted on Yahoo Answers asking if we could get in trouble for fixing, vaccinating, microchipping, front declawing, and adopting the cat if the owners were to come forward at a later date, and one person, rather than answer, called me a cruel, heartless, animal abuser and told me to give the cat up to a rescue shelter who will rehome him with someone who will accept him with his claws

 

[Wiggler]

Brandi Declawing is illigal in a lot of countries and a lot of other people don't agree with it. I'm sorry you got such a bad reaction

 

[new_to_ttc]

Wiggler thing is sometimes dealing with men is like dealing with kids! If you tell them you are going to do something, then dont, you totally lose your arguement and respect. If you tell OH you have made plans to leave unless things change, by what date do you want them changed?You need to be firm, BUT if things dont change then you need to do what is right, because if you stay regardless he'll know he hascontrol over you and that changing isnt going to make a difference.

And at the risk of sounding like a right bitch, but changing someone never works hun! Even if they want to change sometimes it doesnt always happen. People are so set in their ways! This is the same man you got together with all that time ago, only now you feel unsupported because the kids are in the equation and neither of you cant do what you did before, plus you have become physically unwell and cant do what you used to so you feel trapped, but none of that is going to improve unless you both change.

Counselling waiting lists are LONG, so you need to find ways to improve your relationship without relying on that in the meantime. Im concerned that you have talks with OH and he promises the world but within 48hours your opinions are right back where they were before I really hope you can find something that is right for you all hun, I really do,be strong and you will make the right decision!

 

[new_to_ttc]

hmmm Joshua asked me if he could go go-karting with his friends for his birthday, I didnt promise but I said I would definitely look into it! Anyways I have looked into it and its £120 for 8 of them (minimum amount), and then i would probably have to supply food on top??? Or would I get away with just taking them karting? His parties usually cost more than this with bouncy castles etc lol but I got 2 parties to do this year, 9 days apart

 

[Wiggler]

I know councelling lists are long, but neither of us are who we were before, we used to be lovey dovey and nice to each other, the crap we have been through has really messed us up. We would need councelling, together or apart or we are just going to poison everything else in our futures like we have this relationship. I'm going to give him 2 months, change isn't instant and we are both in bad habbits, this way if things go well at the end of 2 months then we will both be on councelling lists/in councelling depending on waiting times and will have both hopefully made a good start at fixing our relationship and our personal issues. If by the end of 2 months it hasn't worked out then we will STILL be on the councelling lists as we need that anyway, and it gives me enough time to get everything sorted, save some money and make arrangements with my mother.

The last times I have made threats I haven't been serious totally serious about them myself, its really just been "stop being such a dick or me and the kids are leaving" This time its serious and he'l know that by everything I want us to do to fix this.

Just to stress though, this is NOT the same man, I am not the same woman, we are both very messed up due to the attack, it all went downhill from there, we never talked about it, we took our stress out on each other, then the neighbors started in the old place and our stress and inability to communicate about our feelings to one another mutated into this, he has PTSD which isn't helping and I'm probably suffering from depression again, and I am finally going to grow a pair and go to the doctors about it, I have been putting it off for nearly 3 years now and thats long enough.

We both need to take down these walls we have built around us to protect us, cos they aren't protecting us, they are destroying us.

 

[new_to_ttc]

 

[Wiggler]

Ouchies!!!!! Thats a lot of money!

Our babies first birthdays are getting so close!

 

[new_to_ttc]

its coming way too fast hun!! Im torn what Im doing for george's birthday, I think my mum wants me to go back there and then do something witht he family, but I have really good friends here who have been there for us way more than my siblings have so I thought about doing something here... I cant do 3 parties

 

[Wiggler]

I know what I'm doing for Bethanys, we are going to have food and nibbles here and my mum and 3 close friends here, maybe one of my brothers and my dad if my mum manages to persuade them We are going to get a bloody fabulous cake though, I might even start practicing so I can make one, I wouldn't even know where to start though I don't even know how to make cakes.

 

[harveydog]

hmmm Joshua asked me if he could go go-karting with his friends for his birthday, I didnt promise but I said I would definitely look into it! Anyways I have looked into it and its £120 for 8 of them (minimum amount), and then i would probably have to supply food on top??? Or would I get away with just taking them karting? His parties usually cost more than this with bouncy castles etc lol but I got 2 parties to do this year, 9 days apart

I'd just put a bit of buffet on after

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Ouchies!!!!! Thats a lot of money!

Our babies first birthdays are getting so close!

Don't remind me!

 

[new_to_ttc]

this recipe will NEVER fail you hun, double triple how ever you like

100g SR flour
100g Sunflower Pure spread (white and yellow tub)
100g castor sugar
2 medium eggs!!

mix the sugar to the flour, then the spread, then the eggs little by little!

To do a victoria sponge use this recipe as it is in a shallow tin, and make 2 of them fill with buttercream/jam etc or for an iced cake double the ingrediants, allow to cool, cover in melted s'berry jam and then cover with icing (you could ice a victoria sponge too but more messy lol)

 

[new_to_ttc]

hmmm Joshua asked me if he could go go-karting with his friends for his birthday, I didnt promise but I said I would definitely look into it! Anyways I have looked into it and its £120 for 8 of them (minimum amount), and then i would probably have to supply food on top??? Or would I get away with just taking them karting? His parties usually cost more than this with bouncy castles etc lol but I got 2 parties to do this year, 9 days apart

I'd just put a bit of buffet on after

oh you got sooooooooooooomuch to learn hunni, loves ya!!!

8 kids who just spent an hour go kart racing....in my house having finger food??? lolol nooooo if Ido food I will take them to mac ds but the karting place isnt quite central enough to town to walk, so would need cars, I cant fit them all in so depends if other parents stay to help (which they dont usually!), so Im thinking go karts, cake, and sweets as they leave lol Then i will take Joshua to mac d's or atea of his choice