Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[Girly922]

I'm actually hoping my best friend doesn't have time to fully organise my shower. I know she was planning things but she's got a lot going on in her personal life that I'm hoping takes priority. Right now I have no desire to have a baby shower.

 

[TTCfirstovr30]

I am not having a baby shower, and I am happy because I probably wouldn't be looking forward to it. Not one for being the center of attention.

We decided that we will only get the "Essentials" to last us through the first few weeks and then we will have a party when we baptism him with our full registry of stuff.

This weekend we did buy the Infant Car Seat, Stroller and Bassinet. DH was like, why are we buying something that he is only going to use for 3 months. But I definitely didn't want to get a car seat where I would have to wake the baby up and take him out to put in stroller. That just sounds like torture, especially if he isn't a good sleeper.

Can't believe we are all entering or are in the 3rd tri!!! I go for my 4D HD live scan this weekend, super excited!

 

[Catalyst]

Weebles. Yes the carpal tunnel I have is pregnancy related. The doc said that I should get rid of it after I give birth, might take few weeks ut in some cases it requires surgery!
She recomended a splint and start with sleeping with it and I feel it helps. Said also that if it gets bad I might use it during the day too.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Pre-Baby Organization - Haven't really done much cuz we don't any furniture and stuff yet. I'll probably go into full nesting mode after the shower.

Shower dreading? - Not really. We only have about 20 people confirmed, but there's still over 6 weeks to go. If I could go out tomorrow and order all the food and get plates and decorations, I would, but I gotta wait til I know exactly how many people are coming.

So, I've been feeling pretty massive for the last few days. Even BD (very nicely) mentioned that I look noticeably bigger today. I hope this is just some random bloating. I can't imagine getting even larger over the next 13 weeks. I've also been thinking about labour and delivery and saying to myself "Oh dear God. What have I gotten myself into? How am I gonna be able to pull this off?"

 

[DobbyForever]

I didn't realize how many people were not looking forward to their shower. I thought I was alone hehe

I did take advantage of the friends event going on with BRUS to get the bedding collection, mobile, changing pad, and changing pad cover I wanted.

Pretty right there with you. I can't imagine putting on the 14 to 21 more pounds my gyn wants me to gain. Or freaking labor! Terrifying. Or having a baby?!

 

[lesondemavie]

Originally after my losses I didn't want anything. I didn't want maternity photos, and I didn't want a shower...I just wanted a baby. Now that our Charlie is so far along and thriving, I've realized that I can enjoy this pregnancy while still breaking down in tears sometimes missing our Gremlin. I enjoyed the photos, and I'm really looking forward to celebrating Charlie at the shower with DH by my side. I'm also looking forward to just getting everything organized and ready after the shower in June. I'm so ready for this baby! I break down in tears in total happiness sometimes in total amazement that my body is actually doing this. As for labor, I'm not that scared/nervous. I figure I could have the most horrific delivery and it will still just be 1 day maybe 2...it can't even compare to the emotional pain and darkness I felt all last year. I don't really care what happens so long as both me and baby are safe and healthy in the end. Honestly, after violently vomiting morning and night for months and months on end while continuing to work full-time, I feel like I can handle anything

 

[TTCfirstovr30]

Pretty, I just had the same exact thought this morning! And it all started because I signed DH up for this weekly email from Fatherly.com and in the email this week it said, your SO is entering the 3rd Tri so be prepared for her to get much bigger. Those exact works were used, I am seriously contemplating writing a complaint. Who writes that! "Your SO is going to get much bigger!"

Anywho, I honestly don't know how much bigger my belly can get, it already feels super stretched and tight. But what will be will be.

As for labor, I am excited. Our bodies are meant to do this. Just remember, it isn't the same type of pain like breaking a bone where you want to "run away from" it is a pain that will "end." And you get to have a little peanut at the end of the pain.

Read positive birth stories, don't read the negative ones to train your brain.

We got this!

 

[Girly922]

TTC is right, don't fear labour. And don't read too much into everyone else's stories. Our bodies are all made differently, we all deal with pain in our own ways, and no two of our labours will be the same.

I saw my mw today and had my 28w bloods. Hoping my iron levels come back okay. Bump is measuring a week ahead and top end of normal. I've got a growth scan in just over a week and she's confident baby will be on track, so much for low Papp-a.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Anyone else dealing with ankle/ leg swelling already?

 

[second.time]

Lesonde, you have such a good attitude about labor and birth! It's true, like girly and TTC said, it's a productive pain. No matter how bad it gets, it's not a signal that something is WRONG, it's a sign that your body is moving toward a goal.

Personally I don't mind labor/birth stories that are less-than-perfect because they show me that a lot can happen and still be OK in the end. But everyone has different preferences. Focusing on what helps you, individually, is most important.

For those of you who have your GTT results, did your doc wait until your next appointment to let you know, or did they call you or post them online? I haven't heard about mine in over a week. I assume they'd need to tell me ASAP if I have gestational diabetes but I'd feel better knowing for sure.

 

[second.time]

Well, I called and checked myself, and I passed the test. I'm not really surprised but it's good news!

 

[TTCfirstovr30]

Whoop Whoop second.time! Congrats. I was going to say to call, that is what I did.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

I haven't heard from anyone about my test results, but my friend (who's gone through this 3 times already) said if they haven't contacted me, it probably means I passed. She said they like to have the test and any retesting done by 28 weeks, which will be in 3 days for me.

 

[Weebles]

Lesonde.. I'm so glad you're able to enjoy your pregnancy. It's such an amazing blessing and you deserve to feel joy.

But.. I am glad I'm not the only one somewhat dreading their shower! I just don't like being the center of attention.

So... I am scared of labor and with my son I had an epidural right away. And I don't know if I will ever have the chance to be pregnant again. And I think I want to try to go pain medication free.. at least for as long as I can. I won't feel bad if I change my mind but I just am really curious I guess... like what does it feel like? With my son I didn't feel a single contraction but they did turn of the epidural for pushing (which was the part I was afraid of!) and I felt that for sure. So I really want to know but I'm also kind of a wuss.

 

[DobbyForever]

Omg TTC wtfh?! I would seriously lose it! I understand prepping men that their women are growing a baby and the emotions we go through as our body changes, but come on now! They have to know there’s a chance we’d read it or the guy might repeat it. I like your advice about positive birth stories.

Leson I’m glad you have enjoyed your pregnancy.

For me, the labor fears aren’t the pain. From what I hear, epidurals do miracles when taken early and I’m not braving labor without it. More power to drugless moms. It’s the fear to tearing or my vagina not recovering or what my body will look like after birth the first few months. And I know everyone says you end up with a baby. But between my losses and my mom’s losses. I’m just scared. My mom lost her first kid within 24 hours of birth. I’m not strong enough to go through that, and SO and I are definitely not strong enough for that.

Girly what is low Papp-a?

Gag I’m swelling slightly, but I can’t tell if it just looks swollen because I’m looking for it to be swollen lol

Second yay for passing!

Pretty test results are definitely a no news is good news

Weebles I don’t want to be the center of attention. I don’t want to be in charge of making sure people are entertained. I also don’t want to see how few people actually give a shit about me.

AFM showed up to three boxes in front of my house r_r my mattress, crib, and conversion kit. I was hoping to have them put it together so now that's a headache I have to figure out. And I forgot to go to the store to pick up my order.. again... Ughhhhh bright side I have a sub the next two days so at least I won't be teaching lol

 

[lesondemavie]

Congrats second!

Thanks Dobby . I have those same fears about making it all the way through this pregnancy just to lose my baby in the first hours or days of his or her life. Loss whenever it happens just messes with your head. When something that happens in 1% of pregnancies happens to you it just feels like anything can happen and no risk is small enough. I try my best to just observe those thoughts/fears but not run with them.

I guess I should rephrase - While I'm happy I can celebrate this pregnancy, I'm not enjoying it at all . I'm so thankful to no longer be nauseated or vomiting, but it lasted so long and I still have to watch what I eat or I'm pretty sure I would be over a toilet turning inside-out and peeing my pants from the force of it all again. Man I miss good food sooo much! My upper right back and abdomen hurt me to the point of tears nearly every day and the doctors don't know what's causing it. My job is harder because everyone reacts so much more when a kid kicks or hits but when a behavior is for attention that just makes things worse and is totally against the behavior plan I took the time to write. I could go on. I'm not enjoying pregnancy, but I am enjoying this baby. I love the kicks even when they hurt and I can't wait to meet our little love (counting down the weeks!). I'm so happy that I want to celebrate, and I'm thankful that I'm in a position to do so now.

Weebles - Oh yea you're definitely not the only one. I also loathe being the center of attention. My bridal shower was the most awkward event ever. That being said, I do love getting together with friends and family and having a good time. The whole coed thing makes it soooo much better for me. Lifts all the pressure off of my shoulders. It'll be like our wedding which was such an amazing, happy, love-filled event...and sharing the spotlight with my husband was just perfect. Without the coed thing, I'd be right there with you. I'm half way scared that someone is going to say something that reminds me of Gremlin and the darkness last year and I'm just going to break down crying. Definitely not brave enough for that without DH holding my hand.

Speaking of...celebrating our anniversary this week! Three years of marriage and a decade of love

 

[lesondemavie]

Girly - So glad all seems well . Low Papp-A is just an indicator in that statistically speaking mamas carrying babies with down's tend to have lower levels. That being said, there are plenty of perfectly healthy pregnancies with low levels as well. You can see the large area of overlap in this graph:

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

I just needed someone to vent to... Today is really rough. It's a year since my father in law passed away and I'm emotional and pregnant.. I just want to crawl in a hole for the day and come out tomorrow morning...

 

[DobbyForever]

my dad passed away when I was four and I still crawl in a hole on his death anniversary. To be honest, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. People process in their own way. I think it's harder to lean on your hubby because it's a shared loss, but I just tell friends and family I'm hurting and cut me some slack.

Leson I love your rephrase enjoying the baby not the pregnancy. I'm finding my patience is gone with my students. I have no energy to walk around so I only confer with a handful of kids each day.

 

[Girly922]

Girly - So glad all seems well . Low Papp-A is just an indicator in that statistically speaking mamas carrying babies with down's tend to have lower levels. That being said, there are plenty of perfectly healthy pregnancies with low levels as well. You can see the large area of overlap in this graph:

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Low Papp-a and Down's syndrome are only related when you also have a very high hcg level. My risk for DS is very low, but my Papp-a alone was low. It is a growth hormone which can affect third trimester growth. It can cause placental issues and intra-uterine growth restriction (IUGR) causing baby's growth to slow and the placenta to deteriorate. At the moment blood flow to and from the placenta is perfect, and baby is measuring ahead so I'm hoping it stays this way.