Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[PrettyInInk42]

Thanks everyone. I'm just gonna try to not get too worked up. Just gonna wait for my scan, see who's in there, and then go from there. : )

Good luck with your scan, Dobby. : )

 

[sil]

Mind if I join? I actually just found this thread today, but I see a few familiar faces. I'm 20w4d along and due June 30th with my 3rd and last baby. We found out we are having a girl. We have 2 DS currently and are very excited to welcome her. I just started feeling her kicks the past few days and it is such a relief and a welcome feeling to have. I love the reassurance of her wiggles.

 

[sil]

Pretty don't be so sure! I'm sure you're going to be over the moon with whatever you're having. When I was pregnant with my DD I wanted a boy so badly that I refused to think otherwise until the anatomy scan. I even had the theme of the nursery chosen for a boy and if I decided to have a baby shower I also have the theme for a boy. Then the anatomy scan revealed that I was having a girl and I immediately fell in love with my girl. The same day my DH and I bought her the first dress.
However, mom intuition is strong and probabilities that you're having a girl are higher so hang in there!

I'm sure I'll be happy if it's actually a boy, but the future is never promised and I want a few kids, but this could possibly be my only one and I'd just really like a girl. I've been looking at pics and videos of my nephew when he was a baby and thinking "how could I not love a boy just as much?" I keep flip flopping between "it's ok if it's a boy" and "if it's not a girl, I'm gonna curl up into a ball and cry for a week". Sorry if this makes me sound like a huge asshole. I just like to plan and be in control and have things go my way. The fact that I have no say in all of this makes me anxious.

I just wanted to reply to this quickly and say that you should never feel bad for this. I felt exactly the same with DS1 and DS2 (wanted a girl). With DS1 the gender disappointment was there but we always planned on 2 kids so it wasn't too bad since I knew I'd have another go at it. With DS2, I was quite upset for a few weeks. Now that he is here I wouldn't change him or anything for the world. We ended up deciding to throw our plans to the wind and try for a third baby as we didn't feel complete like we thought with 2 little ones, and I was so nervous to feel disappointed again. This time we got our little girl. However, I'm sure if we got a third boy I'd be disappointed at the moment but over the moon once he arrived. The way I looked at it was this....it's not that I was upset I was having a son, I was upset I was not having a daughter. I was thrilled to have a little boy, but I was mourning the little girl I thought I would never have.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

That's true, sil.

 

[Catalyst]

Welcome sil and congratulations on having a girl

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Good morning ladies.. I have a story for you. So apparently this morning I rolled over a stink bug with my office chair.. And I started gagging because of the smell. Had to have my co worker clean it up for me and now I have to keep my nose plugged because the smell is making me Nauseated... Joy of pregnancy.

 

[Mummafrog]

Haha ew gag! Where on earth do you live?

I am feeling so good today! I haven't been sick and my pelvis has been less sore. I've managed to do lots of cleaning and playing with my little girl, it's such a relief. Enjoy it while it lasts eh.. won't be long xD I also put on my big girl pants and called the two hospital trusts I want to apply to in the summer and got some info, very proud of myself

I had to use the doppler again this morning because baby is hiding again.. I also have some scar tissue in my tummy from an operation when I was young and I think it's underneath that so it's kinda numb :/ need the scan to come quicker..

 

[DobbyForever]

Welcome sil and congrats on feeling movement and your girlie!

Gag omg I am so sorry for you that is definitely unpleasant

Mumma glad you are having a good day and caught up on some homework!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Heh I live in Pittsburgh.. They are all over the place here.

 

[808malia]

Catalyst: Congrats on your little girl/s!!!

Sil: Welcome and congrats on joining team pink!

AFM: I had been hoping for a boy and was told I am having a girl, I was pretty upset for about 1 day while I had to get over my dream of having a boy. But once I got over my little fit, I am now over the moon about having a girl! Just needed a little bit of time to re-adjust my feelings and fall in love with the fact that I am having a girl... But my husband and I have already bought a few cute outfits for her, and I don't even think about not having a boy anymore. We will probably have another one down the line, so I will probably have another shot for a boy...( I would love to have 1 of each) Also, I am starting to feel little kicks everyday now a few times a day!!! So exciting

 

[Weebles]

Congrats on your baby girl malia! I'm feeling little kicks daily now too, it's the best.

Dobby, sorry if you already mentioned this but I didn't see anything... how did your scan go?

Afm.. I'm just waiting until I get my re-scan. I'm calm for the most part but I'm pretty worried too. I can't talk to DH about it, he says I'm being a downer but I don't know how he can't be worried. Anyway, those little kicks are reassuring so I try to focus on that.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Does anyone ever notice that it seems like your uterus shifts throughout the day?

This morning, after going to the bathroom and while laying on my back, I could feel my uterus was fairly high and solid. And, as the day progressed, it sank lower. Right now, it's almost 10pm and I can barely feel it. It's like that most days. Is it maybe cuz of eating or gravity?

 

[DobbyForever]

Baby is healthy but very not happy with everything ATM so will b* about it later lol

 

[Girly922]

Congrats on your girly malia!

Welcome over here sil!

AFM, I got sent home from work yesterday with the flu so I've just basically slept the last two days away. Luckily I've only had a low grade fever so nothing to put baby at risk, and baby has been letting me know they're okay with plenty of kicking which is reassuring. DD woke me up at 4am this morning and I struggled to get back to sleep because it felt like baby was having a rave in there. I even felt a kick from the outside, so I'm hoping DH will be able to feel one soon. He didn't feel DD until I was 24 weeks.

 

[Catalyst]

I feel kicks every day many times during the day. I have felt quite few with my hand on the outside but every time my husband tries they lay low and dont move, or move on other side of belly that is harder to feel kicks. I think by this time with both my boys he had felt at least one kick by now haha. I just cant wait for my husband and my boys to start feeling them kicking

Yesterday we out on our facebook page a list of things we need (and dont plan on buying new) and asked if someone could either loan us or sell us for decent price. I got some pm and also links to a local facebook selling site. And in few hours I have goten my self two bouncy chairs bought new in october (still in use by twins but wont be when mine come along) on half price, a huge changing table with lot of storage space and drawers for cloths. Also made an offer on a crib, might get that today or tomorrow. And maby on a twin cradle. The crib wil be upstairs in our room and the cradle downstairs where we spend most of our time during waking hours. Dont want to be running up and down all day. Oooohh and also a friend is loaning us a high cair.
Got so many things or made offer to so many things yesterday that I felt litle giddy haha. Thought to myself that this is how shopaholic must feel like haha.

 

[Mummafrog]

Ahh congratulations on your girly Malia I think I will feel the same as you if my scan says girl on the 6th but I doubt the adjustment period will be too long. I love the thought of another girl too when I really think about it

Pretty - yes I used to notice that in my first pregnancy, it was always after I'd had my first meal of the day that it would be much harder to feel, I put it down to your stomach filling up and sort of hiding your uterus. It won't actually be sinking lower, it's hard to feel on yourself but midwives always feel it to measure

Cat that's great! I've been finding loads second hand too, I got a swing for free and a big bag of clothes and also a baby sleeping hammock, couldn't believe it. I think if you keep your eye out on the selling pages you can find near enough everything. But I will buy special things like the first outfit just cos I also buy special towels for my home birth to wrap baby in.

Afm - the sleeping situation is shit! I always sleep on my side but my pelvis is so painful it wants me to sleep flat on my back and even with two pillows between my legs I can only manage ten minutes on my side before it hurts too much. But when I sleep for a few hours on my back something weird is happening, my left thigh is going numb!?! I'm guessing it's baby's weight pressing on a nerve and I can't keep going like this for much longer anyway... I really don't know what to do
On the plus side my little flat is going through lovely improvements, we're getting a new corner sofa bed which I'm giddy about and matching deep plum curtains, cushions and rug, it's going to look so lovely I could cry xD xx

 

[second.time]

Dobby, so glad the baby is healthy, but sorry to hear you're not happy with things right now!

That's a good reminder that you can find secondhand deals. Some things, like car seats and cribs, I know you need to be cautious because of recalls or because frequent use can affect safety, but SO many other things are perfectly safe and reasonable. I want a playmat and bouncy chair and should probably look locally, or head to consignment shops. I wish we still lived in a city. Smaller towns are tougher.

I'm stressing out a little over weight gain. My first pregnancy I had to actually work to gain weight, and I was eating normally. This time I feel like I have to eat very minimally to stay the same weight and if I have one day of extra snacking I gain a pound overnight! I know part of it is water weight or higher blood volume or the baby, but it's tough to see those numbers climbing. My exercise is good for flexibility/strength but I'm not sure it's helping me in terms of crazy weight gain ...

 

[Maries_s]

Second, talk to you doctor about it. I read that gaining weight overnight could be a sign of preeclampsia. I hope this is not your case but it better be safe.

 

[second.time]

Hmm, I hadn't thought of that! My blood pressure has always been really low at my appointments ... almost getting close to hypotension. And I thought it was rare to have pre-e with a second pregnancy if you didn't have it with the first? Not impossible, but uncommon. But I will check in next time.

It does seem troubling to gain in such big bursts when my clothes fit more-or-less normally. One thing is that I've been eating way too much salt lately. I over-salt everything. So I hope it's due to sodium and not pre-e!

 

[Mummafrog]

If you're gaining fast but your clothes fit the same then it's probably baby that is growing! Remember it's not just baby but the waters, the placenta and the huge growing muscle of the uterus! It's really important that you don't restrict yourself and if you need an extra snack that you have it. Try not to focus on numbers but how you look in the mirror. There is plenty of time to lose it after. Of course we all need to be mindful of being healthy but I worry to hear you say you are weighing yourself so much sweetie x