Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[Gagrlinpitt]

So my mother in law has already started planning my baby shower. She wanted to start planning early because A) my entire family lives in Georgia and Florida and she wanted to give them a big heads up and B) she's planning it for memorial weekend (which is our five year wedding anniversary). She asked me if a couple's BBQ (she's calling it a baby Q) was ok and I told her that was fine. I can't even think that far ahead right now.

On another note, I had a dream last night that we went in Thursday for the Antomy scan and they found twins.. fraternal twins run on both sides of my family and honestly that had been one of my biggest concerns because I'm already plus size... Four more sleeps until we find out which gender our peanut is..

 

[DobbyForever]

Awww gagrl twins are lovely if you have a helpful partner. Do they really miss twins though? I keep reading about how anatomy scans sometimes find twins, but having been scanned so thoroughly as many times as I have I just don't understand how someone could miss a twin.

My mom is also excited to do baby shower stuff. She wanted May 6th, but I told her I'm not having a shower at 2.5 months before my due date. We're both teachers/her friends travel in the summer so it has to be before their kids come home for summer/school lets out. Then we choose the 20th, but 29 weeks still made me uncomfortable. Finally landed on 6/3, 32 weeks. No concrete plans, I imagine we'll have it at her house. Haven't thought much passed that lol but maybe I should that's realistically 3 months... I'm a huge party city fan, they have kit decorating kits for $10 and supplement with either dollar tree stuff or their cheap stuff. There's a party supply store near my mom's for balloons. But food and entertainment.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

I've heard that moms-to-be "aren't supposed" to plan their own showers. Is that some old fashion tradition? There's no way I'm letting someone else plan my shower. I only get one and I want it to be just how I want it. I'm currently debating between a nice shower with a green/purple colour theme (cuz I want the gender to be a surprise) or a vaguely Harry Potter one. lol

 

[DobbyForever]

I think etiquette dictates someone should offer lol. Like I would never tell work to throw me something, but I know the Sunshine Commitee does and gives you a $50 target card. My mom and best friend offered, but tbh I'd rather my mom host. You're not supposed to ask people, they should offer. Usually if they don't, women plan it themselves and then someone might go oh hey let me take over. I think it's just like having a bridesmaid. They plan the party so it's one less thing the mom or bride have to do during a stressful time. It should be 4-8 weeks before you are due and guests should be invited 4-6 weeks ahead of time and rsvp two weeks before. But these are just generic rules you don't have to follow them. Most women I know aim for 30-33w because of how they feel so close to delivery and wanting time to take care of anything they didn't get at their shower.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

I'm very thankful I've had almost too many people ask to help.. my mom lives in Florida so my mil is doing most of the planning but constantly talking to my mom via phone and FaceTime. My mil is a bit over the top and plans on having a chef there to make food and all that jazz. When my brother in law had their shower last year, there was about 80-100 people throughout the day and my mil made a huge deal of it...

Then four of my really good friends wanted to help as well so during the gender reveal party she plans on asking them if they would like to be involved as well.

 

[DobbyForever]

Omg 80-100 that's like a wedding! I don't even know that many people I would want to invite lol. But that's really cool of her to be so excited and so that for you guys. And super sweet that she is inclusive.

I'd likely be doing the detail planning because my high anxiety makes me a bit of a control freak and so I thrive on stuff like that lol. Or at least to have ideas to tell my mom I am thinking this so she has something to work with. I considered a HP theme because my due date is HP's birthday, but I feel like with my friends/generation HP is so overdone

In other news my bump is especially pointy today and I don't even lol

 

[PrettyInInk42]

I've had one friend offer to help, and she was actually the one who suggested an HP party cuz she's been planning an HP BDay party for her cousin (who's turning 30). I was worried a lot of people wouldn't get the references, but I also don't wanna have some boring-ass generic shower. I'm sure mom my will offer to help when she knows. My main concern is between the food and the room at my local legion, it's looking like I'll be spending like $500. And I'm due July 22, but I'll probably deliver late, so I'm thinking of having my shower either the Sunday before or after Father's Day.

 

[DobbyForever]

Awww yeah I bet once mom knows she'll jump at the opportunity to spoil you. It is usually a mom or sister I have noticed. But I hear you, if you're not careful things definitely add up. My mom is a great cook and everyone loooves her yellow chicken curry, but I'd rather it be catered so she doesn't have to work too hard.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

My mom makes a pretty good cheesecake, so I think I'll ask her to make one (or possibly 2) of those. And I'm sure she'll offer to cover some of the cost. And, if things go well, the father, and maybe his mom or dad, might pitch in a little too. I'm excited to plan it. : )

 

[Girly922]

I don't really know the etiquette of showers for second plus kids. I had a shower last time, although they are no where near as big over here. I may just suggest to my bff an afternoon tea with my girls or something instead. That way I can show that I'm not expecting anything (we've kept everything from DD) but still have a girly day before bubs arrives.

 

[Weebles]

Ugh, the whole thought of a shower stresses me out. My MIL wants to plan one in April which will not work with my schedule that month. She wanted it to be at my house.. ugh, even more stress! I almost don't want one, I don't really care to be the center of attention and I don't want people feeling obligated to buy something. Oh I don't really want one at all. I have three people I consider friends and one is a guy.. Everyone else would be family, coworkers, and maybe a few acquaintances?? Ugh! Poor them, poor me!

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Girly - I'm pretty sure that lots of people these days are having mini showers called "sprinkles". Just small get togethers celebrating the pregnancy, but without the expectation of gifts.

 

[Mummafrog]

Yes another second time mum here, I am assuming nothing is happening this time but you guys talking about it made me think my friends or family might arrange a little something I don't mind if they do or not really! Definitely not expecting any gifts or anything this time. I am looking forward to the time when people are coming to visit and meet the baby, that'll be special

 

[Girly922]

Girly - I'm pretty sure that lots of people these days are having mini showers called "sprinkles". Just small get togethers celebrating the pregnancy, but without the expectation of gifts.

That's a cute little idea. I think it would just be nice to catch up with everyone before the craziness of the newborn weeks/months begins where I'm either too sleep deprived or continuously whipping a boob out to hold a conversation.

Yes another second time mum here, I am assuming nothing is happening this time but you guys talking about it made me think my friends or family might arrange a little something I don't mind if they do or not really! Definitely not expecting any gifts or anything this time. I am looking forward to the time when people are coming to visit and meet the baby, that'll be special

All this talk has got me wondering too. My best friend has told me I'm not allowed to plan anything during June as she is trying to organise something, and is chatting with my mum about it. I mentioned my mum to her as me and my mum already have a theatre trip planned in June. I assumed it was for a night away for me and my bff, but I'm now wondering if I'm wrong?

 

[lesondemavie]

Weebles - You could always do a coed shower. That's what I'm doing.

I also hate being the center of attention. My bridal shower was the most uncomfortable thing ever for me. I made it a travel theme, and I had a separate registry with travel related items for both my husband and myself since that's something we like to do. I explicitly stated that I did not want houseware gifts. I loved all the home gifts for my husband and I at the wedding, but I find the whole idea of a female only event where the wife alone gets gifts for the home archaic. He and I both work and we split the responsibilities of the home (actually my sweet man does more than his fair share). I would have loved to do a coed shower then or rather just an engagement party, not for gifts but just bc I love getting our friends all together and enjoying their company and I also love baking for everyone, but my husband said no, and my best friend just looked so happy planning the event for me that I didn't have the heart to cancel it all together.

I planned a coed baby shower for my best friend and it turned out so great. I planned it with her MIL and we chose a "baby boy under construction," theme. I baked pies and everyone had a wonderful time. Here are some photos: https://myalbum.com/album/6B1c7Id7uAbg. Her husband was skeptical and afraid it would be "too girly," but he had a big smile on his face the whole time and thanked me profusely afterwards. I'm hoping for something similar for our shower. The whole coed thing is great for me bc I can deflect some of the attention on to my husband and off of me

We are going to have our shower at the campgrounds across from where we live in May, and it's going to be a camping/adventure theme. I'd honestly rather be planning the event for someone else, but I'm trying my best to stay out of it. I go a bit mad with all the little details and the menu planning. I absolutely love it...but this time it's my turn to take a back seat and just enjoy.

Oh and my best friend tried to start planning my shower the second I hit second tri maybe even once I was past the point of our MMC around 8 weeks. She's just absolutely thrilled and so hopeful for us after the heartbreaks we went through last year. Sometimes I think she's even more excited about Charlie than me, but she's always been more emotive . I kept telling her to wait but now I'm unleashing the hounds . I've been working on our registries the last few weeks. There's so much it's overwhelming! DH and I went into 3 stores yesterday just so we could touch and feel some things, and drum roll...we bought our crib, dresser, and changing topper! We ordered it online late last night, so just waiting for it to ship and arrive now.

 

[lesondemavie]

A "sprinkle" sounds so lovely for 2nd+ babies just to get some friends together and celebrate no gifts.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Ours will be a couple's BBQ.. I'm like you, I hate being center of attention.. even more so when I'll look and feel like a whale..

 

[DobbyForever]

I love baby sprinkles I insisted on throwing them. Every child should he celebrated, just get the couple something cheap like $10 pack of diapers or some bath wash. Stop whining and ceeeellllebrate lol

I have social anxiety so I'm not looking forward to it but it will be nice to know my baby is loved and has a village behind him

Leso congrats on getting some big tickets items!

 

[PrettyInInk42]

I'm gonna have a co-ed shower too, but I love being the centre of attention (in case you couldn't tell by my alternative appearance). lol

 

[Catalyst]

A friend of a friend had twins last year. Found out during the 20 w.scan.... kind of "heres a girl.. and shes playing with her brother"

I am not one of the women who wished for twins. Each early scans I have goten I have been thinking please just one please be ok pleasr just one.
Then when I saw the second heartbrat I was shocked. But ever since I have loved both and been so afraid that something will happen to one of them, still am. It has and will complicatr things but.I feel strongly it was meant to be and I sometimes cant believe they are two. Makes me tad nervus and afraid. Dh has been excited since he knew. I cant wait to meet them I am realy happy about it.. but wad never what I wished for hahaha but I am so glad I have known for that long and had time to think and prepair mentaly for the challenge. My MIL is a fraternal twin, twin brother. Dh grandma said when we told her the news (shed 90!) That she didnt know she was having twins untill during birth!!