Hi Ladies,
I am new here
I got my first BFP June 27 of this year, about a month and a half before my wedding, which was August 13. My DH (was still my fiance at the time) and I were ecstatic! I am 31 and he is 42 (43 in January), so we didn't care that we weren't actually married yet. We told our parents right away, and quite a few of our friends. Around August 9 I started to have brown discharge, but I had read that it is common to have a bit of bleeding around 10 weeks and tried not to worry, I was days away from my wedding after all and had enough to think about! I was feeling totally fine the day of my wedding, when I finally got into my dress - which was quite a task: it BARELY fit! - it was pretty obvious that I was pregnant. I had ENORMOUS boobs and a small but noticeable bump. I was still having a small amount of now rust colored discharge. After our pictures were taken I got home (the wedding was on my parents' farm) and when I went to the bathroom there was a gush of RED blood, no cramping but it made me very nervous.
It was then time for supper and I had to go back to the 80+ wedding guest plus my brand new husband and act like everything was awesome. We had dinner, made the toasts and the speeches, and all the while I was so worried and sad. I hadn't told my husband that I was having any spotting, I just didn't want to worry him. Long story short, my whole wedding night sucked. All of my friends and family were there, dancing and being merry, and I pretty much missed out on all of it.
I changed out of my dress very early in the night due to bleeding and spent most of the night in the house pacing around and wiping myself to examine what was coming out of me. Needless to say, there was no "wedding night" for me.
The next morning I passed a large clot (golf ball sized) and proceeded to cry hysterically. My mom drove my husband and I to the hospital. The US showed a sac but no baby, which stopped developing at around 6 weeks. As of that day I was 11 weeks, so it was a double whammy: a blighted ovum and a missed miscarriage.
I was offered a D & C but declined, I had passed a LOT of blood and tissue shortly after the US (I couldn't BELIEVE what was coming out of me!!!! ). I had to travel back home, which was 2500 kms away (driving) so the OBGYN wouldn't let me have a natural MC. I opted to take Misoprostol.
I continued to bleed for 2 weeks after my MC, so we did actually get to consummate our marriage until the end of August! I guess that is why you get pregnant AFTER your wedding, not before.
We decided on our long drive home that we would wait a whole year before trying again (we weren't really "trying" the first time, but we were NTNP for about a year), but only 4 months later and we've changed our minds. I was on the pill for about 2.5 months but quit about a month ago.
So here's to trying again!
My baby in 12th week is 6wk and 1 day big and has no heartbeat...we were shocked? i thought im dreaming a very scarry dream....they send us home to wait naturally to miscarriage, to wait for blood.... im waiting now, crying my tears, being sad, angry and sad again...no blood, i carrying my small baby,who didn have a chance to develop.... my cervix is closed and my body is pretending pregnancy... worst christmas ever.......... i wish it was over, i want my baby to leave my body so i could light the candle for him/her... one thing im going to do for my baby and myself in memory of my little never happened treasure-i will never ever smoke (as i stopped in 11th of october)...
