Mission Impossible! 2 New Arrivals and 8 Little Ones x

[loulou82baby]

Pickle- I am so pissed for you! What a ignorant dr! I think the cd 21 test is meant to be done on 7 dpo, so that's easy enough to figure when you know when you o. Then you should be able to do a cd 5 test if you need to after that cycle. I believe the 7 dpo one is for progesterone (it usually peaks around there and it will indicate if you o'ed and/or have a good progesterone level. The cd 5 does your LH and estrogen (I think, but not positive on that) and should definitely be flexible by a day if you can do it Monday. If I was you I would print out your charts and shove them in her face and tell her you definitely know your body and cycles better than she does! What crap! Not every woman has a 28 day cycle, by some dr's don't listen. Just like mine insisting I o'ed and conceived on cd 11 (which is absolutely impossible but he still doesn't believe me, even after this last scan where he realized this baby is just a big baby and is growing super fast) pure ignorance love, and you may have to fight to get all this done, but don't give up! You can do this and if you have to deal with her being a twit again I would ask to talk to her superior and explain politely what an unprofessional twit she is. Keep us posted hun, and if you need some help with a strong backbone, I will lend you mine

 

[minuet]

Thanks for being here ladies. I've had a few days to be upset etc, think it hit us hard this time, and AF is the most painful. We went to doctors today, she was USELESS and kept saying we are young (me 25, him 27) and it normal to not conceive for TWO YEARS. I nearly blurted "I bet you never had to try for over a year, you have no idea!!" So I stood my ground and said we both want to be tested. She was telling me I ovulate on day 14 with a 28 day cycle. I said no, I ovulate on day 19 with a 30 day cycle and she gave me a dirty look and said "and how do you know that?" I nearly cried with frustration. Oh doesn't understand and after when I was saying how she knows nothing he told me to chill out and "you're acting like you know it all" compared to her I DO. I'm so annoyed. Anyway, oh has his pot and we will do that after we start bd again so he's fresh, and I need to go for one on cd5 but that's a Sunday and I can't make it before then so I might be screwed this cycle. I'm about to do research on that.

Pickle, I am so sorry you had to endure such an uneducated doctor. Any doctor who knows anything knows that NOT ALL women have a perfect 28 day cycle!!!
It is a personal pet peeve of mine when ignorant doctors treat us this way. Please, do yourself a favor and FIRE the doctor. Refuse to go to a doctor who will not listen to you.
You deserve better. You know that the doctor is wrong, she won't listen to you - get rid of her.
I searched high and low to find a doctor who would listen to me. It is the most important thing when you're trying to conceive.
You can tell your husband that the doctor is full of baloney. Any normal healthy young couple has a 90% chance of pregnancy within one year, and doctors start treatment and testing after a year without success.
Your doctor saying two years??? She's off her rocker. Fire her!

CD3 bloodwork should be done between CDs 2-4, not earlier or later. CD21 bloodwork is based off the erroneous assumption that women ovulate CD14 - NOT true!
Do not get CD21 ( which is 7dpo) done until you know it is 7dpo. If you ovulate CD19 that would be CD26 for you to get progesterone tested.
Find a doctor who actually knows how to read charts - like you do - and will do the testing on the correct days. It is absolutely a waste of time to do on the wrong days!
Your husband needs to understand that since you chart your cycles, you know EXACTLY what day you ovulate, and you do know more than the doctor about that.
Please do yourself a favor and fire the doctor, finding one who actually knows what she's doing. This TTC stuff is torture, and you deserve a doctor who is a help, not a hindrance.
It's pathetic you have to fight the medical profession on something so basic, but unfortunately this is very common these days.

 

[wannabemomy37]

Pickle - I agree, you should find a different doctor. I'm not sure I know any woman who actually has a 28 day cycle (not on BCP) and/or ovulates on CD14 religiously. I've had this happen coincidentally, but would never say that that's my typical cycle in the slightest.

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

AFM - I tested last night and it was BFN but nothing has changed symptom-wise. Gotta wait till my benefits kick in for work and then find a new doctor in the area and all that good stuff. It's okay. My time will come

 

[Pickletilly]

Pickle- I am so pissed for you! What a ignorant dr! I think the cd 21 test is meant to be done on 7 dpo, so that's easy enough to figure when you know when you o. Then you should be able to do a cd 5 test if you need to after that cycle. I believe the 7 dpo one is for progesterone (it usually peaks around there and it will indicate if you o'ed and/or have a good progesterone level. The cd 5 does your LH and estrogen (I think, but not positive on that) and should definitely be flexible by a day if you can do it Monday. If I was you I would print out your charts and shove them in her face and tell her you definitely know your body and cycles better than she does! What crap! Not every woman has a 28 day cycle, by some dr's don't listen. Just like mine insisting I o'ed and conceived on cd 11 (which is absolutely impossible but he still doesn't believe me, even after this last scan where he realized this baby is just a big baby and is growing super fast) pure ignorance love, and you may have to fight to get all this done, but don't give up! You can do this and if you have to deal with her being a twit again I would ask to talk to her superior and explain politely what an unprofessional twit she is. Keep us posted hun, and if you need some help with a strong backbone, I will lend you mine

Thanks Lou I've read it's for 7dpo so I think I will go then or a day either side, see when I ov you didn't bd before then did you?? Or o? How funny, they just don't like to be wrong.

Pickle, I am so sorry you had to endure such an uneducated doctor. Any doctor who knows anything knows that NOT ALL women have a perfect 28 day cycle!!!
It is a personal pet peeve of mine when ignorant doctors treat us this way. Please, do yourself a favor and FIRE the doctor. Refuse to go to a doctor who will not listen to you.
You deserve better. You know that the doctor is wrong, she won't listen to you - get rid of her.
I searched high and low to find a doctor who would listen to me. It is the most important thing when you're trying to conceive.
You can tell your husband that the doctor is full of baloney. Any normal healthy young couple has a 90% chance of pregnancy within one year, and doctors start treatment and testing after a year without success.
Your doctor saying two years??? She's off her rocker. Fire her!

CD3 bloodwork should be done between CDs 2-4, not earlier or later. CD21 bloodwork is based off the erroneous assumption that women ovulate CD14 - NOT true!
Do not get CD21 ( which is 7dpo) done until you know it is 7dpo. If you ovulate CD19 that would be CD26 for you to get progesterone tested.
Find a doctor who actually knows how to read charts - like you do - and will do the testing on the correct days. It is absolutely a waste of time to do on the wrong days!
Your husband needs to understand that since you chart your cycles, you know EXACTLY what day you ovulate, and you do know more than the doctor about that.
Please do yourself a favor and fire the doctor, finding one who actually knows what she's doing. This TTC stuff is torture, and you deserve a doctor who is a help, not a hindrance.
It's pathetic you have to fight the medical profession on something so basic, but unfortunately this is very common these days.

Aw thanks minuet I know all of this very well but my oh thinks all doctors are right and I should listen to her. He thinks I'm being stupid and that my charts are wrong. Errrr????? How! He doesn't believe there is a science to everything I do every cycle. In his mind opks are apparently wrong, temp rises, wrong! Doctors, right! how can I help him understand?

Pickle - I agree, you should find a different doctor. I'm not sure I know any woman who actually has a 28 day cycle (not on BCP) and/or ovulates on CD14 religiously. I've had this happen coincidentally, but would never say that that's my typical cycle in the slightest.

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

AFM - I tested last night and it was BFN but nothing has changed symptom-wise. Gotta wait till my benefits kick in for work and then find a new doctor in the area and all that good stuff. It's okay. My time will come

Still time for that BFP thinking of you

 

[loulou82baby]

Pickle- my OH is the same way. It's very frustrating! A dr that isn't ignorant can prove that to him. Your 7 dpo test should give a clearer picture that you are right and that twit is wrong! I would also print out your charts and have them handy. Your temps agree with your opk's so there is definitely no confusion there!

Exactly my point about the dr's, we definitely didn't bd before cd 11, so unless I'm the virgin Mary, the dr is wrong! They aren't always right, and to be honest I think most of them base everything off of their best guess and won't listen to anything else because they have a high $ education. Don't give up though lovey, there is a dr who will listen!

Minuet- that was a fantastic post! Thank you!

Wannabe- I know the bfn doesn't solve the confusion for you and I'm sorry I really hope you can find a new dr soon so you can get everything sorted for a super fast, sticky bfp!

Afm- so in my excitement I forgot to add that at my appt I learned I have an anterior, low lying placenta. It's not covering my cervix so I'm not worried, but it definitely explains why I'm not feeling the full on movement! I do feel a lot of movement on the inside, but it's kinda muffled to the outside and not as detectable. It makes more sense now, but I guess I figure if my uterus is big enough for twins then why can't bubs hang out farther away from the placenta? I'm a little nervous with how big he is already but I know that can slow down and even out as I get farther along

Have a great day ladies!

 

[Dreambaby69]

Happy 19 weeks Loulou xx

How is everyone Pickle, pal , Jessie, wannabe, Miranda, Kk, Minuet and Bomma? Hope you all r cool and hope I haven't forgotten anyone?

 

[mirandaprice]

Happy 19 weeks loulou!

James is hitting growth spurts it seems and I'm exhausted from the constant feedings haha.

How are all you ladies doing, I hope well!

 

[wannabemomy37]

Hi ladies!
I don't really have much to say but felt the need to update anyways
I am still having off/on cramping, nausea, headaches, my gums were bleeding after brushing my teeth yesterday and I'm noticing more bumps on my areolas even though OH says they've always been there
I really just don't believe that BFN the other night, but at the same time I have to keep in mind that my body does this to me all the time and it could go either way. It's just strange though, I feel very different (and SOOOO bloated!) but at this point my test, even at night, should've been quite noticeable, right? I thought I saw a faint line but just threw it out as I felt like I was looking for something that wasn't really there.
Obviously I know I should re-test or just wait it out. I'm just feeling so odd lately but then again I feel silly for thinking I might be pregnant even after a light AF. So frustrating! Haha
It's also annoying and disappointing that OH wants nothing to do with TTC anymore like every time I mention something he's just like "don't get your hopes up babe". Which I guess he means well but it's like I just wanna talk to someone about this!!

Happy 19 weeks Ciara!!

 

[Pickletilly]

Wannabe my oh says that too. I think it's cause they have to deal with your sadness and their own when you get af. But your symptoms are quite popular with the preggo ladies.. I am crossing my fingers for you.

Lou thank you I'm going to book another appointment this week and when I ring up I'm gonna ask if any doctors specialise in fertility, or at least know more than that doofus.

So what you're saying is your placenta is near the floor instead of the side? Is that right? So bubba could move up and around if wanted?

Miranda, been catching up on your journal, James is so handsome! Sounds tough, but rewarding

 

[jessieles]

Hey girls!

Sorry i havent posted in a few days, ive had a few days away with my best mates wedding!

Pickle- im so sorry youve had that stress with your dr! i agree that you should carry on regardless, you know your own body! when i saw mine he made me go for bloods on day 21 of my cycle but because i have 31 day cycles i went on day 24.

Wanabe- im sorry for the bfn's it does sound like your getting a lot of symptoms though! whats your plan?

Im on cd 11 so dh wants to do everyday this week, im a bit miffed because thursday would be the most important day for me this week to bd but as i hav a smear booked for fri ive read that you shouldnt have sex for 24 hours before?! im still not feeling any more optimistic and am trying to pull myself out of this little downer but hey ho!

 

[Pickletilly]

Just jumping in to say I bd the day before my smear probably shouldn't have but it didn't affect my results, she didn't say anything, and if you weren't supposed to, surely they would tell you that?

 

[fairyy]

ladies.

Jessie: If you are going to BD everyday this week then, please don't worry about missing a day in between. You would be totally fine with plenty of swimmers to reach the egg.

Kerry: Your doctor sounds too stubborn and doesn't want to listen to the details of your cycle. It is very dumb to think every woman ovulate on cd14 and similar stuff.

Ciara: Congrats on being team blue. I guessed it right Yay.

Wannabe: I hope it turns out to be a BFP for you.

Minuet: Sorry for AF hun.

Natasha: That was the sweetest thing I heard . Definitely I will pop up to notify of my BFP if I get any. AF due around my b'day this time.

Kristi, Miranda: I hope you guys are enjoying your time with lovely babies of yours.

AFM: Life is better now for us. We are relaxed now. Sometimes I go crazy when I see ewcm but trying to stay calm. I want to unlearn the thing I learned about my body to be completely sane. But I know that is not possible.

Btw DH's project got extended for one more month. So now we are in Houston for sure till end of September. Chances are he might get next project over here too but in a different location. Not completely sure though.

Ladies I am about 2/3dpo. I think either I have ovulated on Friday/Saturday. We had sex very late at night on Friday, almost Saturday morning. Since Saturday afternoon I am having some pain on my right boob, below the nipple. It feels like a small lump at certain angles when I touch. I have to sleep carefully too. I never had this kind of pain before. May be it is due to BD.

 

[wannabemomy37]

Hi girls!!

Thanks for the girls!! I sure hope this is just a shy BFP but I just don't know. I feel like I shouldn't be thinking that at all as I DID have pink/red right when AF was due...It's just so strange that it was actually earlier than normal and whatnot. So now I am wondering if maybe that was my IB?? I just don't get it! OH has the tests at his house, good thing or I'd be testing like mad every time I go pee probably. I'm not going to 100% believe anything until next AF is due. OH says "just wait" lol I'm like wouldn't you want to know if I'm 1 month preggo vs 2 months? Silly boy. But I suppose he's right...my pregnancy would go by faster then lol
I definitely want to test using FMU next time I get ahold of a test!! I'm wondering maybe that PM test was just useless because I always drink a ton of water and it was also a Walmart one so I'm not sure sensitivity or whatnot.
I have a headache, nausea, exhaustion and serious BLOAT/fat right now, still. Nothing seems to be going away? So perhaps I'm having a phantom pregnancy or something!!
The other weird thing is..I'm around O time but I haven't had any signs of O at all; just globs of yellow/gray CM - I took a pic the other day cuz it was just SO much and so unexpected. (Yeah I just looked and I'd be CD15 today..Weird. When we had the last few times I keep thinking "will it hurt baby?"

 

[fairyy]

How was your last AF Wannabe ? Was it any different then normal AF ? I think you should test.

 

[wannabemomy37]

Fairy - it was super light, barely a "flow" and only lasted 2 days on/off. It was a few days earlier than usual as I typically have 30-32 day cycles and it showed on CD27/28. The only thing that made me think AF and not IB is because it was bright pink/red like it was new.

I tested BFN on Friday night, but it was night-time so who knows how accurate that was honestly. I feel so nauseous right now it's not funny

Is it possible to only have MS in the evening?? I am usually fine during the day but then at night I feel like I'm going to vomit.
Would it be possible to experience this with me only being like 6 weeks?
My AF before this was on July 15th.

Next time I see OH and get a test in my hand I will test with FMU. This is gonna drive me bananas lol

 

[jessieles]

Pickle- hmm this is true, i think i might bd on thurs now too hehe! thanks!

how are you doing? xx

 

[jessieles]

Fairy- im so glad your less stressed and enjoying each other! i hav thought about not ttc but i cant bring myself to stop testing and timing! I really hope you get your bfp xxxx

 

[Domara]

8 days and counting until I can test... If we conceived this cycle dead would be 5/13/15- 13 days before my own 31st birthday

 

[mirandaprice]

Wannabe - maybe go in for a bloodtest instead, if you are in fact pregnant and the pee tests arnt picking it up, a blood test should as they're more sensitive.

Domora - best of luck, that would be a great edd

Hope all you ladies are doing well!

 

[Dreambaby69]

It is my v-day today. I am 24 weeks today and that means that if I had any complications (God Forbid), they would do everything to save baby. I am so ooooo happy. . How is everyone else. I am currently at the clinic having my glucose tolerance test done xx