Hi Ladies,
I know there are not many ladies who have experienced a molar or partial molar pregnancy, but there are a few of us here on Baby and Bump so I thought I would set up this group where we can go to get - or offer - support to others going through a similar experience.
Here's my story in brief . . . . or not so brief
I have been through the whole long experience and I hope my story helps those not so far along the line to see that there can be a happy ending, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
In August 2008 I got my first BFP . We had been TTC for a while and we were over the moon! Everything appeared to be going fine, and we reached the 12 week milestone with no obvious problems . . I remember feeling such relief that we had reached the 'safe' stage. However at my 12 week scan we were given the devestating news that there was no heartbeat - our baby had passed away at around 8 weeks. We were told that it was a missed misscarriage, that no one could tell me why it happened, but that it was just 'one of those things'. I chose to have an ERPC, and started the very difficult process of trying to get over what had happened. I pinned all my hopes on TTC and falling pregnant again.
Then in December 2008, two days before Christmas, I received a letter from the hospital asking me to call them urgently regarding test results following my ERPC. Over the telephone the nurse explained that the results had shown that my pregnancy had been a partial molar, and they wanted me to go in immediately for blood tests. We went in and everything was explained, blood tests were taken, and obviously we then found out that TTC would have to wait - I felt like just as I was getting back on track the rug had been pulled from beneath my feet again.
My blood test results came back in January and showed that my levels were still slightly raised - another blow for me since I had thought that because my AF had returned my levels would be okay. We had been told that if my first bloods were okay, my six month followup would start from the date of my ERPC. Because my results were still out the follow up wouldn't start until I had a satisfactory result - yet another blow as this added just over two months onto my follow up time.
My first normal result came quickly after that thank goodness and my follow up with Sheffield began . . . . . and from there on things went as well as they could. I focused on doing things that would help when we could TTC (my hubby and I both started going to the gym, he stopped smoking etc). I tried to keep busy doing positive things - like selling things on ebay and putting the money in a savings account which I knew we would appreciate if we ever got another BFP. We also did lots of things as a couple - we had more citybreaks than I thought possible!
My follow up officially ended in July 2009, and we started TTC right away. . . . though the first month we didn't hold out much hope as I was convinced we had missed the crutial days lol! We went on holiday and planned to start TTC properly in September 09.
On the drive home from our holiday I realised that my AF was a day late. I was quite annoyed as I had been charting to get a better understanding of my cycle and thought I had it cracked - so I was annoyed that my AF was late and that my cycle was not been as predictable as I had hoped. By the time we got home I was desperate for a wee
and ran into the house as soon as the car pulled up. As I was running up the stairs I thought sod it, I know it's a BFN but at least it will stop me wondering, and grabbed a test without really thinking things through. I can't tell you how shocked I was when the BFP appeared - as quick as you like and so bright there was no mistaking it for anything but a BFP. Hubby came in and asked if I was going to help with the luggage and I said well, actually, no
So the first few weeks were very, very hard. I had a scan at 6 weeks and we saw a little blob with a tiny flicker of a heartbeat. Everything looked fine and we were told that there was no sign of another partial molar. Everything looked perfect. At nine weeks we paid for a private scan, after knowing when our first baby had passed away I was so, so scared that it would happen again. I sat in the clinic waiting room and cried my eyes out, I was so convinced that something would be wrong. But again everything was perfect - and now we had a little bean with a flutter of a heartbeat, and every now and then it wriggled
At twelve weeks we had the normal NHS dating scan and now out little baby looked like a baby - and still no problems. It was only when I started feeling my baby move that I really calmed down and started to enjoy my pregnancy, but I really did enjoy it.
On May 8th 2010 - five days off a year after my first pregnancy due date - Oliver arrived. Wow! Boy was he worth the wait!
I didn't know about Baby and Bump when I had my PM. I didn't have anyone who had been through the same thing who I could talk to about what I was going through. Since joining BnB I have talked to girls going through the same thing and made a very good friend (hey Lou!!!
) and I hope I have offered that support that I would have so loved to have received.
Hopefully through this thread we can all help each other to get over what is a truely horrible and difficult experience, and come out the other side.
Please feel free to post about your experiences, your thoughts and feelings, and questions you may have, anything you like, and hopefully we can help each other through
**UPDATE**
Well there are a few of us now! To keep track of who we all are and where abouts we are on our journeys I'm adding a list which I will keep updated
Sarahwoo
PMP October 2008., diagnosed December 2008. BFP September 2009, baby son Oliver born 8th May 2010!
Clo
BFP with pmp October 2009, loss March 2010, diagnosed as pmp april 2010, BFP September 2010, due May 2011 **Rainbow Baby has now arrived safe and sound!!**
Dan-O
BFP Jan 2009 (PMP) lost March 2009, 2 months chemo @CXH
BFP July 2010, lost July 2010
BFP October 2010, EDD 5th July 2011
Jamaris Mummy
pmp diagnosed aug 2010, able to ttc march 2011 after 6 months waiting **BFP first cycle of TTC!**
Dandini
BFP August 2010 diagnose CMP October 2010. TTC again July 2011!!
AmandaLucsMom
Rainbow baby on the way!
see ob and midwife tomorrow morning so will know more then. No sweets at all for the next 14 weeks! Means no cake at my brothers wedding I'm guessing. This news has shook me
there is so much to think of
