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My March loss is painful once again

Bumpblessing4

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I had a D&C in March for a blighted ovum. Of course I grieved at the time but have been okay for a while now and the new pregnancy helped further, but this weekend I watched three episodes of "One Born Every Minute" and realized how far away from delivering this baby I really am. And then it hit me: I should be delivering a baby by November 14th (the due date for my March loss), and I usually deliver one week early, so I should be less than ten days from delivery, but instead I am six months away and it won't even be the same baby. It's an unexpected feeling. I thought I was "over it" by now....
 
Didn't want to r&R
:hugs: the would have been due date is never easy - even if you are pregnant again x
 
I completely understand what you are feeling. I had a miscarriage in February. My due date was my birthday two weeks ago. It was very difficult even though I was 23 weeks at the time. I love this new baby I am carrying, but I also felt guilty and terribly sad that I wasn't holding my first baby.
 
I know how you feel, I should have had 2 babys by now or I should have been due soon too as I had a MC during Easter weekend, but you deal with it one day at a time, sometimes you surprise yourself when you realiise how strong you really are and other times it creeps up on you. Hope you're feeling better today x x x
 
I understand how you are feeling. Facing the due date of the child you lost is one of the hardest things to cope with. I lost my son in May, my due date was in Sept. I am currently pregnant with my second child, and yet sometimes I will be hit with the thought of how old he would have been now. And like you, I realize how far away I really am from delivering and holding my baby. Losing a child somehow changes a woman's perception on pregnancy. I think the innocence is gone and carrying our babies feels like forever, because at least for me, I don't think I will feel entirely secure until my baby is safe in my arms.
 
I still have bad days. I had a MMC at 9 weeks this past March. Its never going away, and will stick with us forever.
 
It's really hard :hugs: When I was pregnant for the 2nd time I used to cry all the time over our first. I felt really guilty at the time but now I realise it's natural. Just because you're pregnant again it doesn't mean all the sadness has been 'fixed'. It'll always be a part of our lives and something that we'll always be sad about. But it doesn't mean we don't love the ones that are on the way now. It's ok to be upset about it x
 

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