My wedding Journal - finally, photos pg 35

[Scamp]

I'm gutted. My best and oldest mate won't come to the wedding. I saw him at work and asked for him to write his address so I can send the invite and he made excuses.
I've known him for 9 years, he's actually my ex and we were together for 4 years. He comes mine every time his Mrs kicks him out the house (she's a cow)
I know it's because his Mrs now doesn't like me. She saw that I'd been texting Craig, just helping him with union stuff as Mike is the union rep at work, and she accused him of cheating and said he either stops talking to me or he can't see his baby when it's born
I'm still going to make him an invite and give it him at work. I'll put his gfs name on it as well. I don't know what her problem is
Gutted
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[honeybee2]

Sounds to me like someone has still got feelings for you maybe? I can understand why he feels it would be a bit awkward for him as you were both ex lovers and he may feel like it could be too much for him. What I dont understand is why he is making excuses and not telling you if you've been friends for so long. All you can do is ask him. I am inviting two of my ex's to the wedding but thats because we were either teens going out or it lasted a few months and decided we were better off as friends.

Im not even inviting one of my close friends who I slept with because I know he will find it hard (we couldnt be together because he was the ex of an old friend and it would cause so much tension in the friendship group).

Its difficult with ex's!!!! His GF sounds very threatened by you, you are the person he runs too when he's upset instead of keeping personal issues like that between the two of them. I can also understand that you need your friend of 9 years there though too! xx

 

[Scamp]

Thanks hun.
He definitely doesn't have feelings for me anymore, he is madly in love with his Mrs I think it is just because she is being a cow and he doesn't want to upset her. I'll invite him and see what happens, I'd love for him to be there but if he doesn't want to I can't force him
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[honeybee2]

Ye, unfortunately I think she still see's you as a threat- I mean he shares his intimate problems with a woman he was sleeping with for 4 years. You have to understand that is hard on her- regardless of how much he loves her. The other thing is, although I can understand you've been friends for 9 years (even if she is being a cow ) her feelings come first to him and he has to respect her wishes.

Its so horrid hun for you to be in this situation- unfortunately some women are so paranoid they put their partners on leads!

 

[Scamp]

Yeah true. He is one of the most honest people I know! I would never be like that with someone
Ah well nothing I can do about it
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[honeybee2]

Well thats not technically true.

To me, being a friend with someone is accepting and being 'friends' with their families- and you could try befriending his other half?
Have a girly night and invite her over or ask her for her opinion or help in the wedding- she needs to understand that your not trying to push her out or keep your ex all to yourself, she needs to know that she can trust you. If there is no friendship, there is no trust and she will never trust you unless you come to some reconciliation.

better now than having this problem for the rest of your life?

Im sure she is insecure and feels a bit shadowed by you- show her that him coming to the wedding is a matter of support, nothing more and that you accept he comes in a package.

 

[Scamp]

Lol, noo. I have no issues with her but she just hates me, she won't even speak to me and I've never met her
I'll just leave her be. I'll always be there for my mate but don't think I'll ever be mates with his gf!
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[honeybee2]

well, dont be dismissive- just let your friend know that there are no hard feelings with his GF (he might tell her!) xx

 

[honeybee2]

...i wish my first love's gf would let him see me

 

[Scamp]

All the invites for the ceremony are done So happy. We still need to do the ones for the after do but that doesn't need to be done for a few months
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[Scamp]

https://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs794.ash1/168454_10150392323570721_856475720_16708842_3743570_n.jpg
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[honeybee2]

o its lovely xxx

 

[Scamp]

Thanks hun xx

 

[EmmyReece]

am loving all your plans so far hun, can't wait to see piccies as it all comes together

 

[Scamp]

Thank you
We've had a letter from the council today to confirm we're giving notice of marriage and we've got the registrar booked
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[EmmyReece]

yay

 

[Scamp]

I know exciting!
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[shelleney]

The inside of the invite is lovely Vic.
But what does the front look like?
xx

 

[Scamp]

Thank youu

https://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs1385.snc4/163727_10150389569435721_856475720_16659064_7901592_n.jpg
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[shelleney]

Oooh, lovely.
Very romantic!
xx