Jessicahide
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So the concern is that you can't pass the baby off as your Ex's to your family? Baby is yours, thats all they should care about!
Dont worry about being judged, everyone has those moments in life where they do something that others wouldnt approve of, everyone, no one has the right to judge you! I myself have been in the whoops, whos the daddy saga, i miscarried at 9 weeks though at that point i didnt care who the daddy was, i was the mommy and it was my baby anywho...
If the truth about the one night stand comes out hold your head high, your ex should be embarrased, he should never have put that on you! It sounds like he is emotionally abusive and a total jerk!
As for the test in the clinic being very faint, those tests are full rubbish! my friend was 3-4 weeks pregnant on a clearblue digital and the clinic test said negitive lol all withing 3 hours from clearblue to clinic!
Dating scans at 12 weeks are known for being off for dates, here we dont get actual due date until 20 week scan! they are more to say yep babys there, heartbeat seen, everything looks well, then give you a general age of baby but if its off by 1mm your dates get all off! Early dating scans are known for freaking people out who chart, track and write down when they bed down!
Is it the one night stand? lets do some math!
2nd or 3rd to 7th is four or five days?
* one day for conception ( usually takes a few hours up to 5 days!)
* one day for implantation ( usually takes 6 to 8 days )
* one or two days for positive test (not expected to be positive until 3-4 days after implantation (at the very earliest))
If i where you i would be certain its the ex's =)
Hope you can feel more at ease soon x x
So the concern is that you can't pass the baby off as your Ex's to your family? Baby is yours, thats all they should care about!
Dont worry about being judged, everyone has those moments in life where they do something that others wouldnt approve of, everyone, no one has the right to judge you! I myself have been in the whoops, whos the daddy saga, i miscarried at 9 weeks though at that point i didnt care who the daddy was, i was the mommy and it was my baby anywho...
If the truth about the one night stand comes out hold your head high, your ex should be embarrased, he should never have put that on you! It sounds like he is emotionally abusive and a total jerk!
As for the test in the clinic being very faint, those tests are full rubbish! my friend was 3-4 weeks pregnant on a clearblue digital and the clinic test said negitive lol all withing 3 hours from clearblue to clinic!
Dating scans at 12 weeks are known for being off for dates, here we dont get actual due date until 20 week scan! they are more to say yep babys there, heartbeat seen, everything looks well, then give you a general age of baby but if its off by 1mm your dates get all off! Early dating scans are known for freaking people out who chart, track and write down when they bed down!
Is it the one night stand? lets do some math!
2nd or 3rd to 7th is four or five days?
* one day for conception ( usually takes a few hours up to 5 days!)
* one day for implantation ( usually takes 6 to 8 days )
* one or two days for positive test (not expected to be positive until 3-4 days after implantation (at the very earliest))
If i where you i would be certain its the ex's =)
Hope you can feel more at ease soon x x
So which scan would be more accurate then?? Also, at my anatomy scan at 21+1, the baby was measuring 3 days behind the Dec 13th dating scan, but they still kept my original due date of Dec 13th.
I wouldnt put my faith in any scan getting the dates 100% right tbh, i dont believe all babies grow at excatly the same rate so going by how long the baby is to date a pregnancy is an educated guess, babies are all born different weights and lengths but two babies concieved on the same day and born on the same day will be different sizes!
If i where you i would go by conception as its the easiest way! the math for it being the one night stand doesnt add up at all! im betting even Usain Bolt's mum had to wait more then four or five or more days for a positive on a test
hope your ok though, i know it can be stressful x
Dont worry about being judged, everyone has those moments in life where they do something that others wouldnt approve of, everyone, no one has the right to judge you! I myself have been in the whoops, whos the daddy saga, i miscarried at 9 weeks though at that point i didnt care who the daddy was, i was the mommy and it was my baby anywho...
If the truth about the one night stand comes out hold your head high, your ex should be embarrased, he should never have put that on you! It sounds like he is emotionally abusive and a total jerk!
As for the test in the clinic being very faint, those tests are full rubbish! my friend was 3-4 weeks pregnant on a clearblue digital and the clinic test said negitive lol all withing 3 hours from clearblue to clinic!
Dating scans at 12 weeks are known for being off for dates, here we dont get actual due date until 20 week scan! they are more to say yep babys there, heartbeat seen, everything looks well, then give you a general age of baby but if its off by 1mm your dates get all off! Early dating scans are known for freaking people out who chart, track and write down when they bed down!
Is it the one night stand? lets do some math!
2nd or 3rd to 7th is four or five days?
* one day for conception ( usually takes a few hours up to 5 days!)
* one day for implantation ( usually takes 6 to 8 days )
* one or two days for positive test (not expected to be positive until 3-4 days after implantation (at the very earliest))
If i where you i would be certain its the ex's =)
Hope you can feel more at ease soon x x
So which scan would be more accurate then?? Also, at my anatomy scan at 21+1, the baby was measuring 3 days behind the Dec 13th dating scan, but they still kept my original due date of Dec 13th.
If i were you, to ease your stress, i would just tell your family the truth, your ex is clearly a horrible abusive nasty person who has manipulated and coerced you into having sex with someone that you didn't want to. His abuse is now still ongoing as you are internalising and abusing yourself to the point that you can't enjoy YOUR baby.
I don't think your family will be surprised that this abusive man has done this to you, however your baby comes out, they are yours!!!!
Dont worry about being judged, everyone has those moments in life where they do something that others wouldnt approve of, everyone, no one has the right to judge you! I myself have been in the whoops, whos the daddy saga, i miscarried at 9 weeks though at that point i didnt care who the daddy was, i was the mommy and it was my baby anywho...
If the truth about the one night stand comes out hold your head high, your ex should be embarrased, he should never have put that on you! It sounds like he is emotionally abusive and a total jerk!
As for the test in the clinic being very faint, those tests are full rubbish! my friend was 3-4 weeks pregnant on a clearblue digital and the clinic test said negitive lol all withing 3 hours from clearblue to clinic!
Dating scans at 12 weeks are known for being off for dates, here we dont get actual due date until 20 week scan! they are more to say yep babys there, heartbeat seen, everything looks well, then give you a general age of baby but if its off by 1mm your dates get all off! Early dating scans are known for freaking people out who chart, track and write down when they bed down!
Is it the one night stand? lets do some math!
2nd or 3rd to 7th is four or five days?
* one day for conception ( usually takes a few hours up to 5 days!)
* one day for implantation ( usually takes 6 to 8 days )
* one or two days for positive test (not expected to be positive until 3-4 days after implantation (at the very earliest))
If i where you i would be certain its the ex's =)
Hope you can feel more at ease soon x x
So which scan would be more accurate then?? Also, at my anatomy scan at 21+1, the baby was measuring 3 days behind the Dec 13th dating scan, but they still kept my original due date of Dec 13th.
If i were you, to ease your stress, i would just tell your family the truth, your ex is clearly a horrible abusive nasty person who has manipulated and coerced you into having sex with someone that you didn't want to. His abuse is now still ongoing as you are internalising and abusing yourself to the point that you can't enjoy YOUR baby.
I don't think your family will be surprised that this abusive man has done this to you, however your baby comes out, they are yours!!!!
I've come close to telling my mom a few times, but I just can't. I know she won't judge me as she has been supportive all through this, but I really just can't do it. If I tell her, she will tell my family and all our relatives, explaining to them because I honestly can't! Telling her would be hard enough. And then I'd have to explain to all my friends, and Im really not ready to go through all that.
Dont worry about being judged, everyone has those moments in life where they do something that others wouldnt approve of, everyone, no one has the right to judge you! I myself have been in the whoops, whos the daddy saga, i miscarried at 9 weeks though at that point i didnt care who the daddy was, i was the mommy and it was my baby anywho...
If the truth about the one night stand comes out hold your head high, your ex should be embarrased, he should never have put that on you! It sounds like he is emotionally abusive and a total jerk!
As for the test in the clinic being very faint, those tests are full rubbish! my friend was 3-4 weeks pregnant on a clearblue digital and the clinic test said negitive lol all withing 3 hours from clearblue to clinic!
Dating scans at 12 weeks are known for being off for dates, here we dont get actual due date until 20 week scan! they are more to say yep babys there, heartbeat seen, everything looks well, then give you a general age of baby but if its off by 1mm your dates get all off! Early dating scans are known for freaking people out who chart, track and write down when they bed down!
Is it the one night stand? lets do some math!
2nd or 3rd to 7th is four or five days?
* one day for conception ( usually takes a few hours up to 5 days!)
* one day for implantation ( usually takes 6 to 8 days )
* one or two days for positive test (not expected to be positive until 3-4 days after implantation (at the very earliest))
If i where you i would be certain its the ex's =)
Hope you can feel more at ease soon x x
So which scan would be more accurate then?? Also, at my anatomy scan at 21+1, the baby was measuring 3 days behind the Dec 13th dating scan, but they still kept my original due date of Dec 13th.
If i were you, to ease your stress, i would just tell your family the truth, your ex is clearly a horrible abusive nasty person who has manipulated and coerced you into having sex with someone that you didn't want to. His abuse is now still ongoing as you are internalising and abusing yourself to the point that you can't enjoy YOUR baby.
I don't think your family will be surprised that this abusive man has done this to you, however your baby comes out, they are yours!!!!
I've come close to telling my mom a few times, but I just can't. I know she won't judge me as she has been supportive all through this, but I really just can't do it. If I tell her, she will tell my family and all our relatives, explaining to them because I honestly can't! Telling her would be hard enough. And then I'd have to explain to all my friends, and Im really not ready to go through all that.
Write her a letter, if i am honest i believe this man should be having nothing to do with your child if he is the father so i would approach the police and explain what has happened, he is an abuser, you don't have to tell anyone anything ( friends) they can do one, but i would tell your family, you don't need to go through this alone. I guarantee you are afraid to tell as he has conditioned you to feel like this is your fault and its not. Youyr baby will either come out a different colour or not, either way there is nothing you can do, and no amount of date counting will give you less stress, what will is telling your mum!
Its hard and hormones just add to making us overthink which makes it harder but try on focus on baby being yours! I recently broke up with my bubs dad and thats a full head melt on its own but i decided im going to find a way to just be happy and focus on my little family!
Ill be honest, i didnt want to get pregnant and i cried for over an hour until my neighbour found me in garden and talked some sense into me, but ive gone from that to building a cot in my room a couple of days ago and buying a few baby things and the more i focus on baby the happier i am, yes there are a few moments where i have a mini melt down to myself but thats ok!
You have to focus on the future, dont let your ex and his mate ruin it, tell your family he was abusive, imagine if your neice or sister or other female came to you and told you the story of what happened that night happened to them, you wouldnt judge them, you would judge him! alot!
You will be ok, from here on out just make it about you and your child, it will get easier x
Dont worry about being judged, everyone has those moments in life where they do something that others wouldnt approve of, everyone, no one has the right to judge you! I myself have been in the whoops, whos the daddy saga, i miscarried at 9 weeks though at that point i didnt care who the daddy was, i was the mommy and it was my baby anywho...
If the truth about the one night stand comes out hold your head high, your ex should be embarrased, he should never have put that on you! It sounds like he is emotionally abusive and a total jerk!
As for the test in the clinic being very faint, those tests are full rubbish! my friend was 3-4 weeks pregnant on a clearblue digital and the clinic test said negitive lol all withing 3 hours from clearblue to clinic!
Dating scans at 12 weeks are known for being off for dates, here we dont get actual due date until 20 week scan! they are more to say yep babys there, heartbeat seen, everything looks well, then give you a general age of baby but if its off by 1mm your dates get all off! Early dating scans are known for freaking people out who chart, track and write down when they bed down!
Is it the one night stand? lets do some math!
2nd or 3rd to 7th is four or five days?
* one day for conception ( usually takes a few hours up to 5 days!)
* one day for implantation ( usually takes 6 to 8 days )
* one or two days for positive test (not expected to be positive until 3-4 days after implantation (at the very earliest))
If i where you i would be certain its the ex's =)
Hope you can feel more at ease soon x x
So which scan would be more accurate then?? Also, at my anatomy scan at 21+1, the baby was measuring 3 days behind the Dec 13th dating scan, but they still kept my original due date of Dec 13th.
If i were you, to ease your stress, i would just tell your family the truth, your ex is clearly a horrible abusive nasty person who has manipulated and coerced you into having sex with someone that you didn't want to. His abuse is now still ongoing as you are internalising and abusing yourself to the point that you can't enjoy YOUR baby.
I don't think your family will be surprised that this abusive man has done this to you, however your baby comes out, they are yours!!!!
I've come close to telling my mom a few times, but I just can't. I know she won't judge me as she has been supportive all through this, but I really just can't do it. If I tell her, she will tell my family and all our relatives, explaining to them because I honestly can't! Telling her would be hard enough. And then I'd have to explain to all my friends, and Im really not ready to go through all that.
Write her a letter, if i am honest i believe this man should be having nothing to do with your child if he is the father so i would approach the police and explain what has happened, he is an abuser, you don't have to tell anyone anything ( friends) they can do one, but i would tell your family, you don't need to go through this alone. I guarantee you are afraid to tell as he has conditioned you to feel like this is your fault and its not. Youyr baby will either come out a different colour or not, either way there is nothing you can do, and no amount of date counting will give you less stress, what will is telling your mum!
I agree that he should have nothing to do with my child. I don't think the police can do anything, they have no evidence and it would be my word against his. Also, we don't even live in the same state as I moved back home. Also, if it turns out to be the other guy's baby, I do not want him involved at all either, as he was part of this manipulation too and is just like my ex. I don't want to face either of them again.
I really do not want to tell anyone. I just want it to be my ex's and just move past all this but I can't. Im only 19, I shouldn't have all this on me Being a single mother will be hard enough. I am so embarrassed to tell anyone and I really don't think I can.