I think Isme has good advice. But also I just wanted to say a huge big WELL DONE for telling your mom! That must have been extremely difficult for you but you did it! Taking care of your baby is obviously important but a huge part of parenting is also taking care of yourself, so you can be there for your children. And telling your mom was a big step towards that. Hopefully now she can help you find a counsellor or psychologist who has experience with both Aspergers and prenatal depression and who can help you feel more in control again.
But Im not in control. I can't control this outcome. I can't control who's baby it is. If it's the friends, I will likely give her up for adoption, which will be very hard but I just won't be able to cope.
My mom is trying to get me to go to the police, but I don't want to. It's not gonna change anything and will just make it harder on me. She thinks by telling them and pressing charges, he will not get parental rights, but I don't want to even think of going forward with that until I know who's baby it is.
Physchology and counseling hasn't ever worked for me. I have tried since I was little as I struggled a lot with autism, so I saw a counselor for that. So I doubt its gonna help any. I have anxiety talking to new people.
I have my 25 week appointment tomorrow with my midwife, and Im sure my mom will talk to her about my situation, as I am unable to. Im really not looking forward to it. Likely, I will get STD testing, which I know is good, but honestly I just don't want to have to go through any of this. Why couldn't I be pregnant with a nice guy's baby? one who wanted to protect me and be there for me. But nope, I had to choose a loser who only took advantage of me. I was weak. I just so badly wanted to be wanted by someone. Look where that got me.
Honestly, I see no way to be happy about this pregnancy anymore. Until the baby comes and I have answers, it's all just a waiting game and ticking time bomb. I don't want my friends to continue saying "congrats" and how they are so excited for me. This isn't something to be congratulating or excited for..it's really not. But they don't know what happened, and I know they are just trying to be supportive. So I guess ill just have to continue with the fake smiles, when Im really dying inside.
I really don't know what to do. Is it selfish of me to wish I could go back 20 weeks ago and terminate this? I know that wouldn't solve the fact that this happened to me and that I would have to deal with it either way.
Im just at a loss. Really all I can do now is wait.