I know this isn't necessarily the right place to post this but didn't know where else to put it, sorry its a bit long, as my husband and I are WTT this September. only thing is im now starting to doubt it. its a long story tbh, but it always boils down to my mother in law.
me and my husband have always had the the best relationship never row we always just talk things through but it seems to be if his mother says something to him behind my back he comes home and has a go or a moan at me as if its all my fault. so far because of her we have had 3 major rows over the nearly 5 years we have been together.
Basically we see them every Saturday we stay in all day so they (the inlaws) can stay as long as they want to see their grandchild, they just so happen to only have a couple of hours spare. but this time isn't 'enough' and 'its not fair' that my parents (2 sisters and brother who are still living at home under the age of 20 to 10) see her more... well I see them once a week occasionally twice if my grandparents travel down. I feel like at the moment I can not talk to my husband without him having a go and telling me I should meet his mum in the week as all she wants to do is spend time with 'her' grandchild.
before now my mum has offered to pick her up so everyone can see her at the same time. I try so hard with her but she is the most difficult person to talk to or hold a conversation with. I have said I do not want to see her unless my husband is present that way I can not be accused of anything. also she doesn't play with my daughter she just wants to cuddle her like a trophy. she is 13 months and I have had this since she was born. I don't know how much more I can take. there is more to it and at the end of the day my husband thinks the world of her and that she can do know wrong whatso ever when this im afraid is not the case at all. I feel so down at the moment and trying to hide my frustration from everyone I feel like I cant talk to anyone as it will cause more friction and worry.
has anyone been through this really need some advice on how to cope or get my husband to understand!?
sorry for the long rant on, just trying to make it as clear as I can xx
me and my husband have always had the the best relationship never row we always just talk things through but it seems to be if his mother says something to him behind my back he comes home and has a go or a moan at me as if its all my fault. so far because of her we have had 3 major rows over the nearly 5 years we have been together.
Basically we see them every Saturday we stay in all day so they (the inlaws) can stay as long as they want to see their grandchild, they just so happen to only have a couple of hours spare. but this time isn't 'enough' and 'its not fair' that my parents (2 sisters and brother who are still living at home under the age of 20 to 10) see her more... well I see them once a week occasionally twice if my grandparents travel down. I feel like at the moment I can not talk to my husband without him having a go and telling me I should meet his mum in the week as all she wants to do is spend time with 'her' grandchild.
before now my mum has offered to pick her up so everyone can see her at the same time. I try so hard with her but she is the most difficult person to talk to or hold a conversation with. I have said I do not want to see her unless my husband is present that way I can not be accused of anything. also she doesn't play with my daughter she just wants to cuddle her like a trophy. she is 13 months and I have had this since she was born. I don't know how much more I can take. there is more to it and at the end of the day my husband thinks the world of her and that she can do know wrong whatso ever when this im afraid is not the case at all. I feel so down at the moment and trying to hide my frustration from everyone I feel like I cant talk to anyone as it will cause more friction and worry.
has anyone been through this really need some advice on how to cope or get my husband to understand!?
sorry for the long rant on, just trying to make it as clear as I can xx