OH had actually never discussed this. Until this thread.
He feels that he doesn't want to promote or deny Santa. We are both against using Santa as a punishment. I hate the whole "be good or Santa won't come" threat.
As a kid I believed in Santa and when I found out I didn't feel lied to at all. Just like I believed in the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny.
I was a "spoiled" child in the sense that I always had a lot of presents but I remember being 8 and using my pocket money to buy presents because I loved to give as well. I brought my one cousin coat hangers
The tooth fairy didn't always bring me money, she wrote me letters or left me plastic gems. I was very much a kid with a wild imagination who found Easter, Christmas and losing a tooth completely magical.
I want that magic for my own babies, but I know that it's far more than just presents, its decorating the tree, reading Christmas stories and singing Christmas songs etc.
Evelyn's first Christmas we went insane with presents and I absolutely regretted it from the moment she woke up, she was 7 months, overwhelmed with things she didn't need and never used.
Last year was a lot more low key and this year will be too. We have got them presents but we haven't spent hundreds because it's just not needed, Evelyn adores books and films I don't want to overload her with toys she'll never use just for the sake of spoiling her. It's not what I want for them at all. We have encouraged family who want to buy to go small or to buy things they'll need or that are educational.
I know we probably sound like complete Scrooges to a lot of people but the magic of Christmas for me goes so far beyond presents.
This year is about a whole day with my girls and their Daddy to draw and paint and play, to read and sing and dance. We rarely get to go do that as a family what with work etc.
I'm not religious so for us, Christmas will always be about family. Especially what with losing the baby, a grandad and an uncle and a friend at this time of year, it just makes me want that family day even more.
I completely respect families who choose to do Santa and who choose not to, everybody is different. Why should we all conform to being the same?
We aren't even having a turkey, I refuse to pay £20+ for a meat my OH hates when I could get a chicken for a fiver that is to us, much tastier! And Christmas puddings? Bleurgh! Trifle all the way!
So basically yes we are having a magical Christmas, but it's not based around presents. They are a very small part of our perfect family day.