***November Sparklers 2012***(101)babies(14)angels**33 babies here

[daddiesgift]

I wanted a home birth last time but living through that I'd rather be in hospital lol. But I guess I'm a wuss and worry too much about what could or could not happen. I was so pumped last time to go natural but I was so miserable I now understand why people get drugs! This time I'm only worried about them not giving me an epidural, I can't go through that again! Everything else I think I've figured out

 

[sharonfruit]

I agree - I don't really understand why giving birth at hospital has become the norm, nor do I understand why staying overnight is more normal than not? X

 

[morri]

I prefer hospital because I wouldnt like all the gunk in my own home

 

[gaiagirl]

Ok, not sure what's with the hormones today but since last night I have just felt DOWN. I have absolutely nothing to be upset about but I'm feeling so negative for some reason and I can snap out of it!

I almost feel guilty too because I feel like the negative energy is bad for baby

 

[daddiesgift]

Gaaigirl- it's just hormones! The last two weeks absolutely everything and everyone irratates me! Instead of sadness I get pissed off easily. My poor husband the other days his chewing nearly sent me over the edge

To me you should give birth where ever you want and no one should stop you. To me giving birth at home to SOME is risky, your house won't have all the capabilities of a hospital to help baby or you if something was to happen. That's why I like the ideas of a birthing center, where you get what you want relaxation and "natural" wise but if anything was to happen you're right there! I had my son in a birthing center and I know everyone's experience is different but for me all the things I read did not help! Idk if I progressed too quickly or the back labor but the walking, water, music, massages, pushing in different positions didn't ease or relax me what so ever.

I stayed 48 hours there but it was mostly for my son, they could've cared less about me they wait 24 hours to circumsize him plus hearing test, blood test, all tests had to be at certain points after birth. I was so anxious to leave I regret it cause I didn't get breast feeding down. Seeing lactation consultants helped but not like if they were at your house 24-7! My milk wasn't even in when I left. Here they told me since its 2nd baby if we are both well we can leave after 24 hours. If I didn't have my son I'd want to stay longer.

Anywho idk where I'm going with this but I see both arguments, only at home only at hospital. I think it should be mothers choice first then take recommendation of midwives, doctors.

 

[cookielucylou]

Our MW assumed we were doing a hospital birth and wasn't happy when we asked about a home birth and didn't want us having one-for them not us.
I completely agree with everyone doing what they are comfortable with but the choice should be offered not just assumed.

 

[booflebump]

^^ They are meant to be promoting more home births, but then they aren't providing the resources to allow midwives to do so! It's a sad state of affairs in the UK - home birthers get 2 midwives, go in to the hospital and you might have to share one with another lady...how is that right? Makes me mad - we need more midwives, more resources, and more money pumped in to maternity care

GG - I had a random crying fit today too after the cat jumped on me and scratched by accident It's hormones!!!

xxx

 

[ttc_lolly]

I agree, they are pushing for more home births but there just aren't enough MW's to go around. Sad state of affairs

I have been extra hormonal lately too. I haven't been that bad at all during this whole pregnancy, but these past few weeks have been hard x

 

[cookielucylou]

That is the reason we were given-they are short staffed.
I've found myself getting upset with my toddler a lot more recently which I really hate-I keep thinking he is going to hate me soon

 

[gaiagirl]

So good to know I'm not alone! I read online that some people think a 'funk' sets in 2 weeks before baby...so here's to hoping for a 39-weeker

I won't get my hopes up, lol.

 

[Cridge]

gaiagirl - I've definitely felt down the last few days. I was so excited to have baby a week ago, and for some reason I'm just not feeling it the last few days. I'm hoping it's not a sign that I'll be depressed after the birth. I've found myself going through depressed states a lot during this pregnancy.

I prefer a hospital birth just cause I like having all the technology and staff there in case of emergency. I'm not convinced my son would be here if I had attempted a home birth with him. But you think of all the women in other countries that squat in a corner to have their baby then get back to work right after. With #1 I couldn't wait to get out of the hospital afterwards, but I'm actually excited to stay my full stay and be pampered with this one.... I've heard amazing things about the care (and food!!) in this hospital.

 

[gaiagirl]

Cridge, that crossed my mind too about PPD because I've been hormonal.

Also, this may seem really silly but I worry about crazy hormone levels causing bad baby acne in the newborn phase! I know it's only cosmetic and it is fairly normal, but my friends little guy has the WORST case right now and it just got me worried, lol.

Of all things, I know it's not that important but still...the thought of his little face covered in acne is already hard to take!

 

[wishfulmom2b]

i had an up and down day.

the positive was i got to spend the afternoon with my family and saw my 10 month old niece for awhile who i adore and don't get to see as much as i wish.

the bad was we walked into the grocery store to pick up a dessert and walked right into my husbands brother who he is estranged from. my DH is estranged from his mother, father and brother and it had been a long time since seeing him in person. they found out through others that we were expecting and it just made me really emotional. nothing happened, just some head nods but i can not believe out of all the stores we walked in at the same exact time. it crept me out because we probable go to that grocery store once a year and last we know he didn't live THAT close.

so then my hormones got to me and i started thinking how tough it must be for my DH. he is so amazing and deserved soo much more. i can't imagine having my first child and not having my family involved at all. its all i could and can think about now. i tried not to cry but couldn't help it. my DH took it well or at least faked it for me. i love him so much.

sorry that was so long

 

[gaiagirl]

Awww wishful that sucks. I have the same feelings about DHs family. They're not estranged but there are some serious issues and I always just think how amazing it is that he turned out to be who he is despite them.

I think when you love someone so much you cannot stand the thought of them being hurt in any way...totally normal!

 

[daddiesgift]

I didnt know baby acne came from us being stressed?! Im so ready to have baby and get to losing weight today I feel like a whale! My stomach is so big feels like its going to tear open! I hope that doesnt mean more stretch marks! I try and want to eat as healthy as I can now but I just find myself wanting tons of sweets and carbs.

Im kind of worried how this baby will be, my son didnt move much especially this far along and now he is a wild man! This baby moves all day non stop in the oddest positions and hurts me constantly, I hope he doesnt come out a wildman then Im stuck with two hyper babies I feel sick when baby moves so much for some reason like I am riding in a car over a hill really fast.

 

[wishfulmom2b]

Awww wishful that sucks. I have the same feelings about DHs family. They're not estranged but there are some serious issues and I always just think how amazing it is that he turned out to be who he is despite them.

I think when you love someone so much you cannot stand the thought of them being hurt in any way...totally normal!

yeah i think about it all the time, but seeing him in person really hit me. it felt like i didnt breath for 5 minutes because i was so tense. i never know if i should bring it up to my DH and ask him how he feels... if he needs to talk... because the last time i did he was like "no, lets not ruin this day by bringing up sad stuff". ugh i am way too emotional at this point

 

[morri]

oh here home birth midwives arent as common anymore because they premiums for their insurances are ridiculously high these days, (so high that they can't afford it) so most of them opt for being midwife in a hospital.

 

[Fish&Chips]

Oh wishful that sounds like such a hard situation. It sounds like you give him enough love to make up for it though and soon he will be the Daddy of a person so precious, his heart will feel like it will burst with love You are doing the best thing for him right now and being supportive and giving him a little baby.

Daddies, I worry too as this one doesn't stop moving ever! He wakes me at night with kicks etc. His cousin is nuts so I'm really hoping this one will be a bit quieter!

 

[wishfulmom2b]

thanks fish&chips that was very sweet of you

 

[Mrs.326]

Big hugs, Wishful! that sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, but it sounds like your DH handles it well and has you there for support.

I found myself crying in the tub last night... I think it was just from exhaustion. We had our last baby shower over the weekend and a house full of guests afterward. I was just worn out and ready for some me time.