Okay so MY family's side of the pregnancy announcement drama. Long story short my mother is insane. She bullied me growing up calling me names (tramp, greasy hair etc) and shaming me, when I was 17 I thought I wanted a sex change and I told her and she shamed me and kicked me out and told my whole family. She found out I was suicidal and self harming and she laughed at me, called me an attention seeker, kicked me out and told me I wasn't welcome under her roof until I'd had psychiatric help. She's lied to my dad and told him I'm posting on Facebook saying I want to kill myself to deliberately cause trouble. She printed off chat logs of me talking about my self harm and suicidal thoughts and body hate, and showed them to my much adored nanna who died a month later thinking those awful things of her granddaughter. The worst thing I remember her doing is having loud phone/cam sex in the PC room when I was around 10 and my brother around 8, we thought something was wrong so we were trying to get in the room, when she realised we were opening the door she didn't stop, she just held the door shut from the inside. Ever since she kicked my out when I was 17 I haven't been on speaking terms with her.
She found out my brother's fiancée was pregnant over Facebook (my brother has cut her out of his life too for similar reasons) she messaged her saying "I didn't appreciate finding out that I was going to be a grandmother over facebook" blablabla. Brother's fiancée didn't reply.
I obviously don't want my mother in my baby's life for above reasons, so I had no intention of telling her about my pregnancy. My cousin wanted to tell her so that she wouldn't get it in the neck for keeping it from her and letting her find out over Facebook. She read my cousins message on the night of the party and didn't reply until the following evening simply saying thank you for telling me.
BUT my dad then received a message over Facebook from my mother's husband, asking to meet up to "discuss" things. My dad has agreed just purely out of curiosity of what he's got to say. I'm not looking forward to hearing the outcome tbh. What else can it be other than her husband laying on the guilt about how she's crying all day because neither of her kids want anything to do with her, she's still grieving over her own mother who died 4 years ago (she shrugged her shoulders when she found out she had cancer because it was "her own fault" for smoking, that's how much she doesn't care, and is just using her mothers death as a means to get attention, much the same as she is using "losing" my brother and I, after kicking us BOTH out of her house, as a means to get attention) and now she's devastated because she realises she has 2 grandchildren on the way and she isn't ever going to get to see either of them.
Honestly I knew as soon as I got pregnant I would get drama from her. This is just the beginning.
I am honestly convinced she will try to take my brother and I to court for access to her grandchildren, not that she has a leg to stand on in court without having ever met the children. She's also an alcoholic and the fact that both of her kids want nothing to do with her just goes to show what a horrible woman she really is.
When do you plan on announcing, Twinklie? Have you told anyone yet?
