Had a dr's appt today (36 weeks!) and I'm feeling much better, for a few reasons:
1) she agreed that the on-call doc had horrible bedside manner, but said he legitimately doesn't recognize that he does. He doesn't realize he's being a jerk - which for some reason makes me feel better? I don't know...but either way she agreed with us and apologized that it made a difficult experience even worse.
2) she told us that 5 of the 6 doctors in the practice WILL perform a VBAC - we just happened to encounter the one who doesn't. She put a note in my chart that if we show up in labor and he's the on-call doc, that they can call her at home and she will deliver my child. I love her.
3) she indicated that after 41 weeks, the risks involved in a VBAC do go up to the point that she does not feel comfortable going further than that. So, at the next appointment we are going to schedule my "just in case" VBAC at 41 weeks, on Wednesday November 26th. She wants me to feel like I really have a shot at it, and will even do sweeps or break my water if I'm progressed to the point where she can actually physically do it - just no pitocin, which I'm more than okay with.
So there it is. Reese has until November 26th to get out on her own, and if I show any progression, we can help her along some. Otherwise it's a RCS, but I can go into that comfortable that I gave her every chance to come out on her own.
OH - and my 3mm kidney stone is still there, but as long as it doesn't move around again, I should be fine. I'm on strict orders to drink 80-100oz per day, which is probably not the worst thing in the world anyway.