Chaos I love the picture of the kiss! My DD kisses my belly in the morning before she goes to kindergarten. I love it!
As for the party. It was DH who really didn't want to give in to his brother's request. Mostly because of this: The other week he by accident dialed the old GF's phone #, he quickly hung up realizing his mistake. A few hours later his brother called him telling him that the exGF wanted to know why he had called. DH said it was a mistake and had since deleted her number (BIL used to live with her so it was under his name in our phonebook). Anyway, then BIL started to ask about our birthday plans and DH told him but then got a call on the other line and had to let BIL go, we figured he was trying to figure out if the GF's boy was invited. DH called BIL yesterday to let him know when we were having the family birthday party and BIL then mentioned he was bringing the GF's kid and DH said that it was just family and no kids unlike previous parties when she was younger. BIL then asked if kid was invited to other party and DH said no because DD had not asked for him to be invited and then he started saying that he would pay for him to come but then mentioned he might not be able to drop off/pick up and that GF would have to - GF who we haven't spoken to since the breakup. Awkward! As for BIL being a part of this boy's life, it's weird but really not our business. We just think it odd since the BIL is saying he feels like the father and wants to be a part of the kids life for forever, but meanwhile the kid has his father's family (though not the father) in his life, along with his half brother's father and will most likely eventually have his mother's bf/husband in his life. On top of that BIL is really flaky and we'd hate to see him end up disappointing the child in the long run. And and and.. though he was a really great babysitter when he was dating the GF he never seemed like a dad and was horrible at discipline, setting examples, teaching him etc. So it's just weird... but whatever.
I asked DD who she wanted to invite and she said either some boy from her class or this other boy. So at this point I'm leaving it up to DH as he was the one who really had an issue but I told him if we're inviting the kid from class he has to make the call since I'm chicken.
Now if could just figure out the cake...