October Pumpkins 2016 [47 Pumpkins - 3 Boys, 2 Girls]

[Blessedbaby]

good luck Clandestine I hope you get a doula you like ...

 

[Jkelmum]

How we all doing ? My community midwife as decided me seeing her is pointless because I am at hospital twice a week.
My gp is being awkward and won't put my morphine on repeat until baby is born nor will he send me to pain clinic ... So I have to see him every 28 days to review my pain levels he as added codeine in as and when I need it so will try not to take it ...
How's everyone else
Sorry it's been so long my phone doesn't like this forum lol

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Blessed: thanks! We are meeting the first potential doula tonight and the other one next Friday. I don't think we have a bad choice, I think we have two very good choices to pick from!

@Jkel: I have a specialist for some issues, but still plan to deliver with a midwife. Is there a particular reason they won't keep you on?

 

[Jkelmum]

I'm having a section weekly scans and monitoring twice a week

 

[ClandestineTX]

That makes sense, I suppose, as they wouldn't monitor the same way.

 

[KatO79]

Clandestine hope your new round of testing goes well, FXed Hope you find the right doula! Yep I'm really pleased that everything is looking good with me and baby and that other than my low lying placenta (which has most likely moved by now), there haven't been any complications

AFM my DH seems to be behaving like a bit of an a**hole these days I think he's stressed at work and it sounds like there's a lot going on so think that's why, just hate that he takes it out on me. E.g. last night we were watching a movie after dinner ("Red Dragon" for the 2nd or 3rd time ever) and he kept falling asleep. I left him alone since he lately gets mad when I wake him up except for when he fell asleep with a beer bottle and was about to spill it all over himself and the sofa so had to wake him there. He woke up at one point asking about a plot point (why the murderer is being called the "Tooth Fairy") so I answered him. He then got pretty nasty and said that what I told him was BS and that they never mentioned anything about his teeth. I told him that they mentioned it while he was sleeping so how would he know, I admit I got a bit snippy because he was being mean about it. I can't even critcise him just a bit, sets him off too. Geez I hope that things soon get less busy at his job because it's making him a pain sometimes

 

[ClandestineTX]

We have met several doulas that we think would be amazing, holding off making a final decision until Friday as the one we think we'd love the most is out of town until then - will post about her on your journal, Kat, as she's a Dane and has an -ah name!

 

[Blessedbaby]

hi ladies

how's everyone doing ...

I think Im nesting ... I have been busy organising stuff and everything just irritates me ... tomorrow is a public holiday and I already told DH I hope he has nothing planned for tomorrow so we can sort out all his stuff lol he isn't impressed with me though ... Im meeting a possible nanny at 12pm today ...

Clandestine that's great ...

Kat my DH is like that sometimes too and he actually thinks Im the one being nasty LOL he said on Saturday it feels to him like he irritates me ... don't get me wrong HE does but I still love him

 

[KatO79]

Blessed sorry you and your DH have similiar issues. I'm hoping that mine will improve when we go on vacation, think he needs it as work has been crazy for him the last couple of weeks. He even worked at home part of Saturday and went to his workplace yesterday

Guess things are ok. DH and I have been busy cleaning since we're getting guests tomorrow - a friend of ours that lives in Spain with his Mexican wife (they got married last summer) are in Denmark visiting his family and are coming over to see our new house. Not completely done yet as we still need to clean up the living room plus office/guest dining room so hoping to get most of it done today. Going to wait until DH gets home though as I seem to tire more easily and my back can't take both vacumming and cleaning the floors anymore So only going to clear out anything that shouldn't be lying around in both rooms.

 

[ClandestineTX]

We had a go at the second hand shops yesterday! Hubster still has to make the crib, but no longer has to make a high chair. We found a fantastic, solid wood one for 110 USD that just needs to be refinished - it's almost exactly what I was going to have him make. We also went to Goodwill, a second hand shop, with a 20.00 "limit" just for fun and 23.29 later (due to a dinosaur sleeper we both agreed was worth breaking the limit for) we got like 10 little bodysuits, shirts, and sleepers from 3 months to 12 months. We aren't having the shower until Sept 10th, so between the things we bought overseas and at the shop, I feel like at least we have some things for our guy!

And Hubster posted some of our maternity shoot on Facebook with a lovely message and so far, everything seems OK. I'm still nervous because I'm still looking to change jobs, but if I do any other in person interviews, it's obvious I'm pregnant.

 

[KatO79]

Wow Clandestine sounds like you have plenty of clothes to start off with Wish they had more 2nd hand stores here but they don't seem to be much of a thing here. Great about that high chair! I think we're going to wait as the one we want is a bit expensive. But it's practical as baby will be able to use it also when older as a regular chair. We may just end up asking for it for baby's Christening, probably gonna mention it to my ILs since they're the ones who'll most likely buy it. Yeah I can see the problem. Here in Denmark, no one would hire you if they knew or suspected you of being pregnant (they don't want the bother of hiring you and then needing to hire someone shortly after to temp for you while you're on maternity leave) although I don't know how strict American employers are.

Wednesday we're going to my ILs to see what they have lying around of baby clothes though. It's stuff left over from DH's big brother's kids although I'm surprised anything is left. Might mostly be boy stuff though as I would think that most of the girl stuff was given to the ex-wife's sister that had a daughter a few years ago. We'll probably take everything they have as long as it's in good condition since we don't know what gneder baby is until (s)he's here

 

[ajarvis]

blessed I'm trying no more camping lol. I'm done work September 16th. Counting down the days

Kat that's an interesting theory about the head down and placenta! Mine is head down. I have my US today to see if it's moved


clandestine that's what i want to do in the next couple weeks - hit a goodwill or value village with a small dollar amount and see how much awesomeness we can find I couldn't imagine job hunting right now! Little different here maybe because we get a year mat leave, but I doubt anyone would hire me. Training would finish and I'd be off ha.

My Fiance went and cleaned out the baby's room yesterday! I finally feel like somethings happening lol. I now have to get all the boy stuff out of there and passed on. Then painted and do the one crib railing, and get the screws for the cradle. So So So close to being ready. I now feel like it's doable in the next 6-8 weeks

 

[ClandestineTX]

I get up to 12 weeks job-protected and not required to be paid leave, I have enough sick and vacation time that 8+ weeks will be paid. My job has really gone to hell here since about April due to external factors, so I have been looking for a new one that will start in Dec or Jan, which in my industry - they do hire really far out because of required background investigations before you can start. It's one of the biggest areas that people disagree on in the USA - whether or not society should hold responsibility over people's personal choices to have children. It is what it is at this point, I just know I don't want my current job anymore and would like a new one lined up ASAP, as just knowing there was an end in sight would make it easier to tough things out for now. As far as whether or not a prospective employer would care? I can't say. I know I wouldn't be comfortable sacrificing my paid leave from my current employer (and you usually have to work at least a year before being eligible for it at a new one) and it would be inconvenient for them. Changing just after my paid leave runs out seems to be the best strategy, so at that point having just had a baby won't be too big of a deal and I have my mom to help us out in the earlier months.

@ajarvis - I highly recommend it! I wasn't sure we'd find much at Goodwill, as I was assuming the smaller things wouldn't hold up well, but there was a lot of barely used or still had tags from original purchases because people got them as gifts they didn't like, had too much, or kids grew to fast to use them much - but just a 20.00 for fun trip was awesome. I don't expect a small baby, he's been measuring a little ahead and we were both large babies, so I'm getting a nice assortment of 3M through 12M clothes, so as he grows we have things on hand. It just kills me that we got all that for a little more than 20.00, which is what a single body suit would have cost at a place like BabyGap!

 

[KatO79]

GL ajarvis! My u/s is first on Friday early in the morning Great you're almost done with the room. I'm almost there myself with the cradle and changing dresser both put together. I think we're just missing getting a hanging lamp that fits in with the yellow color theme plus clearing a couple of things out.

 

[ajarvis]

clandestine I was in the mall saturday killing time while my youngest was at a birthday party and stopped in at gymboree because they were having a big "sale" and things were still 20 bucks for newborn! They wear it for like a few weeks tops. Crazy. My older kids were around 8lbs each. So I only plan on having a handful of newborn and the rest 0-3 etc.

Exciting eh Kat? Can't wait to get some paint I'd like to paint this weekend so my boys can help out! We shall see.

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Hey everyone!

I don't seem to get much time online these days - what with working, being exhausted and having a toddler to run after. I also started doing exercise classes twice a week which has been pretty awesome really - they've really given me more energy!

Glad to see everyone is doing well. Not long now

 

[Blessedbaby]

ajarvis same as me I also officially finish on 16 Sept although working from home most of the time

Clandestine great buys Im sure you will get much more at your shower ...

Kat Im also not having a shower this time around simply because I don't want one ... enjoy looking through all the baby stuff today

I haven't even started sorting Scotlynn's room and getting the crib into our room I have however spent the whole day yesterday sorting out through old clothes to give away and organised all our clothes drawers and wardrobes ... and started packing our winter clothes away ... its becoming warmer this side of the world which makes me so excited ... I have been feeling nauseous on and off since Monday and Im hoping its just something I ate and none of the first tri sickness creeping back ...

GL to everyone going for scans this week ...

 

[ajarvis]

Blessed here it's time to start checking winter gear to make sure we're prepared. Winter can start anywhere from Sept on lol. I actually dont even put the stuff away. the boots just go in the back of the closet

 

[KatO79]

Blessed here's hoping it's just something you ate! I had a day or two like that not long ago but nothing since. Sounds like you've definitely been busy! Envy it's getting warmer, here it's ever so gradually getting cooler.

As for clothes my IL's didn't have much really but we took most of what they had. Half of it was unmodern stuff from when DH and his brothers where born Only took a couple of items that could still be used as most of it was clearly 70s style. I'm thinking combining it with more modern stuff might make it ok, like take one of the 70s sweaters and use modern pants and a onsie.

Ugh and my toxic mother called while we where there which ruined an otherwise nice visit Apparantly my MIL mentioned we'd be dropping by that day so she called. She loudly complained about how she constantly tries to call me but never gets a hold of me which is BS - she hasn't called me in many, many months which suits me fine. I didn't bother contradicting her, there's no point and would only fuel the drama she's trying to create. She was really annoying but managed to get rid of her relatively quickly. My MIL then asked about if my toxic mother said anything about eating more and I had to tell her no and that I never reached to ask. I feel like this was clearly just a set up to make me look bad and horrible to my ILs

 

[Blessedbaby]

oh no Kat Im sorry you had to deal with that while visiting your IL's ... as for the clothes sounds like a plan to mix and match it ...

ajarvis this is my first year packing stuff away LOL must be the nesting

AFM - I have a cold my sinuses are blocked, my ears are ringing, my throat is sore and my head ... I took one codeine tablet now as my friend who is a nurse said its safe to take ... I just want to rest and get in as much fluids as I can ... I hope its my last cold for the winter ...