Official August Mummies Club!!

[Pippin]

Sorry to hear about your Dad hon I hope he gets better soon.

Woud love to se the pictures I'm starting our during half term in two weeks. x

 

[Waiting4Baby]

My OH finally felt kicks yesterday when he woke up! He rested his arm across the bottom of my bump and I could feel the pressure, that he was smashing Lincoln, so I told him "Oh, he's going to get pissed! He'll probably kick!" and sure enough he started kicking and OH asked me to say something each time he did it... he says he felt it!

 

[Shiv]

Hi ladies - it occured to me in the early hours of this morning when I couldn't sleep that I haven't heard anythign from Gabrielle on teh forum in a while. I hope she is ok - does anyone have an update?

Hope everyone is havign a nice weekend - I am sunburnt after a bbq on the beach - and keep finding sand everywhere

 

[Shiv]

I finally got around to taking a bump pic last night - on my phone so not very good quality unfortunately. I thought I would ease myself in (not brave enough to post in bump thread), so here it is!

 

[Pippin]

Waiting4Baby that's so cool. DH has felt mine a few times but he seems to go a bit shy when he is around. He's also in a very weird low down position today I could hardly hear him on the doppler just hope he is ok.

Shiv I was wondering the same thing as well. Hope she is good but I'm sure she'd tell us if she wasn't. And you look AMAZING hon you should post in the bump thread you look great

 

[jelr]

Thanks Pip, I really hope he will be okay soon too - but I'm gonna have a little rant now about him so hope you all dont mind cause I think this is gonna be a long one *sighs*

Basically my dad is an alcholic and most of the family except me had even stopped talkin to him but about 2 years ago he ended up in hospital and things came to a head as he was diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis, after 3 hospital stays he finally realised he had to stop as everytime he had a drink he was vomitting blood and extremely ill, he did stop but over the next year he still ended up in hospital at least once a month and I was the one that did the running around in and out of the hospital every day to see him, he then got a little councel house as him and my mum had seperated because of his drinking 8 years ago. It was me and my mum that cleaned out his flat and moved all of his stuff to his new house, and it was really really disgusting (like something out of how clean is your house) his new place was fully furnished by my mum, me and my sister and eventually with much presuation from me all of the family started to talk to him again and fences were mended as he was making the effort and had stopped drinking.

But as I am the eldest I did most of the running around after him and took him in with us for a while when he was at his sickest, I also did lots of cooking for him when he did move into his new place.

Now last feb he came to me and told me he had started to have a few drinks every now and again and I told him he was very silly as he had been told that he has a huge cyst in his pancreas and that if he did drink he could end up with pancreatic cancer, but I kinda brushed it all under the carpet as I didn't want to fall out with him and put extra pressure on myself with being pregnanct.

Well last wed week, my brother who was working with him tells me that he has turned yellow but that he was going to the doc on friday, he went to the doc and the doc told him to go straight to hospital and he told the doc a big lie and siad that he had a huge job on and could it wait till sun, the doc said he would advise him to go in now but he should be ok till Sun. So I called down and asked him what was he doing and did he realise how dangerous it was that it could mean that he is in liver failure and what was his reason for staying home and he said that he wanted to see the rugby match on Sat and that he would go in then, I got really upset and begged him to go in that I was really worried but he refused.

Eventually he went in on Sunday and I spent all week running in again, but on this wed we were discussing his diagnoses, which is that the cyst has doubled in size and is blocking the ducts in his liver so they will have to put a drain in to drain the cyst, we were then discussing what the specialist had said to him last and I commented on how he had missed his last couple of appointments with the specilist and he probably should have gone and then it all kicked off, he had an awful row with me and was really mean to me and said that I had been trying to conform him for years and that I should stop getting onto him as I seemed to have a real problem with him, I explained that I was a bit upset as I was used to his drink coming before me but It hurt that he wouldn't go to the hospital when I asked because of a silly match and that I had spent last weekend worrying silly that something would happend to him and that I had already lost one baby and didn't need the extra stress being pregnant and he was really horrilbe and said that so him and my mam had lost 3 babies (these were all over 20 years ago) and that what about the stress I had caused them when I was growing up.

I mean I am nearly 30 years of age and have not worried them about anything since I was a teen and really I didn't do anything out of the ordinary except maybe go out with the wrong boys and want to go places, but I wasn't a horrible teen or anything. he said some pretty horrible things to me and I ended up leaving the hospital in floods of tears and was so upset as all I have ever been guilty of is loving him and caring for him to much.

I have found the week so hard though as I haven't been back to see him since wed and I hate that he doesn't have any visitors as my younger siblings see it that he has done this to himself again. But I feel I can't go back in as I think he is going through withdrawals as he usually is very nice and we have a really good relationship when he is sober and if it was just me I am used to outbursts from him but I can't be that stressed out again for my LO's sake and DH is fuming with him and is fit to kill him.

I have phoned the hospital to check how he is and they are waiting to send him to Dublin for this operation but he hasn't even picked up the phone to apologise or even see how I am seeing as I was so upset leaving the hospital. I left in clean PJ's on Thurs with the nurses and he left me an abrubt voice mail telling me that he got them.

But it is so hard now to worry about him as no matter what he does I dont want anything to happen to him.

Anyway rant over, sorry it was all so long.

 

[jelr]

Oh gosh I have just realised I have wrote an essay not a post - sorry.

Yeah has anyone heard from gabby have finally caught up with posts and haven't seen anything from her in a while.

Shadow: hope your feeling better, great news with the council, hope the meeting about your OH daughter went well.

Cleckner: Love the pics of Emma's 3D, they are gorgeous.

Sam Star: So glad your results were good, sorry it was so tramatic.

Elly: Really glad the cysts have drained.

Love all the bump pics, you all look fab ladies

Smith: Delighted the contractions have stopped.

Girls I have read so many posts I can't remember any more. Congrats on all the viables and double digits. Well I think I have taken up enough of this post today.

 

[Pippin]

Aww jelr I don't really know what to say apart from sorry you and your family have had to suffer this for so long. I can only imagine the heartache it has brought you but I'm sure deep down he appreciates your support even if he can't vocalize it. I understand the need to stick by your parents and I applaud your loyalty so many would have given up. I hope one day he sees what a fantastic daughter he has

 

[Shiv]

oh jelr - i am so sorry you ar egoing through all this heartache with your dad. It sounds like you have always been there for him even when everyone else wasn't, and I think it is prety off of him to act like this. I think you are right to give him some time to cool off. You are also right to put you and your gorgeous little baby first. I hope that your dad sees sense soon and phones you to apologise. stay strong and remember that you have only ever been a good daughter

 

[Waiting4Baby]

Jelr -- I'm sorry you have all of that extra stress right now. I know anytime someone gets me really upset all I can think is how I shouldn't be stressed while pregnant, which stresses me more! Yikes.

Your dad probably didn't really mean what he said to you. He's probably scared and upset with himself, but can't really face that, so he lashed out a bit. I think we all do that sometimes, or at least have once or twice. I hope that he's okay and you two can make up better soon.

 

[leo]

Hi ladies - it occured to me in the early hours of this morning when I couldn't sleep that I haven't heard anythign from Gabrielle on teh forum in a while. I hope she is ok - does anyone have an update?

Hope everyone is havign a nice weekend - I am sunburnt after a bbq on the beach - and keep finding sand everywhere

hi hun spoke to gab last night in chat shes fine .
hope all is well im trying to get on with baby room but its not happening ill post when finshed prp in 3nd tri about a week before babe due lolxxx

 

[kaygeebee]

Hey ladies,

I've been a bit quiet on this thread of late. Everything's OK, but the hormones are getting me from time to time! I'm also really tired, and stuff at work is stressing me out .. only 8 weeks to go now for me .... can't go quick enough!! I haven't been sleeping great the last couple of nights - and I hope it's just a phase....

So today I pranged my car on someone else's There wasn't much damage - just a few scratches, but I was so upset over it and my complete lack of judgement. I just hope the person who's car I hit lets us sort it out away from the insurance (so I can keep my no claims) and it's not too expensive. I am still upset by it now - it's completely irrational, but I keep thinking that it could have been so much worse if I was going any faster.

 

[Pippin]

Aww Kaygeebee I hate it when that happens. Don't feel upset what is done is done and you probably just feel more embarrassed than anything. I had two accidents once 5 minutes apart one my fault one theirs, the insurance company couldn't work that one out so your not as bad as me. I have 10 more weeks of work so not far beind you. Feeling very uncomfortable today as lo has wedged himself in a very awkward position. I could hardly hear his heartbeat earlier it was so far down and far away. Hope he's ok in there.

 

[Vici]

Morning girla, heppy Sunday Got all my sheets and muslin square son the line atm and they look gorgeous

Pippin - I know, I can't believe the November mummies are over here now, and we really are the old school in town! How scary

Elly - you make sure you look after yourself, when is partner coming back to enable your hours to be cut a bit?

jelr - hope your dad is OK, must be so so hard for you Can't wait to see pics of your nursery

W4B - fab news that your OH has felt LO. I hardly feel anything yet so DF has no chance bless him People keep asking him if he's felt it and he says, well if Vic can't how the hell am I going to?!

Shiv - she was in chat the other day and all is fine and dandy Fabulous bump hun

kaygeebee - poor you Its just one of them things that happens and can't be helped. I know it doesn't feel like it to you but it really is. Countdown is on at work now, hoping it goes quick for you. Look after yourself xx

 

[kaygeebee]

Morning girls!

Feeling a little better today as I get to celebrate........


I'm Viable!!!

 

[Sam_Star]

Happy viability day kaygeebee!!!!
Jelr im so so sorry about your dad hun family always lash outon the ones closest to them when they are scared because they know they will be forgiven xxxxx
Im in a bit of a pickle over Elinor's name....
Should i spell it Elinor May or Elynor Mae????????

 

[kaygeebee]

Personally I like Elinor May - but I guess that's just personal opinion!

I think maybe if you spell it the other way, she will spend her time constantly spelling her name out to people? Both are nice though.

 

[Sam_Star]

Thanks hun i thinki prefer the original way i know DH does but i had to get everyone elses opinions lol!!

 

[tillymum]

Hey ladies so excited my baby is

VIABLE TODAY!!!!!!




As you can gather im soooo pleased ive been waiting for this milestone for what seems like forever!!!


Ok ill back track now and read all the posts over the last few days.

ohhh cant wait to see my ticker with 24wks when this is posted!

 

[tillymum]

ohh congrats Kaygeebee were both celebrating today yippee!