Ohhh Sarah, I can't imagine the mind games your emotions must be playing on you right now; soooooo much happening all at once! Just being pregnant is huge, or just loosing the tip of your finger is huge too, but both at once!??
You are doing amazingly hun, you might not feel like it now, but you are being soooooo strong and doing sooo well!! You will be an incredible mamma!!! I firmly believe things happen for a reason. Be it 'god' or 'fate' or 'karma' or whatever; things happen for a reason. So as damn hard as this is with your finger dramas on top of being newly pregnant, there IS a reason for it all to be happening now, how it is, rather than at different timing!!!
It wasn't on here I got blasted ny, it was on a facebook group. Although I've tread on some toes here recently too...
I think my problem is that I research things to death, so tend to spout off a lot of info about stuff I feel strongly about (and therefore have researched a lot of), and that can come off as being 'high and mighty'? I never mean to be, but I dunno, I think some people are scared of information, in case they find out they're "wrong" (though IMO there IS no 'right' or 'wrong' way to parent!!!) and then feel guilty...???? As far as I'm concerned though; NO ONE, but yourself, can
make you feel guilty. So do your research and/or
own your own beliefs and decisions without taking offence at everyone else who is different or blaming others for causing you to feel guilty! (I mean a generic 'you', not a specific 'you'!)
I have some strong ideas about parenting, and do follow a lot of the 'natural' or 'attachment' parenting ideals, but I spend a lot of time with more 'mainstream' parents without an issue, cos as far as I'm concerned there IS no issue; we ALL love our kids!!!!!!!
And as for breast feeding, I know one of the ladies in my antenatal group was led to believe that due to her very inverted nipples, she wouldn't be able to breastfeed. As a result she never tried and has bottle fed from the start. (turns out that with support and hard work she probably could have... but that's me researching again so I haven't gone there with her cos she's happy with her choice!) I'm sure there are other physical reasons why someone wouldn't breast feed (a friend of a friend is getting breast reduction surgery, and it is quite possible that as a result she won't be able to breast feed. I also know of mastectomy mums who can't breast feed for obvious reasons!!!) and then there's the emotional reasons; abuse or personal beliefs; real or imagined!!! And then there's those who tried with their first bub, and had nothing but trouble, so decide to not even try with their next ones and go straight to a bottle. Often that is from a lack of proper support or knowledge though too (ie the 6 week mark when soooooooooo many women think their supply has 'gone' due to a hungry crying baby [growth spurt] and soft 'empty' boobs [your supply has regulated] when with the knowledge that it's NORMAL for that to happen, women can push through it and continue fine... Without that knowledge though, most resort to a bottle to fill up bub, which in turn damages the supply/demand process and then you DO start to loose your supply.....!)
basically there are dozens of reasons why women do and don't breast feed, and it is an 'each to their own' thing really; I'd never judge someone for bottle feeding off the bat just because I've never given Caleb a bottle in his whole life! BUT at the same time I don't want to be judged for being proud of never having given Caleb a bottle... *sigh*
Anyway, like I said, we all ADORE our kids, so in the end that is the main thing; we all want to do the best for us and our kids, and that'll be different for everyone!