Over 30 & still trying for baby #1

[MellyH]

Butterfly, it makes total sense that you would be frustrated, you shouldn't count just from June, the whole journey has been long for you.

We start trying in a few months, being over 30 I wanted to suss things out in advance and see what I should be taking/doing/familiarising myself with before we start! I'm a planner.

 

[highhopes2013]

Hope all is well itsawonder. AF is in full swing for me now so thinking ahead to another month of BDing every other day. Got my ivf review appointment next week hopefully that will shed some light on why my ivf cycle didnt work this time. My due date is getting closer and I'm finding it really tough tonight, feel heartbroken! Trying to push it to the back of my mind. Sorry dont want to depress all you lovely ladies!

 

[ItsAWonder]

HH - Sorry due date is coming up and you are not pregnant. It's tough. I hope you get answers at your IVF review and hope the next cycle works. Don't they say that it takes up to 3 tries usually? Maybe that means the next one will.

Please don't apologize for being down. First, it's not depressing and second, that's why we are here. To cheer each other on and cry with each other when sad. I am glad you are speaking your mind.

All is well here. No AF today and I took some more tests which are darker. Still no real symptoms although I am starting to get some feelings in my uterus. Kind of like little electrical shocks like if you like a battery (which yes I did as a kid a few times). Same sensations I got last pregnancy at this time.

 

[MrsDuck]

Itsawonder I'm glad all is going well, it's a bit scary when the stretching starts as to me it felt a bit like af cramps, not long til you see your miracle

Highhopes I'm so sorry the witch arrived, don't feel sorry for being down, we all have ups and down and it's better to share rather than bottle things up. Due dates are tough but I hope your next appointment goes well and it's third time lucky for you

I tried my Doppler tonight but I couldn't find anything, which didn't surprise me as its still really early, but the Doppler was there staring at me I couldn't resist

 

[ItsAWonder]

Make it past my first hurdle. No sign of AF yesterday. Phew!

 

[MrsDuck]

Yay

 

[highhopes2013]

Yay itsawonder! I have everything crossed for u.

Thanks is for the support ladies. It's so great to know others who understand how crappy it feels to go through this! I just got an email from some baby-related company congratulating me on my 40th week of pregnancy. Sucks! Must have been something I signed up for when I was pregnant. The next week will be tough, just want the due date over and done with. FC for my next ivf cycle! Yes they do say it takes three goes.

 

[MellyH]

Oh HH, that email must have been a shock. Everything is crossed for your next cycle!

 

[flou]

Yay itsawonder! I hope you have a sticky one!

Highhopes sorry for the email you got. If you are anything like me you are thinking why can't the universe give you a break! And i hope it will be third time lucky for you with ivf. Fxd!

 

[MrsDuck]

Highhopes Sorry for the crappy email

I hope you are all having a great weekend, I can't wait for your scan Monday itsawonder

 

[highhopes2013]

Good luck for the scan tomorrow itsawonder!

Thanks for the support ladies. I'm trying very hard to be ok...you all know how it is. Comes and goes in waves. I'm looking forward to my appointment with the consultant on Tuesday, hopefully he will give me some answers as to why it didn't work this time.

Hope the rest of you are ok! CD6 for me today so hoping to get busy later

 

[ItsAWonder]

Highhopes - good luck bd'ing and at your appointment. I think it will work the next try, if not naturally.

Thanks ladies for the well wishes for tomorrow. Still not really feeling anything but I am still very, very early. I did take some tests and they keep getting darker so at least I know my HCG is rising. Will let you all know how the scan goes tomorrow afternoon. I think I am 8 hours behind London time so it will be night time for most of you.

 

[flou]

Good luck itsawonder! It sounds positive that the tests are getting darker. I have my fxd for you.

 

[MrsDuck]

Itsawonder I just know everything will be fine tomorrow, I hope you get a pic

 

[Buttrflyl553]

Thanks melly! Completely understand about planning. I am a crazy planner so this process drives me nuts just not knowing.

Itsawonder excited about your scan! Good luck with everything! Darker is great and sometimes there are no symptoms for some.

Highhopes crossing my fingers for your next IVF and appt.

Flou where are you with everything? I don't recall you mentioning AF so wondered. Sorry if I missed it.
How are you feeling mrsduck? When is the next scan?

Anything new hilslo?

CD 13 for me and almost in TWW. AF is due pregnancy and infant loss awareness day of October 15....

 

[flou]

Hi buttrfly. AF came and has now passed. Im on cd10 and will probably O at the weekend. My DH's grandmother died a couple of days ago and all she wanted was to be a great grandmother. She would have been if i hadn't mc. Not that im religious but wherever she is now i hope she is looking after my angel. So life is a bit hectic at the mo. Anyway hope everyone else is well. Ive made an appt with my GP to be referred back to the fertility specialist but my appt isn't until 25th October. How's everyone else doing?

 

[ItsAWonder]

Flou - so sorry about DH's grandmother. I know eventually they all have to go but it's so hard to say goodbye. It's been years since my last grandparent passed but I still think about them everyday.

Hope things go well w/ the specialist or that you find out you are pg before your appointment!

Had my scan today and I have a blip!! The internal probe was broken so we just did an abdominal scan. We were all nervous we would not be able to see anything but there is an 8mm sac. Have another scan scheduled in 1 1/2 weeks (one week from Thursday) to look for a yolk and hopefully fetal pole.

Also had HCG tested today and will go back this Wed and next Monday.

 

[MrsDuck]

It's awonder that's fantastic news, your next scan is the same day as mine I'm glad they are looking after you, I'm really pleased for you

Flou I'm sorry to hear about dhs grandmother, I've only got one grandparent left
I hope your specialist appointment goes really well, will they book you in for the next round of IVF at this appointment too?

 

[Buttrflyl553]

Sorry flou I guess I missed AF for you. We are 4 days apart! Sorry to hear about DH's gma but very sweet thought you had.
Yay itsawonder great news! Also great you and mrsduck have scans on the same day! For your next scan you will be 10 weeks mrsduck? How far along with you be itsawonder?

 

[ItsAWonder]

At my next scan I will be 6 weeks 1 day so we are hoping we see a fetal pole and a flicker. My doc said that the flicker is not actually the heartbeat but I forgot to ask him what it is if not a HB. Maybe he doesn't consider it a heartbeat until the heart is fully formed.