Overwhelming Jealousy towards preg ladies

[Braven05]

its awful theres people out there blessed with a child and just dont know how much.

@ Braven- 5 months or 5 years it still hurts us doesnt it.
i love given people advice and support i just cant feel really happy for any bfps unless trying for ages,its not that im unhappy with others bfp its just iv been waiting so long along with others and feel its about time.

@mountaineer-- lol i deleted at least 5 people of fb in last month

@mrsessex its crazy i know none of the other tests in batch gave me bfp b4 that one 8dpo. iv never heard of it

@bethen it may seem like a mean thread but i think its good for everyone to feel this is normal and it doesnt make u bad person
@seoj.iv tried some craxy stuff
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Completely understand...its very hard and can't imagine how much harder it might be in a year or so if it still hasn't happened for me. And I'm sure EVERYONE feels jealous and upset when they see something that they want really bad, but its how they choose to deal with those emotions. Its all about how you treat people. I'm a believer in karma...to a degree. Anyways...I always feel really bad when I see women on here who've been trying forever or who've had multiple losses and then the women/girls who are super fertile and try for no time at all and fall pregnant straight after stopping BC...but they're normal feelings for sure.

 

[ebony2010]

Firstly I want to send out to all the ladies who have been trying for so so long. Have you all looked into fertility treatment or had tests?
I'm only on my 9th cycle ttc #1 and I'm losing the plot already so I can't even begin to imagine how it must feel to have been trying for longer. It does sting when people just fall pregnant straight away but we just need to stay positive and supportive to each other to get through this.
More xxx

 

[babyhopes2010]

dr refuses to test me as i was on depo.she said she will see me this time next year.if im not pregnant by febuary i shall ask for second opinion! x

 

[BobDog]

i saw this and tried to reply earlier, but internet crashed on me

i too feel this way it's been 29 months for me and dh and still no luck, my 3 best friends are all in the baby bay, one has a 4 yo boy and another on the way... she is single! the other has just had a little boy, and the 3rd had just told me that she is pregnant! she is only about 3-4 weeks gone, but it still cushed me! all 3 of them!

being left behind when you are longing to be up there with them and get that special sticky bfp!!



love and luck to you for your bfp coming soon!
xx

 

[lintu]

I went through this a few cycles ago, I'm on cycle 11 this mth and i can say it has gotten easier.

Although I have had to hide newly PG friends on facebook, just felt like it was being rubbed in my face

xxxx

 

[ebony2010]

dr refuses to test me as i was on depo.she said she will see me this time next year.if im not pregnant by febuary i shall ask for second opinion! x

Good luck! Sometimes you have to fight for what you should be entitled to.

 

[babyhopes2010]

i know i was so upset i couldnt fight back.
she told me to just be patient the depo takes ages to get outta ur body
im not very patient

 

[Braven05]

Can't believe that...the things it would have been nice to know beforehand!

 

[babyhopes2010]

i know he said altho depo wears off and it can take up to 5years to get pregnant as it remains in ur fatty tissues that why they say detox diets can help.
iv only started ovulating i think. x
she said its normal for it to take 3 years to get pregnant.they forced me into depo without asking me whether i valued my fertilty

 

[Braven05]

Oh my god, how is that possible? I had NO idea about depo taking so long to get out of your system! What is the detox diet? Have you tried that?

 

[ebony2010]

i know i was so upset i couldnt fight back.
she told me to just be patient the depo takes ages to get outta ur body
im not very patient

Me neither. Once I decide I want something I have to have it NOW or at least obsess about how I'm going to get it soon.

Good luck and go and get that 2nd opinion. Some doctors are so laid back and others are really proactive, so hopefully you'll strike lucky. Try and tell them how its affecting your life. If they think its causing depression or something they sometimes act a bit faster. I talk from experience, not from ttc stuff but from other stuff I suffer with. x

 

[babyhopes2010]

Oh my god, how is that possible? I had NO idea about depo taking so long to get out of your system! What is the detox diet? Have you tried that?

thinks like green tea and taking maca
id have browse on the net

 

[ebony2010]

i know he said altho depo wears off and it can take up to 5years to get pregnant as it remains in ur fatty tissues that why they say detox diets can help.
iv only started ovulating i think. x
she said its normal for it to take 3 years to get pregnant.they forced me into depo without asking me whether i valued my fertilty

5 years!!!!!!!! I bet they don't mention that when they first give it you.

 

[babyhopes2010]

yep and even doctor said about increased risk of miscarriage and damage to ur bones,weight gain ,i wish i had that dr to warn me not the one that encouraged it.

 

[babyhopes2010]

bump

 

[janeybaby]

yep and even doctor said about increased risk of miscarriage and damage to ur bones,weight gain ,i wish i had that dr to warn me not the one that encouraged it.

I have been reluctant to post on this thread as I already have 3 children and feel selfish TTC#4 when most of you are longing for #1!!

But even though I have had children I too still feel the same whenever I see a bump, newborn or Facebook status about being pregnant Infact I try and stay off facebook these days and spend most my time on here. BFP announcements on here don't seem to bother me as much.... ok maybe those who have only been TTC a month I try and see BFP's from here as a PMA boost when they come from people who have overcome difficulties to get them.

Anyway Im on 14 months TTC since depo, my doctor told me they would do 21 day progesterone test (although its not cd21 as my cycles are 34days average) after I had been off depo a year (which I have). Babyhopes DO go and get a second opinion, my doctors said it takes usually a year too 18 months for fertility to return after the depo. 5 yrs seems a long long time.

 

[Gemmamumof2]

i didnt want to post as trying for 3rd and feel selfish but im exactly the same!!

my best friend is pregnant and went pushchair shopping todat luckily she is my best mate and knows everything and shes brilliant with it all but hurt sooo much (but i managed choose my future buggy..

i got to stage i had dream ast night i was pregnant and woke up jelous of my pregnant self in dream..... :s

i been trying 3 years thinking was going to be easy as daughter was soo young but no! gets harder each month.

ive had 2 nephews and my best mate on her 2nd within that time!!

 

[susan36]

i did post but it wasnt till after i had thought abt it i felt selfish , i have 3 teenagers , but my hubby dont have any and its killing him every month, its him i feel more hurtful for as he is a gr8 guy and would make a brill father .

 

[babyhopes2010]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqfGqOx2iDQ

this sums up how i feel.and yes i have a friend who this song refers to as 'jenny'

 

[MrsMatt]

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for the fact you're hurting, Babyhopes... and sending you lots of love and best wishes for the BFP you long for.

Big Hugs, honey xxxxxxxx