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[blueblue]

Dairy, thank you . Hope the winter goes quickly for you, if your OH is MTHFR does he have to take folate too? Sorry the baby news is everywhere, fb etc is really hard to deal with.

Loeylo, glad your scar is getting better . Bf is hard, I'm expressing and using formula to top up but she really doesn't like bf and gets either grumpy or sleepy. She's thriving at the moment and putting on weight so think I need to stop beating myself up about it. I think you can restart it but it can be difficult x

Just realised it's October 22 today, this day last year I had an 8 week scan and we saw a heartbeat and some development, the baby died the next day and we found out at 10 weeks. Can't believe I'm holding our rainbow a year later x

 

[dairymomma]

Blue-from what I understand, he does not need the folate. I have the C677T mutation while he has the A1298 mutation and they affect the body differently. I'm still learning about both but I do know our mutations aren't the same and he likely doesn't need the extra folate. We had the test done on our own so no dr was involved hence my lack of knowledge right now.

 

[blueblue]

Dairy, hope you get some guidance soon x

 

[Hope39]

I got my dressing and staples removed today, the midwife is really happy with it so far. Still not looked but my oh has and he claims you can hardly see it.

Blue hopefully you will be able to breastfeed your baby again soon, I wish I had tried to bf but I was so out of it I didnt trust myself to hold her until hours later, by that point she had already been bottle fed and I was too sore to hold her properly as I could only have paracetamol and ibuprofen for pain relief.

Do they still staple? Ouchie. Both my c sects have been dissolvable stiches

You could have still breastfed hun, Oscar didn't latch till he was 2.5weeks old, he had a bottle up to when he latched . In hospital he just gad colostrum from a beaker

Xx

 

[loeylo]

Yes, my surgeon was quite old fashioned and apparently always staples, the other ladies in my ward all had dissolvable stitches - although all the midwives have told me that apparently a stapled incision is neater when it heals so we will see.

I wish I had tried harder with the breastfeeding but at least she is feeding well on formula (she's on 120ml every 4-6 hours!!)

 

[NDH]

Blue Oct 22 was a significant date for me too, as it was the due date of my 3rd angel baby. Was a very bittersweet day for me, and I ended up finally going public with my pregnancy that day. Only immediate family and a few friends had known up to that point.
This was our announcement video.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=4h5ENxeOoL8
Gah I don't know how to make it display the URL so you can at least redirect to YouTube since the video doesn't like to embed for some reason.
https:// youtube .com/watch ?v=4h5ENxeOoL8

Try removing the spaces and see if that works.

 

[DSemcho]

Hey how is everyone doing???

 

[blueblue]

NDH, that's so lovely, I'm in tears again. x

Hope, I had stitches too, the scar only started to get infected when they came out. Glad you got Oscar to latch . I don't think Ellie is latching properly, we tried today and she stayed on for 30 mins, the first time she has stayed on this long since we had her 3 weeks ago, but then she was hungry for her bottle feed and didn't have much less than normal

D - how are you? Hope you are enjoying your little rainbow. Mine is 3 weeks old now and I'm still in shock x

 

[wookie130]

Nothing wrong w/supplementing when necessary, gals. I have two highly intelligent children that were formula-fed...and they are healthy, happy, beautiful kiddos who are both very bonded to me Feed & love that baby in the way that you can - really, that is all that matters!

Both of my c-sections used dissolving stitches also...I was very relieved to not have to have any staples removed. My scar is nearly invisible, also.

Dairy, I've had baby fever off and on, but I think we're going to stick to the two kiddos we've been blessed with. Financially it wouldn't make sense to bring a third into it, and logistically it changes most everything for us...so, we're going to remain a family of four! Best of luck to you while you get everything figured out!

 

[dairymomma]

Wookie-Baby fever left the house around the same time AF arrived so I'm thinking it was hormone induced. Now I'm on the opposite end of things and the idea of another pregnancy has me shaking. But I'm not making any decisions as yet because we have a few more months of wtt first. I will say that if we choose to stop ttc now, I am okay with it.We've been more than blessed with my 3 rainbows and we've always kept adoption as an option too.

Blue-supplementing or breastfeeding, your LO is eating and that's the important thing. I've had supply issues with all three of my kids and nursing just hasn't worked out for me as a result no matter what I've tried. (And I've tried it all...) Don't beat yourself up for it and enjoy the fact that DH can help with feedings. Not so easy for him to pop out a boob, eh?

D-how's things going? Hope all is well with you and your little family.

 

[blueblue]

Thanks Wookie and Dairy. I'm going to carry on expressing and topping up with formula for now, then see how I get on. The problem with expressing is I haven't had as much time with her as I would've liked, but I think I'm over the worst now so will give a go for a while at least.

Dairy, glad the baby fever has left the house and it's a little bit easier for you. Hope it continues to get easier x

 

[mowat]

My twin boy didn't figure out breastfeeding until he was around 4 weeks old. I tried on and off and then one day he got it! Fortunately his twin sister had kept my supply going! Now they're both great with bottles and boobs.

 

[blueblue]

that's great mowat . Over here we are always told that we shouldn't use a bottle as it will stop the baby breastfeeding, this isn't really the case, even my little one went on the other night (I don't think she was latched properly, but she's still trying) after a while of not trying to bf. I think this backfires as we then sometimes think it stops us breastfeeding. Ironically, the hospital cup fed little one in neo natal and suggested I did it on postnatal (they prefer this to bottle to help breastfeeding), I think this has actually made her a really quick feeder who can finish her bottle in about ten mins

 

[Hope39]

that's great mowat . Over here we are always told that we shouldn't use a bottle as it will stop the baby breastfeeding, this isn't really the case, even my little one went on the other night (I don't think she was latched properly, but she's still trying) after a while of not trying to bf. I think this backfires as we then sometimes think it stops us breastfeeding. Ironically, the hospital cup fed little one in neo natal and suggested I did it on postnatal (they prefer this to bottle to help breastfeeding), I think this has actually made her a really quick feeder who can finish her bottle in about ten mins

Cup feeding is ridiculous, I did it with Oscar and he lost so much weight we ended up in a&e on day 5

x

 

[wookie130]

Ugh, I hated the dreaded SPOON when we were trying to breastfeed Hannah. Ummm...yeah right. That was a nightmare.

 

[blueblue]

Neo natal told me they didn't let parents cup feed due to the risk of aspiration, then postnatal told me to do it, I didn't feel happy with trying. Hope Oscar is doing well now Hope, did he lose weight due to the milk going everywhere? Really struggling with expressing, want to spend all my time with her but have to spend so much expressing and still not getting enough milk for her x

 

[Hope39]

Neo natal told me they didn't let parents cup feed due to the risk of aspiration, then postnatal told me to do it, I didn't feel happy with trying. Hope Oscar is doing well now Hope, did he lose weight due to the milk going everywhere? Really struggling with expressing, want to spend all my time with her but have to spend so much expressing and still not getting enough milk for her x

He is doing fab now, he is gaining about 10oz a week. His birthweigh was 5lb12oz, he then went down to 5lb and at last weeks weigh in (6weeks old) he was 8lb 2oz

He lost weight because he couldnt latch properly and i had nothing to express my milk off with (i had ordered a medela which hadnt arrived). I never thought to go buy a hand pump When we went to a&e on day 5 my milk had come in and i expressed over 300ml and then my pump arrived the next day. I was expressing around 150-200 ml at each feed so we have stacks of milk in the freezer

Not sure if we will end up using the milk in the freezer though because i have cut out dairy now. He did a lot of grunting, groanig and straining for weeks so has given himself a hernia that needs operating on within the next week or so. We arent sure what was causing him an upset tummy so i have cut out dairy and we have been giving him colief (lactase enzymes) since saturday and he is like a new child he is only waking once in the night for a feed as opposed to grunting all night and keeping me awake

Im dreading his operation, he is so small to be put to sleep but i know he will be better for it

xx

 

[blueblue]

Glad Oscar is doing well now, that's a great weight gain, sorry he has to have his operation but it will make him better.

Glad you know what was causing his bad tummy and he is feeling a lot better. The breast pump drought is a nightmare, I only had a hand one (which didn't work for me...) the night after getting home and had to hand express through the night until I rented a Medela the next day. Glad it's going well for you now . Milk still only at 50-70ml every two to four hours, think it's still delayed x

 

[Hope39]

I think my supply is a bit all over the place, my oh took the Medela to pieces to clean and now it doesn't work with the batteries. Some days I've had to leave house for 6 hours aNd can't pump. He them went through a phase of letting me sleep through the night so again I didn't pump for 6 hours

I just pump once a day now and put in freezer for when im out x

 

[hopeful23456]

just a tip on medela electric pumps, change the little thin white round rubber piece every few weeks or so, it makes the pump work so much better, can't remember what that thing is called!