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[puppycat]

I'm sure at my last 12 weeks scan (nearly 3 yrs ago) they had me have a little wee so apparently I was too full of wee!

 

[Kaylattc]

They told me when I was young I wouldnt have kids and then I miscarried but then I has a live birth and I thought I was better but the doctors said that was a miracle... So now I am just lost and grateful at least I have one.... But my husband and I want at least one more and I just can't carry full term I don't get it... I feel broken and he told me this Mormon take care of m baby while I'm gone and then I have to tell him another one died and it's my body my fault...

What am I doing wrong? Why can't I carry full term? I really hope my fertility specialist can tell me everything. My doctor is sending me to a specialist since clomid doesn't work for me.

My doctor is suggesting ivf so I guess that's my next step...

 

[daviess3]

Oh ladies I was going to ask that I'm gonna do what u say pip xxx
Kayla so sorry my lovely take it easy we r all here if u need us so sorry xxxx

 

[heart tree]

Kayla, have you found the https://www.babyandbump.com/miscarriage-support/127351-recurrent-miscarriage-thread.html? It's a great group of women who can offer advice on what tests you might ask for. I'm glad you are getting a referral to a specialist. There are a lot of advances in fertility these days and there might be something they can pinpoint and fix. Again, I'm so very sorry this is happening again. We all understand the pain.

 

[heart tree]

Davies, are you getting bloods done along with your NT scan?

 

[hopeful23456]

croy and heart - I didn't have to have a full bladder or anything in my bladder at all! maybe it depends on their equipment?

kay - so sorry to hear that...so is this a chemical? how far along were you?

round - no big announcements yet but now I don't mind telling people, much of my family knows and my dad has told a few people. i don't think i can ever do a facebook announcement as i don't go on there anymore, it was way too painful for a long time to go on it. but at least i can just tell more people that I know.

 

[croydongirl]

Kayla I am so sorry. I know that words are not very comforting but I hope you can feel the support we are sending your way. We have sadly all been in your shoes - but I have hope that you will have another baby one day. I hope that that the doctors can find a way to help you.

I have had 5 miscarriages, all before 6 weeks and now this one looks like it is sticking? I am on progesterone from a few day after ovulation, baby aspirin and a steroid to suppress my cortisol. I am not sure what if any of those are making the difference, they never found anything officially wrong with me. Try and have hope, and in the mean time hold on tight to your beautiful little one.

Thanks for all the water tips ladies. I was a bit confused because at my OB she did a belly scan last week and my bladder was full and she said it made it harder for her to see so I wasn't sure how it could be helpful to have a full one to diagnose and take measurements etc. I will be a good girl, and always have a water bottle with me just in case.

It has been crazy snowing in Seattle this weekend and there is supposed to be another dumping in a day or so. I am really hoping that in all the mess (we don't know how to deal with snow!) the scan won't get moved.

 

[heart tree]

Croy, your cold air is making it down my way. We've had some amazingly warm days, but that's all about to end. We're supposed to get freezing temperatures tonight which is pretty rare here. And then a big rainstorm. I'm actually looking forward to it as it denotes a change in season. I miss the seasons.

Weird that they had a harder time seeing on a full bladder. Maybe they like just a little in there. I think the smaller the baby is, the more they need a full bladder. We're getting to a point where our babies are of a significant size!

I'm so nervous/excited about my NT scan. I just want to get it over with.

Hopeful I'm torn about making an announcement on FB. I'm never on there and get annoyed by all the announcements from everyone else. On the flip side, I feel like I've more than earned my right to announce it. Knowing myself, I'll probably just post pictures for my family to see and people will eventually stumble across them and see my belly. We'll see. I have a feeling my husband might make more of a deal about it on his FB page than I will. He's getting very excited about this little one. It's so cute.

 

[daviess3]

Heart I'm having the blood done to? Don't think I will get my results same day though normally takes a week I think?? Any uk ladies no??
With regards to fb I have always moaned if my friends were to do it!! An post scan pic especially as I am not good at looking at them! Didn't look at my first babies until a year later so didn't want to check out anyone else's!! But I feel like I have earned that!! But then I wouldn't want to upset anyone either!! X

 

[heart tree]

They made me get my bloods way in advance so I could have all the results the day of the scan. I guess I'm happy about that. I'll be happy as long as the results are good. My husband's cousin only got the bloods and was given a 1 in 16 chance of having a baby with Down's. She decided not to do any further testing and ended up having a perfectly healthy baby girl.

Davies, I think you've earned the right too! We all have. In regards to hurting other people's feelings, I've decided if I ever do announce it on FB, I would also mention my 4 losses. Most people know and I don't mind if everyone knows.

I'm trying not to think that far into the future though. I'm trying to take things one day at a time. If I can get through today and hear my baby's heartbeat, it's a good day.

 

[Kaylattc]

Thank you everyone.

I am getting a scan this week to see if this was a chemical or a MC. My last af was on November 26 I think and that was following a MC... I also have PCOS so I do not have a specific ovulation date... I normally ovulate a couple times a year.

I really hope the specialist can help. I am holding my daughter so tight. She is my little miracle. She keeps telling me I need to make a new baby for her to play with. My step kids are boys and they are 12 and 9... She says she doesn't like any boys except Justin bieber lol

She is helping me through this. Just looking at her makes me feel better. Even if she is the only baby I can have I am lucky to have her and she is my little mini me twin so every time I look at her I know I made her and it is comforting. Especially after the doctors said I could not have kids.

Croyd- how far along are you now? Do you have PCOS is that why you are on steroids? What did you use to get pregnant just those?

Did any of you use ivf? How many round till you got pregnant?

Thank you everyone! I am going to migrat back to the Misscarrage forums again... Hopefully I'll be back over here next month.....

 

[heart tree]

Kayla, I know many women who have PCOS who ended up having babies. If Clomid isn't working to get you to ovulate, there are other meds to take. The fact that you had one baby speaks volumes. You obviously can have a baby. I have hope that the specialist can help sort some of this out. We're here and ready for you to join us again whenever you are ready!

 

[heart tree]

Oh, and no, I didn't use IVF. I did IUI with this cycle and got pregnant the first try. I don't have PCOS, but ovulate later in my cycle than most women. Around days 21-28. I used Femara (similar to Clomid) and the hcg trigger shot to get me to ovulate sooner and stronger. It worked beautifully. So far so good. This is the longest pregnancy I've ever had.

 

[Kaylattc]

Thank you!

 

[Kaylattc]

everyone!!! Happy 9 months to you all. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨sticky dust for you all✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

 

[daviess3]

Heart I wish I could do mine before! U have them same day here!
As for fb I agree def say bout losses an b tactful! My only problem is my step children are on fb an no I lost first baby but not others so I'm kinda just thinking I won't bother! But for work people I would like to! I have so many work colleagues who I don't see from one year to the next!! I don't no like u said! Worry bout that later! Xx

 

[croydongirl]

Kayla I am 11weeks and a few days now. I do not have PCOS. My doctor put me on the steroids because I have anxiety and even though I am not on meds for it anymore, when you very first get pregnant your body produces the hormone cortisol. I had done some research and found that some stats showed the really high levels of cortisol in early pregnancy can cause miscarriage.
I asked abo9ut it and she said it could be a possibility because in my early pregnancies I had had severe anxiety symptoms. So as soon as I got a positive hpt I started taking dexamethasone at a very low dose. We don't know if that made the difference, or if we just got our miracle, but we are hoping it sticks.

I really hope the doctors can offer you some encouragement. I hope you have good support around you in the coming days and weeks ahead.

 

[hopeful23456]

finally caught up from this morning's chats.
lou - congrats on your good u/s too! you have pics?
fili - Yes! i would try again but i would use opk to make sure
puppy - you look thinner! cute bump!
davies - i'm not doing kegels. don't want to do too much stuff down there, don't care if i pee my pants

so my bf, with her first, was on bedrest at 20 weeks or so? and she thought her water broke, went to the emergency room and they told her she had just peed her pants...lol

mandy - it is good that they saw some stuff. hoping the next u/s shows more growth too! the waiting is so hard.

florida! how many follies did you have release? luckily i haven't puked at all but i hear it can be really bad with twins. i hope you feel better! some other girls i'm online with have used zofran and it makes you really constipated so they also take miralax (it's power you mix with a drink). it's harmless, i've taken it when not preg but haven't had to when i'm preg.

 

[croydongirl]

I had such a hard time with facebook announcements but I think I will make one. Or at least link to my blog which make the announcement. However, I will not become one of those people who only update their status with pregnancy or baby news. Yawn!
I had a friend who seriously wrote things like, "out to lunch with my hubby - 28 weeks!" Every single status had how many weeks she was even when she updated multiple times a day. I was so ready for her to have her baby, and when she got to 39 weeks I was excited for the updates to stop - but then the turned into 5 days to go, 3 days to go instead!! ha ha Boy oh boy, I was happy when she had the baby!!

I have my blog, if people chose to follow that then that is their choice, But in facebook I want to be very sensitive to the fact that I have friends struggling to get pregnant or stay pregnant, or even single friends struggling wanting to be married and have a family. I never want my facebook page, which is something so silly to hurt someone else, it is just not worth it.

But I think it is ok to celebrate our news!

 

[croydongirl]

oh hopeful! That is honestly a fear I have. Not knowing if i just peed or if my waters have broken! I am sure they see it all the time but I would be mortified!!