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[dairymomma]

Squig-thinking of you and totally understand. Take care of yourself right now. That's what's important.

Dsemcho-I hardly use my phone when I'm at home but I feel naked without it if I go to town without it. I've had enough meetings with the ditches/snowbanks in winter, flat tires in the summer, and random bad luck with vehicles while on road trips, I don't DARE go anywhere without my phone in my pocket or my purse. It's also helpful if DH wants/needs me to pick up something from town. There's tons of times it's been super helpful to have a cellphone. And you can get Straight Talk from Walmart for about $45 a month so you could look into that for even cheaper phone plans. Could you save by not having a landline and just your cellphones instead? I know lots of people who do that. Or they have a landline for local calls but use their cell phones for long distance. I'm sure you can figure out something that works for you.

AFM-numbers came back at 59! That's tripling! But I know it could mean nothing because I had tripling numbers last time and still m/c.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

SweetV, it's so funny because I was reading your post and pressing on my boobs at the same time I read that. That's my way of checking I'm still doing good. LOL!!

loeylo, I'm sorry you're feeling so icky. Hopefully you'll get some relief and rest soon.

DSemcho, get a cell phone. It's important to have especially when you're pregnant.

Squig, my thoughts and prayers are still going your way.

dairy, so glad your numbers tripled for you!! Keep us updated!!

florida, I definently need to let go of my crazy anxieties and fears. Obviously a bit of that is ok. I'm pregnant and that's normal, but I'm irrational about it a lot and deep down I realize that. It's really tough for me, but I need to take deep breathes and relax and know I can't control it all.

Ok, so after just saying that to florida...I have a question for you ladies because I'm new to this...

Last night I knelt down on one knee with my right leg up like I was proposing and I leaned forward to pick up a dog bone so my right quad pushed into my belly on the right side and I got an extremely sharp pain. It lasted a few moments and then chilled out and just slightly ached for a bit. This morning it's a bit achey there, but doesn't technically hurt. I panicked because I thought OMG I did something to the baby or tore my placenta or something. So I immediately checked baby with my doppler and I found the hb and it was fine. Then I checked again this morning just to make sure and I found it again, but I think it was moving around because I couldn't get a reading on it and kept having to re-find it. It sounded fine though. I'm guessing it was round ligament pain?? And it's not possible to smash/tear anything just by doing that right? Thanks in advance.

 

[blueblue]

squig - take care of yourself and do whatever is best for you, you are the most important thing at the moment

SweetV - I think with my last mmc, I also knew something was wrong and that's why I panicked. My symptoms are back, can smell someone else's coffee at 50 yards and feeling nauseous/off certain foods again, hope you are doing well.

Dairy - thanks for your wise words, I'm glad your hcg is tripling

Loeylo - sorry you are feeling bad, hopefully the next few weeks will fly by.

Mrs R - sorry your dreams were so traumatic, mine are around the subject rather than the actual event - I dreamed the nurse booked me in for medical management at the same time as a scan. They have taken a humorous turn and now I'm dreaming about labs and injections. It's a full moon here.

Radiance - how is everything going now?

 

[Mrs Reineke]

blueblue, oh I've had some weird ones too!! I actually had a gender dream the other night. It was a boy. But who knows?

 

[Hope39]

Don't get me started on dreams , I dream very frequently about the obstetrician that delivered isaac

Last night had to be the worst, all instigated by a phonecall yesterday afternoon!! The obstetrician asked a fetal medicine midwife to ring me because she had heard I was pregnant and they wanted to know what time my scan was next week..... I had to tell her I was booked in to see a different consultant . It seems that phonecall haunted me all night. I wish they would just leave me alone. They must have known I was booked in with a consultant

X

 

[Hope39]

Squig - I hope to see you back here soon. You've done well to post at is it, after I lost isaac I completely avoided this thread

Your always in my thoughts .

(I expect your OH has mentioned it but I stumbled across him on another forum last night)

 

[Hope39]

Good morning ladies,

SweetV, it's so funny because I was reading your post and pressing on my boobs at the same time I read that. That's my way of checking I'm still doing good. LOL!!

loeylo, I'm sorry you're feeling so icky. Hopefully you'll get some relief and rest soon.

DSemcho, get a cell phone. It's important to have especially when you're pregnant.

Squig, my thoughts and prayers are still going your way.

dairy, so glad your numbers tripled for you!! Keep us updated!!

florida, I definently need to let go of my crazy anxieties and fears. Obviously a bit of that is ok. I'm pregnant and that's normal, but I'm irrational about it a lot and deep down I realize that. It's really tough for me, but I need to take deep breathes and relax and know I can't control it all.

Ok, so after just saying that to florida...I have a question for you ladies because I'm new to this...

Last night I knelt down on one knee with my right leg up like I was proposing and I leaned forward to pick up a dog bone so my right quad pushed into my belly on the right side and I got an extremely sharp pain. It lasted a few moments and then chilled out and just slightly ached for a bit. This morning it's a bit achey there, but doesn't technically hurt. I panicked because I thought OMG I did something to the baby or tore my placenta or something. So I immediately checked baby with my doppler and I found the hb and it was fine. Then I checked again this morning just to make sure and I found it again, but I think it was moving around because I couldn't get a reading on it and kept having to re-find it. It sounded fine though. I'm guessing it was round ligament pain?? And it's not possible to smash/tear anything just by doing that right? Thanks in advance.

Mrs R - if you google placental abruptions I'm pretty sure just leaning Into your belly won't have caused one x

 

[Hope39]

Double posted, oops

 

[SweetV]

Loeylo - My workload is about to get crazy too. I don't want to say anything yet as they know about some of my other losses and I'm keeping this pregnancy to myself for a while.

DSemcho - I agree with everybody else. I need my phone, it's a security thing.

Florida - those are exactly the things I am trying to control as well (food and stress).

Squig -

Dairy - Wow that's awesome! I'm actually considering not doing early beta's this time

Mrs. R - how far along are you. Round ligament pain is exactly what it sounds like. Internal organs get squished and moved too. Joys of pregnancy

blue - Thank you. It's amazing how much joy we can find in horrible symptoms isn't it.

hope - I hate bad dreams! I try so hard to not let negativity in and yet it seems to haunt me at night.

 

[floridamomma]

Dairy that's good news! Fingers crossed,xxx
Squig always thinking of you. Hope to see you back soon with a precious rainbow.xx
Tasha how are you?
Has anyone done pregnancy announcements after having rmc? I almost see. O point but I can't avoid everyone forever. Must of our family lives under 30 minutes away in the same town. Mainly talking about dhs mom. She's a nincompoop lol sorry she's just so inappropriate and hurtful. The last time we told her I was pregnant she asked me was I sure in the same sentence she asked to tell everyone. She has no respect for our privacy. This time only dh, one friend and I know

 

[Hope39]

I'm not doing any announcements Florida.

my family live 150 miles away but I might see my sister when I'm 20w so she will guess and Then i have to tell my mum but if I don't see her then I be telling them just before I go into hospital at about 26w, lol. Last time I told my mum at 12w and all she did was tell me not to tell anyone yet and carried on like that till I was 20w. I figured the longer it is before they know the less time she has to worry about me

As for OH family we will keep it quiet as long as possible , I'm getting a bit of a belly already and I looked really pregnant yday so I think I will struggle to hide it from them but we don't see them loads so I'm hoping I can just avoid them

A couple of my friends know and that's it

i hide it from my work clients as long as possible till I can hide no more

Xx

 

[hopeful23456]

florida, I told some coworkers at 6 wks when seeing heartbeats (they all knew about my mcs) and some family but my family is 150 miles away too. I didn't do a facebook announcement until the day my kids were born! but I was hardly on fb then due to I couldn't handle all the kid pics and pregnancy announcements.

squig - I hope to see you back here really soon too

 

[SweetV]

I will probably tell them at work sooner than later as I work physically demanding very long shifts on my feet. I will tell the grandparents after 12 weeks. My MIL still sobs about my other losses and always talks about how the losses have affected her, it's very uncomfortable around extended family. It drives me a little crazy. My SIL didn't tell her about her second pregnancy until she was 7 months and they live 15 minutes apart. At this point I feel the less people that need to know the better.

 

[dairymomma]

Sweet-I only did the betas because I had that funky brown discharge and if this was a chemical, I didn't want to keep taking the meds. But I haven't done consistent twice weekly betas for more than the initial week since DS's pg. They just make me nervous.

Florida-I have told DH, my dr, and one of my chiropractors. I'll have to tell the other one probably next week but other than that, I don't think I'm telling anyone until I'm around 15 weeks. That's subject to change though. If I have issues and I feel like I need to talk about it, then I'll probably tell someone but who remains to be seen. Probably my sils because they understand somewhat how hard it is for me to go through early pregnancy.

Blue-glad I could help. (I had to go back and look at what I wrote because pg brain fog prevented me from remembering. )

MrsR.-the pg dreams started last night and mine are usually weird. Like purple kangaroos and pink elephants and dancing pop bottles weird. Cartoony almost.

AFM-spent a lazy day at home. DH took the older kids so it's been LO and me all day and I'm loving it. Sunny skies, great beta number this morning, darker lines, calmed my fears of a molar or ectopic pg by laying out the facts for myself, and have gotten a bunch of housework done. Even enjoying the nausea I'm feeling.

Oh and I'm pretty sure it's wrong but the ring test keeps telling me I'm having twins so that's my biggest worry atm.

 

[floridamomma]

I'm not planning on any announcements. I have pretty good about keeping my distance. We have a cruise in may the whole family. Hoping my bump won't be too noticeable. I plan on wearing big clothes and avoiding everyone until October lol. We are doing a lot of traveling so we have excuses

 

[SweetV]

dairy I had a lazy day today too. Love lazy days and got a much needed nap.

florida I'm jealous of all your travel plans. A cruise sounds lovely.

afm I'm seriously considering finding a doctor that will write me off work. My boss is a slave driver and I really feel that my previous losses and absolutely my preterm labour are partially due to 14 hour 6 day work weeks with no breaks. I'm always on my feet and often am not able to stop and eat. Yesterday was 12.5 hours with no lunch break the whole time my boss telling me I don't do enough and to work harder. I can't afford to just quit but I'm convinced that on this path again I'm doomed to fail. I am NOT a lazy person but 5 losses in 3 years and I just want to do everything I can. With my insurance I would be paid 70% of my wages if a doctor says I need the time off. The question is how early? At 11 weeks we have an inventory of stock at work. Last year I worked 120 hours both weeks the 2 weeks before (would be 10-11 weeks this year) and and overnight from 6pm to 9am day of. Do you think this sounds unreasonable?

 

[floridamomma]

Sweet get it off if you can that's ridiculous. I switched jobs to help my losses. I worked in nursing/rehab facilities 8-12 hours days on my feet constantly maybe a 15 minute break. It's strenuous and I'd even get hit in the abdomen by patients. I've had to pick people up. It's not worth the stress or guilt. Can you survive on 70%? I would Ig you could. I plan on asking to stop working as soon as it's too much. I'll get like 67% up to a year I think on fmla.

I'm traveling because the last 2 years I've spent frozen in place. Either I was pregnant, trying to get pregnant, trying to stay pregnant, or miscarrying. I just want to live for once

 

[Tasha]

Sweet that sounds awful. Definitely try and get signed off.

Florida, I'm fine just plodding along. Thank you for asking. How are you doing?

Announcements we told my family at twelve weeks, mainly because I needed people to pick up my kids from school sometimes (I've a lot of appointments through out), they're the only ones who know though aside from DH's work (I've needed iron infusions etc so they need to know) x

 

[blueblue]

Hope - sorry your hospital are still being useless. The dreams sound really hard to deal with.

Florida - Sorry your MIL is a twit. we've told a few people, mostly because I'm having to take it really easy this time esp. after the bleeding and it's easier than cancelling/putting off events for a couple of months without saying why. We won't make a proper announcement until 20 weeks though, and even after that I will keep a low profile. Some friends know and they are being really supportive but giving us space . Work know too, it was just easier as I'm getting less stress there now. I work through an agency so they don't have the maternity leave obligations so it's not too much of a problem.

We told my OH's family so they give us a break, also partly wanted them to know how hard it is when you're pregnant again and how it's a rollercoaster. Like you, I've spent the last couple of years getting pregnant, losing the baby, getting over, having lots of tests and trying to get pregnant again - it feels like it takes over your life and becomes your life. My MIL really means well, but she doesn't get it - the last loss was the only one where we saw them after and where I showed how devastated I was and it had only happened 5 weeks previously - she said to try not to think about it! Babies are the world to her, but losses are meant to be easy to get over.

Enjoy the cruise .

Hopeful - I can't handle fb either.

SweetV - try and get your dr to sign you off, it's a crazy workload. You need to do what's best for you.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

dairy I had a lazy day today too. Love lazy days and got a much needed nap.

florida I'm jealous of all your travel plans. A cruise sounds lovely.

afm I'm seriously considering finding a doctor that will write me off work. My boss is a slave driver and I really feel that my previous losses and absolutely my preterm labour are partially due to 14 hour 6 day work weeks with no breaks. I'm always on my feet and often am not able to stop and eat. Yesterday was 12.5 hours with no lunch break the whole time my boss telling me I don't do enough and to work harder. I can't afford to just quit but I'm convinced that on this path again I'm doomed to fail. I am NOT a lazy person but 5 losses in 3 years and I just want to do everything I can. With my insurance I would be paid 70% of my wages if a doctor says I need the time off. The question is how early? At 11 weeks we have an inventory of stock at work. Last year I worked 120 hours both weeks the 2 weeks before (would be 10-11 weeks this year) and and overnight from 6pm to 9am day of. Do you think this sounds unreasonable?

Excuse me, but are you really asking if you are being unreasonable? That's slavery to me!
Find a doctor that can sign you off ASAP hun! And you are allowed no break at all??
You'll be in my thoughts, I hope you can get away from that working environment pretty soon. Take care and try and rest whenever you can.