Little_Nugget
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Hi everyone. Been lurking for a while and thought I should post.
Bit of background history: I'm 26 and have had a m/c at 12w, a stillbirth at 25 weeks with a boy, another stillbirth at 30 weeks with a girl, a live birth at 24 weeks - he later died in neo natal and now I am 6w + 5d and petrified of EVERYTHING.
I don't really remember anything about my m/c - it was in 2001 and all I remember is bleeding so heavily it ran down my leg (sorry tmi). My first son had no issues. I didn't know I was pregnant until 18 weeks but my waters partially went at 22 weeks and drained completely at 24+5. No hb was seen at 25 weeks. My daughter also had no issues. My waters just went completely at 30 weeks but when I got to hospital she had died.
My second son had bleeding right from 6 weeks and I was in and out of hospital with cramps, blood clots and loss of symptoms. I finally got admitted to hospital as an in patient at 22 weeks where I was given daily heparin injections and progesterone pessarys to try and stop the bleeding and keep him in my tummy as long as possible. I went into labour at 24 weeks and he came out kicking and breathing on his own. He later died after fighting so hard and doing really well :'(
Sorry this is so long I'm just scared to death. My bf and I weren't trying to conceive. We'd pretty much stopped having sex but then I fell pregnant. My lmp was May 17th and we dtd on the 23rd, 2nd and 9th and my next period was due June 15th so I'm guessing the 2nd dtd is the one that caught my egg. Based on this I think I'm 6w+5d
What I'm scared about is that I had my beta hcg taken and a scan done on June 17th (4+3) and it was 125mlU/ml which everyone said was extremely low and gave a not so promising outlook. The scan showed nothing except for thickened endometrium which the sonographer said was normal. I went back on the 19th (4+5) for more blood work which came back at 332mlU/ml which the doctor said was ok but still not high enough. I went back again on the 21st (5w) and the beta hcg levels were 1012mlU/ml which were now good plus I felt really crappy that morning and my consultant said the rise was to blame.
Anyway I have had on and off symptoms ever since I found out and some period pains and dreadful back ache that was freaking me out so I went to the hospital on the 28th where they took my blood again but haven't told me the result. I also had another scan because I was convinced it was an ectopic pregnancy. The sonographer immediately found the gestational sac in the middle of my uterus (thank God) and checked around both ovaries for blood or cysts - neither. She said there was no free flowing blood either. She then did a vaginal scan and saw the yolk sac clearly but no hb. She didn't mention anything about a fetal pole so I don't know if that was visible and I couldn't tell what was what on the screen. I had this scan at exactly 6 weeks (based on my dates) so the hb should have been seen right??!
I'm just petrified now and all I can think is her words "no heartbeat" :'( I've had no severe cramps, my symptoms seem to be fading - all that's left is more frequent toilet trips and the side of my right boob is sore. I want to feel really nauseous. I want my boobs to be killing. Just so I know lo is ok :'(
I am going back for a scan on Tuesday 5th at 8:30 when I should be 7 weeks but I'm not hopeful at all. I don't want to be positive because when they tell me it's an ended pregnancy I'm going to fall apart. My consultant has had me on amoxicillin 500 for a uti which has finished today and also 75mg of aspirin daily since the 21st.
I had a list in my head of negatives that I was crossing off:
Ectopic pregnancy X
Chemical pregnancy X
Blighted ovum ?
Molar pregnancy ?
Miscarriage ?
Missed miscarriage ?
Late missed miscarriage ?
I know it's stupid but I felt better when I knew it wasn't ectopic or chemical but then I went googling and learnt about types of pregnancy I'd never heard of and now I'm convinced it's going to end in one of the remaining types on the list.
I just don't know what to do. I've taken at least one hpt every day since 17th June to see if they're getting darker, sometimes they are sometimes they're not. My bf doesn't know yet. I can't face telling him and then having to tell him my body killed another of our kids. I have no friends to talk to.
Please help me. I want tuesday to hurry up and come but I can't bear hearing it's not going to work. If by some miracle the hb is seen I will spend every moment scared and thinking has my baby died now? I wish I could be knocked out for 9 months. The stress is making my ill. It's causing palpitations :'( I just need a friend and some advice.
I'm sorry this is an essay. Thanks for reading.
Amy
Bit of background history: I'm 26 and have had a m/c at 12w, a stillbirth at 25 weeks with a boy, another stillbirth at 30 weeks with a girl, a live birth at 24 weeks - he later died in neo natal and now I am 6w + 5d and petrified of EVERYTHING.
I don't really remember anything about my m/c - it was in 2001 and all I remember is bleeding so heavily it ran down my leg (sorry tmi). My first son had no issues. I didn't know I was pregnant until 18 weeks but my waters partially went at 22 weeks and drained completely at 24+5. No hb was seen at 25 weeks. My daughter also had no issues. My waters just went completely at 30 weeks but when I got to hospital she had died.
My second son had bleeding right from 6 weeks and I was in and out of hospital with cramps, blood clots and loss of symptoms. I finally got admitted to hospital as an in patient at 22 weeks where I was given daily heparin injections and progesterone pessarys to try and stop the bleeding and keep him in my tummy as long as possible. I went into labour at 24 weeks and he came out kicking and breathing on his own. He later died after fighting so hard and doing really well :'(
Sorry this is so long I'm just scared to death. My bf and I weren't trying to conceive. We'd pretty much stopped having sex but then I fell pregnant. My lmp was May 17th and we dtd on the 23rd, 2nd and 9th and my next period was due June 15th so I'm guessing the 2nd dtd is the one that caught my egg. Based on this I think I'm 6w+5d
What I'm scared about is that I had my beta hcg taken and a scan done on June 17th (4+3) and it was 125mlU/ml which everyone said was extremely low and gave a not so promising outlook. The scan showed nothing except for thickened endometrium which the sonographer said was normal. I went back on the 19th (4+5) for more blood work which came back at 332mlU/ml which the doctor said was ok but still not high enough. I went back again on the 21st (5w) and the beta hcg levels were 1012mlU/ml which were now good plus I felt really crappy that morning and my consultant said the rise was to blame.
Anyway I have had on and off symptoms ever since I found out and some period pains and dreadful back ache that was freaking me out so I went to the hospital on the 28th where they took my blood again but haven't told me the result. I also had another scan because I was convinced it was an ectopic pregnancy. The sonographer immediately found the gestational sac in the middle of my uterus (thank God) and checked around both ovaries for blood or cysts - neither. She said there was no free flowing blood either. She then did a vaginal scan and saw the yolk sac clearly but no hb. She didn't mention anything about a fetal pole so I don't know if that was visible and I couldn't tell what was what on the screen. I had this scan at exactly 6 weeks (based on my dates) so the hb should have been seen right??!
I'm just petrified now and all I can think is her words "no heartbeat" :'( I've had no severe cramps, my symptoms seem to be fading - all that's left is more frequent toilet trips and the side of my right boob is sore. I want to feel really nauseous. I want my boobs to be killing. Just so I know lo is ok :'(
I am going back for a scan on Tuesday 5th at 8:30 when I should be 7 weeks but I'm not hopeful at all. I don't want to be positive because when they tell me it's an ended pregnancy I'm going to fall apart. My consultant has had me on amoxicillin 500 for a uti which has finished today and also 75mg of aspirin daily since the 21st.
I had a list in my head of negatives that I was crossing off:
Ectopic pregnancy X
Chemical pregnancy X
Blighted ovum ?
Molar pregnancy ?
Miscarriage ?
Missed miscarriage ?
Late missed miscarriage ?
I know it's stupid but I felt better when I knew it wasn't ectopic or chemical but then I went googling and learnt about types of pregnancy I'd never heard of and now I'm convinced it's going to end in one of the remaining types on the list.
I just don't know what to do. I've taken at least one hpt every day since 17th June to see if they're getting darker, sometimes they are sometimes they're not. My bf doesn't know yet. I can't face telling him and then having to tell him my body killed another of our kids. I have no friends to talk to.
Please help me. I want tuesday to hurry up and come but I can't bear hearing it's not going to work. If by some miracle the hb is seen I will spend every moment scared and thinking has my baby died now? I wish I could be knocked out for 9 months. The stress is making my ill. It's causing palpitations :'( I just need a friend and some advice.
I'm sorry this is an essay. Thanks for reading.
Amy