Please help us through this!

[LuluSS]

Just want to pop in to give my support. I know how hard it is to do this. I have been trying this off an on for the past week. But I just can't do it. You are strong for sticking through with it. For me, it isn't the night wakings. He wakes several times a night, but that isn't what is hard for me. What is hard is I am dealing with a sleep fighter . It takes up to three hours a night to get my LO to bed. Like I said, I tried Ferber last night. But couldn't take it anymore after 30 mintues. So I went in and nursed him to sleep

 

[Twister]

The hardest part is being consistent. But it won't be as effective if you're not. I really struggled too but I found posting on here for support whilst waiting for the intervals to pass really helped.

 

[Twister]

And op you're doing great. You may find that on day 4/5ish she may fight it more and cry longer than before. That's normal and its important you stick with it for it to work. There's a name for it, I can't remember what it's called now but it's basically them trying to 'protest' against the change.

 

[aliss]

Well I don't know anything about sleep training except to say holy crap I can't believe your baby is already 6 months??? Time ffliiiiiiiiiiies!

 

[seaweed eater]

Well done I'm sorry you had an hour and a half during the night. That's rough. So glad to hear things are getting better and that you feel this has been the right choice for your family.

If you are doing it for some naps, I would do it for all naps. But it sounds like she's going down more easily so hopefully she will be able to catch up on whatever sleep she needs anyway.

I know what you mean about the two groups of mothers. There are so many moms who turn to CC or CIO who have a more nurturing parenting style. You are definitely not alone.

 

[seaweed eater]

And op you're doing great. You may find that on day 4/5ish she may fight it more and cry longer than before. That's normal and its important you stick with it for it to work. There's a name for it, I can't remember what it's called now but it's basically them trying to 'protest' against the change.

Yep...extinction burst

 

[JaneSharon86]

Hi ladies

Update -

Nap two took no hysteria but she did cry: she was asleep after 16 minutes.

Bedtime went amazingly. we did boob bath lotion pajamas sleeping bag bottle top up story. l then gave her a Kiss and told her it was bedtime and left the room-she did cry but not for long and was asleep by 8 minutes!!!! l didn't even get to go in to calm her.

I feel so much better about the awful night now. I just cant believe she went to sleep by herself so quickly.

She has been so tired and cranky today, its been upsetting but hopefully tomorrow will be better. We'll see how the 11pm feed goes.

Aliss - time really does fly when you're so madly in love and happy

 

[JaneSharon86]

The hardest part is being consistent. But it won't be as effective if you're not. I really struggled too but I found posting on here for support whilst waiting for the intervals to pass really helped.

Same here hence the thread. I needed support other than my husband and this gives a log too.

 

[seaweed eater]

That is wonderful progress well done LO! I hope the night goes well. I have a good feeling.

 

[Aliop]

That's great she is loving her lovey! My 6 month old sleeps in a 2.5tog bag plus several layers of bamboo blankets (just make sure your blankets are cotton or bamboo and bub will not overheat as they are natural fibres which breathe), I pop the extra layers on when I check him before I go to bed so he's toasty leading up to the coldest part of the night/morning. Sounds like you are making great progress

 

[tigerlilly]

This was about the time LO separation anxiety started!

 

[pinklightbulb]

I have chronic insomnia so the night wakings were a massive problem for me once it got to 10 months and Eamon was not STTN. I had to do something or I'd go insane and I can't look after him from a psych ward. The amount of wakings vs. the time it took me to fall asleep meant sometimes I got almost no sleep even though he was settling quickly if he did wake. It sucked. I understand you OP, and I'm glad things are going a little better. It takes a little time with some babies (some are stubborn) but I've never met many mothers or fathers yet who say the CC method failed them.

 

[minties]

I suppose I'm one of them 'hippy mums', breastfeeding, cosleeping, cloth nappy'ing, babywearing, BLW types. But hell, this CC is starting to sound appealing! Sophie has so many crutches needed to fall asleep (swaddle, and sleeping bag, and dummy, and a lovey on either side of her face, and a fan for white noise).

I wish she would sleep unswaddled, with no dummy, and it's winter here so I could do without the fan! But no idea how unless I did CC. I keep saying every month that by the next I'll have her weaned off her swaddle and dummy but I wimp out.

Sounds like you are doing so well! I have restless leg syndrome so struggle to get to sleep and stay asleep, so like you I'm often awake half the night.

 

[JaneSharon86]

Thanks for the replies. Its nice to know there are other 'hippy' mommies in similar positions.
Took us ages to get rid of the swaddle so were going cold turkey on everything else and I can't believe I'm reporting this but....

She slept through!!!!

She fell asleep in 8mins at 6.40pm. I gave up waiting for the 11pm feed at 12 and went to bed. I woke at 3.40am in a panic and with boobs that felt like they had been in the ring with Tyson. Ran to the nursery and she was still snoozing

I went back to sleep and she woke at 5.20am. I knew for sure she would be hungry by then. She drank both boobs thank goodness and then I optimistically put her back in the nursery.

And

She slept from 5.40am till 8.30am! ! No protests or anything.

Now I'm not congratulating ourselves too much as she may have just been exhausted from all the crying yesterday but were sticking with it

We decided to do the method for all naps to stay consistent.

Its 10.30am now so shes just gone down for nap one. At 2 mins so far.

 

[JaneSharon86]

And shes asleep

She cried for two minutes then mithered for a further 8. Took 10 minutes in total. Quickest for a nap time so far.

 

[JaneSharon86]

Nap two took 20 minutes

Barely a minute of crying, the rest was mithering and moaning.

 

[pinklightbulb]

That's fantastic

 

[JaneSharon86]

I have chronic insomnia so the night wakings were a massive problem for me once it got to 10 months and Eamon was not STTN. I had to do something or I'd go insane and I can't look after him from a psych ward. The amount of wakings vs. the time it took me to fall asleep meant sometimes I got almost no sleep even though he was settling quickly if he did wake. It sucked. I understand you OP, and I'm glad things are going a little better. It takes a little time with some babies (some are stubborn) but I've never met many mothers or fathers yet who say the CC method failed them.

How's your LO's sleep now?

How long did the method take for you?

 

[pinklightbulb]

I now have both a 3 and 1 year old who STTN. Eamon took about a week to get the hint and stop waking when he didn't really need to be fed at 10 months, and Liam I sleep trained for naps mainly as he STTN on his own at 5 months. It took a couple of weeks to be effective for Liam but it was worth it. Some babies are more stubborn than others. For naps Eamon was awful, I had to do CC once at 4 months and then again at about 6-7 months (call it a refresher course, lol). But the second time it only took 3 nights and he went back to self-settling.

 

[Joybell]

Well done. Sounds like its going fab for both of you. It's like a revelation when it works isn't it? I couldn't quite believe that was my baby going to sleep himself. I still smile every single time he self settles.

Keep us updated.
Joy x