PND Support Thread

[Jkelmum]

My HV is ringing tomorrow to see if we,ve been discharged from MW ...guess i shud tell her how crap ive been feeling ...Tho that is easier said then done

 

[ALY]

PLEASE promise me you will tell your HV how your feeling hun
she will be able to help you x
I dont want to scare you but if you dont tell her or go see your doc then you will slowly get worse and like iv said before you can always pm me hun
i just hope you realise that

 

[Jkelmum]

I,ll be honest if its the one that came friday i wont be saying anything but if its hazel my normal one i will try thank-you xxx

 

[ALY]

Ok hun
am off to bed now night
let me no how things go and dont be scared to admit something is wrong if you get it out now it will be better for you in the long run hun

 

[Shifter]

to all who need them.

Serina - I felt like that in the beginning. I have a journal that I only tend to write in when I'm feeling crap or when something major happens and the only scribblings in there post-birth are horrible to read now. I wrote about walking out and Jack and Andy being better off without me. If you had a traumatic birth experience that could certainly be behind it. I haven't seen many posts by you before hun, so I'm not familiar with your history, but I will pass on the advice I was given about my negative birth experience: get a copy of your hospital notes and go over them with someone. It will help you understand and process what happened. You need to be generous to yourself and grieve for the birth experience you didn't have. Special to you.

 

[Jkelmum]

This is gunna sound so pathetic The Hv just rang and asked how things are going so i told her better as my milk supply is gettin better so Lily asnt needed any baby milk for nearly 48 hrs to which she was oh dont get your hopes up exlcusivley expressing rarely works out shes coming to weigh Lily wenesday and will be bk monday i feel shes watching me far too closely as if i cant look after my kids right ....I cant wait for my normal Hv to be bk shes nice and not patronising

 

[Jkelmum]

shifter ty hun i think i will ...it was awful 12 hrs of contraction every 3 mins for nothing to happen and i ended up with emergancy section x

 

[ALY]

serina x
How u feeling today x

Shifter are you feeling ok

 

[Jkelmum]

Was havin a good day but that damn hv why is she down on me givin lily my milk just bcos its out of a bottle and not my breast ...so much for being there to support us

 

[ALY]

Ohhhh hun ignore her she should be happy that you are breast feeding even if you are giving her it out of the bottle x
Dont let her get to u hun i no that is easy to say but you no your baby better than anyone else and so wat if YOUR milk comes out of a bottle at least she is been fed thats all that matters at the end of the day hun god HV drive me mad

 

[Shifter]

Serina - sorry about your HV, what a lousy attitude. You're doing great and the most important thing is that Lily gets breast milk. about your birth, I know exactly how you feel, I had 36 hours of contractions every 2-5 mins and only got to 4cm. Jack's head was transverse, the cause of all the problems. Did you get any impression of what might have prevented dilation? Or is it possible that you were simply having a slow latent phase? (Damn surgeons getting knife happy just because a woman doesn't conform to their schedule ) I know women who had wonderful 5 day labours and gave birth at home as planned and that makes me feel I should have been more resistant to the MWs wanting me to transfer to hospital. If I had asked them to leave and got on with it in peace as I'd planned I may still have had the wonderful experience I hoped for.

I'm not too bad. Just had a little blip though as was discussing career plans with one of my March buddies, who is planning to train as a MW now. During pregnancy I was thinking about doing the HypnoBirthing training or training as a doula. But I don't think I can do either as you have to have given birth to do the training. I don't think of myself as having given birth. Jack was surgically removed It depends how literally they take their own wording.

 

[Jkelmum]

I was induced due to no water and ur only allowed on the drip 12 hrs baby wasnt in pelvis and when they got her out they had to cut the cord several times b4 they could untangle her ...she needed reviving and then i bled for 4 hrs before they got it under control ...MW said i am lucky as deliverd naturally Lily wouldnt of made it and it was like my body knew not to dilate ...I know she is here alive and well but i feel far from lucky at the moment i am still in a lot of pain and want my body back to normal xx

 

[lillysmum]

hi serina, with my first i had to have an episiotomy and no one seemed to understand that i was in a lot of pain when passing urine so i didn't necessarily want to go out and about visiting and no one seemed to get that, you do what you need to do, and remember us girlies are here for a rant and a chat.

How is everyone else doing tonight? I just had a lovely fight with the OH about who knows what (I actually can't remember how it all started), but luckily have managed to sit down with him and explain why i got so angry and he did the same, also got prescribed Sertraline, so am hoping that helps my mood soon

 

[Jkelmum]

Sertraline is what i was on for 18 months after katies birth it worked wonders

 

[lillysmum]

thanks, how you today serina?

 

[snettyb]

Hi ladies! hugs all round for you all!

Serina- i didn't realise you were suffering too. Ignore your health visitor hun, at least your lil lady is getting booby milk one way or the other. I didn't think to exclusively express, Jake had problems latching on, he sucked his top lip in, so after 10 days and him losing alot of weight i swtched to formula. I really miss breast feeding and i do blame myself for it not working out. I really wish i had thought to express xx

Shifter- I'm so sorry about your birth experience, i knew it didn't go to plan and you were hurt over it but when you said he was sergically (sp?) removed, i understood just how upset you are, i really feel for you xx

Aly- i feel better when i have a drink too, but only while the drink is doing its job, after that i get super low. Still doesn't put me off tho, although i don't get drunk, just tipsy xx

I haven't been on here for a while as my lil guy has been poorly and spent 2 nights in hospital. Turned out to be a virus and nothing serious but he had us very worried for a few days with his sky high temp.

I'm like a yoyo at the moment, up and down. Pitty its more down tho. Its my birthday on wednesday and i really couldn't care less. I don't feel an ounce of excitement for the wonderful things OH has planned for me. I still haven't took my pills off the doc but i told him that i hadn't and he was very supportive. I have an appointment with a psychologist next wednesday so hopefully that might help me get some stuff off my chest but the doc says they may want to prescribe more pills for me.

Hope everyone is ok, stay strong xx

 

[ALY]

Snetty how is your little man feeling
Im the same i feel ok while the booze is going down and then suffer after and then i feel guilty

 

[Jkelmum]

Just had a bath & sobbed my heart out kinda the only place i can hide from the world and dont have to be happy ...nasty cycle of cryin no idea why so cry some more ...I just hate the way i feel and tbh cant remember being happy yet Lily will only be 2 wks tomorrow ....

snetty glad jake is ok now and dont worry about not expressing the reason there funny with me is cos i refuse and never hav put Lily to breast they dont get why i dont wanna try

1 of the selfish reasons i am still expressing is so i dont drink cos i did have a phaze after katie that i needed a drink or 2 most nights just to sleep while i am expressing i wont drink at all ...although i feel i cud sure do with one x

 

[Shifter]

serina. You need to give yourself time to heal, it will get better. I had my parents telling me I needed to get out more 3 weeks after Jack arrived, when I had a horrible infection and could still hardly walk. I was still going out (with my mum to the nurse) 2-3 times a week so it was doubly annoying being told that!

to you and your LO snetty, hope he feels better soon.

 

[pinkmummy]

Shifter - hun what an awful birth experience So sorry it didn't go to plan

Serina - Ignore your HV hunits not what you need right now, Lilly is your baby and you are the one to look after her not the HV

Snetty - I hope LO is ok now, that must have been so scary for you, I remember when Thomas was in hospital that was scary too!

I'm not feeling to bad today thankfully, been out and the kids are at chris's mams so i get a bit of peace today.

How is everyone else?