Post-pill irregular cycles support thread!!

[Heidi]

Please can i join?

I already have a lovely Daughter who took a year to conceive due to irregular and long cycles after coming of microgynon after 7-8 years of being on it, we finally conceived her on a 58ish day cycle, i was charting, using opks and testing constantly!

Just for info these we're what my cycle were like:

September 08: withdrawal bleed
(waited 150 odd days so went to docs for some norethisterone to kick start AF)
Febuary 09: First natural, cycle 36 day cycle
March 09: 68 day cycle
June 09: 33 Days
July 09: 58 days and pregnant!

We would love to have another LO, so decided to come off the pill again to see what happens, i'm going to start charting again but mainly to see what my cycles are doing and if i may be Ov'ing, its so frustrating not knowing how long a cycle may be so at least with charting i will hopefully know if i'm in with a chance or not. i'm currently on CD27 after having my withdrawal bleed and now waiting for my true AF.

Good luck to all you lovely ladies (sorry this was long)

 

[wouldluvabub]

Hello everyone and Welcome to the newbies..

SO I have NOT been having a good week! I dunno if I have said about hating my job on this thread or not but anyway I HATE MY JOB!!! And this week my boss has been so rude and horrible to me that I am ready to quit.. But I am stressed! DH said to quit and he supports me 100% which is amazing but I want a baby so bad and I told myself I could stick it out and leave to have a baby when we finally get our BFP!!! But I can't cope with my boss.. She is being totally horrible and I have had enough! I am a hairdresser so I can do my job from home. I have messaged some family and friends and told them to call me at home for appointments because I do not want them supporting her business.. So I know I can make some money at home! BUT I don't think its enough to cover my weekly wage which doesn't matter but I would feel bad not working especially if I get preg and then can't get a job! I am so confused about what to do.. I have already stuck it out for the 7 months of TTC thinking that I'd get preg soon and I wouldnt have to cope with her much longer but I just can't do it anymore! I feel like I am putting my life on hold for a maybe.. But if I could just get my BFP things would be easier.. There would be an end in sight which would make it easier.. But then again I have been thinking lately that if I did get my BFP I don't know that I would wanna work in a salon with all the chemicals affecting the baby! AHHHHH... My head is going to explode.. Someone give me some advice please

 

[wouldluvabub]

PLUS the other issues is I don't want to keep hair dressing I am wanting a career change that is why I have been thinking I would leave it till after I have baby and return to the work force...

 

[struth]

Hi to the newbies - welcome to the thread (oh and don't worry about long posts - have you seen some of mine?!).

Missangie - Thanks for asking!! I'm really quite confused. I have been spotting now since 6/7dpo and today I am 12dpo. I tested yesterday (as FF said it was my test date) and it was bfn. I expected it as my temps have dropped (you can see my chart by clicking on the link in my sig) - however, I still don't have a proper AF. My previous cycles have had LPs on 9 and 11 days so I guess I could still get AF but it seems a long time coming (perhaps the b vits have increased my LP though?).

Anyway, we had BD last night and had pink blood after that so figured I would wake up this morning to AF but.... no nothing. I even seem to have stopped spotting completely

I guess it is just a matter of time. I'm just not sure whether my spotting should be counted as my AF and whether I should be on a new cycle now? The thing is my spotting is not really even enough for a liner but I am wondering whether the spotting was AF and that I should be back to cd1. I guess I will wait a few days and see but seeing as the temps have dropped and I'm getting bfns I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant.

Also - I've been back to the drs this morning for the results of my scan. She has confirmed that she thinks that I have PCOS now. I have a high FSH/LH ratio and multiple cysts on my ovaries (as well as an endrometioma cyst too) and so she has referred me to a gynaecologist. Not sure when I will get the appointment but at least we are heading somewhere.

Wouldluvabub - sorry to hear that work is stressful. Not good when you are TTC. If you can afford to leave and have your own clients it might be worth considering until you have a baby?

 

[Reba]

Wow Reba, what a scary thing to go through! Are you doing OPKs or temping to see if you are ovulating? I am rooting for you 100%!!

Aww thanks I'm charting my temp, CM, and noting my moods and I also think I'm checking my cervix but being new to this not 100% sure I'm not using OPKs because the Dr. didn't recommend it. I am getting blood tests done when I think I might have ovulated. I have PCOS and I have read that the OPKs don't work as well when you have PCOS. That could be why she didn't recommend them.

I've wanted a for 5 years now... we just haven't been trying because of school, work, etc.

 

[Reba]

Hello everyone and Welcome to the newbies..

SO I have NOT been having a good week! I dunno if I have said about hating my job on this thread or not but anyway I HATE MY JOB!!! And this week my boss has been so rude and horrible to me that I am ready to quit.. But I am stressed! DH said to quit and he supports me 100% which is amazing but I want a baby so bad and I told myself I could stick it out and leave to have a baby when we finally get our BFP!!! But I can't cope with my boss.. She is being totally horrible and I have had enough! I am a hairdresser so I can do my job from home. I have messaged some family and friends and told them to call me at home for appointments because I do not want them supporting her business.. So I know I can make some money at home! BUT I don't think its enough to cover my weekly wage which doesn't matter but I would feel bad not working especially if I get preg and then can't get a job! I am so confused about what to do.. I have already stuck it out for the 7 months of TTC thinking that I'd get preg soon and I wouldnt have to cope with her much longer but I just can't do it anymore! I feel like I am putting my life on hold for a maybe.. But if I could just get my BFP things would be easier.. There would be an end in sight which would make it easier.. But then again I have been thinking lately that if I did get my BFP I don't know that I would wanna work in a salon with all the chemicals affecting the baby! AHHHHH... My head is going to explode.. Someone give me some advice please

My mom's advice was to cut ALL stress out of my life. It sounds like you have more than enough stress just with your job. If this is something you really want then do as your DH says and just work from home! Good luck with your decision.

 

[Reba]

Oh Struth

I'm sorry to hear that. At least you have a diagnosis now. PCOS sucks for sure - especially the extra hair growth - so embarrassing!!
I hope you get some more positive answers at the Gynecologist. I certainly felt more positive after seeing mine. Even after my surgery she said "WHEN you get pregnant send me a picture" Sending positive thoughts to you!

 

[MrsBea23]

Hi everyone,

How are we all today?

Struth – Hun that is such a shame I am so sorry to hear that, I thought they couldn’t see any cysts what happened? You can get rid of it though with diet and exercise and herbs. My cycle this month is what you would call normal which is fab and that is through acupuncture, exercise and herbs from my fertility clinic so there is lots of hope (I have only been doing all this for 3 months since I found out). Also I have only been trying since November but I already have an appointment with the specialist at the hospital so you get moved along much quicker with PCOS (and at our age). I am still rooting for you to get your BFP this month though so it will all be redundant, keep us informed.

Reba - wow that is allot to go through I am really sorry to hear that, I really hope things come together for you soon.

hannahadora - welcome, you are definately in the right place here lol.

Heidi - Welcome, your story sounds like mine is at the moment sure gives me hope since you finally got your BFP. I love charting it gives me a feeling of being in control. I hope this time it is easier for you and you get your BFP soon.

missangie - how are you getting on?

wouldluvabub - I know exactly how you feel, I only stayed in my job because I thought I would be out of there in 9 months lol I work in a Life and Pensions company working with Actuaries looking at statistics and variables .
Do you know what you want to do when you change careers? Could you try and temp or contract in that field until you have to finish up to go on maternity leave? Personally I would love to work in John Lewis (like David Jones) as a floor manager designing layout, I have never worked in sales or anything (although in my head I will be a manager lol) but it is just something I fancy so I might try and get a part time job for a few hours a week and see if I can get into it that way.

 

[struth]

Hi everyone,

How are we all today?

Struth – Hun that is such a shame I am so sorry to hear that, I thought they couldn’t see any cysts what happened? You can get rid of it though with diet and exercise and herbs. My cycle this month is what you would call normal which is fab and that is through acupuncture, exercise and herbs from my fertility clinic so there is lots of hope (I have only been doing all this for 3 months since I found out). Also I have only been trying since November but I already have an appointment with the specialist at the hospital so you get moved along much quicker with PCOS (and at our age). I am still rooting for you to get your BFP this month though so it will all be redundant, keep us informed.

Reba - wow that is allot to go through I am really sorry to hear that, I really hope things come together for you soon.

hannahadora - welcome, you are definately in the right place here lol.

Heidi - Welcome, your story sounds like mine is at the moment sure gives me hope since you finally got your BFP. I love charting it gives me a feeling of being in control. I hope this time it is easier for you and you get your BFP soon.

missangie - how are you getting on?

wouldluvabub - I know exactly how you feel, I only stayed in my job because I thought I would be out of there in 9 months lol I work in a Life and Pensions company working with Actuaries looking at statistics and variables .
Do you know what you want to do when you change careers? Could you try and temp or contract in that field until you have to finish up to go on maternity leave? Personally I would love to work in John Lewis (like David Jones) as a floor manager designing layout, I have never worked in sales or anything (although in my head I will be a manager lol) but it is just something I fancy so I might try and get a part time job for a few hours a week and see if I can get into it that way.

Thanks MrsBea - well, the person doing the scan reported a poly-cystic left ovary (but it was not enlarged) and an endometrioma cyst on my right ovary. He didn't have my blood results or my history so couldn't say anything for sure but he didn't seem too concerned. He then did his report to the GP (who obviously does have the labs and history) and she says that she is pretty sure I have PCOS but she wants to send me to the gynae so that they can investigate. She says that she is basically trying to get me infertility treatment by the back door! She said that she can refer me for my gynae problems rather than my infertility and get infertility treatment that way. Anyway, I just have to wait for the appointment now....!

Thanks for the hope too - it does help. I have bought a couple of book and have been reading about low GI eating plans and so on. I think I will try that and get exercising more too.

As for this month - I'm pretty sure I'm out (I didn't even test this morning as I was so sure I would have AF that I just got up and went to the loo. It was only when I wiped that I realised that I didn't have AF!). I'll probably test tomorrow if I haven't got full red bleeding - I will, of course, keep you all posted!

 

[anti]

Hi ladies. Please can I join?! This is my first time ttc. I came off cilest on the 1st of June after 8 years on bcp. I'm now on cd7. I started temping on Tuesday and will start opk on Saturday. Don't know how long my cycles are gonna be but I'm hoping they'll be normal really soon. So nice to have a group like this coz we all going through the same thing!!

 

[Reba]

Hi Anti! You joined us over here! Welcome

MrsBea - a lot to go through for sure - I was 24, engaged, and very scared. My DH was wonderful though and still is. He's my rock

Sending to everyone!

 

[struth]

Hi ladies. Please can I join?! This is my first time ttc. I came off cilest on the 1st of June after 8 years on bcp. I'm now on cd7. I started temping on Tuesday and will start opk on Saturday. Don't know how long my cycles are gonna be but I'm hoping they'll be normal really soon. So nice to have a group like this coz we all going through the same thing!!

Hi Anti - welcome to the thread!

I was also on Cileste - I hope that you have a quick return to normal AFs!

 

[anti]

Do any of you ladies check your cervix? This is the first time I've been checking it but it's a little bit softer and a little bit higher than it was yesterday. Could my body be gearing up for O? Or am I getting ahead of myself? I'm on cd8

 

[Reba]

I'm so confused!

I thought I was ovulating but today my temp went down. I had all the signs.. No bleeding tho. UGH
Any thoughts?

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/35b89d

MrsBea you mentioned earlier that you felt your body was preparing for O but just couldn't quite get there. I think that's where I am... unless things turn around in the next few days. UGHH so frustrating!!

Anti - I had a significant change in cervix feel on CD43 it was soft.

 

[struth]

I'm so confused!

I thought I was ovulating but today my temp went down. No bleeding. UGH
Any thoughts?

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/35b89d


Anti - I had a significant change in cervix feel on CD43 it was soft.

Hmmm....having looked at your chart, I'm afraid to say that it seems that you might not have done. Have you played around with what would happen if you entered a couple of dummy temps over the next few days? I had similar red herrings during my recent mammoth cycle - I even have crosshairs put in by FF but then removed at 4dpo as my temp went down again. I know it is easier said than done but if you give it a couple of days it should become clearer.

AFM - I am pleased to announce that this evening AF has finally got me!!!! I know that I shouldn't really be excited by that but it has been 89 days since my last one. I was worrying that I was going to get AF - I have been spotting for a week and thought that it might just dry up and then I wouldn't know when to start my next cycle. Anyway, I have AF AND my LP has increased from 9 days to 12 days.

Now if only I can stop the pre-AF spotting, get rid of PCOS and my cyst, and start having normal length cycles....

So...cd1...!

MrsBea - when is your specialist appointment? I'm just waiting on my referral to the gynaecologist. Did yours come through quickly?

Wouldluvabub - how are things? I hope your week has got better

 

[Reba]

I'm so confused!

I thought I was ovulating but today my temp went down. No bleeding. UGH
Any thoughts?

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/35b89d


Anti - I had a significant change in cervix feel on CD43 it was soft.

Hmmm....having looked at your chart, I'm afraid to say that it seems that you might not have done. Have you played around with what would happen if you entered a couple of dummy temps over the next few days? I had similar red herrings during my recent mammoth cycle - I even have crosshairs put in by FF but then removed at 4dpo as my temp went down again. I know it is easier said than done but if you give it a couple of days it should become clearer.

AFM - I am pleased to announce that this evening AF has finally got me!!!! I know that I shouldn't really be excited by that but it has been 89 days since my last one. I was worrying that I was going to get AF - I have been spotting for a week and thought that it might just dry up and then I wouldn't know when to start my next cycle. Anyway, I have AF AND my LP has increased from 9 days to 12 days.

Now if only I can stop the pre-AF spotting, get rid of PCOS and my cyst, and start having normal length cycles....

So...cd1...!

MrsBea - when is your specialist appointment? I'm just waiting on my referral to the gynaecologist. Did yours come through quickly?

Wouldluvabub - how are things? I hope your week has got better

I put in some dummy numbers last night. If the temp had gone back up to 36.2 today and stayed there or gone up higher the O would have been on CD46. *sigh* When I took my chart in and saw the Dr she mentioned that on the chart I might have O'd around CD33 but the blood test was negative for that. I'll wait a few days... I'll go in Monday for the blood test to see if I did O and if not probably take the Provera she prescribed. I got so upset this am that I've felt like crying all day. I ended up having a 3 hour nap. I guess I should really look into some weight loss. It's just not easy - I work as hard as DH and lbs shed so easily for him stupid pcos!!

Struth Congrats to you, sorry you didn't get this cycle but great to know your body decided to end the cycle finally!

When my Dr. referred me to the gyne it was a month to see her... but I have previous history with her so it might have been a rush.. not sure.

wouldluvabub I also hope your week has turned around. Sending positive thoughts!

 

[Trishg21]

Hey ladies! I haven't been on for a few days but I just caught up on what I missed. Glad to see some new peeps in here!

Struth- Congrats on CD 1! I know it is no BFP but just getting a new cycle and a longer LP is encouraging. Sorry to hear about the PCOS though.

wouldluvabub- How are you doing? Anything new this week?

Nothing new here. Took my last Provera pill today so just waiting on AF so I can start clomid round 2. One thing was wierd though, yesterday when I wipped I had some bright red blood. Not really spotting just one streak. I thought maybe it was AF coming but then when I did some research it sounds like how Provera works is you actually bleed once you withdraw from the medication. So that was kinda wierd but probably nothing. Just playing the waiting game

 

[struth]

Reba - so sorry. I know exactly how it feels. I had two or three of those last cycle. You get so excited about O. You time BD as you don't want to miss it. You think you have done everything you can and then it doesn't happen. It is heartbreaking. I actually found that bit to be harder than waiting for AF/bfp! I would still go in and have your prog tested if you can though - you never know. As for weightloss - I started again yesterday - my bmi was only 26 but I have lost it the last couple of weeks and is perhaps a big higher now. Anyway, I'm going to try and get it below 25. I agree with you about blokes though - it just falls off them. It is just not fair...

Trishg21 - good to hear from you and thanks for your kind words. I was expected the PCOS/referral so I'm actually ok about it. I did all my crying a couple of weeks ago when I got my blood results. I just need to learn to deal with it on a daily basis now - you know, alter my diet to try and keep my blood sugar levels low and so on. As for you - how is the provera supposed to work then? Do you take it and then wait a few days for bleeding usually? I don't know anything about it I'm afraid I hope that you get AF soon though so that you can start that second cycle

 

[Heidi]

Thanks for the welcomes
on CD29 now and still nothing to report

 

[struth]

Thanks for the welcomes
on CD29 now and still nothing to report

Have you started charting already or are you waiting for AF before you do? I hope she comes soon for you (or indeed not at all and you get a 9 month break!).