pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

ahhh sorry for the late response! yesterday was insane at work and i have an oral defense today for my thesis. so i have been working all last night and today to get all of my things done for my presentation. so now im extremely exhausted today! i cant even imagine what it would be like if i was doing this while in my third trimester! i guess i got pregnant at just the right time

i dont get paid maternity leave. i basically get up to 12 weeks unpaid, and during that time i can use any vacation time that i have as well so that i can be getting a paycheck. or, i could take 12 weeks unpaid and then take my vacation time after that. i think what ill end up doing is taking the twelve weeks and have my vacation time count for part of that. by september i should have about 6 weeks saved up cause i have some left over from last year. so ill get paid for 6 weeks and then no pay for six weeks. hopefully we will be able to save enough to be alright without pay for 6 weeks. :-/ thats cool that your OH will be able to take off when the baby is born! i heard only 5% of women have their babies on their EDDs so hopefully he can take off some time before and after your EDD too.

i think thats the same with my DH. he doesnt really like shopping unless its for something he wants. and we i do drag him along he doesnt want to look he just wants to get the first one of something we see and get out of there. i think i will be doing a lot of the baby shopping with my parents when theyre here and my girlfriends! lol. i definitely think that anything your FIL builds will be so special, and dyoull be able to use it for all of your babies!

i had this prenatal class i had to go to yesterday cause my doc recommended it. it ended up being kind of basic and all the things i already knew, but i was talking to this other girl that was there and she is like 24 weeks along. i was asking her when the kicking started and she said the small ones did at about 15 weeks, but that now they are crazy. i asked if they get annoying and she said sometimes, like when shes trying to sleep...but that its totally worth it and she gets worried if he stops kicking. lol. she said the baby will kick when theyre in the car and they have the music up, or if someone claps loud or something...like the baby gets startled. haha. i thought that was so funny. she said its almost like he jumps in there cause hes scared.

yea i think about 18 weeks ill go buy some classic books and probably start reading to the bump at around 20 weeks. maybe a little earlier, but i dodnt really have time until i finish my thesis anyway. and at 20 weeks i will be nearly finished with all of the school stuff.

thanks! i love moving up a week! these past few weeks have gone by really quick. at first i thought it was going so slow, but i can definitely tell its all speeding up. i am so happy to have made it to 2nd tri! only 7 more weeks until the ultrasound. only 5 for you! woohoo!

 

[dizzy65]

thats okay its totally understandable. you sound really busy :S hopefully you will get all this hard work out of your system before third tri that will totally make things so difficult like running around and everything will be lots harder with a big tummy for sure

well thats good if you have the vacation time so you can get a paycheck too. It will work out good if you can get 50% of the time payed it kinda sucks thou having to use up your vacation time for maternity leave, every job should have paid maternity leave hehe. I really hope baby doesnt come after EDD that would be horribal i am already so impatient i couldnt imagin waiting longer than that time haha. Oh well it would only be about 5 days late before i would get induced Maybe we will be the lucky ones that give birth on our EDD's hehe

My OH is always like that, if we go into a shop that sells tools or something he is in there all day where is im bored wanting to go haha and when i say oh lets go look at baby stuff he always wants to just grab the firstthing there and get out of there haha ah boys they can be so funny but i wont let him ruin my fun i hope to get in some baby shopping with my mummy too that will be really special for you to go baby shopping with you mom

Thats cool that you got to go to a prenatial class i wont be able to go to my prenatial classes until in like 24 weeks haha. Oh thats cool i get sort of flutters and stuff. i totally know what she means about getting worried when bubs doesnt move as much as it was that would totally be nerve wrecking. That is so cute that it gets startled haha I think pretty soon im going to ask OH when im in the vechial to not have the base up so loud as it might be harmful to bubs

that will be cool.. and then you can really start focusing on the baby. start focusing on talking to it and reading about it and stuff

wow only 7 weeks thats going to go by so fast for you it does seem like the time is just flying by even thou it may seem like its taking for ever hehe i was so happy when i made it to second tri too

today i went into the clinic to see if i could get my prenatial stuff started and all that and then by my surprise we were talking then he was like "have you heard your babies heart beat" and i was like "no not yet" and then he was like " would you like to" and i was like "yes" so i got to hear babiesheart beat it was so amazing. baby is fine andhealthy and has a great heart beat and is as active as ever

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea it was a hectic couple of days, but i passed my first defense! hooray. so now i have 4 more weeks to finish up the project and then 4 more weeks after that to do all the proofing and printing. hooray! im so glad this is all gonna be over by may...by then ill probably be getting pretty big and not wanting to run around like a crazy busy college student!

yea i really wish that america had the same thing as britian were all women get a portionof their salary for their maternity leave. and i think they can take up to like a year and are still guaranteed their job back. i done know if canada has that too, but it seems like such a good deal! lol. i really hope youre right and were part of the 5% that actually have the babies on our EDDs...im actually quite fond of my date now! the only way id be happier is if its earlier...i so dont want to be late! the waiting would be torture!

i know! boys can spend hours in stores that sell tools and things, but run at the sight of a regular department store. they are beyond silly sometimes. today we were up at the mall and i wanted to go into the baby store and my DH was just like "really? do we have to now?" lol...this is going to be a fight to get him to be a part of the shopping. but, i know i can do the shopping part on my own or with my mom. if he doesnt want to, i wont force him...im better left to my own devices anyway cause then its not all the questions like "do we really need that?" or "what are you getting this for?"

yea this class was kind of like an introduction one. i think theres another more in depth one starting at like 24 weeks and its four 2-hour sessions. and then a labor and delivery tour at like 30 weeks. and then a breastfeeding class at 37 weeks. so many classes to go to! but the later ones will be more fun cause theyll be more in-depth and the baby will be bigger and well be closer to labor by then. i dont blame you about the base thing in the car...i would be nervous about it hurting the beans ears too. that can be pretty loud at times, and even my ears hurt sometimes from a loud base.

im sure the weeks until the ultrasound will speed by. for you too! youre already getting so close and only have a little more than a month to go! and that is so cool that you got to hear the heartbeat out of the blue like that and so unexpected! its crazy right, how fast its going! thats so very cool for you!

 

[dizzy65]

yay for you thats exciting. i bet its just a big countdown now to days left until you graduate so you can start acting "pregnant" haha and not having todo all this running around and stuff. it must be a little bit stressfull even now. i know with me, if im on my feet to long i get so tired, and my back starts to ache and my feet hurt haha... i was in town with my dad and grandma the other day and i was shopping with my dad and like every chance i got i sat down i was like "dad do you have to walk so fast im so tired" haha my dad just rolled his eyes at me. i also get so much worse when i havent had a nap.

Im not sure what its like in canada i think its basically that you have to find the job that offers that kind of benifts and you probably have to be there for a certain amount of time. i have herd of some people getting up to a year off with there job garanteeded back. Me to ive grown quiet fond of my EDD, i would be so impatient if baby decided it wanted to be late haha, but my mom delievered early with both my sister and me so it gives me hope that it wont be late i would be happy if it was a little bit early too.

Haha i know what you mean i hate when OH asks me stuff like "are you sure you want that?" or "do we really need this?" i just want to smack him upside the head. but when its about his tools its the moor the better haha. ah boys can be so difficult

Ah so many classes ithink you are right tho when it gets down to 30+ weeks those classes are going to be so much better when the baby is bigger haha and there is more to learn and the baby is all active and moving around and stuff. and we get to learn about the final steps

I hope so im so anxious to see bean again i miss him/her haha i know i was so happy when i heard the heart beat i almost cried i was like awe there my baby is haha i herd it pretty steady tell the baby decided it wanted to run around for a bit haha

 

[QueSeraSera]

exactly! i have my priorities and the baby is number one! but right now im having to focus so much time on my school and im none to happy about it! lol and the crazy busy schedule isnt helping either. today we went shopping cause there were a lot of things that we needed to get. anyway, we had to go to like 5 different place and it took like 4 hours. i was so exhausted after and my feet were hurting so bad. usually things like that wouldnt even phase me, but i guess pregnancy has changed that! lol

i guess benefits are different everywhere, but it seems like we have it especially bad here. the workplace in america just doesnt seem to care about new mothers. bleh! oh well, im just glad that i have some vacation saved up. i would be so happy if i was a little early. i dont wanna be so early that it puts the baby in danger, but a few days or a week would be nice! less time to wait that way

yea boys just dont understand. theyre kinda silly that way...they only have interests in silly boy things like tools. we will change them soon enough...by the end theyll be all sorts of interested in baby things. maybe, that is. lol

that is still so cool that you got to hear the heartbeat so unexpectedly like that. now just the ultrasound and then the classes and then labor...well have our babies sooner than we know it!

 

[dizzy65]

Pregnancy does take a toll even this early into it. It gets so tiring being on my feet all the time most of the day my schedule is like i eat then i sleep i wake up then i eat then i go back to sleep haha. all i am interested in right now is food and sleeping haha. my mom was like "woa ive never seen you eat so much" and i keep saying "its not me its baby i swear" haha its funny. Pretty soon in a couple of months you will be able to relax and take it easy. just in time too. you wouldnt want to go into third tri having a crazy schedule like that. it must be even hard right now.

Yes thats for sure. I wish they couldnt be basically the same every where. LIke with maternity leave any way. But i guess you'd probably have to be at the job for a certain amount of time any way before you got maternity leave. Some jobs even offer paternity leave. Which would be good for if the guys want to be home and everything.

haha ya thats right thats all they care about Silly. I hope it changes when baby comes, they will have to do lots of baby shopping haha wheather they want to or not

Yep i hope this time doesnt drag by i so want to meet my little one. My grandma isso excited to be a great grandma haha. its funny everyone is like so excited for this baby, and im like yes im excited too but you guys dont have to carry it if i dont seem excited its because im really so tired and exhausted haha

OH is away working right now, and everytime we text or he talks to me on the phone he is like i want to see you and baby i want to feel my baby moving and he is always like awe i miss you guys so much and how is my baby doing haha i think he is getting more excited about it now

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea its really crazy how many changes happen early on. i guess you really only think about pregnancy making you tired in the end when your belly is huge, but that is so not the truth! i pretty much spent all yesterday lounging around in the house because i couldnt muster up the energy to do much else. and then last night i went to dinner with one of my good friends and nothing on the menu sounded good, so i ended up having cheesecake for dinner... :-/ eeek. not a very good decision probably.

yea i have heard of the paternity leave thing, i dont think there is hardly anywhere here in the us that does that though. its hard enough to find a place that gives any maternity pay here, much less any benefits to the fathers! i think its wrong though, but i guess to businesses its all about making money and less about the happiness of their workers.

yea they have no idea what theyre in for as far as shopping! they better just get used to the idea already. my MIL sent a package this past weekend for my stepson, but she included a gift to my husband for the baby (yea...to my husband. she doesnt really like me...even though im the one carrying the baby) it is this cute little wrap for newborns because i guess they like to be wrapped up tight and warm cause thats what its like in the womb. it was the first official baby gift. now i just want to start buying! lol

thats how my family is too! they are so crazy excited all the time about it. i mean, i am too...but sometimes its hard to show it when youre not feeling very well. but were going to get through all of the exhaustion and everything and in the end it will all be worth it to finally meet our babies! its getting closer every day

that would be hard for him to be away im sure. last night my DH went out to have drinks with coworkers and then when i went to pick him up he was being a right asshole (men can be such jerks sometimes, especially when theyve been drinking) and we got into this huge fight. i ended up leaving and going to sit on the beach until like 1 am cause i didnt want to be in the house. when i came home he came out and led me back to bed and put his hands on my bump and said how sorry he was to me and the baby and how he didnt want us to ask like that anymore. today he has been really sweet and i think it all made him feel realy bad that he acted like a jerk. we dont fight very often, but when we do its bad...not to mention that now i have all the pregnancy hormones making everything so much worse. im glad thats over though! lol

 

[dizzy65]

I know i didnt believe when people said, all the changes and stuff you have to go threw. i am sort of excited and dreading the end of it all for in the third tri i herd that the symptoms come back major and just make you want to be on your ass all the time. I will be really happy to finally cross from second tri to third, but it is kind of scarey to think at the end of the last tri that there will be the baby

Yes i havent herd of very many jobs here that offer paternity leave. There are more so jobs that offer maternity leave. But in some cases, some guys need the option of paternity leave as what would happen if the guys wife or what ever died during delievery orsomething and needed that option. i guess most companies only care about whats coming in and they dont care about there workers happyness or anything like that (a bad attitude if they want there company to keep there workers )....

Haha i know. I think they will probably get more into it thou once baby is hear and can actaully imagin what the baby will look like in the clothes and stuff. you never no My OH will probably still not be into it at all, but i hope so i dont want to have to fource him to be doing this stuff with me all the time. blah

Thats how i feel. I dont look happy as im always tired they should be able to tell it. i just want to sleep all the time but once bub is here it will be so much better and i wiill actaully be able to show how happy i am.

Awe i am sorry about that. Some men are jerks around there friends too i hate that.. its not at all very good. I know what you mean now with OH and i get into what would be a little tiff now it gets esculated because of the pregnancy hormones and it makes it worse as OH says "i really hate those hormones" It's good you guys made up thou hopefully your DH will make better decisions on his words and how he treats u for now on when hes been drinking

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea everything i read made the third tri seem worse than anything weve seen yet as far as aches, fatigue and all that. to me thats terrifying because im already exhauted all of the time, i cant image it getting worse. im sure the last couple of months ill just be completely useless more of the time. at least work is air conditioned and has comfy chairs. sine itll be hot outside and i wont be wanting to be up and around much. but the idea of the baby being here is kinda scary...so exciting, but still slightly terrifying. lol.

yea it really doesnt make sense that guys dont get anything. also us girls are so exhausted and still healing after labor that we really need the guys there for the first couple of weeks. maybe paternity leave doesnt need to be as long as maternity leave, but there should still be something. i found out that the military actually does give new dads 3 free days off that doesnt come out of the vacation time. its not much, but i guess its at least something. my DH is planning on taking a week right after the baby is born and then another week after all of our family and guests leave.

i know! sometimes it gets old having to force the boys into getting excited about the shopping and stuff. im pretty sure its gonna be like that with my DH the whole time. he will probably go with me when i ask, but he wont enjoy it. lol. although last night he did ask me if i wanted to go to babys-r-us this weekend to put a registry together. he actually volunteered it! i about fainted...lol

so your fatigue hasnt gotten any better at all? i keep reading these things that say the second tri is the "honeymoon phase" where you feel great and all the bad symptoms are kinda gone. but, so far, im not seeing much of a change at all! im still just constantly drained of energy and all i have the desire to do is eat and sleep! lol

yea sometimes guys really suck! the only time we ever fight is when one or both of us (but not me anymore!) are drinking. alcohol really makes people say stupid things. and usually i can just ignore him if he says something dumb, but with these hormones im so much quicker to jump to a fight. not good really. hopefully that doesnt happen too much throughout this pregnancy! DH is in the conference for work this week and so he has a social outing like every night this week pretty much, and because they are all military they include alcohol. last night i told him i couldnt go through that again right now, and he said he knows and he will try to be better and not act like a dick. so hopefully that works out! lol. the one good thing about a fight is how sweet he always is after...super lovey and mushy like. probably wanting to make sure hes completely forgiven!

youre 16 weeks! oh my gosh, i cant believe how far along youre getting! man, not too long now and youll be at 20.. and your ultrasound will be here soon too! you must be getting so excited. i saw the post of your bump in the other thread...so completely cute. theres no denying it...you are totally preggo. nobody can mistake your cute little bump as just gaining some weight!

 

[dizzy65]

i know i am so terrified for third tri. Just because this tiredness thing is getting so old and i dont want it to get worse. any more worse and im going to be sleeping all day. My OH is always like ah your so boring, im like "well im just exahusted from carrying your baby" haha ... I know probably after this pregnancy there will be little sleep as the baby will be crying and stuff, so i guess better enjoy the fact that i can sleep all i want now i will really enjoy it thou when baby is hear and i will be up with it Omg i know i am terrified of the baby thing too. like we took my grandma to the hospital the other day and as soon as i walked into where the elevators are there was a pregnant women there in labour and i was like "oh sh*t in 6 months im going to be here having a baby" it never hit me tell then.. i almost fainted it totally caught me off gaurd.

Thats good your DH at least gets a couple of days off for the baby. I think since the baby is due right after OH is out of school that work will let him take off the rest of the month of august, so he can be with me and the baby at that time. thats why i kinda hope baby is a little bit early as OH will have some more time to spend with us. But its going to be pretty hectic the first week or too of the baby's life as we are going to have so many relitives over and friends just to see the baby. plus my baby shower im having after baby is here so my grandma can come (she is traveling from 8 hours away) so it will be good to have her at my baby shower ... i was hoping OH would come to the shower but i dont think that will work. haha

Thats good he asked that. means he is showing some signs of wanting to shop haha... i think after our 20 week scan OH will want to go shopping.. he already sound excited when i brought it up

No it hasnt gotten any better and its supposed to ah so frusterating haha. i just want to be able to have energy to keep up with OH but all i want to do is nap and eat.. i guess im just one of the unlucky ones that gets bad pregnancy symptoms all the way threw. like having to pee lots is supposed to have subsided but i still have to pee so much haha.

I know what you mean i usually try to avoid OH when he has been drinking. not to mention the smell right now just makes me want to get sick.. My OH has a habbit of drinking beer (eww) and then kissing me and i tell him not to and he does any way i hate the taste of beer and i hate when he decides he wants to kiss me after he has been drinking so annoying! ahh men some times.

Thanks! i love my cute little bump I know i cant wait 4 more weeks tell 20 weeks and 8 more weeks untel im 24 yay i cant wait it is so exciting. my baby is now the size of an avacado I know i am so happy that people can now tell im not just "gaining wait" that im pregnant it is such a nice feeling. It feels like its going by so fast. the baby now weighs 3-4 ounces its getting so big now..

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea all of the baby things this far have been awesome but it hasnt really all sunk in yet. like, i talk about labor and all of that, but its not like a reality yet that in a few months im going to be going through that. i think as my bump is getting bigger though its becoming a more constant reminder that there is a baby in there, and one day that baby is going to have to come out into the world by means of a very painful process. lol. as far as the sleeping goes, it seems like i cant ever really get good sleep at night. im always tossing and turning and just unable to sleep. if i have to have sleepless nights, i cant wait until theyre because im up taking care of baby. not just because i cant sleep! thats annoying! lol

oh that does make sense why you want the baby to get there a little earlier. the earlier in the month the more time your DH will have with you two before work. thats cool that youre having your shower so that your grandma can be there! but kinda sucks that your OH wont be able to be there. im not sure ill be having a shower at all because i dont know many people here, and all my family is back on the mainland. so i might not have one at all.. :-/ oh well, we will be able to get everything on our own, it just seems like it would be fun though.

ugh! i still have to pee every 10 minutes too. its really bad lately. maybe this is my payment for not getting morning sickness...im going to have to have symptoms all through the pregnancy. it doesnt seems like im gonna get the 2nd trimester break that everyone seems to be talking about. oh well, at least my worst symptoms are just fatigue and some nausea...none of them are really that bad. i just wish i could have a little extra energy to get me through the days!

for me its that i cant stand smoke. my DH stopped smoking last year, but when he drinks he wants to have a cigar. and a cigar is the first thing i ever smoked and i got so horribly sick for days that i still feel sick at the smell. thats part of what the fight a few days ago was about actually. why do guys do the things they know we hate and then think were gonna be all lovey with them. theyre out of their minds!

an avocado!? wow! getting so big every week. its really crazy to think about how much the little one grows in just a week...it happens so fast. soon the little one will be the size of a watermelon and youll be about to go into labor! the time is going faster though...youre rapidly approaching the big milestones of halfway and viability! hooray!

 

[dizzy65]

you are right i have enjoyed being pregnant thus far the rest will be just as enjoyable from feeling the first big kicks to hitting viability and the 30 and 35 week marks are huge too.. I cant believe it i think the first part of the pregnancy will seem like it drags by but the second half 20weeks + will be more exciting and exhausting all in one because there is more prep for baby. we get to buy all of the stuff and there is the going to prenatial classes and getting allready emotionally for labour. then there is braxton hicks (i herd that those are painful too) but it will all totally be worth it after i got over 13 weeks it seemed to go really fast. i was so happy when my Prenatial doctor explained to me that im over 12 weeks that means that there is way less chance of me loosing baby. I think everything will seem more real when we have to go to the hospital or maybe even when we have to pack our hospital bags. eek.. thats going to be so exciting

I hope that my mom can organise the whole thing like they did with my cousins. i dont want to organise it i sort of want it to be so male and female can go just so my OH has the option to be there and open gifts with me (i really dont want OH missing out on the experiance of seeing all the gifts).. awe that really sucks you might not get a baby shower. but maybe you can do something special when your mom is up, there will most likely be time after baby is there that youand your mom and baby can do something together

Thats what i figure too that this is punishment for not getting morning sickness or some of the worse simptoms in first tri.. I know what you mean i wish i had a little energy.. if i dont have a nap during the day, for the rest of the day im pretty much screwed im drowsy and have no energy to do anything. OH usually texts me at breaks and when i dont text him he is usually like "were you napping again" haha.. sometimes i just lay down on the couch and thats it im done and out and dont even mean it haha. my kitten some times wakes me up to early wanting to play i hate that

Ah how rude. I would suppose that would cause problems if you specifically told him how you feel about it and he goes and does it any way. i would be so mad. especially now that you can get sick way easier.. and it probably made you feel really sick. I know what you mean. OH does something bad and i blow up at him then right after expects me to be all lovey with him im like uh no bud your going to have to do major suck up if you want to be in my good books again! which he always does cause he feels bad and really hates upsetting a very hormonal pregnant lady haha

I know i had to look up how big that is on a ruller as it said 4 1/2 inches and i seen that i was like wholy crap its getting so big now awe.. I know thats going to be crazy when its the size of a full grown baby.. i know i am so exciting about hitting half way then viability.. i am so excited that there is like a month left tell we see baby again yay and most of the time im going to be in B.C, actaully my last day here is my birthday hehe your going to be there before you know it too and at the end we can look back at all of this and laugh because we finally made it to holding our little ones this will all be a dream until next time

 

[QueSeraSera]

i think the time is super speeding up now because there is less risk of things going wrong. in the beginning i was so worried all the time and nervous that something would happen. all i wanted was to get to the second tri and have the risk go down. so i think that made time seem like it was crawling by, because now it really seems to be picking up more and more each day. im much more relaxed now and just enjoying being pregnant, its really nice not to have to be so worried about every little thing now. and, like you said, all the exciting things are to come. were growing bigger every day, we will see our very developed babies soon on ultrasound, well reach viability, well have the practice contractions, pack a hospital bag, decorate a nursery....now is the fun part of our pregnancies!

yea i have seen baby showers where the guys are allowed. i think the girls only thing is kind of old fashioned from a time when the babies were "womens business" and guys werent that interested. now more modern couples have coed baby showers all the time. and that would be good just in case your OH can get off of work and be there. im sure he would love to be part of it.

haha! i know what you mean about exhaustion! last night i had to pick DH up from another social thing with work (thankfully he was very well behaved and there were no fights this time!) and we came home, ate, and i went to bed at 830 cause i was so tired. and then i didnt wake up this morning until almost 930 am! i havent slept in late late in i dont know how long! it felt really good though and today i feel so much more rested. i think i really needed a long rest like that to catch up on some sleep. i woke up to a text from DH at 7am saying he had tried to wake me and that i was out cold, and he hoped i woke up in tme for class. haha. my classes arent until 4pm today! lol...i must have really been pretty out of it.

yea the fight was pretty bad and he was just being a dick. he gets jealous when i go out with my best friend. im not sure why...maybe because ive known her longer or because we went through our wild party days together or who knows...but he usually acts like a dick everytime we hang out together. it didnt make sense that night though because even though i was out with her, he was out with his friends too. so he didnt really need to be a dick when i picked him up. and i think he felt pretty bad about it the past two days. like i said, last night he was on his best bahaviour and was so sweet even in front of his friends. haha. trying to get back on my good side i think!

i cant wait to find out how big baby is this week. i cant believe 13 weeks is almost over! like i said, the weeks are just flying by now. youre down to a month from your ultrasound! so exciting. i get to call next week to get my appointment date...keeping my fingers crossed that theyll have something before DH goes out of town.

 

[dizzy65]

i think you are right in the begining there is so much nervousness and always looking at the calender just hoping to get to second tri always waiting for that moment. Ever since i found out, i was just praying and hoping that id make it to second tri and that could be tiring in itself. But i looked at the calander today and was like wholy crap it was 10 weeks ago that i was just finding out i was pregnant. i cant believe it 10 whole weeks. thats insane.. it doesnt seem like that long ago.. but time has really flew by. now we get the exciting part of our pregnancies, feeling bubs move hearing the heart beat seeing the up to date scans of bean looking like a real baby, finding on the gender(for sum).. i cant wait to do up the nursery and buy all that beautiful baby clothes and baby accesories and all that fun stuff. and after third tri (which is rapidly creeping up) there will be our beautiful babies, eek i cant believe it

I think you are right. My cousins in laws baby shower she didnt want the boys to come but my cousin he was out of town fire fighting anyway. I think guys should at least have the option of coming if they reallywant to.. alot of guys dont like this sort of thing but im sure OH would like to at least have the option of being at the baby shower.

Haha oh my he must of really thought you were going to sleep in! haha.. a while ago the day of my scan actaully OH was sitting there like shaking me for like 1/2 hour before iwoke up i was so out of it.. he was like "shannon come on wake up" and i just causially woke up he was like omg haha. this exhaustion thing can get a little old thou, im like the walking dead or something when i havent got a good night sleep!

Well thats good he wasnt being rude to you again, i hate when guys do that. My OH doesnt really get more jerkish when he is drinking mainly when he is around his friends, like with the sexual jokes and crap like that it pisses me off so bad. my OH is the same way around one of my bestfriends too he asks major jerkish to me.. That sounds good though that your DH is trying to show you that he is really sorry.

I know thats crazy. it seems like just yesterday i was congradulating you on being to 9 weeks and now already you are just about 14 weeks along its going by so fast. thats my fav part of each week to finding out how big the baby is it is so exciting. usually im like omg thats inside of me haha, makes me feel huge sum times. Yay that will be great when you can call in, fingers crossed for you

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh same here! i think thats whats so crazy about the whole thing, how fast the time is actually going even though we felt like it was taking so long. looking back now, i cant believe almost 9 weeks have gone by since i took that first test. it seems like it was only yesterday. ive heard it said that once you have kids your life just speeds up so much...im beginning to believe thats true afterall! i think its going to keep flying by until maybe the summer when im huge and hot...then i will probably be feeling like the days take forever again because of the heat and being uncomfortable, lol.

i can understand why some women dont want boys at the baby shower i guess...its kind of the last time you are ever gonna have a party that is all about the mom. lol. but its kinda unfair to keep the boys out of it. if i do end up having something, i will want my DH to be included or at least have the choice to be. i think he kind of might not be interested in being invovled. like, he didnt want to ba a part of the wedding shower either. guess he wants that to be my little thing.

yea i was pretty out of it this morning. i remember had alarms set at 730 and 8 and i dont remember at all either of them going off. but i shut them off... i must have been like sleepwalking to turn off the alarm and not remember it. lol. im glad im not the only one who is so exhausted like this though and having difficulty making it through the days! i was starting to think something was wrong when it wasnt getting better, but like everything i guess all symptoms affect women differently. so im sure its normal and fine.

oh man, boys and their rude comments and jokes can get so out of control! with my DHs friends being in the military they can all be pretty raunchy. i usually just go off and do my own thing at that point, i dont want to hear most of what they have to say! lol. the jealousy over my best friend though just seems strange. we dont hang out that much anymore and he doesnt have anything to be jealous over...silly boys!

every weekend when we go to the grocery store i go find the fruit that the baby is the size of that week and hold it up to my belly. when i see the size of it compared to my stomach then i dont wonder so much why im getting so big...cause the baby is getting big! lol. i cant wait to see what the 14 week size is in my newsletter tomorrow. it is so interesting to have a comparison of size, but also every week it just makes it so clear that the baby is getting bigger and stronger every day. and thats all that matters!

 

[dizzy65]

I think that is so true that once you get pregnant and start having kids things speed up so much. Ahh thats so crazy.. Its crazy to think how fast it has goin by.. Today OH this is his first day back and i had a panic so he had to rush me in to see the doctor. my tummy hurt so bad, i went in and found out it was just round legiment pain, it was so funny they listend to heart beat, baby wouldnt stay still for a proper reading, so that kinda sucked. But Baby is all fine and everything is well, my belly is the proper size i dont have high blood presure (yay) and my breathing sounded perfectly healthy.. just baby was super active haha.

I dont think my OH will want to be at the baby shower either but he might like the idea that i thought of him enough to say he can come. i think he is the same that the baby shower and everything like that is for the women he might not like to go to something like that but you never know. it is always nice to have the option. he might surprise me and decide he wants to go hehe

Wholy sleep turning off alarms thats hillarious. i dont sleep with alarms on now as they will just get tossed onto thefloor as i hate waking up early now haha like OH tried to cuddle me this morning and i pushed him away i was so tired and didnt want to be bothered haha.

I know what you mean with OH when he starts making rude comments and stuff i just walk away or just ignore it go into my happy place lol.

Congrats on your 14 weeks and thats so cute about the grocery store seeing the fruit that your baby is the size of maybe i should try that

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh my gosh that must have been scary! but im glad everything is okay and you and the baby are both healthy! round ligament pain....thats caused from the uterus stretching? baby must be wanting some extra space in there to do its gymnastics! the heartbeat thing happened at mine too! the little ones just dont seems to want to stay still when we need them too! it sounds like everything is on track though, so thats good. now im a little nervous about this round ligament pain thing... :-/

if my mom ends up throwing a shower i know my DH wont want to go! she always has these silly games to play. like at the wedding shower we had to split up into groups and each group had to pick a model and make a wedding dress for her out of toilet paper! it was so amazingly silly. i know DH would just not have fun with things like that at all. hehe

yea i had to start putting my alarm across the room so i would have to walk over to turn it off. that means i have to wake up...but apparently not always! haha! oops. oh well...i was in need of some rest desperately! lol. DH said i did that to him last week. he had to leave while i was still asleep so he came up to give me a kiss goodbye and i shoved him away and rolled over. i dont remember that at all! i dont get very good sleep at night between getting up to pee and trying to get comfortable, but apparently when i am asleep im pretty out of it! hah

yea with the fruit thing its kind of crazy to actually hold it in your hand and see how it measures compared to your body. before it was like oh my gosh thats so tiny when it was like week 5 and the baby was the size of a grain of rice. but now i go in and its like the size of a lemon and im thinking...man, seems like a tight fit already, if the baby keeps growing were and im going to keep it all! lol

 

[dizzy65]

yes it is caused by the uterus stretching and it hurts sometimes really bad i felt better after i found out it was totally natural. felt really awkward thou she was feeling around for like my pubic bone and stuff around the bottom of my tummy, she wanted to check my cervix but i told her no, haha i didnt feel like that plus OH was there i didnt want him looking that would b embaressing haha. Yes Baby was being a little brat it was so cute shes like ok this is the placenta and she tried for 2 min more she just kept finding the placenta and then she was like ah ha there is baby, she listend for 20 seconds then baby kicked the doppler away and ran away so we couldnt find it again, we tried following it all over my bump it was so funny. Very active me and OH sat there laughing i am like ohh it doesnt want you to track it today haha. She also made me pee in a cup she checked for urinary tract infection and it was all good. sothat was good. i complained thou i was like ugh i hate peeing in cups haha. So everything went really well any way. I some times hate round ligament pain.

Awe that sounds awesome and so creative. With my family its mainly open presents and sit around eating and talking and with baby it will all be able making goo goo eyes over baby for the first time haha. I talked to OH tonight and asked him if he wanted to go to the baby shower and he said no, that it was my thing, and its mainly for women anyway, then he said.. Me and the guys will just sit and have a beer or 2 while the women do there thing. i was like oh yeah thats nice.. haha. Most people wont be drinking thou.

haha thats awesome. My OH says the same thing about me that when im sleeping im really out of it, shoving him away and everything like that. I dont remember most of it. i know what you mean about not getting a good night sleep. I try for so long to get comfy and when i do i have to get up to pee it gets really really tiring then when im finally asleep im out no one is waking me up. haha OH really doesnt like that but oh well im so tired of waking up early and stuff it will be differant when baby is hear because when im up at least i will be doing something to ocupy the time

Haha yeah really. i never thought about really the size of things.. maybe i should try that.. now i new when it said as big as my fist i was like omg i dont think ican do this a fist is pretty big and by time baby is hear its going to be so big.. and where it comes out is really not that big.. ahh haha.. hopefully it wont be to bad thou. i know that it stretchs and everything but still seems like a tight fit

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i dont blame you for being nervous. i get cramps and twinges every now and again and it freaks me out. i guess it should be expected since everything is growing so much, but it still kinda scares me. it sounds like you were really in a lot of pain though! :-/ im really glad everything is okay. the story about the heart monitor is so funny! i love that your little bean was running around in there. it becomes a game of hide and seek! i agree though...the physical check of the cervix is a little much when the OH is there. i had to have a fully physical at my last appointment and i made DH leave the room for that part. lol. and peeing in a cup is the worst. i always feel dirty afterwards, i dont know why. it just is a gross thing to do i guess. and then you have to carry your pee around. not fun! lol

yea...typical boy wanting to get out of the girly things. but its nice that you at least asked him and he had the option to join in. boys are always going to prefer to have a drink with the boys over doing the girly things though...im convinced! at any rate youll have fun with the family and everyone will be over the moon about the baby. im sure it will be a great time!

ahh...this exhaustion is getting out of control. last night i went to bed at 9pm and i had to go to work an hour later than usual because i couldnt get out of bed! my goodness i hope this passes soon! im convinced that its actually worse now than it was before. maybe now because im more uncomfortable an dnot really getting very good sleep at night. it takes me forever to fall asleep and i wake up to pee like 3 times in the night...bleh! im ordering a body pillow this weekend and hoping it will help relieve some of the aches..

i know what you mean! the more the baby grows the more nervous im getting about the time when the baby wants to come out! i mean, the baby is gonna be huge and it is coming out of a tiny place...which doesnt stretch THAT much. i read somewhere that most labors end up with you tearing or having to have a cut so the baby can get out. that doesnt sound like the healing after that will be very fun at all! :-/ eeek!

 

[dizzy65]

I guess it just comes with the territory haha most women get really nervous up until we have our babies in our arms. ahh i hate peeing in a cup, when they told me that i looked at OH and he laughed so hard i was like "aw do i have to" and the receptionest was like "im afraid so" and i went into the bathroom and was like "i really dont have to pee" so i was in there trying to make my self pee.. I really cant pee when people tell me im supposed too. it is so not fair. Babies are so funny even when they arent hear. I told my mom about the appointment and shes like "you are going to have fun once he/she is here.." i was like "haha i know its being a pain already haha" i am so excited to be able to see baby in like 4 weeks now

I think it will be a great experiance with or with out the boys haha. Its going to be a great time with the family. its going to be mostly family i think with some friends. i will get my mom to plan it . I dont like planning big things like these its not one of my specialties i think it will be good thou

Ah that sucks. I think this exhaustion is so bad too. I went to bed 1/2 hour before my OH did last night and when he got to bed he said i was covering the whole bed then he moved me and i woke up and smacked him and went back to sleep and i dont remember any of this and aparently he went to cuddle me and then i turned over looked at him and told him to leave me alone haha to funny

Ah i know the tearing thing sounds soo scarey im so nervous i dont want anything to tear that healing thing sounds very painful like no sex for a year pain ful haha. and i hate stitches, getting stiches down in that area are going to be so bad..

Me and OH spent the whole day in town today we went out to the movies we saw alice and wonderland and we went shopping for a while and we bought our first baby item, we bought baby a car seat yay