pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

that kind of sucks that your OH wont be there for the 18 week scan, but at least you have another just two weeks later that he can be at. will your mom be going with you to the one next week? i think thats so funny that your DH is going to have to restrain you from finding out the gender. i dont know how youll be able to...man i will HAVE to know. lol. but it was a really good feeling to get the appointment date and know that DH will be able to be there. its mostly selfish though...i really didnt want to wait the extra weeks! lol. this is the only ultrasound i get. we get to hear the heartbeat every appointment, but this is the only time we will be baby unless we do something in the private sector which costs a lot.

thats kind of terrifying that they didnt sterilize your arm before taking blood. if they cant manage that...i would be pretty nervous about having surgery there. theres probably a reason that there arent any surgeons there! hahah

its crazy how much our bodies change and grow without us actually gaining much weight. maybe thats a good sign though that we will be able to keep our weigh gain to something manageable for losing later on

i know! every week its so exciting to get the newsletter and find out about baby. i will get mine tomorrow and cant wait to see how big baby has gotten this week. i always send my mom a summary of the newsletter and i can it her "weekly baby update" and even she looks forward to thursdays now for her update! she always tries to guess what fruit the baby is going to be the size of the next week lol

 

[dizzy65]

yes it does suck but it will be okay because he will get to see the baby any way when we go in for our 20 week scan.. i asked my mom if shed like to come in and see the baby with me and she has agreed she said she will be there for me if i cry and i said haha it will probably be her thats crying and she said no way haha.. It must be such a sigh of relief that your DH can be there with you.. it will be so special for you both. that sucks you only get to see the baby once. but i guess we arent considered high risk so they dont need to do much ultra sounds.. thats what the doctor told me, that im low risk of anything happening to bubs so they dont need to schedule me with more ultra sounds then just the 18 and the 20.. i confessed to my doctor here. about having too and he said that it was okay.. and that it was good that im doing a 20 week one as well as the 18 week one we just wont tell the people at the big hospital that haha.

ya thats my point exactly. i was talking to my dad about how they didnt sterilize my arm or anything when they did blood, and he said that almost hapened to him he had to tell her and she argued with him! ignorant people.

Yes, thats whats with all the loose skin i guess when the baby is out and we loose all that weight, it just turns our tummies into flappy and all that haha ah i am not looking forward to that!

Thats a great idea sending your mom those things. i usually tell my mom how big baby is and she usually says great and gets all excited at the progress baby is making. it is so exciting to be able toshare with some one. i always tell my OH too and he gets happy that our baby isgetting bigger Some weeks i noticed that they dont refer to a food or anything.. i usually have to ask my mom how big something is lol. the one week it said it was as big as a fist that was pretty cool i was like ouch haha.

I went to the doctors today, at the clinic for a normal prenatial exam and stuff. i had to do the whole vaginal exam, my god was that uncomfortable i had a male doctor and a nurse doing it, it wasnt so bad just really uncomfortable. But we herd bubs heart beat it is 148 which is really good for how far along i am.. so far ive gained 7 pounds. im just shy of 132 pounds. that was one of the most uncomfortable things having them weigh me.. they also said my uterus is the right size. and baby seems really healthy

 

[QueSeraSera]

thats very cool that the doctor there seems to be okay with the two ultrasounds and you dont have to lie to her. seems like a very easy going doctor that understands that pregnant moms want to see their babies! sometimes i get upset that here i only get one ultrasound, but at the same time i think its good. the only reason they do more is if things arent going right. so, knock on wood that i will only have to have one and there wont be any complications throughout this thing! that will be so special to have your mom there! i bet shes really excited to share that moment with her little girl. i know my mom would want to be at the scan if she was here too. and she would be crying. and i probably would be crying. and DH and my dad would probably be looking at us like we were crazy. this way itll just be me crying and DH looking at me like im crazy. lol

wow...a single mess up is one thing. not good, but it happens. but for someone to do it over and over and then fight about how its not the right way...thats just scary. especailly when it comes to peoples health! :-/

i know, i am going to be wanting to do wittups like the first day out of labor! im sure i wont be able too but the flabby belly sure isnt something ill be wanting to keep around for very long! eeek!

yea my mom gets so excited and she reads them to my dad. they are both so silly excited over the baby. this week the baby is the size of a naval orange this week! i cant believe how big its getting

ahhh i hate those physical exams like that! i made DH leave for mine. its so uncomfortable. i mean, i used to get my yearly exam and it sucked, but it wasnt too bad really. this last time it was so uncomfortable though. i dont know if its because everything is shifting and growing in there or what, but i wanted it to be over as soon as it began! :-/ im really glad everything is measuring right though and the baby is healthy! congrats!

 

[dizzy65]

Yeah he pretty much has to be okay with it haha i didnt really give him a choice i told him what im doing and say thats that pretty much.. i want as many ultra-sounds as i can have.. i think i only get the too thou. Im not high risk so they wont need to do to many scans. i think i wont even see the doctors at the normal hospital after April until im about 35-36 weeks just for a normal check up and by that time ill have a huge tummy haha. Im doing all my prenatial visits and stuff in the town i grew up in.. its been okay so far.. i am kinda happy cause at my next prenatial visit around the 22nd or 23rd of april, i will get a substitute doctor which makes me happy as i really dont like the one i have now.. he is such a pain. I am kind of happy my mom gets to be at the ultra sound she will enjoy that i think.. she sounds to be really excited to see the baby on tuesday.. i am not going to cry.. i almost did the first time thou haha

Yeah i know it is totally messed up.. she needs to reitre or something.. so cranky i really hate having to deal with some one like that..

I know what you mean haha.. i think we arent supposed to exersize or anything like that until after at least the first week. i guess its something to ask the doctor about.

Wow your baby is getting so big now.. Just 5 more weeks and you will be half way already that is so crazy.. seems like just yesterday you were only 12 weeks and now you are just about halfway!

Thanks! it is so very uncomfortable having exams like that i hate it.. especially when a guy doctor does it and the nurse was in there and stuff.. it was very uncomfortable i wanted them to stop doing it as it felt very weird. But it all worked out okay.. and we only have to do that once threw out the pregnancy or so the doctor said it made me so happy thou to hear babies heart beat that was the 3rd time i got to hear it I talked to my doctor about prenatial classes and he told me i dont need to do it until icome back.. and then last class i have is the day before i am due.. ah thats going to suck so bad.. but it will all be worth it.. i cant wait to start doing that.

 

[QueSeraSera]

that pretty crazy that after this you wont be back at the big hospital until almost the end of the pregnancy. but its good that youll be getting to spend time with your family and everything too. i think it will be great that your mom will be there with you, im sure it will mean a lot to her to be involved in the ultrasound and be able to see the LO. i dont know that i can be sure i wont cry though like you are...im too emotional lately that it seems like just about anything cute or sad or really just anything can make me about cry! lol. its so weird too because ive never been much of a crier before this...totally strange.

yea i think we are supposed to take it easy for awhile. and im sure if anything tears or if we have to have stitches we wont be wanting to do anything for quite awhile! bplus i heard somewhere that the bleeding lasts for several weeks...and its never fun to exercise when dealing with that. even when it was just my period i hated exercising when i had it.

i know! it really is going by pretty fast. i have a checkup this wednesday and then after that the next time i go to the doctor will be for the ultrasound! hooray! and then the time after that i'll be at the viable stage...its all starting to speed up and im okay with that! lol

yea my exam was a woman and a nurse was there so it wasnt quite as bad. but when i used to get my yearly exams back home it was a male doctor and it was always such an uncomfortable thing. but i suppose during labor theres gonna be a lot of that too....checking how dialated and everything. by then we probably wont care though well be so ready to have the babies already! the heartbeat thing is cool...youve heard it a lot already! i bet its always so reassuring! that seems crazy that one of your classes isnt until the day before youre due. guess you wont be making that one if youre early at all! lol

 

[dizzy65]

Yes its okay though.. the big hospital makes me really uncomfortable because they have people running around every where.. Babies being born, they have the ICU and the ER in there.. and people dieing and everything i really hate being in there. it makes me feel so sad and scared all at the same time.. I think ill have a better feeling over it thou when im actaully in there having my own baby.. Haha its going to be so hard to stay in the hospital for 48 hours thou that makes me uncomfortable just thinking about it! I am glad my mom gets to make it to at least one of my Ultra-sounds she is pretty happy about it too. She keeps talking about it and stuff. I dont no if my dad will be going as well.. But if there is no parking at the hospital probably not. they have such a small parkade there. and When my ultra-sound is. is also Visiting hours so there will be less parking. Ah yes ive been crying a lot to at like everything it is insane! And it is such a remarkable feeling when you get to see the little one bouncing along on the screen..

Yeah thats for sure.. Ive herd of the heavey bleeding thing too after the birth for weeks. I am so nervous about that because i get sick even when i have my period to see that flow of blood it is so grose.. I guess its good that i have a good supply of pads and stuff so that after i give birth i will have stuff to use for a while.. Hopefully its not too bad thou.. ahh its goina suck to bad.. If thats the case i think working out or anything like that is totally out of the question for the first month haha.

Wow it is going by so fast.. I was just thinking about it.. And Im already over half way threw my 17th week.. Than soon it will be my ultra-sound at 18 weeks.. then it will be my other ultra-sound at 20 weeks than we will be back when im around 23 weeks, than it will be my next prenatial check up and i get to hear heart beat again, than i will be viable... it is so insane!

I never even thought about how uncomfortable labour is going to be with people looking down there all the time haha. Im sure you are right thou by that stage it will really be like i dont care just want this baby out of there. I have herd the heart beat 3 times already it is so amazing to be able to hear it and each time is so special.. it is great comfort to be able to hear the little ones strong heart beat

 

[QueSeraSera]

i know how you feel! the big hospitals make me really nervous as well. if it werent for the health of the baby and keeping the pregnancy healthy i would try to avoid the hospital at all costs. luckily the one i go to is set u in such a way that i can go through a door and immediately be by the OB ward. i dont have to go by any of the emergency or anything, which are the areas that really make me sad and nervous. im already nervous about the 48 hour stay too...i usually like to get in and out as soon as possible. im gonna make everyone send me flowers to i can make my room all pretty and happy while i have to stay there. lol

i bet your mom is excited to be a part of it! that would be cool if your dad could come too, but i understand about the parking. its horrible at our hospital too. you have to show up about 45 minutes early to be able to find a spot, and then its usually so far away that its a really long walk to the entrance. bleh! after 30 weeks i get a pass for special pregnant women parking that is near the door. i cant wait for that!

yea...i get grossed out on my period too. and i know this is going to be so much worse. i havent used pads in years, but it seems like im really gonna have to stock up on them for after the baby comes! and i know for sure there wont be any exercising until that is all over. :-/

yea youre already almost 18 weeks! and your ultrasound is this week! hooray! then everything is going to come so close together with the next ultrasound and 20 weeks and viability. this is are ally exciting stage of the pregnancy im sure

part of me is nervous about having so many people down there during the labor, but when its the time im sure we wont care how many people are there just as long as theyre helping the baby come out safely i love hearing the heartbeat. we get to on wednesday again at my checkup. i hope this time she tells me the rate, last time the bean wouldnt stay still long enough for her to get the heartrate. hopefully this time s/he will be more cooperative!

 

[dizzy65]

Ah your so lucky. At our big hospital there is no way to avoid emergancy.. you have to take the elevator down to the emergancy floor (unless your lucky enough to get a parking spot on level 1a) than once you get down there, you have togo right threw to the other elevators that go directly into the hospital.. so we get to see the people in there waiting to get tended to by the emergancy staff. It makes me uncomfortable because they always talk about the pregnant peope they see when we come down there haha. I think actaully where i have my ultra-sound is on the emergancy floor its in xray.. So we will see

Ah yes i cant wait for the special pregnant women parking thing too.. it will be way better haha. My mom is really happy to be a part of it.. i dont think my dad is into it that much thou he is just like I will go drive around the city until you guys are done. Plus parking rates in the parkade are so outradgeous for like 15 mins its 50 cents so its kind of crazy..

haha yep thats for sure.. Ill probably end up having to buy more if it is a really long and heavy bleed.. I will make sure OH stays as far away from me as possibal.. There will be no exersize for a while with dealing with baby and that.

Ah im so excited. 2 more days tell im 18 weeks and 2 more days until my ultra-sound (and im so happy the ultra-sound pics here are free) yay! than 2 weeks until my 20 week ultra sound than 4 weeks tell im viable then 3 weeks after that it will be third tri.. mapping it out like this seems it will go by fast

Thats for sure.. i am really nervous about having so many people look down there too it seems like it would be very awkward but it is in best interst of baby. Ah it is so amazing to hear the heart beat and all that.. I know what you mean the first 2 times we didnt get to know the heart rate either they just never told us hopefully you will get a good reading this time thou

 

[QueSeraSera]

i cant blame you for getting a little creeped out having to walk through the emergency room. im really glad that the hospital i go to is setup the way it is. you actually only go through emergency if you are needing to go to emergency. there are like 4 different entrances depending on where youre going exactly. can be confusing, but kinda nice. that sucks that parking is expensive. here it is at a lot of hospitals, but the military one doesnt charge unless you do valet. the one i used to go to before i got married though was downtown and parking was $4/hour...really made you upset when you were having to sit in emergency for 3 hours to see a doctor!

i agree! DH will not be coming near me while the bleeding is stil going on. probably not for a little bit after the labor anyway...im pretty sure ill want some time to rest and recover before any kind of sex takes place. not to mention that the baby will be up all night probably anyway!

it makes it all seem so much closer and more manageable when you break it up into like 3 week chunks like that. everything is coming so close together now that the time is bound to start flying by!

yea im relly hoping that the baby decides to be more cooperative this week when we go in. last time s/he was doing sommersaults, and hopefully this time s/he will just be chilling out so that the doctor can get a good count.

 

[dizzy65]

Ah that is so lucky that there is a whole bunch of differant enterances... i wish our hospital was set up like that. I really hate the parking there, in the one i went to in albera, it was $1 for the whole day which is really good. The one here if you dont pay your parking you cant get out of the parkade which is really lame.. you get your ticket at the top find your parking space then if you dont have enough money to get out you have to wait tell some one can come rescue you lol you never know how much its goina cost when you go in for emergancy appointments.. Is the hospital there at the military, where you are giving birth?

Haha yep thats for sure. sex will defantly be on hold after baby is here, if not because i am still so sore and need recovering, but because baby will be sharing out bedroom fora little while and im not doing that in front of baby!

Thats for sure.. i think things seem to be going by so much better and faster now because all the dangers and scares of first tri are behind us

haha it is so cute when they do that. When i went to hear babies heart beat (the only time OH was with me) the baby was running away and everything, but when i went in by my self again it stayed still and we got a good reading haha

 

[QueSeraSera]

$1 for the whole day would be awesome! i love the military one because its free parking. but its the only full service hospital that the military has here, and the only place that has OB/GYN and Labor&Delivery services. So every pregnant woman on the island that is either in or married to the military goes there. the way its set up is that each base (and theres about 12 or so on the island) has a clinic, but the major stuff has to be done at the hospital. luckily the base we live on is pretty close to the hospital so its not that much of a pain...when DHs ex was preggo they lived on the other side of the island and had to drive about 30 miles in traffic each time she had an appointment. 30 miles in traffic can take well over an hour or and hour and a half. but the hospital can be very busy to say the least. there isnt that much parking, but at least its free! most parking for military services is free. before i got married and i had to do everything in the civilian world i paid for parking everywhere. here in hawaii there isnt a lot of land, and its very populated, and so parking is rare...and expensive. in my building i work in the parking a $4/half hr! needless to say that i take the bus. at school its $7/day. ahhh...you can spend so much money on parking. and all of the lots are set up where you get your ticket before you go in and have to pay to leave...or if its a flat rate you pay in full before you can even go into the lot. no skipping out of paying here at all! bleh.

true! im pretty sure we are going to have a bassinet in our room for the first few months as well when the baby is getting up several times during the night. it will just make it easier. and no way could i have sex with the baby sleeping right there. i know theyre too young to know, but its just weird. i still feel weird about having sex when my stepson is in the other room...always so scared hes gonna wake up and walk in. lol

your ultrasound is today right!? ahhh i cant wait to see the pictures! now only tow more weeks until 20 weeks and the next ultrasound. and then 4 til vialbility. then youre practically finished!

they sure are playful little things when were trying to hear their heartbeat! im really hoping that tomorrow the little bubba decides not to be an acrobat and just sit still for a few moments so its not so difficult to find the heartbeat this time! i can already see by the way its acting in the womb that at about 1.5 years old im gonna be running all over the house with this one!

 

[dizzy65]

ah you are so lucky that its free. parking can be quite pricy thats why iam totally okay with taking the bus and stuff (if im in the city) rather than forking out that much for parking !!

Haha i know what you mean. it feels very weird to do that when there is a baby there right beside you. i feel the same about OH's siblings when OH and i are having sex i dont want them walking in on us. that would be horribal.. So i guess my OH will just have to suffer with it

Yes my ultra-sound was today.. and omg the baby has gotten so big it is.. it is so amazing. we saw everything the little legs and the little hands. they did all the measurements they needed to and made sure baby had all the parts it should have which the baby did which was really good. it kept kicking me threw out the whole thing it was so funny. and when they went to do face shots the baby put its hands in front of its face like "leave me alone" haha it was so adoribal. the baby looked like it was trying to escape as it was kicking really hard on the side of the uterus like thats it no more pictures lol. we saw its eyes and nose too i loved that. we even got to see the heart beat. The lady kept asking if i was okay as i kept figiting and my responce to it was i just really have to pee. but my real excuse was i wanted to see the screen as while they were doing measurements it was faced away from me i wanted to see baby so bad. i was so happy that the ultra-sound pics didnt cost a single thing

I hope that your baby stays still so you can get a good reading on it.. that will be great for you guys.

 

[dizzy65]

here are my ultra-sound pics

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea when parking costs a lot its so worth it to take public tranport places. i refuse to drive to work, it would cost nearly half my days pay just to afford to park down there for the day!

yea DH im sure will try to convince me that sex is fine with the baby in the room. he'll probably say weve been having sex the whole time while s/hes in my belly so whats the difference. lol. but i will keep my ground and hold him off til the baby is in its own room.

aww that is so cool! i love that the LO was trying to get away! already not liking having pictures taken. im sure once its out here in the real world though it will get use to that! lots of pictures are gonna be taken! the pictures are so cute and i cant believe how well you can see the definition in the face and everything. i love that you can see the little fists too. awwww....adorable! you must be on cloud nine right now for sure! im glad everything is healthy and on track too. oh btw im totally going to be doing the same thing...trying to see the screen the whole time. ill just blame it on really having to pee too

congrats again on a great scan! and on reaching 18 weeks today! almost halfway there!!

 

[dizzy65]

ah thats insane.. thats almost robbery making you pay that much for parking. really that is so expensive!!

I think my OH will do the same thing. say its all okay as we have been having sex this whole time in front of baby.. but i will just have to smack him and tell him no not tell baby has its own room. plus he will be working 50% of the time any way so hopefully he wont miss it too much... its too bad if he does tho

Thanks the ultra-sound pictures turned out so great im so proud of them.. my little one was being so funny just running away and putting its hand up and everything like that. i love it when they do stuff like that.. It was kicking me pretty intensly and the lady and my mom were both like can you feel that, and i laughed and said no not really. but right where it was kicking was were ive been feeling it lately so that all makes since ahh it was so amazing seeing baby. just 2 more weeks tell i can see it again i am so happy i got to see it again, i had a trainee nurse in there too and they were both super nice.

Thanks im so excited to be 18 weeks now justabout half way. the baby is now the size of a bell peper. wow so big haha. my mom was like woa that baby has a big head i was like dont remind me lol

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea it really is robbery! the cost of most things here in hawaii is outrageous. they try to get money out of you wherever they can.

i can just imagine that we are both going to be so tired and worn out from taking care of the new baby, both of us probably wont even think about sex for the first couple of months until everything settles down. i think that they recommend you dont start having sex until 6 or 8 weeks after labor anyway...hopefully around that time the baby will be sleeping better in the nights and might be in its own room by then. but well see! lol

it does sound like your baby was being a little rascal in there! that is too cute though. i bet your OH is very excited for the next scan so that he can be there too. but im sure your mom was glad to be a part of this one for sure. thats so funny what she said about the head being big! hehe. i wouldnt want to hear that either...just remind you of where it has to come out of later on! :-/ that cool that you got good nurses and they were nice. i wouldnt want to be going in to see my baby all excited like and end up with a bitchy nurse...what a downer that would be!

thats amazing...a bell pepper! those are pretty big. your baby is on a growth spurt! haha.

 

[dizzy65]

ah i guess thats what you get from living in a tourist place.. Im glad i dont live in a really heavily populated place they try and squeeze every dime they possibaly can out of you! it is totally insane.. I dont even think there is pay parking here, i think thats just in the cities. And some parking spots are defantly not worth the money!

Yes that is true.. OMG it would be so horribal if we gave in and had sex with our OH's like 4 weeks after and got pregnant again that would be so bad.. i want my kids close in age but that is just totally crazy haha. I've herd of that happening to people. i couldn't imagin my self in that possition. of couse i would be happy about it after i got used to the idea.. but man that would be so insane.

Haha yep baby is defantly going to be a little hand ful when its out. ahh its so annoying when people think they are trying to make you feel better but tell you stuff like that and it makes you want to cry lol.. It's like ah i dont really want to hear it.. like my FIL was talking to us about MIL in labour and stuff and he was terrifing me to death i was like ok ok no more cheering me up lol

haha i know its goina be soo huge pretty soon

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea thats definitely the truth! this is definitely a tourist spot, and the tourists are willing to pay for things because theyre on vacation. but it ends up hurting those who live here permanently and have to pay for silly things all the time. i wish the bus system here was more reliable, i would take it everywhere just to avoid having to find and then pay for parking...such a headache.

yea i think it is actually not very good for our bodies to get pregnant that quickly after labor. i think it has something to do with everything returning to normal and the cycles working themselves out again before youre to try to get pregnant again. but also labor is pretty traumatic to "those" parts...and sex could end up making it worse. we have to be strong! plus having two kids under the age of two would be tough for sure!

yea im getting to the point where i dont want to hear anymore horror stories about pregnancy and labor. it really doesnt help at all and it just scares the hell out of me! lol. i want to hear happy stories, even if theyre just lies! haha. something more comforting for sure.

 

[QueSeraSera]

ahhh...i hit reply too soon! eeek!

i meant to add that the doctors appointment went great and she was able to hear the heartbeat right away...no scary searching this time! lol. and the baby must have just been relaxing because it stayed in one place the whole time. she said everything sounded good and that i was measuring just right for my EDD. so now i just have to wait for the ultrasound in 4 weeks. if everything is okay with that i wont see my doc again until 24 weeks! seems like so far away. but i guess thats good cause it means that everything is going well

 

[dizzy65]

I hate big tourist traps like that it makes living in those places horribal.. makes me really feel for places like las vegas or something like that icouldnt even imagin what those people have to go threw! Where i live is very touristy too, or where my parents live i should say..we have great water falls and all that, in the summer time the population of the town just bout doubles as there are so many people from all around that want to come.. it makes living there in the summer just about unbearable.. Lots of the tourists are just rude and annoying and the gas price jumps up too so it is way expensive. and everything else, gets bad.. More expensive and such.. Hawaii must be so much worse too when they have there big tourist season.

i would imagin not. Have to give the body at least some time to recover before starting it all over again.. I cant even imagin how much pain we are going to be in after labour i dont think im ever wana go near my OH for the firt month any way from what ive been hearing.. especially if there is a tear or something and im all stitched up.. im sure OH will be able to understand that.. I hope so any way lol.. Having 2 kids under the age of 2 would be so bad. they would be like not even a year apart lol that would suck.

haha i know what you mean.. i am so sick and tired of people telling me how much pain im going to be in and stuff, and then they add, but its a good pain.. its like i wana plug my ears like a little kid hearing something i dont want to hear haha.

Ahh congrats that is so exciting getting to hear the heart beat right away, then you no everythings fine and you have real reasurance. You must be getting so excited that there is only 4 weeks until your ultra-sound.. Im sure it wont feel like that far away once the time is there, once you hit 24 weeks you will be like woa were did the time go.. haha thats what im thinking right now at being 18+2 im like whoa it seems to be just flying by seems only yesterday i got my did they happen to tell you what the babies heart beat was?

Okay so this is like really grose lol.. Last night i went to bed and woke up for the bathroom break, i went to the bathroom and noticed my shirt was wet i thought that it was just water or what ever, then this morning it didnt dry properly or what ever it was crusty haha, i relized i had been lactating i was like "eww" haha i didnt think this started tell have 20 weeks.......

Congrats on hitting 16 weeks you must be really excited just 4 more weeks tell your 20 weeks and 8 more tell your viable