pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

yea the tourism thing is pretty out of control. we hardly ever go to the touristy areas because everything is so much more expensive. i used to live in waikiki and everything like food and gas and rent and all was like double what it is living outside of the tourist zone. but its expensive everywhere really...just a little better outside of the central tourist area. i really dont understand how people cen afford to live here like buy houses here and everything...you pay $500,000 for a tiny 2 bedroom house in a bad part of town here. its crazy

yea i imagine it would not be pleasant at all and we wont be wanting to do that for awhile. the boys will just have to learn to live with it...its our bodies and they will have been through enough pain already! theyll need a break. lol. and the two kids that close together thing...man, that seems like it would be rough.

haha! im exactly that way! now anyone starts to tell me something about pregnancy or labor i immediately cut them off to ask if its a good story or a bad story...if its bad i just dont want to hear it! only the good things are necessary right now.. lol

yea i was so glad she found it right away and it wasnt that scary waiting like before when she had troubles. she didnt tell me the heartrate though! argh! she didnt have that part of the machine hooked up. bleh. but she said they would tell me at the ultrasound...not much good that will do though...i wanted to use the heart rate for one of those gender predictors. i know its not accurate, but was just curious. oh well, ill just wait for the scan and ill know the gender then. 4 weeks is going to go by so fast because its nearing the end of school and things are getting busy there and at work. it will be here before i know it! it does really seem like everything is speeding up though.

wow! i didnt think the leaking thing was supposed to happen until the last couple of months! thats completely crazy and probably would have scared me a bit. lol. but i guess its a good sign that youre developing everything properly and all that. i wonder if there is anything you can do about that...like wearing something special to keep it under control or anything. now ill be on the lookout for that to happen in the next few weeks!

thanks! 16 weeks is exciting and were up to the avocado stage! so big...getting scarier and scarier with how much its growing! lol

 

[dizzy65]

wow thats totally insane! up where OH is working, it is the same, it is really expensive for like a basement suite we paid $1600 a month for rent it was out ragious.. and it was a one bed room with the bathroom inside the bed room and tiny kitchen unit combined with the living room and a short hallway with a washer and drier in it.. talk about being too pricey.. Everything there is so expensive and if you want to live in the good parts of town it is way more expensive.. ahh i hate that. I hate how they can just charge up rent like that.. so not fair and so not nice!! hawaii seems to be really expensive. ah Wikiki is the part on tv they always talk about i could imagin how much it must cost to live there. Thats where Dog the bounty hunter, hunts haha..

Haha yeah no doubt.. they can do with out the sex in our comfort.. we just have to tell them, do you want another one of these? lol than maybe they will leave us alone

Lol no doubt i feel like saying that some times.. i just stop payingattention when some one wants to tell me something bad about labour and stuff. its like why are you telling me this do you relise i am giving birth in less than 6 months!

haha thats why i wanted to no my babies heart rate too. . I hate when they dont tell you.. i guess the main thing i kept asking them was, does it sound healthy and stuff like that. which they always said yes That must of made you so happy when they found it and you could hear your baby properly ooh right you guys are finding out the gender that will be great for you to be able to either by little pink thigs or little blue things i some what wish we were goina find out the gender but we have decided against it ..

For leakage we can use breast pads which i will be wearing to bed now that i know im having breast issues already.. so keep an eye out for these. my breasts are bad right now its like i can't touch them or like lean on them or anything with out stuff squirting out lol it is really not nice.. i told OH last night and he just laughed as i was in tears i was like "its not funny" but his answer was "but this means soon you'll have really big boobs" lol i just wanted to smack him.

Lol i know with each week i move up i keep saying to my self well now theres no way to get it out of me that is going to be non painful eek so nervous..

OH got to feel the baby kick tonight for the first time

 

[QueSeraSera]

places are insane lately...i dont know how anyone affords to live anywhere nowadays! when i lived in waikiki we paid $2500/mo for a small 2 bedroom...and we had three girls living there. totally wasnt enough room but we had to do it so we could afford it! no we live on base and out of the center of town and we pay $2100/mo but we have a 3 bedroom home with a proper backyard and everything. so its much more worth it. still a lot of money though...bleh

haha! i kinda wonder if DH wont be staying away for awhile anyway just to make sure i dont get pregnant again. i heard that the first 5 or 6 months after you give birth youre really fertile and getting pregnant again is pretty easy. eeek! im pretty sure ill need quite a bit more time than that before i start thinking about another one!

yea i dont know what it is about being pregnant that makes people want to tell ou horror stories about labor. its like, we are the last people that want to hear those stories right now! lol

yea she keeps saying that its a good strong heartbeat, and so thats good enough for me. i dont really know much about heartrates for babies, so even if she did tell me it really wouldnt have meant much to me...i wouldnt know if thats good or bad. so her saying its strong is more comforting. yes i cant wait to find out if its a boy or a girl! we went to a bbq for DHs work today and there was a newborn boy there...oh my gosh he was so cute. he was literally like a few days old and so tiny and adorable. man i cant wait until september when i can finally meet my own baby! lol

eeek! im nervous about the leaking thing about at least theres things out there to help keep it under control or at least soak it all up! thats such a typical boy thing to say about your boobs getting bigger! haha...thats all DH is fascinated with lately too. they seriously can only think about sex and boobs, im pretty sure.

ahhh thats so exciting to feel a real, good kick out of the baby! youll probably be feeling it more and more often now too! awww! soon your OH will be able to feel it too

 

[dizzy65]

ah that is totally crazy for rent.. i couldnt imagin. OH has a good paying job and even that for us on rent is a little bit of a steep slope lol.. i couldnt imagin.. we want to buy a house soon and morgage payments here where we are thinking about moving are pretty cheap.. its in a small town thats not in a city or anything like that so everything is a lot more cheaper and everything like that which is good. OH wants to live in a small town but id rather live in a city i like to have the option of going places if i really wanted to and what not. as i dont drive.. it sucks living in small areas..

Ahh i herd that too.. i was talking to my dad the other day and he said "you do relise that most people get pregnant within the first year after there first baby is born" i just looked at him i was in shock lol.. I dont want to get pregnant too soon.. it will probably take me a year to get over the trama of the birth lol.. plus i want to be able to enjoy my child with out being pregnant and bitchy lol.. so i want to wait tell at least the kid is a year old to start to try for a nother one.

Lol i know its like they see we are pregnant so feel we should know all the bad things about this.. but before we get pregnant they dont find its necessary to talk about this kind of thing at all!

That must be really reasurring to hear her keep saying that the baby has a healthy strong heart beat in the end thats all that really matters that its perfect.. like the doctor told me today that everything for my pregnancy so far is perfect (my uterus size and my blood pressure and babies heart beat) so that makes me really happy. Ahh i know what you mean, i saw my friends baby today and he was the cutiest thing i was like "aww i cant wait tell i can meet mine" we will be so happy when that day finally comes that we both can see our babies and not just think about them any more. to actaully hold them

Ahh yes such a typical guy thing to just be worried about how big the boobies are and everything like that. i told OH i dont think mine have grown that much and he told me other wise haha. I guess he pays more attention to that sort of thing that i do I notice the only stretch marks ihave thou are annoying and purple and are on my boobs so maybe they are growing more than i think lol.

haha yeah it scared me when OH got to feel it he was holding my tummy than all of a sudden the baby kicked really hard and i jumped i was like "omg did you feel that" and he was like "yes sort of " haha i cant wait tell the kicks come like that all the time they are so exciting and neat to feel.. i can feel kicks most times of the day now. but mostly when im sitting down or standing still.. it felt like the baby was hitting and/or punching me in the crotch today it was getting painful lol

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i know what you mean about rent...sometimes i get so frustrated thinking how much money were putting toward rent every month. but we dont want to live here in hawaii for the rest of our lives, so we arent really in the housing market at all. but it would be nice to put our money toward something we owned instead of just renting. i like to live in big cities though, and so i think we are going to have the expense issue anywhere we go that is a big city. both DH and i are from small towns, he wouldnt mind living in one, but i like the city life. but for now where we live is up to the military, so not something we really have to think about for awhile. but buying a house would be exciting! is that something youre thinking about doing before the baby comes? or after sometime? i guess if you did it before it would have to be soon as you probably dont want to be doing much moving when youre getting bigger.

that what my mom said too! im like, we are using major birth control for like at least a year after the baby is born. i think i will also need some time to forget about labor and how much it hurt. plus i want time to dedicate to each baby and having them too close together could detract from that. so i agree, a year minimum! i think the boys will agree with us too when they realize how much work a baby is going to be. lol

yea hearing the good info from the nurse is really reassuing. i know things can still happen, but i feel so much more comfortable knowing that all indications say that the baby is strong and growing up healthy. seeing the baby at the bbq last night was making me want to meet the baby so bad! its going to be hear so fast and well be the ones at the bbqs with our newborns and everyone wanting to meet the baby. i cant wait for that!

i said the same thing about how i thought my boobs hadnt grown that much and DH said i was wrong. they are so silly being able to tell things like that. but i guess they pay more attention to those parts i bet stretch marks there would be painful. actually i cant really remember what stretch marks feel like rather than just itchy. i havent gotten any yet *knock on wood* and im so not looking forward to them at all!

i bet those big kicks are scary at first, especially cause youre not really expecting them. its very cool though that the baby is getting big enough and strong enough that you can feel the kicks so clearly. i think thats a good indication that youre pretty far along in the pregnancy already now that youre to the kicking point!

 

[dizzy65]

we are hoping to buy a house after the baby is hear.. i think after OH is out of school than we will be looking for places. Im not into renting well we both arent really, i dont want to live in a small town would rather live in a city but OH used to live in a city then moved to a small town and much prefered living in a small town apose to the city life.. He is more laid back.. i loved livingwhere i could just go down to like walmart or what ever when ever i wanted something or needed something Renting prices in most cities are totally out ragious thou.. I hope we dont have to live here at OH's dads place for too long.. as His dads GF is always here and i dont like her to much.

Haha yeah no doubt.. Or the best birth control (no sex at all) yeah right like that would really work lol. I am the same i want some time with my one baby before i have another one. that is totally crazy that we are more fertile after we have our baby it kind of sucks too. Some people try and try for a baby then they get pregnant, just to get pregnant again like 2 months later that would be insane. I want to have time to get over the trama of labour. let my boyd get back to normal lol.. I kind of dont like the fact of loosing all the weight just to go and get big again.. But when the time is right it will be worth it

Ahh i totally know how you feel.. seeing little babies are so adoribal, i keep thinking "i wonder what mine is going to look like" i really cant wait to see what my baby is like only 150 more days tell im due now it is great to have the reasurance from the doctor that everything is going great.. I think now is just the time we can actaully start injoying our pregnancies as we are out of first tri and all of the worries of mmc and mc are all gone. now we've herd our LO's heart beats and soon you will get to see your baby and i have seen mine already it just makes it all so much more real.

Stretch marks are just really itchy thats all ive noticed about them.. i hate them so much.. guys are normally like that lol they know more about our growing parts than we do.. Its funny OH told me "looks like baby is growing good" and i looked at him and was like "ah so you think im fat!" and i like almost yelled at him lol ah good old hormones lol he was like "know you and baby are just healthy how come everything i say now a days gets turned into me calling you fat" ... it is true thou usually when he comments on the baby i ask him if he is calling me fat lol

They are scarey but at the same time very magical and i treasure each and every one of them that ifeel.. there are some people that would love to be going threw this right now that will never have the chance.. It is a great feeling to know ive made it into the stage where baby is kicking and movingaround and stuff i love it best feeling in the world.. i cant wait tell iget the ones that makes my whole tummy move tho that will be totally amazing

 

[QueSeraSera]

i cant blame you for wanting to get out of OHs dads place if you dont like his gf. that always makes things so uncomfortable...youre living somewhere but you have to deal with people you dont like all the time. its a good incentive to save and move out! haha. i know i couldnt do it...im so used to my own space and doing my own thing. even when i used to go back to stay with my parents for a couple months in the summer before i was married i didnt really like it. i liked visiting with them, but it was like their house and their rules...felt like i was in high school again. lol. but it is probably best to wait until your PH is out of school and not get into something like a mortgage until school is done and over with.

ahhh i know that the no sex thing wont be a possibility. its gonna be hard enough to wait the 4-6 weeks we are supposed to. it bad, but i dont really deal with the no sex thing well. im almost as bad as a boy about that! haha. and i wont go back on the pill...it made me so bitchy and made me gain like 15 lbs! argh. so i guess the good ol fashioned condoms is what well be investing in! lol. i wondered about women who try to get pregnant forever if they try really hard after they have the baby because theyre more fertile...i think if i were in that position i might just because you know if you wait that its going to get harder and harder to get pregnant again. tough choice though cause you do just want to spend time with your baby too.

thats one of the things i look forward to the most of first meeting the baby...seeing whos eyes and ears and lips s/he got. i think it will be the most amazing thing to see them for the first time. right now we only can imagine what they look like, but seeing them in person well truly see how beautiful they are i noticed you were at 150 days left! it seems like we were just celebrating that you had gotten under 200 days to go! soon youll be in double digits!!

haha! im the same way. everything is about my weight lately, and not from DH but from me. when he rubs my belly im always like "stop shaking my fat!" lol. i think im getting more and more uncomfortable with my weight gain. lol. but i know its all worth it for the baby and most of it will be gone with labor anyway...so long as i can keep eating healthy and keep it under control.

i cant wait for the first real kicks. i am still getting flutters and little popping feelings, but nothing big. i think DH wishes it would hurry up too and get to the point where he could feel it. he always tries to feel anything, but its just not to that point yet. lol

 

[dizzy65]

It is really hard to live with some one you dont preticularly care for.. I had an arugment with OH that i dont want her helping me out with baby if we have to stay here longer than planned.. And he said "shes going to help you out no matter what you say" than i just looked at him and told him if that was the case im packing mine and babies things up and going to stay with my parents tell she leaves me alone haha.. She makes me mad and i dont want to be all mad and frusterated around my baby thats not very healthy.. I know what you mean i like having my own space too, i also get a long with my parents a whole lot better when im not living or staying with them..

haha i am the same way.. But right now as it is, i dont feel comfortable with my self to let OH see me naked so i usually tell him he has to have the lights off lol.. I know ive only gained like 8 pounds but it looks like a lot of weight to me lol. OH always tells me im silly and stuff. I hope its not going to be as bad after the baby is here, ive seen some girls tummys that look pretty bad like with all that loose skin and what not, ah thats goina suck soo bad.. I know what you mean if it took me like3 years to get pregnant i might try again right after this one just so it wouldnt take as long.. But luckily thats not the case for me

That is so true.. i cant wait tell than.. thats going to be awesome to see who he/she looks moe like , whose feauters it has and everything like that.. That will be one of the most exciting things ever i really cant wait.. Thanks hehe i know it seems like just yesterday we were talking about me being down in the 100's now im at 150 it is amazing how fast these things are going.. i cant wait tell im down to double digits thats a mile stone in its self too i also cant believe on tuesday im going to be 19 weeks pregnant that just amazes me as theweek after that i will be half way..

That is true a good way to look at it that its just a few more months and a good portion of it will be gone.. I hope i dont get stuck with a flappy tummy thou, i dont no what would be worse for me a flappy tummy or all that fat still there. I know i will be doing lots of work out after baby is here.. Just too keep this all under control haha. I am so sensitive about my tummy now to OH... My Mom told me i have a chubby face i was like oh great something else to obsess about lol.

You will soon get to feel the big kicks... they are so amazing when OH can feel them i love it so much. The baby doesnt move like that all the time thou , i read that if we aredoing lots of walking the baby gets rocked to sleepy anyway so if i am walking i wont feel the baby as much for if im sitting down relaxing. thats why the most common time to feel baby move is late at night when you are trying to sleep they are having a party haha

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i know what you mean on that one completely! im just really glad that MIL doesnt live close cause i know it would be major fighting between us. there are just some things she does that i would not tolerate around my baby. one is shes a huge smoker. which is fine, i used to smoke but i quit a couple years ago. but when she came out to see my stepson when he was small DH asked her to smoke outside and to change her shirt and wash her hands before picking up or touching my stepson. i dont think this is unfair...he didnt want tabacco snoke on the boy. but she wouldnt do it. and if it were me and my baby, there would be words said. i just wont stand for people doing whatever they want...its our baby and our rules. hopefully you and OH will just be able to find a place quickly after the LO arrives. or maybe your OH will just have a talk with her to let her know how its going to be. something to make it easier!

i hate for DH to see me naked these days. when i went to the doctor last week i had only gained like 3 pounds, but it feels like ive gotten so much bigger than that. i think its just because everything is shifting around. but even when he puts his hand on my belly i start getting self conscious like "is he thinking about how much bigger im getting?" but i know hes just doing it to be closer to the baby. its really hard to get used to though, this expanding belly thing. lol

i think the seeing the baby for the first time will be the most amazing part of it all. even with the 4d ultrasounds (which im not getting or anything) you still cant really see what they look like very clearly. it will be amazing to see them out here in the world for the first time! i can believe youre almost half way! its so crazy how much things are speeding up. yesterday DH and i went and registered because we found out that my mom is going to do a baby shower here in may, so we wanted everyone to have an idea of what we need and all that. but while in there i kept thinking how it seemed like only yesterday i was putting that off cause i hadnt made it to 12 weeks yet and was still int he danger zone. and now 12 weeks has come and gone over a month ago! so crazy

ahhh flabby tummies will go away with sittups. we just have to make sure that we keep eating healthy. if we dont, were just gonna get bigger and bigger even after the baby comes! eeek! awww...im sure you dont have a chubby face! nothing to worry about hun, everything will go back to normal soon enough once the baby arrives

i had heard the thing about them being rocked to sleep when were moving around and awake when were still. i guess once the kicks start coming we arent gonna be able to sleep at all at night cause thats when the babies will be up working on their soccer kicks! :-/ better get all the rest we can before that starts happening all the time! lol

 

[dizzy65]

Ah that doesnt seem un reasonable for your DH to ask that of your MIL.. i have bounderies like that to like both FIL and his GF smoke bad and i wont let the LO once its born out the garage where they smoke.. i cant stand it.. OH understands how i feel about it.. i dont have anything against smokers or anything as i used to smoke a long time ago.. its just i would rather not have that around baby... there has to be certain rules regarding that one would think

Ah i totally know how you feel i smacked OH upside the Head yesterday as he was hugging me and said "woa babe i can hardly fit my arms around you now" lol i hope he was implying baby is healthy ... but still that sounded mean the way it came out lol and he just laughed. I hate when the doctors have to look at my tummy and stuff i know its good for the baby but they are like always pokin all over it and everything like that. and i always feel so self concious.

That is so crazy to think about that a month or so ago we were stressing we wernt going to make it to the safe zone and everything like that now we are having a good time and we are out of the miss carriage zone and everything it makes everything feel so muh better. . That is so cool you are going to have a baby shower than i bet you are pretty excited for that i know icant believe im just about half way either i was looking at it and was like woa tomorrow im going to be 19 weeks i cant believe it!

haha i know these are just side effects of the pregnancy.. if we keep working out and keep on it we shouldnt have flabby tummies or anything lovely like that after bub is hear

Ah i know its going to be so crazy when the start kicking all the time we will be up all night as thats when the baby wants to play and stuff. they sleep most the time when we were up.. haha wish we would have the same sleeping schedule.. ah my little vampire baby haha

 

[QueSeraSera]

i didnt think so either...but she wouldnt do it. and he would keep asking her and she kept not doing it. but when i have more of a say in things with my own baby, there wont be any asking! there will be rules. lol. i mean, its not good for the baby. and theres no reason for it around the baby when it could hurt them. thankfully we wont have the fight often as she doesnt live close.

ahh i hate when DH says something like that. i dont think he even realized that it comes off mean. yesterday we got a package and my mom had bought and sent me some maternity clothes she saw shopping and thought i would like. so i was trying them on and doing a fashion show to see how they looked and i came out with one on and DH was like "i like that one least. it could be more flattering, makes you look frumpy" i was just like what?! im not frumpy! im pregnant for christs sakes! so then he was backpedling about how i looked pregnant and not frumpy but that it was just a little too big and i would grow into it. bleh. now im going to be afraid to wear that shirt cause everyones gonna think i look frumpy :-/

i definitely think the baby shower will be fun. we can play silly games and hang out with my family and talk about the baby. its going to be a blast. plus it was fun to register too and look at all the cool baby stuff. and by then i will be 23 weeks...almost viable! woohoo! i cant believe how quickly that is all coming. i think once i finish my thesis and graduate the labor is going to be here before i know it. and graduation is only 6.5 weeks away! so crazy.

i know i keep feeling these thumping feelings at night. they arent very strong but im pretty sure theyre little kicks. i keep thinking, man this baby is nocturnal! and when these get stronger theyre gonna keep me up all night long! its weird...im dreading the kicks keeping me up but i also cant wait for them to come so that i can feel the baby and DH can too

congrats on 19 weeks! 7 more days and youll be half way there! how big is baby this week?

 

[dizzy65]

Ah thats good that you wont have to fight with her very much. I have had some ins with FIL's gf.. She made me cry for like 3 hours the first night OH was back because i was telling her about everything ive had to go threw and the PAP test and all and she told me that everything ive done is wrong, and also told me getting more than one ultra-sound will damage the baby.. i didnt even know what to say but i found its none of her business to stick her nose in where it doesnt belong, OH said she was just trying to be helpful then i snapped at him and kicked him out of the room but he wouldnt leave lol.. I also told him i didnt want our baby calling her grandma.. but he said that as long as she is with his dad that the baby can call her grandma if it wants. im not happy about that at all.

That sounds mean.. to say to a pregnant women that they look frumpy. Guys i guess dont see the harm, they are just saying they're opinion but really, in my opinion they should keep it to there selves if they are going to say mean things lol. As some stuff OH says now wouldnt bother me if i wasnt really hormonal and cry and just about everything.. I am paranoid of what i wear now to even with my maternity clothes as i am afraid every one sees me as fat and not as pregnant with my bubs, also i hate people staring at me like they think im fat too lol.

Ah thats so amazing. Congrats on your graduation that will come up before you know it than you will have all the time in the world to do your baby stuff That will be great that you are able to have a baby shower like that. With your family and everything like that and when you are just about viable its like 2 celebrations mixed into one.. hehe than not long after that tell you are due.. ah so exciting.

I can already sort of feel the baby kicking at night its not very strong yet but strong enough it makes my belly vibrate it feels so weird when it wants to kick really hard. and now it's not like it kicks once and its done for the day it kicks like 5 times in a row then stops for a few mins and does it again it is so magical

Thanks i cant wait to me 20 weeks.. the baby is as big as a large heriloom tomato it is getting soo big now

 

[QueSeraSera]

that just makes no sense to have the baby call her grandma. shes not married to your FIL, so shes not even related to the family. so the baby should just be calling her by her name. i agree with you completely on this one! and what kind of an adult is she, telling you that youre doing everything wrong. first of all, everything youve done has been through the hospital and doctor ordered. they arent going to have you do things that will hurt the baby. the other thing is, and a lot of people dont realize this, the ultrasounds are not xrays. they are just harmless sound waves and 1 or 50, they arent going to hurt a baby. my ex sister in law was a nurse and gave herself an ultrasound every week to check on the baby and now my nephew is 8, healthy, and learning to play football. shes being silly. and she should keep her mouth shut about her opinions, especially when she knows shes talking to a pregnant, hormonal person.

yea i didnt like it. i mean, he was talking about the shirt, but it would have been better if he just bit his tongue. i think most things he says are things i would normaly like to hear. i mean, usually i want his opinion about whether something is too loose or too tight, or if it looks good. but with all the hormones and self consciousness lately, everything he says seems like hes calling me fat. lol. i just say its the babys fat and the baby is going to take it all with him/her when the day finally comes

yea the graduation is going to be insane. im graduation with two degree, the same week is my birthday and a baby shower. so my family is out here for 6 days and were having three celebrations. lol. it should be a good time with all my family though, im happy theyre all gonna come out and be a part of it. i just cant wait for all the school stuff to be over with already! lol

wow thats so many kicks! thats awesome! i dont get that many yet, and mostly just at night. but hopefully in a couple weeks when im at the same stage as you ill be feeling them more and more. its crazy that its getting strong enough to actually vibrate your tummy! hehe. cute

wow! the baby just gets so big every week. i cant believe youre almost at 20! itll be here soon and then its all downhill from there! youll be over the halfway hurdle

 

[dizzy65]

I know it frusterates me that my OH wants my baby to call her grandma in my opinion bubs should just call her "hey you" or something like that because i dont even want to acosiate with such a women. Thanks that makes me feel so much better. she was just commenting on every little thing about the baby telling me i dont need to do so many tests to hear the heart and to stop worrying about my baby as its fine and stuff like that.. OH told me she doesnt no what shes talking about its been like 12 years since she has gone threw it and stuff but that still doesnt mean she needs to stick her nose in my business and it really hurts. Plus she really needs to butt out if she doesnt want to know what i have to say or is going to be mean about it she should just stay out of it. Plus i am getting so sick and tired of her telling me stories from her pregnancy telling me about her complications saying that that stuff will or can happen to me too. it really scares me. and shes treating me like im not ready for a baby that im not old enough for a baby and when she had her first she was 18.. err some people i tell ya.

lol yes that is true that baby will take most of the tummy with them when they leave hehe.. Its funny OH was like touching my tummy and stuff commenting on how big ive gotten and the baby and stuff so i rubbed his belly and i said "Hun i think your pregnant" haha it was so funny. I think guys dont realise how self concious we can be in these months as we are gaining weight we arent used to and everything like that. Plus hormones kind of make us go a little nuts any way.. i think its only expected well they should expect it any way lol

Wow there is going to be lots of celebrations that is going to be great for you! will be so fun to have your family around and its great they can make it for your grad.. You are going to have a really impressive resume when you are done with all of this.. It must feel really great. Your DH must be really proud of you.. You are going to be crazy busy when your family is down but you will have a blast.. and will sleep probably for like a week after they have left lol.. Injoy it you will only graduate once from collage unless you are planning to go back after thats crazy its so close to your birthday as well.

Soon you will be able to feel your baby all the time and it will be the most amazing thing ever.. Now what i really want is for huge kicks i know ill be regretting wanting it so bad but i just want that constant reminder all is fine

Haha i know it is so crazy i remember being excited hitting 10 weeks now im just about 20 weeks.. I am hoping to celebrate with OH when he gets home he will be home early this time so i want to do something special for the 20 week mark

Oh something new, ive been having braxton hick contractions, they arent supposed to be starting for a while i thought but ahh i started having a few and they are very uncomfortable

 

[QueSeraSera]

argh! that woman sounds like a real pain! some people just dont know how to keep their opinions to themselves, and in all honesty we dont need or want to hear what they have to say. to tell you you should stop worrying is just silly. you have the right to worry if you want to, and we all do it. im sure she did when she was pregnant too! and to tell you about complications and how youll get them too, thats just dumb and sounds like shes trying to be mean. if i were you i would try to just not to talk to her at all. or just tell her to stop talking about those things and judging you on your pregnancy, as its not her place to do so. my MIL is being out of order too, but DH told her off a bit about it. he was talking to her and somehoe the ultrasound came up and he said we were finding out the gender. and i guess she let out a big groan and when DH asked her what it was about she went on about how she doesnt think that we shouldnt find out and that the best thing to do is wait and that we should wait because she wants to be surprised. apparently DH told her that its not her baby or her decision, but man it made me so mad that she judging us about our baby when she doesnt even care enough to be here when the baby is born because she doesnt like my parents. my parents have been nothing but nice to her, but she has made up these crazy things in her head. argh. its makes me crazy!

haha! this morning DH was taking a shower and i was sitting in the bathroom talking to him and he was quiet for a bit and then let out a groan. i asked him what and he said "i think i look more pregnant than you" lol. it made me laugh and made me feel a little better that im not the only one gaining weight lately. lol

oh im definitely done with school! ive been at my degree for 7 years and have thousands to pay in student loans, so im officially finished after may. lol. and it feels good to finally be done. i hope my resume is good enough to get a better paying job...right now i get paid as an intern and its not very good pay. im hoping they give me a raise after i have my degree! lol. but all the celebrations will be nice to be able to spend them with my family and everything.

i am the same way..i cant wait for the big kicks to know all the time that the baby is getting big and strong in there. i know i will probably be annoyed by it when it keeps me up all night...but it will be a good reminder that its getting closer to the big day!

that will be so cool if your OH can get off early to be there when you hit the 20 week mark! this is such a big milestone and it will be very nice if you guys can do something to celebrate it

wow thats crazy that youre having those contractions! i thought they were to come at like 35+ weeks or so. did you have to go to the doctor for them? what do they feel like? ive heard that they hurt, but i always wondered if its true. i hope they calm down and dont stick around. that would not be very fun to have them constantly until the end.

 

[dizzy65]

Ah how annoying.. people think just because we are pregnant they have the right to voice there oppionions but really if they are going to be rude should just keep it to there selves. as i am one who doesnt want to hear it right at this particular moment. I think your MIL should just keep her oppion to her self about that. you guys are doing what you guys want to do and what will be best for you guys, and if she doesnt want to know the sex of the baby than you guys dont have to tell her when you find out you can just keep it a secret tell the big day.. That really sucks she doesnt get along with your parents it really iritates me how people can be like that when people just try to be as nice as they possibly can and nothing will work.. I really hate how my FIL's gf just told me about all her complications just because she had them doesnt mean everyone gets them!! how annoying.

Haha thats so cute.. it probably made you feel a lot better that he is gaining weight too lol.. I told my OH he should have to be pregnant with me but he didnt like that idea haha.. its funny to bug the guys like that.

Wow thats insane hopefully you will be able to get a great job after all this is over you defantly deserve it for being in school for that long.. and wow thats a lot of money in student loans too!

Yes thats for sure a really good reminder!

It is going to be great he will be here for the 20 week mark i am so excited

Ive only had a couple of them but they are just a little painfull and uncomfortable i hope i dont get any more i really hate that feeling..

Congrats on hitting 17 weeks

 

[QueSeraSera]

i completely agree. some people are just so out of line. i couldnt believe it about my MIL, that shes actually going to be upset at us for finding out the gender...as if it has anything to do with her. you can bet she wont be hearing what it is from me, because i never talk to her. im not sure if DH will tell her or just keep it a secret until the birth. who knows, but i dont care that much. the think with your FILs gf is just weird...its strange that she would tell you about her complications, right after she told you that youre worrying too much! shes just giving you more to worry about telling you those things. and every labor is different, its not going to be just like hers...shes just trying to scare you i think.

haha! yea it did make me feel a little better. but then he went for a run this morning and did a major workout last night...hes lucky cause he can work it off right away where i cant and have to just let it accumulate. lol. i like your idea though! i think guys should definitely have to go through this with us!

yea i think after having a bachelors and a doctorate degree i deserve a little raise...at least enough to pay the balance on my loans each month! lol. but it will be good to at least be done with school, even if that does mean i have to start paying the loans back. lol

that will be so cool to hit the 20 week mark together. our ultrasound date is on our 20 week mark exactly so that will be a big day for sure. but then DH leaves the next day for 2 whole weeks, which is going to suck a lot. but at least he will be here for the 20 week milestone. i think it will be cool for both of us to get to celebrate that with our OHs

at least they arent too bad as far as pain...but i really hope they go away and stay away until the end of your pregnancy! the second trimester is suposed to be the most comfortable, not the one where you have to deal with contractions and everything already

thanks! the baby is the size of an onion this week! getting so big! but this means only 3 more weeks to the ultrasound...i cant wait. i swear as soon as i find out if its a boy or a girl im gonna run out and buy a little outfit

 

[dizzy65]

i wouldnt blame you for not wanting to tell your MIL what the sex of the baby was.. i would do the same if i were in the same situation. its odvious she wants it to be a surprise so just let it be a surpise for her, if i were u id tell your DH that too that she doesnt want to know, and she shouldnt get the chance to know with the way she is behaving.. its all right to have oppinions but when it is like that it is better left un said i think. I had an argument with FIL's girlfriend about when full term was i said that its concidered full term as soon as im 38 weeks and than she said "no full term is 40-44 weeks" i damn near smacked her because she was saying if i go into labour at 38 weeks the baby wont be healthy and i was arguing with her that that is concidered full term and everything like that.. She really needs to stay out of my business and stop telling me stuff she is making me crazy.. I was texting OH last night and told him that she cant keep doing this she is making me crazy and making me very stressed. thats why when she is over with FIL i storm off to the bedroom with my kitty, i dont want her any where around us.. she pisses me off so much.. if she is just trying to scare me i wish she'd stop eveytime she talks about it i want to break down and cry.

Guys are lucky in that sence that if they are getting to uncomfortable with there bodies they just go out and loose it and dont have to be stuck with it for 40 weeks lol. I think they should not be able to work out or anything, have to keep the weight with us and then after the baby is hear they can go back to working out

Haha yeah it must suck to be in debt that much from student loans but it will all get paid off and it was what was best for your future and the future of your childern so you can provide for them

Ah ya your ultra-sound is when you are 20 weeks you must be getting so excited about that getting to see your baby and having your ultra-sound pics and knowing the sex of your baby at hitting the 20 week mark all in one how exciting.. your DH must be pretty excited too.. that sucks that he is leaving the next day.. i really hate when my OH has to go away for work i feel lonely it sucks so bad I have decided im not going to go to my 20 week scan its just to much work to go all the way there for that.

I think they will get worse probably when im futher along.. i was having them during my 18 week ultra-sound and didnt even feel them.. so they probably just get worse with time. ive herd of people having them just a bad as labour pains. i hope it doesnt get like that for me..

ah you are so lucky you are finding out the sex of the baby i wish i was too but we are weighting.. you will have so much fun going out and shopping for the little one.. and its getting so big now.. wow its hard to believe that you are already 17 weeks

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea shes really being silly about the whole thing. i can understand that everyone has their thoughts about whether its best to find out or wait, and i would have even understood a "well i dont really agree with it, but if thats what you two want" ir some reaction like that. but the fact that she was upset or disappointed in us, its just weird. its like she things she has some say in the decision or that this is in someway about her...when its really not about her at all. i kind of dont want her to know anything about the pregnancy anymore as her reactions are always negative. but i know thats just not feasible, since she is DHs mom. bleh. im just gonna ignore it all from now on. you FILs gf is so strange! you are considered full term at 38 weeks. its because the counting is done from the LMP instead of the date of conception. so it makes the window a bit larger for when youre considered full term. it think anything from 38-42 weeks is considered an "on time" birth. plus, the whole thing about 24 weeks is that even if you were to go into labor then the baby has a decent chance of survival. thats why viability is so exciting! so her saying that if you go into labor at 38 weeks then your baby wont be healthy, thats ridiculous! i was born early by about 6 weeks and i was small, but totally healthy. you should really have a serious conversation with this lady about keeping her mouth shut since shes making you stress out and be upset. shes acting like a 12 year old and not a grown woman!

i agree! the boys should definitely just have to deal with the weight they gain and be uncomfortable in their bodies during the pregnancy, just like us. then maybe they would understand why we are self conscious and dont like the remarks about your bodies!

yea the student loans suck, but it will be best in the end to be able to get a good paying job and provide for all the babies i want to have!

yea i am so excited for the day i turn 20 weeks! its so many huge events all in one and its going to be such a great day. and only 20 more days until its finally here! and i just found out that DHs trip for work might be cancelled. i know he was excited to go to england, but im kinda glad he might not be leaving me. i dont think well know for a bit though if its on or if its cancelled. i get so lonely and bored when DH has to leave, and its selfish but i would like it if he stayed here with me

that sucks that youre not having your 20 week scan, but i can understand not wanting to do the long drive and all of that again. and at least you had your 18 week scan and saws bubs and know that everything is alright! iver heard that braxton hicks can be pretty bad too, hopefully you dont get them like that and at the very worst theyre just a little discomfort.

yea im really glad were finding out. i just dont think i could wait. i think, even if we agreed to wait, i would be calling the doctor trying to get her to tell me. i just dont do so well with surprises and not knowing things. lol. i cant believe im this far along either! its crazy that its gone by so fast, i guess the others were right when they said youll look back and think it went so fast. i thought they were crazy when i heard that at like 6 weeks and time seemed to be passing soooo slowly. lol

 

[dizzy65]

I dont blame you for feeling that way.. if my MIL was like that i wouldnt want to tell her any thing. as it sits i dont see or talk to my MIL so she never knows whats going on which im prefectly fine with to be honest.. all that really matters is bubs is healthy.. thats all that your MIL should be concerned about too is that her grand child is healthy and she should stop with all the negativity really its just imature.. Has your DH had a talk with her about her behaviour.. I know if it was my mother i would want to straiten her out a bit its just rude to be talking like that! I know i hope OH will have a chat with my FIL's gf as i dont want to just the thought of her gets me stressed out at this particular moment. err she is so annoying. I hate when people think its there business to stick there nose in where it defantly doesnt belong! Also my mom she sort of acts like this is her pregnancy too it gets rather annoying.

Haha yep.. we can just make remarks to them about there bodies even thou nothing has changed to see how they like it.. lol.. ive already been doing that to my OH telling him that it looks like he got pregnant with me and stuff hehe

Haha yep.. when iwent to university i got some student loans racked up it really sucks

Ah i feel the same as you i would rather my OH didnt have to leave for work but i know he has too. it just gets so lonely when he is not hear. i hate having to go to sleep by my self.. OH says how will i be after baby is hear but it will be differant when baby is here i will have some one to keep me company at least lol.. Ah its getting so close for you.. yay ... that is going to be a great day be prepaired once its here it goes so fast.. it sucks.. i could look at baby for ever.. it also really sucks having to havea full blatter

I havent had them since that day or maybe i have i just dont notice them.. some days can be worse that other days.. im not really sure when they normally start and stuff but they are just really annoying.. they will probably end up getting worse.. i dont know how ill ever do being in labour if this is how it feels with just practice lol.. I know it sucks about my 20 week scan but its just way to much and its to uncomfortable to sit for that long.

haha i know what you mean im dying to know what we are having but ive promised that we will keep in a secret i really badly want to know thou haha.. For me it was all the time before 12 weeks seemed to drag by as i was so concerned about everything just watching the minutes tick by.. but now that im way over that stage everything seems to be flying by im so happy about that..