pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

the thing with my MIL is strange. my DH gets annoyed by her negativity and her remarks, but his dad isnt in the picture and theyve never been close to the rest of MILs family. so her and his brother is really the only family he has besides mine. so i think hes hesitant to truly piss her off or anything, just because of that. but he does tell her that shes being ridiculous about not coming for the birth and now being upset about the gender thing. she just doesnt get it though. i hope your OH has a talk with your FILs gf too! she seems just out of line! i think my mom would be like yours though, if i were closer to her. something about us being their daughters makes them want to be so involved in it i think. my mom cant wait until may to come see us and go baby shopping and do all of that, she tells me everyday. lol. so i know if i lived near her she would probably get a little overbearing. i dont think they mean anything bad though, and probably dont even realize theyre doing it.

haha. i love that you say things like that to your OH. i think im gonna start saying stuff to DH too. itll make him think twice before he comments about how i look frumpy again! lol

for me DH doesnt have to leave very often a week at a time maybe 3 or 4 times a year. not nearly as much as your OH. but someday he will get deployed and be gone for 6 months straight. that just part of being military and ive accepted it, but it is really going to suck. but when he is gone i am so lonely too. but i agree, when the baby is here it wont be so bad when they leave because we will have the baby to keep us company and occupy our time

yea im not looking forward to the full bladder part of the ultrasound! argh. i have to drink 32 ounces right before and then not pee. that is going to be so uncomfortable. but im guessing seeing the baby will make me forget about it...or at least think about it less! im so excited for it, but i know it will end up going by way too fast. i think ill be begging the doc for just 5 more minutes! lol

i cant blame you for not wanting to make the drive. i get uncomfortable just dricing across town for 30 minutes! lol. i hope your contractions dont get worse, but if they do then youll be in good practice to tolerate the pain! and by the time labor comes youll just be like "yea, i got this...ive been doing this for months!"

hehe. youre stronger than me. i couldnt wait at all! but the surprise will be nice. in a way i wish i could wait, i just know i cant. and im too OCD too...i need to plan and buy and have a definite name and...just need to know! lol

 

[dizzy65]

I guess that sort of makes since. he doesnt want to alienate him self from the family he does have.. I guess he could have a talk with her thou just not in a mean tone or anything hopefully she will get the hint and stop being so bother some.. She doesnt want to come to the birth? there is going to be so many people in the waiting room when im in labour, like my parents, OH's parents and everything.. i told OH that i dont want his fathers GF there but he said he cant control that.. i still get pissed when her kids refer to her as grandma and even in front of her i said that she is not a grandma.. I think its like our mothers porogitive to get all in our faces about baby stuff and trying to control it and everything lol. that is so cute that your mom is really excited for baby shopping it sounds like she is totally ready to be a grandma

Haha you should it will totally make him think twice about saying stuff to you like that.. i only started saying stuff like that to OH when he started commenting on how big baby is getting lol.

Ahh that would be so hard if my OH went away for 6 months strait.. hopefully that doesnt happen to your DH.. It gets really lonely when my OH goes away for a week at a time i dont like it.. But im thank ful OH will be able to spend a couple months with baby before he has to go.. he was going to take his parental leave which is 6 months of time off but he doesnt think he could take 6 months off than go back to work lol.. but he has applyed for it so we will see what happens

It really sucks having a full blader thats the worst of it thou.. when iwent in for the my 18 week scan i said i have a full bladder and she was like "yes you do" like i didnt know i just rolled my eyes lol.. You will defantly be begging for more time looking at the screen it is one of the most amazing things ever and a great experiance You are getting so close too i cant believe it you must be getting so excited

lol i really want to know the gender but am sure ill be able to hold off id really love to by some pink or blue stuff but i guess it will have to wait

 

[QueSeraSera]

first of all...youre 20 weeks! oh my god!!! you made it half way and this must be such an exciting day!!! Your ticker is halfway too and i love what the little funny thing says too. awwww...how exciting.

sorry i havent been on in awhile. i had to work all weekend to finish my thesis and then i ran around today getting it distributed to my committee and then catching up on the work that i put off from my other classes. but now i think i can finally breathe and things are gonna be settling down some. pfew!

i cant really blame DH for not wanting to really upset his mom. i get on great and have a huge family, but your mom is still your mom and its not the easiest thing to speak out against her. plus, for DH, shes pretty much all he has. she doesnt want to come to the birth because my parents will be here. back at the wedding my parents welcomed her into their home and tried to include her and DHs brother in everything (they were his only family there) but she wouldnt be a part of anything. we invited her to thanksgiving dinner (we got married 2 days after thanksgiving) but she wouldnt come and her and DHs bro just sat in the hotel the whole time. then they started saying how i and my family were treating them so horribly. then we didnt have seating arrangements at the wedding or reception but after the fact she was pissed cause she said i ordered the wedding planner to give away her set at the ceremony and to give her a bad seat at the reception. she didnt sign our guestbook or dance or anything. so there are hardly any pictures of her, because she wasnt participating. so when the photos came back she is convinced that me and my parents ordered the photographer not to take any pictures of her. shes dilusional about it, because thats not the case at all and we tried to include her in everything the whole time. she says me and my parents were classless and stole the special day from her. so now she wont come to the birth because she refuses to ever be around my parents again. i dunno...the fact that she thinks of me and my family like that is really hurtful. but at the same time, i know i cant do anything to make her realize that none of that actually happened and that she really just excluded herself.

that would drive me kind of crazy too...just cause youre the girlfriend doesnt make you the grandma. you dont get to be the grandma til you marry into the family! i love that you bluntly told her that shes not though. i bet that she had some things to say after that one! i agree about the moms though...they just want to be a part of the whole thing. my mom is totally excited. she already has two grandkids from my brother and then my stepson. but shes excited about this one because its from her baby girl. and with my brothers kids he ended up divorced with the mom of the first one and never married to the mom of the second. she gets to see the younger one when she goes to the town theyre in but with my nephew she actually had to take his mom to court to sue for visitation because shes a grandparent. it was a huge mess. but with this one, she knows that no matter what happens this baby will never be taken away from her or anything like has happened with my neice and nephew.

hopefully your OH will get to take all that time off! that would be so nice for you. my DH is looking into deployments actually. hes probably going to get called up for one next year so he is thinking about volunteering for one in december so he would be back in july. otherwise it would be july to the next december and he would miss the first bday and the first words and steps and all the milestones. i dont want him away either way, but i guess it would be better when the baby is younger and doesnt really realize. either way is gonna suck!

i am so excited for the ultrasound! only 16 more days! ahhh...it is coming but not quick enough! i wish i could just trade you spots for one day cause that would mean i would have seen my little bubs today! lol. but it will be here soon. i should start practicing dealing with a full bladder now so by the time its here ill be used to it.

you could just buy one really cute pink outfit and one really cute blue outfit! youll probably use the other sometime if youre gonna have more kids. and that way you could have something really girly or really boyish for right after the labor!

 

[dizzy65]

hehe thanks im so happy to be half way it is so exciting i told OH we need to celebrate today but he said that, mile stones like this dont really mean anything to him its just that im pregnant but i explained why it was exciting to me and then he agreed that it was a thing to celebrate so we are maybe going to go watch a movie tonight

thats okay its totally understandable you have lots on your plate right now with grad just around the courner ahh you must be so exciting i bet right now that school is pretty hard as it is nearing the end of it.. must be so happy

wow that is crazy i hope that your DH's mom smartens up before the baby arrives that will be so hard for your family if she is still acting like this towards you guys.. she seems very umm intersting i guess ill put it she seems that she is taking everything you guys are doing and turning it around that is very odd. i know of some people that do stuff like that too, but i could imagin it to be my MIL that would be soo hard.. Hopefully she decideds she wants to be at the birth after all.. i couldnt imagin any one missing it for petty reasons like that.. she should really put it all behind her and just be there for you and your DH im sure he would love it if his mom was there to support you guys its not like she wants invited or anything.

I know when OH got home yesterday he told me i have to try and be alittle nicer to her and i burst out in tears sayingshe stresses me out and ive tried to be nice but i cant and that it is too hard.. But he said that i have to relax for the baby .. i still not going to be nice to her or tolerate her ill just leavewhen she is here. i have to admit tho my dislike to her has grown so much more since ivebeen pregnant i dont no if it is hormone related or anything but she just drives me absolutly crazy i cant stand it hopefully after baby is here it will get better .

ah that will suck when you DH has to go away for that length of time but it will be over before you know it.. it just sucks to have to leave you alone with baby for that long. OH has aplied for parental leave so we are just waiting to see if he gets it hopefully he will that will be great

Ahh its getting so close.. and the countdown is on.. just like christmas haha.. Ya but if you have seen bubs already that would mean u wouldnt get to see it again, and that would suck.. i wish i could see baby again before the birth.. but there is really no need too..

thatsa good idea ill have to run it by OH hehe

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i definitely think you guys should do something to celebrate. i can understand that the boys dont really get why 20 weeks is such a big deal, but they havent been throwing up, feeling ill, having aching joints, gaining weight and being pregnant in general for the past 20 weeks. they cant understand that being halfway really is a big thing and something that means a lot. not to mention that we have made it this far, because some woment dont.

yea school has been pretty crazy. but its always this way towards the end of the semester with everything coming due and such. so it actually feels really good knowing that the semester is almost over, and that this is my last semester of school EVER! lol.

yea i really dont understand DHs mom. i mean, she doesnt like me and i can tell that. and thats fine. but the fact that she has this vendetta against my parents who have never done anything but be nice and try to be welcoming to her, thats what is strange. and then to miss the birth because of this thing she has made up in her mind...its out of control. and the worst part is that we are probably going to have to hear for the rest of our lives how she missed her grandchilds birth and how horrible that was for her...even though weve invited her and DH has tried to talk sense into her. bleh! lol. thats how i feel about it.

im sure the hormones have a lot to do with why your FILs gf is getting to you so much lately. but its not fair for your OH to say you need to be nice, she is the one who needs to be nice and to stop telling you horror stories and that youre doing everything wrong! i dont think you need to be nicer at all, but i agree that the best thing is to probably just leave when she is around. hopefully avoiding her will let you get rid of some of the stress she is causing!

yea the deployment thing would suck, but its his job and hes going to have to do one sooner or later. so in a way id prefer him to volunteer for one that is safe-ish rather than end up getting assigned to one that is dangerous. i can deal with him being away, itd be tough but id survive. i cant deal with him getting hurt or something. i hope your OH gets the leave hes asking for! that would be very nice for you both. and that way you could have the time to find a place and settle in without having to worry about him being gone every other week.

true! in a way i wish i had already seen the baby but in a way im glad its not until 20 weeks. because when i finally do, there will be a lot to see. but i guess not needing to have another ultrasound is a good thing! that means that everything is going well in there and there arent any complications. i guess were both pretty lucky that we havent had to have that many scans or tests because everything is just fine with our little beans

 

[dizzy65]

20 weeks is huge it means finally half way to being comfortable again haha thats the way i look at it.. and now im starting to get really uncomfortable i cant even see my area any more haha.. when OH and i went out for lunch today i said i wish they could make this whole pregnancy thing a whole lot easier on the body because id love it even more but right now every part of my body aches and sence i have to sleep on my left side i wake up all crampy all over that side ahh i hate it.

That will be great to finally be done and it all to be a night mare haha you must be really excited.. i know i would be.. you've been in school for such a long time!

Your DH's mom sounds really odd. hopefully she does come to her sences and comes to the birth.. it would be really annoying to have to hear about that for the rest of your lives.. even thou it was her choice.. thats odd that she just hates your parents for no reason i dis like people that are that annoying... i wouldnt be able to handle that..

I hope it will get better as soon as the baby is here but honestly im not going to be any nicer and if im fourced to be around her more its honestly just going to get worse i hope he can see that with this.. that my attitude is not going to improve any.. ahh.. it just gets so annoying him telling me she has my best interested in mind and she is just trying to help as far as im concerned she can shove it because she isnt helping me at all!

that is very true it is probably better your DH takes one that is a little easier and safer and stuff. i know how you feel, i could handle my OH going away but i wouldnt be able to handle if something really bad happened like him getting hurt it is so hardto deal with that kind of stuff.

That is so true.. soon you will get to see your baby and it will be an actaul baby than they will know if it has all the right parts and it will be totally awesome some women have tons of scans.. im glad in a way i dont but kind of jelous they get to see there babies soo much

 

[QueSeraSera]

i know what you mean! this pregnancy thing seems like it can get really uncomfortable really fast! and i was in the shower the other day trying to do some shaving, and lets just say i had a hard time seeing what i was doing down there. and it was pretty terrifying! i am totally getting the cramping thing too! ive been trying to train myself to sleep on any side really but mostly my left, and man it is unconfortable! i try to roll onto my belly all the time, which is impossible and painful. bleh! sleeping has lost its appeal. lol

i am so excited to be done! it would be nice if i could celebrate with some wine or something, but i figure thats not good for the baby. so ill celebrate with some sparkling cider!

oh i am so annoyed by it all. and i wish there was something do to make her realize that its all some petty thing, but shes hardheaded and stubborn. oh well, the way i look at it is that if she refuses to come at leaset i wont have to deal with her negativity! lol

it would annoy me, if i were you, how much your OH defends this woman. its not even like shes his mom or anything so why does he need to defend her so much? and hes not been around to hear the things shes said to you, if so maybe he would realize why youre upset with her. he should be supporting you right or wrong, because youre pregnant, hormonal, his fiance, and the mother of his child! hopefully you will just be able to move out as soon as you can after the baby arrives and be done with her. if i were you i would be wanting to go back to stay with my parents! lol.

yea the deployment time doesnt scare me, its the danger. i mean the time sucks and all, but having to explain to a young child that daddy got shot or something...that is something i do not ever want to have to do!

i know! its weird like that...i am glad i dont need scans, but upset that i dont get to have any. oh the irony. but soon ill see baby and my mind can be at ease and ill have pictures to stare at for the last half of the pregnancy! lol

 

[dizzy65]

ah i know what you mean with the shaving.. i was like oh no my tummy is in the way how annoying and i was trying to explain to OH i cant shave there any more because i cant see what im doing and im afraid im goina hurt my self lol or miss spots any way.. OH just said to use a mirror.. he has no idea lol. Sleeping is so hard even on the back if i sleep on my back for an amount of time i wake up with horribal back aches it is so annoying im afraid to fall asleep for when i wake up i might have discovered a new pain lol it gets so tiring. Right now just every part of my body aches, and the sucky part is i know this is just the begining i am goina have worse nights a head of me.. waa us poor pregnant women lol

Haha yeah i know what you mean it would be nice to celebrate stuff with a glass of wine or anything. its like for OH's birthday we are going to the bar, but yay me i get to sit and drink water.. blah lol.

That must be really hard having to deal with that knowing you did nothing wrong.. i would be getting so fed up by now.. that is a good way to look at it.. if shes not there it may be less stressfull for you!

It does annoy me so much how much my OH defends her but i have given up on it.. he can defend her all he wants but its not going to change my oppinion on her she makes me crazy and stressed out.. but If im no where around she cant be so critical lol.. i think my OH too should be defending me more instead of saying im being like an evil hormonal which and stuff lol. well he doesnt say that but thats how he is acting lol.

that would really suck, having to explain that to a baby.. i dont even know how i would begin trying to explain that..

haha i know what you mean.. i really want more scans but at the same time very thankfull that i dont have more scans.. you should only need the one for length and measurements and all that.. and the one at the begining too to find out the EDD. im glad in a way for not having to go to lots of scans.. but so sad i want to see my baby, lol i wish i had my own ultra-sound machine sum times

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh my gosh i was thinking the same thing about the mirror! and then i was like....umm, somehow i thing that might make the whole thing even more dangerous! i decided that if things like that are gonna be shaved then i better start saving up money to go get waxed. caust thats the only way its happening now! lol. my back and tailbone hurt the worst. and it doesnt matter what i do...sit, stand, lay down...its all painful. and my hips are sore too but i think thats cause theyre moving more now. bleh! and it totally is still just the beginning of the uncomfortable phase...were in for a wild ride from now on i think!

i know! my friends bday is this weekend and they all want to go out to the bar and im thinking...man that is not going to be very fun at all. i cant stand drunk people unless i am one of them! lol

yea it is annoying, but its probably just time to let it go and stop worrying about her. there are more important things in life to worry about for sure

good for you! stand your ground on it. maybe your OH doesnt know what shes truly like and so he thinks youre overreacting because youre pregnant. but you arent and he should take your side. best thing is probably just to avoid her and the entire situation alltogether.

oh i know that if i had an ultrasound machine i would never get anything done! lol. i would just spend all day staring at the baby! lol. soon enough though ill have my pictures to stare at. man i just hope the next two weeks fly by!

 

[dizzy65]

haha oh i know.. this is just the begining of the aches and pains.. and I also couldnt imagin shaving areas like that when i am like 35 weeks pregnant that would be such a freak show lol and im to much of a whimp to get waxed so im just telling my OH that its too bad for him right now because im having problems seeing my self lol.. i was thinking when iwas in the shower "ah i remember the days that i could see past my tummy" lol now i look down and all there is, is a tummy. my things have changed lol.. i hope that ill be able to loose the weight so that when i look down i can see more that just my belly

haha i know what you mean it sucks so bad to have to be the only one not drinking. i was talking to my dad about my OH's birthday and all he said was to drink a pop or something but i said thats no fun! lol i hate being around alcohol any way right now.

yes i hope that for the sake of her grandchild she can put all this pettyness behind her for sure..

I am so mad, FIL just went to go get his GF right now.. i herd that and i was like omfg what the hell is she doing coming over here.. i am soo angry that she has to be here right now or soon any way..

They will defantly fly by tell you get to see your bubs than it will be over in a second and it will be sad.. but than in 20 weeks you will get your beautiful baby and than you can take all the pictures you want

 

[QueSeraSera]

haha! i know! i feel like i am all tummy lately. thats all i see ever. my toes have disappeared. everything has disappeared! its insane. i dodnt think it would happen so soon. i thought that happened at like 25-30 weeks along! many i will be so glad to see my toes again. i checked into it and here waxing is so expensive so it might be au naturel for me until after the baby comes. hah...im sure DH will disapprove but oh well. lol

yea being around alcohol when you cant drink sucks. i mean, ive been over my super party stage for awhile now, but i still love a beer or a glass of wine with dinner. and DH still has one every couple of nights or so. its really not fair! lol. and then this thing this weekend...i actually found out its a bbq first and then the clubs later. so im hoping maybe we can skip out after the bbq. i dont really want to go to the bars all big and pregnant and sober. lol

argh! i hope everything went well yesterday and you were able to avoid the gf. it seems like she is over there all the time! i was thinking you could just leave when she comes but you dont drive...and its not really fair that you have to lock yourself in a room whenever she is there. your OH really should have a talk with her so you dont have to keep avoiding her. but it doesnt seems like he really wants to do that :-/ i hope it wasnt too bad!

baby is the size of a sweet potato today and only 14 days til we see the little munchkin. i know it will go by too soon, but like you said...then the baby will be out here in the world pretty soon after. ahhh i cant wait for that!

 

[dizzy65]

lol me too.. OH and i tried having a shower together today.. and it is a tiny shower but we used to fit just fine and we tried to get in to the shower together and im like hmm there isnt enough room lol and OH was like ya its cos you have a big tummy now.. i was like gee thanks lol.. I dont think i myself will fit into that shower when im like 35+ weeks its goina be hillarious to see. I think im going to be the same not shaving its hard for me to even shave my legs right now.. haha my poor OH but he just has to remember that i didnt do this to my self!! so he has to deal with this, he is the one that made me fat lol.

Hopefully you will be able to skip out on the clubbing thing. people seem to frown on pregnant people in the bar as i have found out lol. If i even step around a bar people look at me funny.. even if you arent having a drink.. that is good its a bbq thing so you wont have to be around the drinking that much. My OH likes to have a drink or 2 when he is relaxing on the couch it didnt bother me before but now its just like ahh i have to leave lol, i just dont like to be around it when i cant join in the fun.

I tried to avoid her but she cornered me lol talking to me complimenting my hair cut and than compairing hers to mine lol... i tried to run away but she kept on following me talk about annoying.. than i sat up stairs with OH while FIL and gf where down stairs but than OH made me sit with them all down stairs that was to uncomfy.. but i played with troubles the whole time anyway

Wow the baby is getting so big now.. it wont be soon now tell you are holding your baby in your arms ... I read that now my baby is the size of a banana in one thing and in the other thing it said it is the size of a small melon i was like omg thats so big lol..

Yesterday i was sitting at the park watch my OH play with his remote control truck thing and iwas drinking a 7up and the baby started kicking really hard and bouncin all over my tummy i figured i made it hyper it was to cute lol i get frequent kicks now all the time that are getting harder and harder!

 

[QueSeraSera]

haha! i know what you mean! DH and i used to shower together all the time, and our shower isnt too small. but then earlier this week we tried and it was just kinda cramped. i was thinking...yea this isnt gonna happen for much longer now at all! but thats exactly what i was thinking...man when im full term i dont know how even im gonna move around in there! and im pretty sure baths will be out of the question, lest i get stuck in there or something! lol. i think the boys forget that they had a major part in our growing bodies...so we jsut have to keep reminding them that its their fault!

yea thats kinda what i was thinking that if we go out everyone is going to be judging me for being in a bar, even though i wouldnt be drinking. and, as a previous clubber, i know that the people arent going to be wanting to see some big pregnant woman in there. ruins the fun. so i think well just be at the bbq and then go. and the bbq is in a public park and so there isnt any alcohol allowed...so hopefully i wont have to be around it all. it really isnt any fun to be around it when you cant be a part of it for sure.

what is this womans problem! she wont even let you avoid her! bleh. and then for your OH to make you hang out when he knows it makes you uncomfortable...good thing you had the kitten to distract you! i would have done anything to keep myself out of the conversation at that point.

a banana sounds funny jsut cause of the shape probably but you think of the length of a banana and thats pretty crazy. and the melon is even crazier! i cant believe how big the baby is getting! i guess it makes sense that are bellies are getting bigger...they have to! cause the babies are growing crazy fast!

haha. that is too funny about the soda. it probably gave the little one a little sugar high there. thats what they said for the ultrasound not to eat anything with any sugar in it all morning otherwise it will make the baby hyper and wiggly and they wont be able to see and check everything theyre supposed to. its pretty crazy but it makes sense...like a tiny amount of sugar is the same for them as an entire candy bar is for us. thats so cool about the kicks though...im still not feeling many and theyre not very hard...im hoping for them to come more and stronger soon!

 

[dizzy65]

i know i get stuck when i lay down now.. like it takes me so long to get up so when im further along have a bath is going to be out of the question. i always get so uncomfy in the bath now because i cant have it as warm as i want it too.. oh an great note thou baby splashed the water yesterday... it was really sweet. I kinda caught it out of the courner of my eye i was like woah what in the hell was that then i noticed baby was moving i was like "aww" lol. So my kicks are getting pretty big and strong ive only ever seen it kick like that the once thou.

Thats good that its in the park so that you wont have to be around all that drinking it gets really uncomfortable. i feel bad because OH doesnt want to go to the bar on his birthday because ill be the only one around for him and he doesnt want to take me out to the bar like that. i feel bad because i want him to have fun on his birthday now he cant.. but maybe ill convince him to go out to the movie or something.. Hopefully you will get out of going to the bar.. that will be good everyone will hopefully understand why you have to get out of going to the bar too

Yeah i know she was making me annoyed she is trying to be like the whole step-mother in law to me but she can just bugger off! haha

Thats what iwas thinking it sounds funny with the shape thats why i like the melon thing better lol it has abetter shape haha.. baby is getting so big now it is terrifying me.. now its just like omg just 19 more weeks tell i have to give birth ahh

You will soon be able to feel it with your hand it is the most amazing feeling ever i started getting big kicks by time i was how far along you are so hopefully soon you will get those big ones it get really active when i have chocolate too it is so adoribal lol man i already sound like a too obssesed mommy

 

[QueSeraSera]

haha! i am the same way...i am moving so much slower these days and when i sit or lay down, it takes much longer than normal to get back up! lol. :-/ and thats totally the otherr thing that has ruined shower/bath time....the fact that we cant have hot water anymore. i used to love to turn the water up as hot as it would go, and now it can only be lukewarm and im practically shivering in there! that must have really been some kick for it to actually splash the water! i bet it was pretty cool (and kinda crazy!) to see that. your baby is totally gonna be a professional soccer player

yea the park ended up being pretty fun and there was no drinking so that was good. and then DH and i both had a lot of homework to do (my finaly defense for my thesis is today and he is taking some pretty intense online courses) and so we left after a few hours and got out of having to go to the bars i like hanging out, but lately i dont want to be near alcohol. so it worked out pretty well. i hope your OHs birthday ended up being fun and you guys fouind something to do where you didnt have to go sit in a bar and be surrounded by drunk people. hehe

yea i used to have a friend that always tried to act like a mom more than a friend and give me advice on how to do everything and live my life. i remember always thinking "dude, i already have a mom...i dont need another" lol. so annoying when people try to act like something they arent like that...just like your FILs gf!

haha. that is kind of a scary thought how close it is until labor now and how fast time is going by. but hopefully we will just have easy births. and, if not, it will still be worth it for the little ones just, if its a more difficult labor...we might think long and hard before deciding to have another! lol

i felt like four little kicks right in a row last night when i was sitting working on my presentation. i felt the kicks before but they were faint and more like inside my tummy. but these were much more distinct and felt closer to the surface...like the baby is getting stronger. it was a pretty cool feeling really. i cant wait til it happens all the time. hehe. it seems like your baby gets really kicky when given sugar! lol...fist the soda and then the chocolate. i cant imagine what it will be like as a toddler when it has sugar then!

 

[dizzy65]

lol i know i exggerate when i talk to OH about how long it takes me to get up im like "yesh you know it takes me an hour to get up off this couch" lol.. sometimes it feels that long.. takes a few attempts especially if im really comfy in like the courner of the couch it is so hard to get up.. I have a hard time bending over and picking stuff up now, I think OH thinks its painfull to watch because now he helps me pick things up lol its almost like once im down that low i have to take a break or something!! so it gets really hard to get out of places and stuff especially out of cars where they are really low to the ground!

Thats good to hear that you didnt have to be around all that drinking it could be a drag.. its great that you had a lot of fun too I hope my OH's birthday can be just as fun. ive been trying to find some one for him to go to the bar with but he wants to spend his birthday with me and wont let me stay at home soo he wont go to the bar lol.. Yay for homework that got you out of having to go to the bar and stuff like that lol.. it is a perfectly great excuse

Lol i know.. its like "excuse me who died and made you boss of me" or something like that because they just try and be in control of everything.. so annoying.

I hope that we have easy labours im trying to mentally prepair my self for it now but im so nervous that soemthing will go wrong or something.. it is comin up fast thou

Awe that is so amazing that you got all those kicks.. I love feeling it.. Babies get more active when you have sugar or chocolate or something it is really amazing to feel i cant wait tell im like 30 weeks and my whole tummy moves when baby is active that is going to be so amazing

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh DH does the same for me...ill try to do something and hes like "just let me do it, its too painful to watch you try" lol. im happy for it though, because its getting increasingly difficult to do things like bend over or squat down to pick things up. lol. oh and the couch is like my best friend and worst enemy lately. i love it becuase its comfy but i hate it cause once ive settled in its so difficult to get back out again. if i remember ive forgotten something after i sit down i really think long and hard about how important it is that i have it, lol. cause getting up for it is a chore! lol

yea the homework ended up being a good thing in the end. kinda sucked that i had to work all weekend, but at least it got me out of going to the bar. and then it paid off because i passed my final defense last night and am officially gonna graduate! hooray! i dont blame your DH for wanting to spend his bday with you. hopefully you can figure out something nice to do that is more fun than if he had gone out to the bar anyway!

yea that really sucks that she acts like that. will you be staying at your FILs house until the baby arrives or are you going back to your parents house at all? a break from her might be nice!

oh i dont even want to think about anything going wrong in labor! im just convincing myself that its going to be a perfect, easy labor if i start thinking about things that could go wrong ill just be stressed out for the rest of the pregnancy. it is coming fast though! only 19 more weeks for you! i cant believe youre past the halfway mark...that is so exciting

yea the huge kicks will be the best i think. my DH was telling me that when his ex was pregnant there would be times when her belly would get all weird shapped and it would be because my stepson was like sticking an elbow out or something. he said it was the strangest looking thing ever. lol. but i can wait until baby is that big and people can actually see the movements in my belly.

youre 21 weeks today! congrats! another week down and only 19 more to go your baby is getting big too...already weighing a whole pound!

 

[dizzy65]

haha yes it is quiet amusing sometimes but also really annoying like when im staying at my parents place.. and my cat is on the table ill just get up to get him off the table and some one else will do it and i'm like "you couldnt of did that before i put in all this effort to get off the couch" hahaha.. i never thought it would get so that getting up and moving around would be such hard work.. ah so annoying lol.. OH laughed so hard at me because i kept stubbing my toes and tripping on stuff and he was like "whats wrong with you lately" and i looked at him and said "nothing i just cant see my feet" lol and he laughed at me..

Congrats! that is so exciting.. yay no more school soon that is going to be great!! and it even got you out of going to the bar and everything hehe that is amazing you must be so happy that now its official you will be greaduating! I hope OH's birthday goes good i bought his birthday present today.. and our anniversary is the day after his birthday too so we willhave to make plans for that too.. i have no idea what we are going to do.. and the day after our anniversary is my prenatial visit lol

I am at my parents right now but am going back to my FIL's on sunday and ill be staying there until baby is born

I know what you mean i just want to think happy thoughts about the whole labour thing.. i am so nervous about it thou..... but im not going to stress until im prob like 36 weeks than it'll probably seem so much real.. i know crazy 19 weeks left of this pregnancy ahh..

That is so amazing i cant wait tell that happens to me too .. tell we can see more visable parts of baby and until our tummies start movie when baby is in there movin around and being awesome

Thanks im so happy to be 21 weeks baby is the length of acarrot now ooh soo big hehe

 

[QueSeraSera]

hehe. i have the same trouble of stumbling over things. its really hard when you cant see the ground right underneath of you! i guess i always took for granted how much i could see out of my periferral vison...cause its not like i stare at the floor...its just that i could see so much more before! lol. DH will do the same thing about the getting up to do things. ill sit down and be like "man, i forgot my water" and he wont really move so ill get up and just as i do he will get p and go get it. defeats the point entirely once ive already worked so hard to get out or the chair! lol. ahhh....pregnancy is really handicapping in a way in how it affects how you move. lol

oh i am so excited to be finished already. it is going to be such a good feeling to be finally finished. esprecially considering that, if you could preschool, ive been going to school now for 22 years straight. lol. wow you have a big couple of days coming up with OHs bday, your anniversary and the prenatal visit! lots of planning and stuff for those couple of days for sure! sounds a lot like the week of graduation here where in 5 days were having a bday party, a graduation party, and a baby shower. its going to be insnae. but im sure you guys will think of some great, romantic things to do and it will be a good celebration. he wont even miss going to the bar

it must be a nice break to be at your parents house and not have to deal with FILs gf right now. everyone needs a break from time to time! lol

hehe. thats what im trying to do too. im trying to forget all the horror stories ive heard and just think good thoughs. or just not think about it at all right now! lol. i figure if im gonna worry im going to limit it to like the last month before the due date. no use stressing out this soon. but it is coming fast! eeek! im excited and nervous all at once.

a carrot is really long! man your baby is on quite the growth spurt lately! its amazing how fast theyve been growing in the second trimester. it really is the time of rapid growth.

 

[dizzy65]

haha i know it is so insane.. I never realised how much it would affect me not being able to see the ground right under neath of me.. I dont pick up my feet as much now so i move slower, so when i hit something its like a really big effort to left up my leg haha. Im finding it difficult for the most easiest things like putting on socks talk about a huge effort i have to like lay down and its hard to cross my legs so its really hard haha i look likea freak show i cant wait tell when its summer and i can just wear sandals.. no sockies for me and i think all summer ill be sticking to basic clothes like maternity dresses and stuff like that.. and bathing suits and all that

Wholy crap you have been in school like most of your life that is totally insane!! You will be so happy to be out of school for once and be able to be with baby and have a job that pays good.. wow that is totally crazy haha i couldnt imagin.. I know its going to be a busy couple of days then.. you sound like you are going to be really busy too when you have that graduation weekend with everything happening all at once.. but it will just make time past faster until you get to see baby which is always a good thing so is your next appointment your ultra-sound appointment or do u have a prenatial appointment in there sum where?

It is nice to have a break once in a while but right now at my parents place it is soo hot and at FIL's they have air conditioning and a cold basement haha

Thats right no need to stress this early on.. I was talking to mom and was like there is 3.5 months left and than i got nervous and was like wholy crap that makes it seem like its coming on way to fast.. than i was like 19 weeks than i got nervous too because if you think about it 19 weeks isnt that far away considering ive already been pregnant for 21 weeks lol

haha i know baby is getting so big now it is scarey and amazing all at once i hope its nota huge baby thou i think its after 24 weeks that the babies all grow at differant rates but not really sure..

Lately there has been so many people i know having babies it is so insane i cant believe how many young people or my age people that i went to school with are having babies!