pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

haha! too true...boys will be boys. i try to get my stepson to stop talking about gross boy stuff...but it doesnt work. and hes at the age where he copies everything, especially everything my DH does. the other day my DH was sitting on the couch and absentmindedly sorta scratched himself like boys do and my stepson then did the same thing!! i was thinking "oh no! not that already!" lol. they are just too silly. but i imagine for girls its kinda the same since all bodily functions are new for kids. in my experience though the boys tend to think things like farts are funny and girls not so much.

i know what you mean! i want to put up some picture that says "im pregnant" on here and facebook...but i just dont have anything to put up. i dont really have that much of a bump yet. and no scan pic. argh...so the test will have to do for now lol

i think they were only thinking about getting all the vital nutrients in the pills when they made them. they obviously forgot that women out there (who already have delicate tummies in the first few months of pregnancy) are gonna have to try to take them and keep them down! thats the worst for me...i can take it but i immediately want to throw it back up. and i know that i cant or ill just have to end up taking another...then it turns into a viscious cycle!

 

[dizzy65]

haha awe thats to cute. some boys dont grow out of the whole thinking farting is funny type thing ......... like my OH for example still farts then giggles lol im like omg silly man haha. His brothers all are the same way thou, hope it isnt genetic.. try telling him not to and that he is making me sick and he does not listen. stupid boy haha.

I am starting to get sorta a bump its getting bigger def but only i can see the change haha it doesnt look like much change in the pics. But on facebook one of my friends says looks like bloat is going away which is really nice.. i cant wait maybe at 15 weeks when i go for my scan there will be more of a bumpy there

Yeah really. they didnt think about us poor people... i have throwen up with my pill i started swollowing then it came back up i was like oh man haha it was nasty and trust me it tastes worse the second time when it comes back up

 

[QueSeraSera]

ahh..sounds like your OH and mine are very similar. my DH always giggles when he farts! i just have to shake my head at him sometimes! 24 years old but he often acts like hes about 9. i alwas try to tell him to do that in the bathroom, or anywhere away from me really...but he refuses.

thats awesome that your bloat is going away! im pretty sure mine is all still bloat. the only thing i can really notice getting bigger are my boobs...oh my goodness theyre seriously going crazy! and seriously sore all the time. i havent gone to get a bigger bra yet, but my old ones are barely holding them in anymore. totally out of control! lol

by your ultrasound youll definitely have a bit more of a cutesy bump i would think. a bump, a picture, a heartbeat...so many things to look forward too with your appointment

oh gosh that sounds horrible...i hope i can just take your word about the nastyness of the vitamin coming back up. so far i have managed to hold them all down after i take them. it hasnt been easy since most days i immediately want to thrown them back up, but so far so good.

 

[dizzy65]

Ahh, boys eh? I know what you mean i try to tell OH to do it in the bathroom and he says No its a natural bodily function would you rather i hold it in he isnt very nice i dont think lol.

My boobs havent growen that much its more my nipples are sorerer than anything nothing can touch them or myeyes start watering its that bad .. I can tell my clothes are feeling a bit snugger thou and its making me feel self consious. i asked OH if i look fat and he looked at me and said "babe your beautiful dont worry" and i was just like "mhm ok"

Yes lots to look forward to it will be a great day. Same with when you finally get to see your baby you will have an even bigger bump than iwill have as yours is at 20 weeks, so u will have a great bump too. im excited for u and u will love to see your baby I think imglad that im going for my scan at 15 weeks rather than earlier because there will be more to see i think than if i went at like 8 weeks like some people do. and there will be more to see than if i go at 12 weeks too. When you go u should get a really nice picture ...

Yes try to hold it down haha.

Yesterday OH"s little bro set me in tears. he told me to get out of his room and its not my room and that i was pissing him off and he is only 3 years old. i just broke down in front of all his family. than later than night OH's bro tried to hit me in my tummy and i started crying again. it was not a very good day yesteday for me.. Oh the Plus side i get to go home today

 

[QueSeraSera]

haha! that sounds exactly like something that my DH would say! oh and then sometimes he'll do these silent ones and then when they start to smell he'll go "jesus honey, you could go to the bathroom you know!" really loud. once he did that in front of my best friend...i bout could have punched him right in the nose! lol

i know what you mean...i like to lay on my stomach but my boobs are too sore for it. so i sleep on my sides, but every once in awhile in the night ill turn over to my stomach and the pain is absolutely crazy...wakes me up out of a solid sleep. my regular casual clothes are still alright fitting, but my work clothese are starting to get a little snug...at least the trousers are. i really dont want to have to buy maternity clothes already! i think first im going to look into one of those belly band things that lets you have the buttons undone but still holds them up.

overall i think its good that were having our scans a little later that normal. ive seen some of the 12 week scans and the baby is still so small. i think its worth it to wait the extra few weeks and give it time to grow for a better picture and for us, im actually glad its week 20 because we want to find out the gender and they say to have a scan after week 18 for accurate gender pictures. but youre right...ill probably have a pretty big bump by then!

wow...it sounds like that little boy needs some discipline! how does he even know the term "pissing me off" at three years old?! thats out of control. i know my stepson came up and sat down really hard on my belly when i was laying on the ground the other day and i started crying too...scared he might have hurt the baby. he didnt do it to be mean, was just playing around like we used to. we he asked my DH why i was crying DH said "because shes scared for the baby in her belly...remember we have to be very careful so that the baby can grow up big and strong and come out and meet us" and then my stepson came over and kissed my belly. it was cute. its crazy cause normally i wouldnt cry like that...but lately lots of things get me to tearing up...

im glad youre getting to go home and get some relaxation with your parents and dont have to stay with the people that have been stressing you out for the next three weeks! are you driving? cause i think i remember you saying it was like an 18 hour drive or something...man my DH would be so pissed with me by the end cause it seems like lately i need to go to the bathroom about every 45 min to 1 hr! the small bladder syndrome is already starting! :-/

 

[Angielove]

im always here to chat!

 

[QueSeraSera]

Hello Angielove! I don't know how to add you, but I'm here to talk on BnB. By the way, your daughter is beautiful!

 

[dizzy65]

Hello angie love welcome i will add you to msn for sure i just got to get itworking first

 

[dizzy65]

My OH does the same thing in front of his family he does the silent ones and either he whispers in my ear "hun i think i just farted" or "eww shan how could you thats grose" i usually just smack him and say "that was you, you sicko" lol he is such a pain some times

I know what you mean i keep trying to sleep on my tummy and it gets too uncomfy some times in the night my tummy gets kind of sore if i lay on it so i try not to put all my pressure on to it. My mom says its only going to get worse of me laying on it soon in the third tri even if we want to we wont be able to lay on our tummy. which really sucks because thats usually how i sleep is on my belly but by that time we will be so big that we cant sleep on it i guess haha.. thats going to be really uncomfortable but totally worth it in the long run

i was thinking the same that baby is still pretty small at 12 weeks. and this way at when we are going in the baby will have a good heart beat and nice strong one and there will be a good picture it will be a good baby picture. i know it kind of sucks having to wait but it will be all worth it once we get to see our babies on the screen and know that theyare in there playin around and bein healthy

He does need lots of deciplin. its because his mom his hardly ever home. He even useses the "F" bomb on occasion. He has a really bad potty mouth and i dont like it i keep saying to OH my baby isnever going to get like that and that i dont think our baby should be around his little bro tell he can watch his language because little kids are so impressionabal and i dont know wat ido if my baby start talking like that.. it would be hard and i couldnt handle if my baby told me to F off or something like that.

I dont have my licence Yet thank goodness im going to be getting it soon i just neber really wanted to until now i guess. its a 14 hour drive, or 12 the way my OH drives lol but if a normal sane person was driving it wouldtake about 14 hours from here to there. So it was a very long and boring drive. we had Kitty in his cage, oh boy was that fun. Plus OH was gettingannoyed i keeped asking him to pull over cause i had to pee haha. OH just rolled his eyes and i said Hey you did this too me haha and he shut up. But you are right OH was getting mad at me. it was great fun thou.

 

[QueSeraSera]

ahhh! my DH has done that to me so many times! he always balames his gross boy behaviour on me. i usually just smack him on the arm too. luckily everyone knows hes the icky one, even if he does try to pass the blame off on me.

i know what you mean, last night i was laying on my tummy and it felt really strange...like too much pressure on it or something. so i had to flip to my side. im usually a back or a tummy sleeper and those are the exact two positions we arent going to be able to sleep in later on in the pregnancy. i keep trying to train myself to sleep on my side, but so far its not catching on. its just not as comfortable!

the wait for the ultrasound is so going to be worth it. we will definitely get better pictures by waiting. plus, some women get their scans so early and things still end up going wrong. by the time that we get ours we will be out of the dangerous time and just know that the babies are in there growing big and strong

ahh i cant imagine hearing my toddler say that! my stepson has picked up some bad words from the kids at preschool, which i dont like. but its not our choice what preschool he goes to, unfortunately it his moms. but nothing like the f bomb. i think i would faint if he said that. i dont blame you though for making sure your baby doesnt pick up the bad habits from your OHs brother.

thats nice that you dont have a license...means you couldnt be made to drive part of the trip! that is still such a crazy long drive. i bet the kitten was going crazy having to be in the cage the whole time! hahaha at the stopping and peeing...so funny...i know that would be me on a long drive. and my DH would get frustrated too. but i like the way you handled it and told him the situation was partly his fault too. that always shuts them up

 

[dizzy65]

Yep. every one knows my OH is the icky one too thank good ness because i dont know what i would do if they thought that his farts were me.. ah so annoying haha.

ooh i know it sucks so bad, im trying to train my self too but i find i cant sleep if i try to sleep on my sides and i just end up rolling back over on to my tummy. it gets so uncomfortable. also with my rib injury it gets really uncomfortable sleeping on my left side for long periods of time. i really hope that changes thou. because im going to have to move over onto sleeping on my sides in a couple of months here, and i dont want to be in pain.

I know what you mean. ive seen some people get ultra sounds at like 5 weeks. and then theres barely anything tosee and when you do see it some times theres no heart beat and it makes them feel all upset and stuff like that just cause they went in way to soon. I dont think i would on my next babies go in at 5 weeks to get an ultra sound even if i wantd tosee baby so bad. There are a lot to go wrong that early and once u see the baby u kinda dont think about all the complications before 12 weeks. i think its defantly better to wait.

Yes pretty bad words it sucks so bad to hear those words. and his mum just laughs. its like cant you do anything about that i mean really. its your son and he is telling people to "f off" and stuff like that. Its not good.

haha yes it defantly shuts them up when we bring that up

Congrats on hitting 10 weeks. thats awesome. how big is your baby this week ? .. just 2 more weeks for you tell your 12 weeks that is so exciting .. than after that it will just be 8 weeks tell ur ultra sound

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh having a rib injury must really making sleeping on the side a real pain. that suck too, because they say in later pregnancy youre supposed to lay on your left side as it helps get more oxygen to the baby. and thats the side you said hurts. im looking into getting a body pillow thing later on when it starts getting uncomfortable to sleep. hopefully something like that can help you too.

thats exactly how i feel. if you go in early and cant see the heartbeat then youre going to freak out and stress and thats not good for the baby. or if you go in that early and everything is fine, youre forgetting that you still have 7 more weeks to go of the "Critical period" of pregnancy where the risk of something bad happening is higher. im perfectly fine with waiting, when i think about it that way!

yea the bad words thing is hard because once they learn it you cant do much about it. i mean, you can tell them its bad but experts say you shouldnt really make that big of a deal about it. but when dyl uses a bad word we tell him its naughty and not to use it again, and if he does we put him in time out. we dont want him calling people nasty names or saying bad thing in public! well, not to us in private either, come to think of it.

thanks! i get so excited every week! this week the baby is the size of a kumquat...but im not sure what that is so i looked up a different site and it says the size of a prune...that i can relate to more! ahhh...so excited, just 13 more days until the heart beat. and yea...the 8 weeks is gonna be awhile. but i was thinking about it and that will be about the time im finished with school, like 2 weeks before. so itll be a good, early graduation present! and my family is coming out the second week of may so we will have just found out the gender...and i think i can wait just a week or two so that we can announce it in person. works out pretty well actually.

 

[dizzy65]

It does suck. I have like 4 fractured ribs at the time i got pregnant and it hurts like a bitch because they wont heal properly now.. and i talked to my doc about pain killers and he said that im not aloud any, and i knew that but it hurts so bad even when i breathe. The doc are goina put me threw surgery for my ribs after the baby is born because ive been having problems with my ribs ever since my ex broke them 5-6 years ago. And im still really mad that he did that too me im so upset, but i think the only way they can fix them is rebreaking them and i herd that is none to comfrotable they just need them to heal properly i think. a body pillow is a good idea, i should try that too

Yeah you stress and thats not good on the baby so u end up having a miscarriage just because there was no heart beat, but they baby was fine i would hate that... its not worth all the stress getting that early ultra sound ... Its good for some people too i guess every one has differant oppinions

Once they have herd them its hard for them to stop saying them, and sometimes some of the things they can say really hurt.. even thou they dont know that those words are hurtful to people because really they dont know any better.... But it still hurts when they say bad words to you and say it in a hurtful way. i dont know wat i would do if baby told me im pissing him off or something,

Ooh thats exciting. i know i hate when they use fruits that you dont know what they are haha. They said my baby is the size of a lime now. i know what that is hehe but its so exciting to see how big he/she is getting week by week thats awesome for it to be a grad present for u thats very exciting for u. and you areso fortunate that u can graduate before baby is born

Soo guess what.. Doctor called me and Said .... My ultra sound has been changed to Feb 19th, thats in one week. 7 days.. omg im freaken out i get tosee my baby in 7 days im so nervous

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh my gosh that sounds really painful with your ribs! i cant believe youve gone that long with them being messed up! and it really sucks that they cant do anything about it until the baby comes. hopefully it doesnt get too much more painful as the baby gets bigger and everything too. i do think that they will probably have to break and reset them once the baby comes for them to heal properly...but it will probably be worth the pain so that they are finally just fixed.

yea i can see where a person with previous pregnancy issues might need the early ultrasound to prevent them from stressing out. but for me, i think that it would make me stress out more if everything wasnt exactly right, even though at that early it might not mean anything

yea thats whats so bad about kids and bad language...they dont really know what theyre saying or what it means. but the fact that the say it is still kind of hurtful, especially when theyre doing it with the noticeable intent of trying to get at you. hopefully we wont have to experience that with our babies!

a lime is much easier to relate to as far as size...i mean i guess theres only so many fruits so sometimes they have to get creative...but a kumquat?! seriously?! lol. i really like it though...being about to relate the growth to something like a fruit.

yea i think the timing being around graduation will be very cool. and i am so glad to be graduating before the baby come. my thesis committee asked me if i wanted to put my project on hold because of the baby, i told them no way that i was getting this thing finished before the baby no matter what

ahhh! that is so exciting that your scan got moved up!! usually they call to move appointments back, ive never heard of them moving them forward! thats fantastic...now your christmas is coming a lot sooner than you thought

 

[dizzy65]

ya it really does suck. and they cant do nothing about it tell my baby has arrived which sucks. but i guess if they tried to correct it now then it would just make for a complicated pregnancy. . which is something i want to avoid. When Baby gets bigger my ribs may crack more as of all the added pressure on to them. But it will all be worth it in the end i keep telling my self that. no matter how much pain i have to go threw the end result is going to be a really great one. and i cant wait tell i finally get to hold my beautiful baby in my arms, and know that all the pain was worth it in the end..

I agree with you if i had an early scan and everything wasnt perfect i would go into a panic and thats not good for baby .. Thats why as much as i would like to of had an early scan im glad i wont get the chance to because there is chance of something going wrong with baby, or everything to not be perfect. well i didnt even find out i was pregnant until i was like 6+6 weeks pregnant and i had no desire to go in early to see the baby as i didnt want to get my hopes up as i was still in the "danger zone" so to speak.

Ya for sure if that happened there would be a long lecture. im trying to get OH to stop with the swearing to He says the F word a lot but he works in a shop with a whole bunch of guys who thats like a second language to them so he gets it from work i usually try saying can u please not swear around me or your siblings but he doesnt listen. i dont want baby to pick up those words from daddy thou thats the last thing is for OH to be a bad influence

I know what you mean, i looked at that too and i was like what in the hell is a kumquat, lol something i have never eat nor have i even heard of before i was like man i wish these people would speak english hahaha.

Good for you finishing school first that is great. Your DH should be very proud of you for wanting to go threw and finish your schooling before baby is born. that way when it arrives you will have all the more room and attention for the baby

I know i was shocked i thought they were goina cancell when i herd it was from the hospital i was like oh great. But she was like "shannon, i am sorry but the appointment we booked for you on march 3rd, the doctor isnt going to be in " i was silent i was like thinking WHAT!?! how could you people do this too me.. and then she was like "so we booked it for feb 19th. i was like "pheww" haha then i was like "ok ill be there" after i hung up i was in shock like woa what just happened here haha

 

[QueSeraSera]

i cant even imagine how much that must hurt...but it will totally be worth it in the end. and even if it is a lot of pain, its better than putting the baby in danger for sure. i had a friend that broke her leg when she was pregnant and then they couldnt do anything about it until after. but the wound had healed incorrectly, so they had to rebreak it. she said the 5 months of hobbling around on a broken leg and all the pain was still worth it in the end

i am totally in agreement! i didnt want to go too crazy with everything when i first found out. i think a lot of people dont realize how fragile the first couple months are or that something could go wrong.

ahhh my DH is bad with the language too. i used to be, but ive stopped since i got married and my stepson is around more. but my DH is in the military and everyone he works with has such a bad mouth...so its hard for him. sometimes he can control it better but whenever he starts to get frustrated or anything, out come the bad words. im trying to work on him too before the baby, and for my stepson too. sometimes DH will say something bad in front of him without even realizing it.

haha...i told my mom the thing about the kumquat and she said she knew exactly what it was. she was surprised i didnt and at first thought i was joking. so ive come to the conclusion it must be an old person fruit

yea i think hes happy that ill be able to finish. plus i wont have all the homework and writing to do so ill actually be able to spend more quality time with him after graduation even before the baby is born. it will be good to be done...ive been in university for 7 years already! ugh! lol

ahh youre more patient than me...i probably would have said something before she even got to the point where she said they rescheduled for earlier. i would have immediately come to the conclusion that they were cancelling or moving it back and gotten upset. but thats still so cool that happened

 

[dizzy65]

oh ya for sure i couldtotally imagin its totally worth it in the end and thats what you got to focus on. that its only for a short period of time and then all the pain will be worth it for sure i am scared its going to hurt but its not going to be to bad. OH keeps saying he wants to hurt my ex for putting me threw this much pain but all i can say is dont worry about it. ive been threw worse and i will survive threw this you know. i know its a pain in the butt and it totally sucks it happened to me, but i will survive even on bed rest. i just wish he would stop worrying about me so much i will be fine and make it threw this and in the end after surgery ill be back to my self with out the pain of it. and my next baby it will be easier

I used to be really bad too, but i stoped when i was around little kids because i didnt think it was fair for them to hear such language at such a young age. i some times say it now when im mad but only once in a while. I try to get OH to stop but you know how boys can be. once they are in a habbit its hard for them to break it But i will hopefully make sure he is clean of it when bean is born Its a hard habbit to break when its all around you all the time

Hahaha yes it very well could be an old person fruit lol. i never even thought to ask my parents what it was. thats to funny that she knew and you didnt.

Wholy crap 7 years thats a crazy long time. what were you going in for? i dont think i would have the attention span to go in for 7 years lol. Thats insane you have been doing great thou a lot of people wouldnt of lasted the whole 7 years. Congrats thats amazing. your DH should be really proud of you for coming so far you must of went in right after high school to get in all those years .. andits great you can finish before the baby is due

I was thinking of saying something but i would have screamed at her if she moved it back and probably just said never mind ill get an appointment here haha.. stupid doctors but i am really happy it got moved up im also goina ask thedoc if he thinks its a good idea for me to get a doc up here as i will be moving down here in may. So this kind of sucks i have to go home 2 weeks early. but I will be spending the last week of feb down here and the first 2 weeks in march down here and mayb my birthday

 

[QueSeraSera]

i cant really blame your OH for being upset that youre in pain. i know my DH is the same way...theyre so protective and they dont want to see us hurt or in pain. my DH will jumpt to my defense for anything just because he wants to protect me from things...and sometimes its really silly things too. but, boys will be boys. what happened with your ex? it must of been pretty terrible for you to end up with broken bones... :-/

yea for me it wasnt too hard of a habit to break because ive always had to watch my mouth around my parents...my mom has the outlook that im her daughter and ill always be her daughter and i should have some respect for them and not use those words. and shes probably right. my DH, on the other hand, has never had to control it...his mom and brother use pretty bad language all the time. so hes not so practiced at controlling it. so...we have about 7 months to work on it. lol

yea it was a really long program. i entered the university straight out of high school and have taken classes straight through for the past seven years. its an architecture program and its a doctorate program. so where most are 5 years for a masters, this was an extra 2 for the doctorate. its been a long time and a lot of work, but it will be worth it in the end for the degree. but...i am very ready for it to be over.

i was wondering how that was going to work with you having just gone down to your parents place...sucks that youre gonna have to cut your trip short and make that long drive again. but its all for a good cause, for sure!

 

[dizzy65]

I know my OH is the same some things are so silly that he thinks he has to protect me of. some times i just have to tell him "im a big girl i can take care of my self" but still he doesnt listen he always has to protect me saying stuff like "your mine and if anyone hurts you i have to protect you" and then i cant even defend my self with OH being there behind me trying to help. you are right boys will be boys. My ex was a big guy he was 300 + pounds any way him and his cousin were restling and his cousin threw him on to me, and his cousin was over 300 pounds too and i was only like 95 pounds and all that pressure compressed on my ribs cracked all theribs on my left side. and when i was sitting there in pain and couldnt breathe my ex just ignored me. and when i was crying he just laughed. thats why my OH wants to hurt him. but i told him not to bother with it. And ive been threw worse for sure..

I am the same. that kind of language was never talerated at my parents house. my mom was brought up like that, when she was growing up "fart" was a swearword ... so im not aloud to say any kind of swear around her, well i imagin i could but i dont out of respect.. and some times when it slips like i say "crap" or something she just reminds me to watch my language.. I just dont swear out of respect for the other people around methat has to listen to the language ... my parents are the same saying that im still there daughter and that will never change so i have to listen haha.

woa thats crazy well when its all over and done with you will be able to have a great job and it will totally all be worth it ,.. i could imagin just wanting it to be all over and done with it ... but its for a good cause and now you can get a great job when baby is a bit older

It is defantly for a good cause. and its not like im loosing any time as i will be back at the end of feb fora little while too and i will be able to visit my parents for a long time. i cant wait tell my ultra sound and my parents under stand why i have to go home early they cant wait to see my scan pics

 

[QueSeraSera]

your ex sounds like a tool for sure! he must have known that you were seriously hurt...what a jerk. cant blame your OH for being mad at him. but jeez...thats a big guy, not sure i would want to mess with him! :-/ lol

haha. thats so funny cause thats how my mom is too! my dad uses swear words but he doesnt around my mom out of respect to her. but my mom is so funny...she is very prudish. she hates any swear words. she wont watch movies that have a lot of band language either. she cracks me up. but it was a different way they were raised and i respect it. its just good to watch the language anyway...you never know who you might be offending.

that is the hope, that this will all lead to a good job with a decent salary that i enjoy doing. right now i cant really think that far though...all i can think about now is just finishing up writing my thesis and graduating. and then having the baby!

i bet they are so excited for you to go back and get your scan. i know if i were in your situation my parents would be hurrying me up to go back up and get to the appointment. my folks are so excited, it cracks me up. its their fourth grandchild so i didnt think theyd be so excited by it. but im the youngest and the only girl, so i guess that makes them excited. my dad called me today just to ask how his grandbaby is doing. its so funny because he doesnt really call me that often, usually its my mom. but now hes been calling to ask about the baby. so funny...its so true what they say about when you have a baby you sort of lose your own identity and just become the babys mom...too true, now its all about the baby. im totally okay with that though