Question and advice, please...

[nikky0907]

Hi,I'm sorry if this is a stupid question but I'm kinda new at this and I registered so I can ask some of you who had gone through similar situations for advice.
I'm 18 and I just started college.I've been active since I was 16 and that is when I got on the pill.I never had any pregnancy scares or anything like that.Recently I broke up with my boyfriend and had a one night stand with the guy I know from campus.That was 2 weeks ago and now I'm sick most of the time,tired and my breast are sore.I even had some bleedeing even though I'm still on the pill but it lasted like 2 days.Now I'm very worried.My friend pointed to me the fact that I might be pregnant.
How is it possible that I was on the pill,I never had any problems with any of my boyfriends despite having sex with them several times and now one time with this guy and I may be pregnant?
I'm completly shocked,scared and I have no idea what to do,I'm so scared to take the test...

 

[Rumpskin]

For peace of mind, I would get tested. Take a good friend with you for support.

Sending you a hug xx

 

[leeanne]

I agree....take a test.

 

[nikky0907]

I know I shoul but I'm very scared of the result...can you please recommend a good pregnancy test...

Please don't thinl less of me because I had a one night stand,I never do that usually...

 

[Rumpskin]

We dont think less of you lovely. Dont beat yourself up over it.

How late are you?

 

[nikky0907]

Well,I'm on the pill,so I take them for 22 days and then for 6 days I have my period,but I didn't get it this month...

 

[Rumpskin]

I would go to the doctors myself to get it confirmed one way or another. It is not what you want to hear but believe me, they see people in your situation so often.

They will be able to discuss all your options without any pressure.

Remember, it is your body and only you can make a decision as to what you will do if you are pregnant.

Lots of love xxx

 

[nikky0907]

I guess avoiding won't do anyone any good,there are like a million questions going through my mind...I'm just completly terrified.I'm not sure what I'm gonna do if I'm pregnant...thank you for being so nice...

 

[Rumpskin]

Why dont you write your questions down? That may help you a little.

Have you spoken to anyone else about it?

Talking to someone may help you a bit.

We are all here for you if you want to chat more xx

 

[nikky0907]

My friend knows about it,she will go to the doctor with me when I make the appointment but she only tells me to have an abortion and I really need to talk to people who are experiencing the same things...
What do you mean I should write my questions down?

 

[Rumpskin]

Dont let your friend pressurise you. Please take your time to think what is best for you.

If you have any questions that you want to ask your doctor, you could write them down as you may forget them when you get there.

I guess your friend is only trying to protect you and wants whats best for you.

You are lucky that she is there for you.

Be brave lovely, things will work out for the best in the end.

 

[nikky0907]

That's a good advice...If the doctor confirms this I'll probably faint so writing some questions for him down could be useful.I'm taking a home pregnancy test tomorrow(I decided it after reading some of your posts),I have it my drawer for a couple of days now but I've been afraid...I don't want to be completly surprised when I go to the doctor...Its very hard for me to be optimistic right now,but again thank you for being so nice...

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh Nikky, my heart goes out to you. You sound a little more braver now and if you were here, I would hug you. Good idea to test before you go to the doctors. If you are positive, then you have some time to think what you really want to do.

Let us know how you get on.

 

[TashaAndBump]

I know how scary this is (was in the same position about 7 months ago) - I was on the pill when I got pregnant, too... It's best you take the test as soon as possible because it gives you longer to think about what you really want and to decide how to go about things.

As you said, avoiding things doesn't get you anywhere - if the baby is there it's best you find out asap, as ignoring it won't make it go away, it will only reduce your options and take away valuable time, which you need to think and take actions.

Let us know how the test goes, and book an appointment at your doctor asap (or go to your local family planing / drop-in clinic). Like others have said, we are all here for you if you need advice. But times like this can feel very lonely and you will need support from people who are close to you... have you thought about talking to yer folks about your fears? Or another family member - a sister or aunt, perhaps?

Best of luck, hun.

[edit: forgot to say, don't let anyone pressure you into anything... If you are pregnant, whether you keep the baby or not will be one of the biggest decisions of your life and it's very important that you make it with a clear mind, having thought about all your options - it must be your decision as it's one you'll have to live with the consequences of for the rest of your life. It's important that you do what is best for you - so that you don't regret the decision you do make for the rest of your life... It may not seem like it, but there are so many options available to you, and everything will be okay in the end ]

 

[nikky0907]

Well I finally looked at 5 test that were on my bathroom floor.Pink lines,2 lines even one that spelled pregnant...I'm completly shocked and I don't belive it yet...I made a doctor's appointment for tuesday...What are the chances that they were falsely positive?

 

[Rumpskin]

Well done for testing Nikky.

I have always been told that a home pregnancy test is as reliable as the doctors one (not sure if this is true).

It is probably not the result that you wanted lovely.

Make sure you keep your appointment on Tuesday.

Have you worked out how far gone you are?

xxx

 

[flowers123]

False positives are really rare hun. Good luck in the doctors appointment dont be scared. And dont let your friend push you into something you dont wanna do. Do whatever you think is best for you. When I thought I was pregnant this site helped me decide what Id do if I was (Send me a PM if you want the web address).
Hope you make the right decision, whatever that is. Good luck hun. xxxxx

 

[nikky0907]

The worst feeling ever...I'm still in denial.I have no idea what I'm going to do.
But can someone please tell me what kind of test does the doctor do?
Well,the event happened like 7 weeks ago,I'm not sure how do I figure out how far along I am,I guess the doctor will tell me?

 

[Rumpskin]

The doctor only asked me:

Date of last period
If I was in a stable relationship
Diet
Did I drink/smoke
Did I take folic acid

Nothing taxing. Date of your last period is really important so that he/she can give you a rough idea how far gone you are.

Make sure you look after yourself whatever you decide.

Let us know how you get on at the doctors and we will be here for you.

xxxx

 

[confusdclaire]

date of last period! have to work that one out!
stable relationship = no
diet = junk food and fizzy drinks
drink or smoke = yes and yes
folic acid = what?!?!
lol x