i chickened on the CIO....I started out doing CC one night which seemed to make her more mad. then finally had an anxiety attack, caved in, picked her up and she fell asleep immediately....next night tried CIO....I was sweating and shaking from listening to her cry (and it was only like 10 minutes)
I just don't know what to do
Hi everyone. After a hectic few days, we had a bit of a nap breakthrough. Today he fell asleep briefly in the car at 10.30 for literally 5 mins but wouldn't sleep after that in the morning. At 12.15 he then slept for 3 hrs. Yay! It could be a fluke though as he fought us at bedtime last night sleeping 9.30pm - 7am, so maybe the later wake up made the later nap possible.
Hi everyone. After a hectic few days, we had a bit of a nap breakthrough. Today he fell asleep briefly in the car at 10.30 for literally 5 mins but wouldn't sleep after that in the morning. At 12.15 he then slept for 3 hrs. Yay! It could be a fluke though as he fought us at bedtime last night sleeping 9.30pm - 7am, so maybe the later wake up made the later nap possible.
I think you may have found your answer!
Maybe you could do a short nap in the AM (wake him at the 45 minute mark or even 30 minutes) and then a longer afternoon nap. A 3 hour nap might be too long, but 2 hours might be just right.
Hi all. It is time for me to join this thread. LO was never a great sleeper, but we were at 2 wakings per night and putting him down awake (after nursing) without drama, and I was happy with that. Now we are having some crazy nap transition (seems like he is trying to go straight from 4 to 2?!), plus we just tried moving from bassinet to crib and he absolutely hates it, plus vaccinations yesterday. Plus probably starting to learn object permanence! Result: a baby who will not sleep in his bed (even his old bassinet). Hopefully the effects of the vaccinations, at least, are temporary, but I just don't know what to do. I've been crying at every nap and bed time for the past two days. I just feel lost. All I can hear in my head is Dr. Sears and Dr. Weissbluth arguing over all the reasons why I have failed as a parent. I feel horribly guilty toward LO...I didn't want to use crying techniques and I feel like we may have to and like I have really let him down.
6 months was the height of horrible sleeping for me. I felt like I was going insane! Definitely do what you need to to survive right now. You can re-evaluate the situation in a week, just to ensure he's not suffering side effects from the vaccines.
this is definitely not the first time I have hit the point where I have to decide to just take a few days off and forget about the sleep stuff for a while...I just hate obsessing about it. He's such a fun baby. And I really am all right with the routine we've had going (mostly...I do worry about the nursing-almost-to-sleep, and would I prefer to sleep through the night? of course). But then something throws it off and it's just so discouraging to feel like we're starting from scratch again.
I'm excited!! No tears from mama yet tonight (touch wood)!
How are you and F doing today?
You must be relieved about the swaddle!
lo slept 7:45 till 6:45 I did hear a moan at 2am but I could tell it wasn't a hungry or painful one so I left him an within two mins he was asleep also a little shout at 6 but that was it. He did have two good naps yesterday the last one ended at 4pm so I think this really helped us.Thanks. We'll see what tonight brings. So far he is in bed asleep after just 2 tries, which is about a quarter as many as I was expecting, so that's really really good. But he has recently been waking up within about 10 minutes of going down, so we'll see if it sticks.
His typical day...he wakes up around 6. His nap schedule has been shifting a lot in the past week, so it's a bit hard for me to describe that at the moment. His first nap definitely starts around 9-9:30, or at least three hours after he woke up (he'll nap half an hour sooner in the car, but there's no other way he'll take that one earlier). Until about a week ago he would have three more naps, around 12, 2:30, and 5, and each would be about 30-35 minutes. Recently, he's started napping anywhere from 40 to 90 minutes, and he's down to three (the second one starts anywhere from 12 to 1:30, and the third anywhere from 3 to 5) and this weekend even seemed to want two -- we really struggled with the last one. In any case he usually seems to want about 2-2.5 hours of nap per day. If he's already had that much heading toward the last nap he will often skip the nap. Then bedtime routine around 7, asleep at 7:15-7:30. Feeds around 1 and 4. Repeat. So he's definitely on the lower end of sleep for his age, but he's always been that way. He is generally very cheerful and can play independently for a while and all that stuff so I don't think he's chronically sleep deprived.
Thanks for the advice to just enjoy him for a week
Whew...he is still sleeping!
Feeds around 1 and 4 are totally appropriate for the age. Honestly, what some of the sleep books won't admit is that some kids just aren't good sleepers and they have to grow out of that. I did a lot of the "right" things with my LO and she did start sleeping well in her own time, but sometimes the books just didn't help. I'm a big fan of "the books" so I'm not knocking them, but not all babies are textbook.
