Good morning everyone! :wave:
Thanks to everyone who commented on the one nap idea. I think you're all right. I don't think he really wants one nap right now; he's just really excited to be awake. But the answer is probably not to cut his sleep.
Stephie, so glad to hear things are getting better and you had another good bedtime!
Certainly sounds like great progress! Regarding the bouncy chair, I wonder if there is a way you can listen to both your instinct and your arms...what if you tried keeping him in the bouncy chair for now but not bouncing it, and instead taking him out and swaying with him or soothing him however you would if he were in bed?
SE I guess it depends on Munchkin's temperament. If he is stubborn and wilful, you could be right and he may just learn to cry for 45 minutes. Have you done cc before? How long did he cry for? I recommended this blog post to Twister and you might find it useful:
https://www.healthytippingpoint.com/2012/12/adventures-in-baby-sleep-training.html
She had an upper limit of 60-90 mins for regular crying (with intermittent checks) but said she never got close to that. So having an upper limit can't be too uncommon.
Good luck. You are a sensitive, intelligent woman. I'm sure whatever sleep training route you go will be the right one for your family xxx
You are too sweet!
What we did before was kind of a CC/PUPD hybrid with 3 minute intervals, or longer if it seemed like he was winding down. I think we had 4 nights total where he cried for over an hour, once an hour and a half, and he was sick once too. And the night before last we had an awful MOTN party where he just really seemed to want to get up and play, and even though we weren't "sleep training" neither DH nor I would let that happen...and he basically screamed for an hour (while we tried to calm him), was sick, and then cried intermittently for another half hour while DH tried to put him down. So...based on that I think we'd be in for a lot of crying. I just don't really have the stomach for it. I can barely sleep myself afterward. But on the other hand, I know it's not good for him to be fighting sleep so much. Sometimes he is clearly so tired and just will not let himself sleep. So I feel like we need to do something.
Thanks for the link. I think I always just dismissed that approach because it didn't make sense to me to have limits. But on the other hand I'm clearly not willing to try it without limits, so even if it's not as quick to work, I'd try it if it were likely to help rather than hurt.
My LO's pediatrician recommended a similar approach. He said to start with 15 minutes and then increase the time by 10-15 minutes each night, with a max of 45 minutes. I never tried it because it seemed crazy to me, but who knows!
That does seem like it would be pretty confusing. Maybe not for a baby for whom 15 minutes is enough?
Gaia, hooray for sleep with no boob!!
I sometimes wonder whether I should try giving Munchkin a pacifier again, but then I worry (irrationally, I think) about weaning him off that!
I do think it would make it easier to weaken the boob association, and as you said, transfers to the crib would be much easier. I'm sorry about the teething
I hope the teeth in question are out soon!
Vikki, I'm sorry about your early mornings. I hope that if you can get him back to sleep with a bottle consistently then at least he'll be in the habit of sleeping later and you can work on getting rid of the bottle after that. Glad things are better overall
Hi Jade
I'm sorry about the separation anxiety, that sounds really hard. Mine does a less intense version of that -- sometimes he's just fine when I leave the room at bedtime and sometimes he screams. I don't know what you are willing to do in terms of sleep training but perhaps something like gradual withdrawal/camping out might be a good fit. That way she can gradually get used to you being away from her and hopefully realize that you're still nearby. Another thing I've read people do, which might be helpful now that she's old enough to understand you a little, is leave for less than a minute during the bedtime routine. Like say "I'm going out for a minute, but I'll be RIGHT BACK to give you a kiss!" and then do that. Just to practice. I can also imagine that would make bedtime stressful, though, if it's too much. Maybe even just peekaboo?
Regarding the early mornings, what are her naps like? Also, 6-7 sounds a little early to me as a bedtime for that age, although someone with a baby that age probably knows more. So between 6 and 7 there is no difference in when she wakes up?
Sunnie, I think the playing on the floor thing is great. I find often LO just wants me nearby and then is happy to play by himself, whereas if I were to sit on the other side of the room he'd be upset. I just have to be careful not to do anything too distracting like being on my phone or laptop
NotNic, I totally do the same thing with lying down next to the bed and pretending to sleep
I think you are exactly right about its being developmental, and about making things more active during the day. I've been trying to do more of that, especially in his last WT, and hopefully tire him out more by bedtime. I think it does help. I'm so glad you've had some nice late mornings
and that all your bad nights have been explained by teething! It's so reassuring when there's an explanation for it, even though it doesn't make it any less painful for them.
Hi Bun
I'm really sorry you are struggling. Your boy is so little, I don't think you should feel badly about things being a bit all over the place. That said, your WTs seem much too long for 6 weeks. What happens if you try to put him down much sooner? I'd try the approach Gidz suggests of going by the clock, just for a day or two to see how it goes. I would try 45-60 minutes.
Also, I think having a nap routine is wonderful, but it doesn't have to mean napping in the crib if that's not her preference. Many babies prefer to sleep in motion at that age. Totally normal and they outgrow it. If she's fighting naps in the crib, you could try a sling or wrap, swing, bouncy chair, or stroller. It's more important to make sure they are getting enough sleep than to insist on the crib on this age IMO. But I'm sure some experts disagree.
On CC/CIO and time limits - My unprofessional opinion is that they don't make sense. You do it or you don't and you have to stick with it. Utter consistency is key. If you have a baby that's crying excessively after the first few nights, you may want to consider that the method you're using doesn't suit his/her temperament.
Thanks Noelle. Makes sense. That's what I'm afraid of.
I love your new avatar photo, BTW! Gorgeous.