Thanks ladies, I'll try the earlier feed then. Ugh...I just hate that 4:30 feed so much.
I don't think it would be so bad if he hadn't had a few days where he did actually start his day at 4:30. Now I'm always afraid it will happen again. It's also horrible for me because I don't turn the lights on or let him out of his room until 6, and I try not to smile or be very engaging...ugh, it is so boring and horrible, and of course he gets frustrated too, which I allow to happen because I don't want it to be fun for him to be up at that time. We've been doing this for months and he still doesn't consistently sleep until 6, so I've thought of stopping it and just starting the day when he's up, but I just can't feel good about letting him have too much fun at that hour.
Today he actually woke up but SS at 4:30, so I thought YESSSS!! -- but he was up at 5:15 and wouldn't go back to sleep, of course.
I think I may just wait out the 45 min waking. I don't really mind it, since I'm not in bed yet myself, and it's probably developmental/overtiredness. Might as well avoid the crying. The only problem is that it makes it impossible to go out in the evenings but I don't do much of that anyway. He wasn't waking at 45 min when we were sleep training, no. He's done it on and off at various times in his life...mostly off. I've never done anything in particular to get rid of it so I think WIO is probably going to be fine this time too.
Stephie, I'm sure that rocking him would really stimulate him...I haven't tried bringing him to bed but I don't really want to introduce that and later have to get him out of the habit...would rather just keep feeding him.
The 10 min in arms is at daycare. I think he wakes in transfer. It seems they won't let him sleep much longer than about 15 min in arms, which I'm ok with because I too feel he needs to adjust to napping in his bed. His mood has been all right despite the awful napping. It's just that, when he gets frustrated, he gets REALLY frustrated. Every little issue is a potential meltdown. You know what I mean? But generally he's happy as usual. I think it's also partly that he'd really like to be more mobile, in addition to the tiredness.
I used to try to put a time limit on how long I'd let Munchkin play after he'd refused to nap before trying again, but I usually found that the same thing would happen again and in the end he'd nap later than if I just waited. But he does have some tired cues, so if Cully doesn't I can see why you'd need a time limit!
Glad you had some dreams!
I can't imagine how you've been functioning without any REM sleep, honestly!
NotNic, I hope you're getting through the day all right! Poor you and poor Finlay. Hope he's better soon!!
Polaris, this self-settling sounds really promising. I hope it continues and you do start to see a difference in her NWs. I do think it's possible for her to learn to resettle herself with slightly different conditions (like not having you in the room). Of course, if she doesn't, then you could see if she'll adjust to settling without you there, but hopefully that won't be necessary!
When was Thomas waking up before he dropped that 4:30 feed and started waking earlier?
I'm so glad to have you here to share your experiences with him. Our sons really do seem so similar!
Noelle, sounds like one nap is going well at daycare
really glad to hear it! IMO it seems fine to give her a catnap at home even if she's not having one at daycare, but I'm sure you know more about it than I do anyway. My experience, though, is that Munchkin is currently sleeping approximately 5x as much at home as at daycare.
Amy, congrats on the STTN and the proficient crawling!!
That's a great combination! Sorry about the early waking, but glad she was in a good mood at least. I hope she takes a good nap today!