Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[daviess3]

Stardust didnt get on yest soo soo pleased for you, so what have you been prescribed for this one thats different to the others? Is Helen mr raajkumars secretary i have her number already if that is her!! LOL Dates in my diary i just need to get my other bloods done!! I have to wait til day 2-5 of my cycle!! But havent had a period since so i dont no when that will be! But they also need to be 6 weeks after d and c so i am hoping i get my af in a weeks time!!
Hows every1 else doing? xx

 

[stardust22]

Stardust didnt get on yest soo soo pleased for you, so what have you been prescribed for this one thats different to the others? Is Helen mr raajkumars secretary i have her number already if that is her!! LOL Dates in my diary i just need to get my other bloods done!! I have to wait til day 2-5 of my cycle!! But havent had a period since so i dont no when that will be! But they also need to be 6 weeks after d and c so i am hoping i get my af in a weeks time!!
Hows every1 else doing? xx

Thank you hun. yes that is Helen, Mr Raajkumars secretary!

I am taking clexane, progesterone, aspirin this pregnancy but I did take it the last pregnancy too and it still ended at 6 weeks but raaj did say that could of just been bad luck (yes that dreaded "bad luck" thing again!!)

Everything seems very good this time, although my first pregnancy went to 12+5 and at the nuchal dating scan I was told baby died at about 10 weeks and I had a scan at 8 weeks when things were fine, that it why I am not out of the woods yet. its still very scary.

 

[ClaireH]

I'm falling apart. My best friend told me today that she was pregnant - same no of weeks as I would have been. It's hit me so hard. Aside from my hubby, she is the only person who knows all the details of my MCs and I have relied on her hugely over the last 18months. And, of course, she has been there every step of the way with this recent pregnancy with all the ups and downs and all the time she was pregnant too. I feel let down by her which is ridiculous. And now I feel more alone than ever.

I know I am usually the one with all the positive things to say on here, but not today. I feel so low and am totally freaking out. What if I can't do this anymore? What happens if I have a 6th MC? Or never get pregnant again? It's just too hard. I can't stand that it's so easy for everyone else. And I hate feeling this way. I feel like I am turning into a bitter, jealous, twisted cow.

Sorry to bring the mood down. Please help me feel better! xxx

 

[MissMaternal]

Thanks for all your kind replies, but here i am, after having my third miscarriage yesterday

Had the scan today to confirm it, and it has all passed. The lady at the EPAU was so understanding and really informative about what the next steps may be. Me and hubby-to-be have an appointment with her on the 21st to discuss what to do next. There has been talk of chromasomal (sp?) testing on me and OH, although she didn't think this was an issue as when i lost my daughter, she was tested and she was perfect in every way, it was the placenta that failed.

Seeing as i'm here for the long run, here's my history

All three of my pregnancies have been planned. I fell pregnant with my daughter in January 2010. 12 week scan was perfect. Went for 20 week scan on 6th May, and we were told she had no heartbeat. That was the single most devastating moment of my entire life. Like i said, she was tested and was perfect. I gave birth to her after being induced, on 9th May 2010.

I fell pregnant with our second baby in July 2010. 12 week scan showed slow growth, and the baby was measuring 13 days behind. I thought it was odd, but wasn't concerned. Then i started bleeding at 17 weeks, on 6th November. Went to the hospital and they confirmed no heartbeat, and the baby had died shortly after the 12 week scan. I was booked in again to be induced, but it all happened at home on 9th November (exactly 6 months after Freya).

It then took 16 weeks for my periods to return! We started TTC again, and fell pregnant on the first try, with this latest pregnancy. Even from the very moment i found out, i never expected it to go the distance - i have had two taken away from me already, why not a third?!

People i know always say to me "at least you know you can fall pregnant easily"
Yes, yes i can. That does make me lucky. But it doesn't mean i can KEEP a baby easily.

They also say "you're still young, you've got plenty of time." (I'm 23)
Yes. I am young. Thanks. But NOW is the right time for us.

I'm sure many of you have been told these things by many people....!

Aaaaanyway..i am totally rambling on and on... Thank you for welcoming me here and i look forward to getting to know some of you, even though the circumstances for us all are utterly shit.
xxxx

 

[LeeC]

Hi Stardust

Keeping my fx'd for you.
I was also taking progesterone and aspirin in my last pg and was told it was bad luck that it was a tubal pg, so really hoping this is going to be your time.

ClaireH, we all have these days honey, keep your chin up and I'm sending you some positive thoughts and hugs.

MissMaternal, sorry for your loss, I hope they refer you for testing ao that you can perhaps look to getting some resolution. Big hugs.

xxx

 

[LeeC]

Padbrat, I hope you are recouperating and taking lots of time to relax at home. sending my best wishes to you x.

 

[padbrat]

Thanks guys. Had my surgery on Monday and a bad post op recovery. Have been signed off for a week by the hospital. My baby has gone for tests so I am also in the 6 week wait for results.

MissM I completely feel the same as you. And no, I don't believe in any way that you have had things easier because you are young and fall pregnant easily. Your experiences sound as tragic and devastating as everyone elses. People do say the most pathetic things sometimes.

Claire I too am feeling like I am becoming an angry and bitter woman too. I even sent a friend and her gorgoeus baby boy away from my house because I was so consumed with jelousy I couldn't talk. I feel awful about that. She came round because she was worried about me and her gorgeous boy was crying to have a cuddle with me... how mean and horrible can you get? Not as mean and horrible as me!! I so wish I could tell her... but I just can't bring myself to talk to anyone apart from my Hubby about this... and he can only understand so much....

Someone find a big wand for us all and wave it about please!

 

[petitpas]

Sending big all round. It's not fair whatever age we are.
I'm so bitter and twisted that when hubby and I were in the hospital this evening I told him it was nice to be there and not have to cry! I was there for a suspected dvt

 

[ClaireH]

Morning Ladies,

I couldn't wait to get a quiet minute today to check this! Thanks for being there to read my most recent panicking message. It's so nice to know that you understand and I'm not the only one who feels like this. Thanks for taking the time to reply and reassure me.

Anyway, I've decided the only way to cope is to come back fighting. I need to keep doing something positive and try not to worry about other peoples pregnancies. So I've been doing my usual internet research and have the following questions for you ladies....

I've read about increase folic acid doses - anyone taking that? What dose?

Anyone know anything about Vitamin B?

I was on baby aspirin last pregnancy from BFP - just wondering why you don't start taking that earlier? Or do you?

Thanks in advance of any answers to the above. I always feel a little better when I feel like I'm in control!!! Hope everyone else is doing better than me just now xxx

 

[Tasha]

I am not sure if you girls will remember me, I have an angel Honey, and seven miscarriages. I am 24+2 but Bubble has grown her wings, I meet her tomorrow

 

[coco84]

So sorry for you losses MissM

Claire i love your fight back attitude, my best friend and her husband started trying a few months ago and any day i am waiting for the announcement, prob going to feel crushed too i so want to be happy for her but i'm jelous she will prob go on to have a great normal pregnancy

xx

 

[coco84]

Tasha i'm so sorry for your loss

 

[daviess3]

Oh Tasha im so sorry, stardust whats clexane? I took progesterone an baby aspirin with my last 2 mc to!! I just hope theres something else to try!! xx

 

[padbrat]

Tasha I am so sorry your baby has grown her wings and returned to heaven. I truly feel terrible for you x

Claire, I was on high dose folic acid prior to my BFP, my specialist says there is evidence it helps fertility. I was also on aspirin, but my specialist said only start that from the day you get your BFP and not before.

Hope that helps...

Petitpas hope you don't have DVT... let us know ...

 

[lynnb]

I am not sure if you girls will remember me, I have an angel Honey, and seven miscarriages. I am 24+2 but Bubble has grown her wings, I meet her tomorrow

Tasha

I'm so so sorry hun, can't imagine what you're going through, thinking of you & sending you at this extremely difficult time

 

[stardust22]

Oh tasha. I'm speechless. I really am so sorry to read your sad news and I remember many kind words you said to me in time of my need. I only hope u can remain as strong as u can and I just wish I had the right words for u but there just doesn't seem to be but I send u all my love and hugs and my thoughts are with you Xxxxxxx

 

[cindersmcphee]

Tasha I am so sorry to hear your sad news.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Tasha and MsM- so, so sorry to hear this news.

 

[petitpas]

Tasha, I know you, hon. You have always stood out as a lovely person and I cannot even put into words how sorry I am for you. I am sitting here crying for your loss. To have this happen to you again is utterly utterly horrible! I know that tomorrow is going to be a very hard day for you but you can and will do it. I am sure you are going to give your baby daughter lots of love and kisses, too, even though you won't have her in your arms for long.
We will be here for you afterwards.
Sending you lots of strength and kisses xxxx

 

[petitpas]

No worries, padbrat. I got the all clear. After spending most of the day terrified of everything starting all over I was so unbelievably relieved not to have another clot!!! I just have a swollen leg for no reason, but it doesn't hurt so I totally don't care.

Morning Ladies,

I couldn't wait to get a quiet minute today to check this! Thanks for being there to read my most recent panicking message. It's so nice to know that you understand and I'm not the only one who feels like this. Thanks for taking the time to reply and reassure me.

Anyway, I've decided the only way to cope is to come back fighting. I need to keep doing something positive and try not to worry about other peoples pregnancies. So I've been doing my usual internet research and have the following questions for you ladies....

I've read about increase folic acid doses - anyone taking that? What dose?

Anyone know anything about Vitamin B?

I was on baby aspirin last pregnancy from BFP - just wondering why you don't start taking that earlier? Or do you?

Thanks in advance of any answers to the above. I always feel a little better when I feel like I'm in control!!! Hope everyone else is doing better than me just now xxx

I take 5mg of folic acid. You can ask your GP to prescribe it to you (instead of taking lots of smaller doses) and you can start taking folic acid right away, i.e. no need to wait for a bfp.

Don't know about vitamin D.

I was told to take aspirin from bfp as it could interfere with ovulation/implantation.

Hope that helps xxx