Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[daviess3]

Hi Leec hope ur ok xx
I have just booked an appointment privately to go to zita wests clinic on sat 20th august to see raj rai!! Im awaiting my nhs referel from st marys still but i didnt want to confuse the 2 so i thought i would try this one an apparently its shorter wait times to!! Fxd i may get some answers!! Hope everyones good xxx

 

[littlebird11]

I currently had a miscarriage april 15. It was an unplanned pregnancy but at 34 a welcomed one by me. My boyfriend was scared and not totally enthusiastic . When I lost the baby I fell into a deep depression and still have not fully healed. My boyfriend does not want to try for awhile (to be determined) and I am getting older and worried it may never happen again. It has also caused a huge strain on our relationship because I feel we are not in sync and that he does not understand my desire to start having children soon.
Besides the miscarriage I lost my business in Jan and was left unemployed and lost not to mention EIGHT of my closest girlfriends have either just given birth or just found out they are pregnant. I am trying so hard to be happy for them but I usually end of crying instead of feeling joy. I still cry close to every day and feel completely detached from god. I can't understand why some of us must suffer so deeply.
Losing this baby was one of the lowest points of my life and I am questioning everything.
How do you heal? how did most of you find peace?
I feel if I was actively trying again i would atleast have hope. But since we are not I feel so hopeless.
Thank you for reading and I am so so deeply sorry for all of your losses

 

[daviess3]

Littlebird Im so sorry for your loss, its such a terrible time no matter whether you planned a baby or not, as for your how do you deal with it I deal with it by knowing in my heart i will always one day have my forever baby and I do believe that! An for my forever i will pick myself up an make myself carry on! I have days i cry days i get bitter about other people announcing there preg or talking about there kids moaning about them etc. But as a whole I get up i make my house look nice i take pride in my appearance as i no one day i will have a baby an be a mummy and for that baby I do my best!!

Even if your not trying yet you can still do things like temp an opks to get to know your body find out when you ovulate so when your ready to try you know your body an it should happen quickly!! We all no how you feel on this thread so vent your anger hun, we all love a moan about facebook people announcing there preg etc!!!! xx

 

[MissMaternal]

Sorry for your loss littlebird xx

Has anyone heard from Pad recently...?? xx

 

[9babiesgone]

i might be winning the case over the medical malpractice that cost me both of my twins. at least some justice might be won!

 

[Mon_n_john]

Littlebird, I'm so sorry for your loss. We are all here for you!

9babiesgone, I am relieved to hear that you are getting somewhere with the lawsuit. Medical imcompetence must be dealt with swiftly, if nothing else, to spare others the same pain. Hugs.

 

[9babiesgone]

thanks. It is actually causing me more peace to know they will never get to do this to someone els.e

 

[coco84]

So glad to hear that 9babies! at least justice will be done! xx

Hope you are doing ok. xx

 

[daviess3]

9babies so good for you to actually get some justice for your babies! MY heart goes out to you.
Missmaternal no she hasnt been on for a while xx

 

[cla]

Does anybody know anything about aspirin ??????

 

[Nicoleoleole]

Does anybody know anything about aspirin ??????

Like baby aspirin? I was told if I test positive for s blood clotting disorder, that taking baby aspirin will thin the blood and allow blood flow to the baby

 

[cla]

Yeah I was just wondering if I should give it ago. Ive just found out I've got arthritis and some sites recommend it because of the blood or somthing.

 

[Mon_n_john]

Good morning ladies!

Well, I am 14DPO today and took another FR and still BFN. However, I decided to take a 2nd look at the FR tests I did days ago and sure enough, 1 of them had a second line so it seems I had a chemical pregnancy this month. I'm definately not pregnant now as there is no line now.

I'm disappointed but in a weird way relieved and surprised all at once. I say relieved because with all the BD that DH and I did I really doubted that the sperm and the egg didn't meet.

At the same time I say relieved because I just got diagnosed with high natural killer cells that interfere with the egg implanting. Knowing how those cells do that (spraying toxins on the embryo) I am relieved that I'm not pregnant any more because I don't want my body to hurt my poor little embryo and for it to have some major health problem because of it.

Luckily I see my specialist on Monday to discuss my test results and I'll mention this chemical pregnancy I just had. I'm sure she's going to recommend aggressive treatment and I am onboard. I have a feeling that the next time I get pregnant after having treatment it is going to stick!

Babydust to you ladies, I hope your BFPs are right around the corner.

 

[ClaireH]

Hi Ladies,
Just thought I'd give yoiu a wee update from me. I'm now 11.5weeks pregnant and have now had my booking scan. I've graduated from the recurrent miscarriage clinic and am now "just another pregnant lady" as my doctor called me. I am so delighted. So hang on in there ladies, if I can do it, so can you!

Cla, I'm on 75mg of aspirin (baby aspirin) daily. My tests for clotting problems were negative but the view was that it doesn't do any harm but it could do alot of good. I took it from 12DPO and will continue until 30weeks. However, this is my second pregnancy during which I took aspirin.

I do check in on you all but not very often as I am trying not to dwell on my MCs and instead stay very positive. But I do think about you all and I hope you are all ok.

xxxx

 

[daviess3]

Great news Claire congrats Hun xxxx so glad to hear a good story xx

 

[LeeC]

Hi Claire.

I am delighted for you. You have been through so much and your story gives us all hope.

xxx

 

[coco84]

Thats great claire!!!! lovely to hear a sucess story

 

[Mon_n_john]

Wishing nothing but the best for you Claire! Stop by anytime with more happy news.

 

[fifi-folle]

Congratulations Claire, wishng you a happy and healthy nine months!

 

[MissMaternal]

Wishing you all the best Claire xx