hi, heart tree, we could go through a private clinic i think and pay for the tests etc, but am unsure if financially we could afford to do that, i havent looked in to it, I just assumed the NHS would help to be honest. The doctor we saw on thursday, actually retired yesterday, she told us all about her plans during the consultation! so possibly could speak to my gp again and see what he thinks? not sure yet what to do, if we decide to go private it wont be till after christmas, would like to enjoy christmas and it makes sense financially. Hubby thinks we should 'not try but not prevent a pregnancy' so just take things as they come. I know we are very lucky to have a son already and i know i am incredibly blessed to have him but it doesnt mean that the mc's hurt any less, or are any less traumatic, but i am grateful for what i do have, peoples favouite saying for us at the moment ' you have a son, we should be grateful'. but just thought if we knew the underlying reason for all this it would help. If it is because we both carry the downs gene and we are at incresed risk of having a downs baby, we could decide if we wanted to continue to try, and if it would be fair to our son, jacob, if we had another child with possible disabilities how is it ging to sffect all our lives including the life of a 5 year old, who is use to being an only child and having all the attention? ok am going to now have a look online for private clinic, writing this has helped me realise that i do need answers for my own sanity and for my families sake! will report back!