Sahm mums lets chat :-)

[laura109]

Aww topsy. Good to meet you and i am sorry to hear you are unwell and your oh has broke up with you you must be feeling really down but i am sure you are a wonderful mummy and things will get better for you soon. Xx

 

[crownest]

Sorry I typed and ran the other day ! I'm a satm to a 15mth Lil boy. My DH and I have just decided I'll stay at home permanently but if one more person asks me I'm going back I'll scream. It would make more sense for me to go back but it's long hours and I have been off work with I'll health for years.

I try to keep busy during the day we will walk go to the park, the shops, visit my MIL or SIL or go to baby club most days or else I find the days very long. I'm in my late 30's but unusually 2 friends are also sahm so I have some support and people to meet.

 

[laura109]

It drives me mad when i get asked that too. I think it should be accepted that we dont all go back to work and it is ok for parents to raise children full time. I always say when you are old you will look back at these years and be glad you got these days to make memories with your little ones. It can be tiring. The days can drag. Some days fly by. But you will never have this time again. I think there is alot of pressure on families now financially and we live in times where theres too much luxury. I like the way it was in the old days. Men worked and women took care of the kids. But i also like the fact we have a choice now. It is whatever works for a family isn't it. I certainly do not judge other parents fir going back full time but sometimes when i am pushing my daughter on a sunny day through the park i do feel like theres no place id want to be right now.

I also think about the support we have. My partner works miles away and if i had a part time job and my dd was sick id have to ring in sick. My dd gets sick quite alot so id be stressed trying to cope. I sometimes feel like im the only one around me that has no grandparents etc to help

 

[sequeena]

Hi all. I'm a sahm too although my son is older at 5.5. He's full time now but as he has additional needs I'm still quite busy throughout the day. My husband works nights so it's usually just me at home. We don't have much family support so it would be hard for me to go back and my husband thankfully earns enough for me to stay home. I am employed I guess through dwp as a career though

 

[laura109]

Hi sequeena thanks for joining. I will probably be a sahm too when dd is at school unless i can get a three hour shift 2-3 times a week i will have to do school runs etc. do you enjoy the days when ds is at school or do you get bored. I imagine when they are at school u can get your house chores done etc. i long for a morning a week to clean lol x

 

[topsy]

Hi guys,

I hope that you are all having a good day? My FOB ( first time i have had to type that SOB) is coming with DS to see me in hospital today. Then my parents are coming this eve, always hard once DS leaves.

What everyone plans for today?

xxxx

 

[CaptainMummy]

I have zero plans for today. The girls dad came and picked them up just after 9am as he always does on a Saturday and they are staying the night! (he has only recently started keeping them all overnight, and it only happens maybe once a month) So I have a completely child free next 24hrs (or a little more, will probably be around 2pm tomorrow I will collect them) I am cooking some dinners just now and then I can relax, since my house is surprisingly clean and tidy!
Must be hard staying in hospital without your son Hope you are doing okay xx

 

[Boozlebub]

Not much planned here either. We've got a snow storm outside so not really fancying venturing out. OH is at work all day so me and DS have just been chilling watching paw patrol while his sister naps.

topsy, I hope you enjoy your visit with your son, it must be so hard to be in hospital away from him.

Here the kids start preschool the August of the year they turn 6 so DS won't start until he is 6.5!!! So he will be at home a few more years yet. My plans are to return to work a few mornings a week when DD is 3.5 and DS is 5.5 so that DS has a year of part time daycare before he starts school! But it will only be season work from December - April and then maybe a few weeks in a September!

 

[sequeena]

Hi sequeena thanks for joining. I will probably be a sahm too when dd is at school unless i can get a three hour shift 2-3 times a week i will have to do school runs etc. do you enjoy the days when ds is at school or do you get bored. I imagine when they are at school u can get your house chores done etc. i long for a morning a week to clean lol x

I try to get as much done as possible though Thomas has sleep apnea and in general doesn't sleep well so sometimes I nap I don't get bored very often I have a few hobbies too.

Today we went swimming. I keep our weekends busy because Thomas just can't sit still. Tomorrow is dance class.

 

[LoraLoo]

Hello all! I've been at SAHM for a few years now. I have battles with my myself in my head- some days I want to go back to work for the adult company and conversations, other days I am grateful that I am always here to take the kids to, and collect from, school, watch the school plays, swimming lessons etc.
We have 6 children but only 2 at home during the day as the rest are at school.
I find I don't socialise as much as I used to, been one of those things that's happened gradually really and I need to start going back to playgroup again I think. We do see friends during the week and there's always something going on and places we need to be.

 

[laura109]

Hi topsy! I hope the visit with your son cheered you up and i hope you can soon me reunited. How are you feeling today? Yesterday we got our dd a little sandpit for the garden and today we are having abit of a clear out. I have loads of clothes to go to charity that either dd has grown out of or i never could get in again x

 

[laura109]

Hello all! I've been at SAHM for a few years now. I have battles with my myself in my head- some days I want to go back to work for the adult company and conversations, other days I am grateful that I am always here to take the kids to, and collect from, school, watch the school plays, swimming lessons etc.
We have 6 children but only 2 at home during the day as the rest are at school.
I find I don't socialise as much as I used to, been one of those things that's happened gradually really and I need to start going back to playgroup again I think. We do see friends during the week and there's always something going on and places we need to be.

Hello
Wow a lovely big family. I can imagine that its hard to imagine working around school runs etc. just my 1 child seems to get unwell alot mainly in the winter. Despite eating fruit and vegetables and drinking water she has had 4 tummy bugs in a year and i caughy 3 of them.

I totally relate to thinking how nice it would be to earn a little money and Do something a few hours a week other than mummy and cleaning duties. X

 

[topsy]

Thanks girls It was nice seeing DS Hard seeing FOB-I cried my heart out when they left.

2 Friends are coming over today so at least i have some visitors .

Its going to be hard when i come out of hospital I would like to start vol work again-Just an hour a week to start with.

As me and DH are going to split childcare. I need to find something to keep my days busy.

xxxx

 

[Bevziibubble]

Hi everyone I'm a SAHM to my 5 year old and 1 year old. My DH works shifts which can be difficult especially when he is in bed and I have to keep the kids quiet.
I plan on going back to work once my son goes to school although I have no idea what as, as the company I used to work for don't exist now and we moved to a new area.

 

[laura109]

Thanks girls It was nice seeing DS Hard seeing FOB-I cried my heart out when they left.

2 Friends are coming over today so at least i have some visitors .

Its going to be hard when i come out of hospital I would like to start vol work again-Just an hour a week to start with.

As me and DH are going to split childcare. I need to find something to keep my days busy.

xxxx

Bless you, being stuck in hospital is the worst and it is heartbreAking that he has put this extra pain onto you but i always say we are here once so you deserve A good life and a happy one. Maybee when you feel better you and your friends can make some plans too. Cinema or a drink or a beach day or shopping. You will find someone again when you ate ready/if you want too. I am sure you have alot to look forward to even though it feels rubbish right now. Keep making little plans for you and your little one and try to keep strong. We have all been here. I was with two men before my oh one for 3 years and one for two. They both caused me alot of hurt and stress but now i am 5 years into my relationship and i am truly happy. It will take a little time xx

 

[laura109]

Hi everyone I'm a SAHM to my 5 year old and 1 year old. My DH works shifts which can be difficult especially when he is in bed and I have to keep the kids quiet.
I plan on going back to work once my son goes to school although I have no idea what as, as the company I used to work for don't exist now and we moved to a new area.

Hello i sometimes have to keep dd quiet too if my oh is working from home. Not always easy lol!! He is usually on the road though and several hours away which is hard. I know what you mean about wanting a little job when they are at school but not sure where or what. Its hard not having your own earned money isnt it. My oh is happy sharing his money but i dont like using it for makeup and clothes. I obviously do get the odd thing but i try to manage with the minimum for me

 

[topsy]

Thanks you girls-It must be so hard to keep DS and DD quiet during the day my DS is so loud.

xxxx

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

HI!!! Im a SAHM to DS (12), DD1 (10) and DD2 (9). Both DDs are Homeschooled. PLUS I nanny a 4yr old boy.

When the kids were little, wed do MOPS to socialize, etc and wed have playdates, etc.

Now they are older and are days are relaxed. Cleaning, Cooking, Chasing.

 

[sequeena]

Hi ladies hope you're all having a good day I am enrolling Thomas in swimming classes tomorrow. I rang today but need to fill in paper work. He starts Saturday and his occupational therapist will be his tutor. I'm so excited for him. I never got to do any lessons or classes when I was a child so I feel really happy that I can do these things for him.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Hi ladies hope you're all having a good day I am enrolling Thomas in swimming classes tomorrow. I rang today but need to fill in paper work. He starts Saturday and his occupational therapist will be his tutor. I'm so excited for him. I never got to do any lessons or classes when I was a child so I feel really happy that I can do these things for him.

My dd1 is doing swim lessons! She has Jewish camp and they will do a swim test so we wanted her to be prepared! I will say, its all about the teacher!!! Im glad his OT will be helping him!!! What a relief for you!