leash27
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Just wondering what everyone's opinion is on giving/receiving gifts that are bought from car boot sales, charity shops etc?
Personally, it isn't something I would ever choose to do. DH and I have always planned and saved for Christmas so that we can buy gifts for DS and the rest of our families. I don't have an issue with charity shops and we donate a lot of DS old toys and clothes when he has outgrown them as I like to think someone somewhere is getting some use out of them.
The reason I ask is because MIL has given DS second hand toys for the last two Christmas and Birthdays. When I say second hand, I mean still dirty (tea stains, pen marks etc) so not really in very good condition and not something I would give him to play with. Depending on the state of them, we usually clean them and donate them or throw them away - some of them have been really bad.
My issue is that MIL has 7 grandchildren but DS is the only one who gets second hand toys, the others get whatever gifts they ask for or cash (usually £50). Now we don't ask for or expect anything from anyone, DS gets more than enough from us and my mum and FIL tend to go a little OTT for him too. However, it really bothers me that she does this and I don't know whether I should say something to her. Not so much about him being treated differently to the others but more so to acknowledge the gifts are second hand and often not in a good enough condition for DS to play with. I don't expect she is spending a lot on them but it seems a waste of money all the same. I would prefer her to keep the money herself or donate to a charity.
What do you think? Would you say something? If so, what would you say? We don't have the greatest relationship so I need to be careful not to come off rude. The alternative is to keep accepting the gifts and donating or binning them.
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Personally, it isn't something I would ever choose to do. DH and I have always planned and saved for Christmas so that we can buy gifts for DS and the rest of our families. I don't have an issue with charity shops and we donate a lot of DS old toys and clothes when he has outgrown them as I like to think someone somewhere is getting some use out of them.
The reason I ask is because MIL has given DS second hand toys for the last two Christmas and Birthdays. When I say second hand, I mean still dirty (tea stains, pen marks etc) so not really in very good condition and not something I would give him to play with. Depending on the state of them, we usually clean them and donate them or throw them away - some of them have been really bad.
My issue is that MIL has 7 grandchildren but DS is the only one who gets second hand toys, the others get whatever gifts they ask for or cash (usually £50). Now we don't ask for or expect anything from anyone, DS gets more than enough from us and my mum and FIL tend to go a little OTT for him too. However, it really bothers me that she does this and I don't know whether I should say something to her. Not so much about him being treated differently to the others but more so to acknowledge the gifts are second hand and often not in a good enough condition for DS to play with. I don't expect she is spending a lot on them but it seems a waste of money all the same. I would prefer her to keep the money herself or donate to a charity.
What do you think? Would you say something? If so, what would you say? We don't have the greatest relationship so I need to be careful not to come off rude. The alternative is to keep accepting the gifts and donating or binning them.
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