PoppyPainting
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Just wondering... I found out a work colleague has been selling baby clothes that I passed on to her for her lo. I totally understand that once an item has been given then it is up to the person who has received it what they do with it.
I feel so grateful for the enormous quantity of items from a pushchair and crib and a moses basket, a bouncy chair and a bumbo seat to clothes that have been given to us (both as presents for my dd and hand-me-ons. I wanted to share that. So I gave her stuff (all clothes sizes from newborn to 9-12 months, and a crib), and I feel really upset that I saw that she was selling them. I just assumed it would be given to another mum with a daughter. I didn't specify when I gave it to her that I expected it to be given away not sold it just didn't cross my mind that she'd sell it. I also definitely didn't want it back once her dd had finished with it.
I felt it was morally wrong for me to sell it because it was given. I also didn't give it to a charity shop because then another mum would have to pay for it. She did offer me money for the stuff but I said 'no' because it had been given to us.
She gave me a variety of reasons for selling the stuff but contradicted herself a bit saying she didn't know it came from me, or she knew 3 items came from me) she had no storage (fine I'd have left it in my loft till she needed it) to not knowing anyone else who has a daughter (i know she knows 2 expectant mums who are having girls), to needing the money. I was scrolling through face book and was shocked when I saw her posting clothes I recognised to a fb selling site. She could have dropped me a quick text to see if I was ok with it, I would have appreciated that, I still would have thought she was doing something ethically yuk but I wouldn't have been so horrified.
How would you feel?
I feel so grateful for the enormous quantity of items from a pushchair and crib and a moses basket, a bouncy chair and a bumbo seat to clothes that have been given to us (both as presents for my dd and hand-me-ons. I wanted to share that. So I gave her stuff (all clothes sizes from newborn to 9-12 months, and a crib), and I feel really upset that I saw that she was selling them. I just assumed it would be given to another mum with a daughter. I didn't specify when I gave it to her that I expected it to be given away not sold it just didn't cross my mind that she'd sell it. I also definitely didn't want it back once her dd had finished with it.
I felt it was morally wrong for me to sell it because it was given. I also didn't give it to a charity shop because then another mum would have to pay for it. She did offer me money for the stuff but I said 'no' because it had been given to us.
She gave me a variety of reasons for selling the stuff but contradicted herself a bit saying she didn't know it came from me, or she knew 3 items came from me) she had no storage (fine I'd have left it in my loft till she needed it) to not knowing anyone else who has a daughter (i know she knows 2 expectant mums who are having girls), to needing the money. I was scrolling through face book and was shocked when I saw her posting clothes I recognised to a fb selling site. She could have dropped me a quick text to see if I was ok with it, I would have appreciated that, I still would have thought she was doing something ethically yuk but I wouldn't have been so horrified.
How would you feel?